Mexican Sting
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Are you kidding? Usually things are weird when people are on either side of 25, but you guys are basically the same age...
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Are you kidding? Usually things are weird when people are on either side of 25, but you guys are basically the same age...
Gray Matter
Member
That's a good line.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
Valiant effort, better luck next time
I have a secret fear that I might end up dating someone from GAF. Usually I think, 'eh, it wouldn't be so bad', but then I see threads like that one with all the people arguing about holding purses and I'm just like 'oh yeah... crazy people here'
Including myself, of course
I don't carry a purse btw, just that thread is cray
I have a secret fear that I might end up dating someone from GAF. Usually I think, 'eh, it wouldn't be so bad', but then I see threads like that one with all the people arguing about holding purses and I'm just like 'oh yeah... crazy people here'Including myself, of course
I don't carry a purse btw, just that thread is cray
Purse shaming, smh.
/s
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
I have a secret fear that I might end up dating someone from GAF. Usually I think, 'eh, it wouldn't be so bad', but then I see threads like that one with all the people arguing about holding purses and I'm just like 'oh yeah... crazy people here'Including myself, of course
I don't carry a purse btw, just that thread is cray
My ideal potential match doesn't have a purse so that wouldn't be an issue potentially.
you get points from me
Hey what's wrong with a purse
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
Everything and nothing.
Oh god what have I done
Purse thread 2.0
Well, anyway... went out with a guy at a bar tonight... one of the two I got a number from with my GGXrd skills, lol. It was nice, we played darts and watched an episode of Game of Thrones and stuff. Not really feeling a romantic connection, but then again he seems to be getting over his last gf still, and he stated that he wasn't sure if he wanted a romantic relationship even before we met, so I wasn't expecting anything. I don't mind hanging with him, and... to be quite frank, I could do with a couple more friends, haha. We'll see how it goes after a few more meetups.
Also, this other guy I was talking to... he's sorta crazy. Like "I'll make up fanfictions on the fly for us and I probably draw myself as Sonic characters" sort of crazy, so... I think I'm gonna drop him. Gently, of course. He seems nice, just... over-enthusiastic about... things. Like Persona 4.
So yeah. Don't tell girls about your crazy fanfictions before meeting them. At least wati till like the second date or something. Just some advice.
Purse thread 2.0
PurseGAF
Well, anyway... went out with a guy at a bar tonight... one of the two I got a number from with my GGXrd skills, lol. It was nice, we played darts and watched an episode of Game of Thrones and stuff. Not really feeling a romantic connection, but then again he seems to be getting over his last gf still, and he stated that he wasn't sure if he wanted a romantic relationship even before we met, so I wasn't expecting anything. I don't mind hanging with him, and... to be quite frank, I could do with a couple more friends, haha. We'll see how it goes after a few more meetups.
Also, this other guy I was talking to... he's sorta crazy. Like "I'll make up fanfictions on the fly for us and I probably draw myself as Sonic characters" sort of crazy, so... I think I'm gonna drop him. Gently, of course. He seems nice, just... over-enthusiastic about... things. Like Persona 4.
So yeah. Don't tell girls about your crazy fanfictions before meeting them. At least wati till like the second date or something. Just some advice.
So I got a date next Thurs with exactly the kinda girl I been seeking, looks wise anyway. She seems to be looking for something serious as well. Kinda nervous. I've been having confidence issues lately. It's something I've always dealt with but I haven't been having great dates lately, additionally competition in nyc is too real.
Don't talk to dudes who are too open about video games right from the start.
...well then, just for that I'm not going to share with you my fanfic! It had you and STN as characters from Guilty Gear and Mortal Kombat (respectively). I called it "Online Matchmaking".
Disclaimer: This doesn't really exist
And if that's what they admit to before the first date, imagine what comes later...he probably has a webcomic where he inserted himself as a modified Sonic sprite and was already working on modifying an Amy sprite for you.
Disclaimer: Stuff like this does exist. My college roommate had one such webcomic
Would be down. My in real life/bar pick up game is articious, actually it's nonexistent.
Girl I seen Sunday/have a date with Saturday disabled her OKC. I fully expect her to go radio silent or just flake on me. Calling it now.
Well, admittedly, he didn't really get overly enthusiastic about video games until after we exchanged numbers. He seemed excitable from the get-go, but I just figured that wasn't a big deal xD
Thanks for filling my 'weird shit' internet quota first thing in the morning
I'm not surprised, Sonic fans are utterly insane.
I'm sure you'll do fine! Good luck bro!
stn
Member
I've always wanted to be in someone else's erotic fanfic.
It is erotic, right? ...Right?DeathoftheEndless
Crashing this plane... with no survivors!
Waiting on a girl to respond ugh. So frustrating.
Unless it's urgent, you got other shit to do. Talk to other girls. Don't wait around.
DeathoftheEndless
Crashing this plane... with no survivors!
I think she'll get back to me eventually. When is another story.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
What an interesting week this has been. I had set up something for last night with a girl who was apparently a Miss America contestant. She sounded excited/eager, even asked for me to pick her up day of, which I haven't done since high school haha. Anyway they get back to me a couple hours later postponing because their friend was having a breakdown. However, unlike most of these flaky cancellations I've had recently they were asking which day this weekend works next, and she kept the conversation going throughout the night. So we'll see if Sunday night actually works out.
In the meantime, I was talking with another girl pretty much all day yesterday. I know it's not great to text a whole bunch before meeting up for a date, but it was a nice change of pace if I'm honest. We talked about all sorts of random interesting things I wouldn't think to bring up at a date, and I can tell we're both looking forward to going out. Pretty stoked about that.
In the meantime, I was talking with another girl pretty much all day yesterday. I know it's not great to text a whole bunch before meeting up for a date, but it was a nice change of pace if I'm honest. We talked about all sorts of random interesting things I wouldn't think to bring up at a date, and I can tell we're both looking forward to going out. Pretty stoked about that.
So earlier this week I liked this girl's profile on OKC, and later that night she liked mine back. So I waited a day and sent her a message then she replied the next day. I waited another day and sent her a second message, but she hasn't replied back since and she's been online every night this week.
Is it more likely she's not interested anymore, or is this something else? Seems kind of strange to stop talking so quickly. The messages were just simple questions about her interests.
Is it more likely she's not interested anymore, or is this something else? Seems kind of strange to stop talking so quickly. The messages were just simple questions about her interests.
I didn't want to seem desperate, and scare her off. I guess that was the wrong call. I'm wondering if I should send her another message to reaffirm that I'm interested.
Unless you are blowing up her inbox, why would it be desperate to message her the same day?
Go ahead and send her a second message; if she ignores it again, then you'll have your answer.
Messages really do get lost in the shuffle of things, so there's nothing wrong with sending another message to bump your name back to the top
EDIT: Also yeah, waiting more than a few hours to send a message back does seem like you yourself aren't interested, if you're online. Having a busy lifestyle is understandable to most, but if it's showing that green dot, she's going to think you're not interested.
DeVeAn
Member
Quick update. So, went out again to a movie last minute. We decided on Unfriended...WTF lol. About 30 mins. in I asked her you want to get outta here, she agreed with a quickness. That movie sucked took place on Skype the whole time. Almost ruined the night but, she was cold to I grabbed her close to keep her warm.
We ended up at the Casino for a drink and we were playing 21 questions. I grabbed her hand in the middle of it. She seemed happy I made the move and even asked how long I was waiting to do that lol.
So Gaf, I feel like this is going well but, I just got out of a 12 year relationship...is it suppose to be this simple? I feel like I should date more women. If this ends up being long term I would be ok with that as I do like her. My gut says just go with the flow and not try hard.
We ended up at the Casino for a drink and we were playing 21 questions. I grabbed her hand in the middle of it. She seemed happy I made the move and even asked how long I was waiting to do that lol.
So Gaf, I feel like this is going well but, I just got out of a 12 year relationship...is it suppose to be this simple? I feel like I should date more women. If this ends up being long term I would be ok with that as I do like her. My gut says just go with the flow and not try hard.
DeVeAn
Member
Your right, once the date starts it goes well. Just going to focus on having fun!
MonorailCat
Member
you mean "movies and drinks"
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I just came home from a Tinder Date. I am cautiously optimistic. We went to a bar and I had a great time. Talked for 3.5 hours. Lots of common interests. Kissed goodbye. Had a feeling she liked me too.
If that is my 4th "no-answer-after-first-date" in a row I think the only viable explanation would be that I am already dead and in hell .. and my eternal punishment is to go on great first dates who will never contact me again.
Give em hell out there.
So, I hit up the girl I'm seeing tomorrow asking where she wants to meet up. She said she was thinking I'd come over, she make breakfast and we sip on some mimosas. I'm like oh wow, sounds like a much better idea.
Went out with a different guy this time, to a restaurant. It... didn't go too well, imo. xD Lots of awkward silences (thank god for stuffing my face), and I think we just didn't click all that well. Not as many common interests as I initially thought, seem to have different overall views on things, etc. Asked if I wanted to do anything after food and I said I had to do homework (which wasn't a lie, I was planning on just eating and going home even if we hit it off well). Sucks that he paid for the meal, now I feel obligated for a second date (which I know I'm not, I'm just a stickler about paying for stuff). A very nice guy, but we weren't compatible.
I suppose I'll text him tomorrow to let him down. I think I'll use the "You're a great guy, but I didn't feel a real connection" line that someone mentioned a few days ago.
Welp, onward!
I suppose I'll text him tomorrow to let him down. I think I'll use the "You're a great guy, but I didn't feel a real connection" line that someone mentioned a few days ago.
Welp, onward!
twinturbo2
butthurt Heat fan
I have four people who visited my profile, yet no replies to my messages. Kinda worrisome that I have no responses, but people visiting my profile.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
It's worrisome over four people? Really?
twinturbo2
butthurt Heat fan
I'd at least expect some replies if I'm getting hits.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
It's four people...
Lol. I've been liked by 50+ people and had one crappy date. Good luck.
twinturbo2
butthurt Heat fan
Whelp, I don't know how to take that. Should that be discouraging, or should I rethink things and look at my profile, or something else?
Online dating is a numbers game. What the posters above are trying to say is, four people visiting your profile is next to nothing. It is rare for a woman to go out her way to message you first. You have to actively be the one that sends out messages. And send out a ton of them.
User 479360
Banned
That's true. I'd be okay with it, myself, but I'm getting the better deal. The last girl I saw was 6 years younger. (This isn't intentional, by the way.)
My sibling is having a party tomorrow, and invited said PSW, who said she'd love to come but wasn't sure of her schedule. Anyways, she can go to the first part (swimming), which I'm unable to go to and wouldn't want to because I'm self-conscious of my fatness. She's unable to go out for supper with us, which would've been great.
But I think she'll be coming her this weekend for work visits.
We were talking about the dinner part, and I'd said something about how one of the girls (who's handicapped and I treat well) has a crush on me and doesn't leave me alone. Then she hinted at her and I getting a table together and sitting alone.
twinturbo2
butthurt Heat fan
I don't know if carpet-bombing OKCupid for responses is going to work. It never works for me on this.
Have you posted your profile for feedback before? If not, you might want to.
twinturbo2
butthurt Heat fan
No, I haven't. I'll probably do it if nothing else happens.
FelixOrion
Poet Centuriate
I had a pair of dates with someone 9 years my senior. Didn't work out.
I don't know how...