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Online Dating |OT| Please Respond
- Thread starter Jhoan
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Oh I can deal with it, just seemed strange to me to not send a reply at all but I forgot about the fact that women get tons more messages than men mostly.
Why exactly do people put negative stuff on their profile? I don't get it. Just saw a "will you be the brave one to date a piece of shit like me?" and it's like...no thanks?
I just don't know. I could put essays of negativity on my POF, but I don't.
And before anyone asks, I'm just on there on the off chance I find a friend
Yeah, I dunno either, it's really offputting. I'm not always the most positive person--I try to be, but sometimes (like this month for example), it's really, really hard to be. But I don't put that shit on my profile, that's very bad. You have to be confident in yourself.
Oh man, that's awesome. Had I known about your site when I still had my screenshots saved I would have sent you some nice ones xD
From my experience with friends/family/whatever, I find that most people that go out of their way to proclaim what they believe in public in more than a fashion of 'oh I'm __' (be it Christian, atheist, or anything in between), they are douches to anyone that doesn't believe what they believe. There are exceptions, of course, but... eh. I mean, if the girl just said on the profile that she was Christian and nothing else, I think that would be cool, but she's saying she can't live without God, and that's a whole other step up. You two probably wouldn't be very compatible.
DoktorEvil
Banned
Why exactly do people put negative stuff on their profile? I don't get it. Just saw a "will you be the brave one to date a piece of shit like me?" and it's like...no thanks?
I just don't know. I could put essays of negativity on my POF, but I don't.
And before anyone asks, I'm just on there on the off chance I find a friend
Friend friend or play friend?
Because you're more likely to be inundated with messages by creepy men making sexual advances at a complete stranger. Creating a female profile with a friend of mine just to see what women do deal with was eye opening and its made me very apprehensive about messaging women.
I wish you luck finding friends but I'd recommend something like meetup.com
Admiral Woofington
Member
I'll take my fedora elsewhere then. Regardless the one I'm most interested in only has Christianity listed as her belief.
Basically. Haha. I could write essays on my profile of negativity and dislike for human beings, I just don't.
Friend friend.
Believe me, I know, I've had the profile for like a year now. It's just there on the off chance, I'm not actively doing anything with it or talking to almost anyone who messages me in general. Lol.
And hell no to meetup. Groups of people? I'd rather die.
Lone_Prodigy
Member
Online dating continues to confound me.
Leave a message with my number, don't hear back for days, get a text later saying she just got my message. You were responding almost every hour before, but okay. For the record I'm still in contact with her, but she's awfully sporadic.
Leave a message with my number, don't hear back for days, get a text later saying she just got my message. You were responding almost every hour before, but okay. For the record I'm still in contact with her, but she's awfully sporadic.
Etrian Oddity
Member
Yeah but if they check out your profile and move on...
Online dating just ain't gonna work for me, gonna just wash my hands of it. I can strike up a conversation in person and make folks laugh easily enough, but online none of my wit and charm come through. And I'm not exactly a handsome guy, so that's like 3 strikes.
DoktorEvil
Banned
Friend friend.
Believe me, I know, I've had the profile for like a year now. It's just there on the off chance, I'm not actively doing anything with it or talking to almost anyone who messages me in general. Lol.
And hell no to meetup. Groups of people? I'd rather die.
Then I don't understand why you're wasting your time.
Meetup at least offers safe spaces for shared hobbies.
"Meetup, hell no. Groups of people? I'd rather die."
Zero interest in groups. They make me anxious, nauseous and tired.
I'm not really wasting time. POF just sits there on the off chance that anyone interesting shows up.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
ah, too bad. i do take submissions though, so either screenshots or just direct copy/pastes are cool with me. I try to make the quotes anonymous as possible to protect the innocent.
haha, glad you like'm. I do try to still post whatever is funny/weird/bad whenever i find them. i think most recently i just haven't been clicking on the profiles that tend to be the weird ones
True Savior
Member
Girls can have 100 messages every day without a lot of effort from them. It sucks , but its very very uneven. If they dont answer , they aren't interested. Sometimes try to be playful with their rejection...it can work to start communication.
It's worst when we are talking and after a while there's silence.
A hot guy has easily 5-10 matches every day (just login on Tinder and swipe the initial girls...im talking after the initial surge.If he's active he can have way more). That makes 3-4 per week ? Not a lot but could be lower. I had lower matches with bad photos. 3-4 per week seems sort of average photos. It also depends a lot of the country and the amount of possible matches. I've made quite a few profiles just to see what works and for instance the last two i tried was 25 matches in 3 weeks to 50 matches in the first 4 days (which could be higher if i add the ones i matched before and now rejected) All you need is a great initial photo. Test something else. Rotate. If it works better , start over.
Surprising amount of action on my profile today...three likes, and one random message. Now, there's no way I'm replying to the message - the lady's 800+ miles away and has a kid that I'm closer in age with than her - but it's still flattering to know that my profile still works!
Wonder what you'd make of this one girl. It was very...quirky. She had like 8 pics, 6 of them were her in costume. Not flattering costumes, but the exact opposite. And it was filled with gems like "I have another gun named gunter" and "one day I'd like to embrace cannibalism and try human"
Wonder what you'd make of this one girl. It was very...quirky. She had like 8 pics, 6 of them were her in costume. Not flattering costumes, but the exact opposite. And it was filled with gems like "I have another gun named gunter" and "one day I'd like to embrace cannibalism and try human"
True Savior
Member
I'm just talking about login and swipe the initial profiles. If they go to the limit , they will definitely get more. It's just a matter of their profile actually appearing to other people.
Admiral Woofington
Member
Got some profile views, some from women who probably saw how I'm particularly looking for a fellow geek and moved on haha. Will probably help if I add one or two more photos. I'll likely go to bar with friends this week I might take a pic.
Funny I never wanna take pics until I need some for my profile.
Funny I never wanna take pics until I need some for my profile.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
just sounds like bad humor/puns.
MonorailCat
Member
10 matches a day. Dating must be so easy for good looking men.
Online dating was fun when it was ridiculed by most of the people. Average guys had a fighting chance then.
Admiral Woofington
Member
Hey somebody liked me. Unfortunately I'm not physically attracted to them, but it helps my self esteem and I appreciate it.
Bad humor/puns are my fetish. If a girl dishes out a bad joke right back at me, I'll fall in love.
Bad humor/puns are my fetish. If a girl dishes out a bad joke right back at me, I'll fall in love.
Lone_Prodigy
Member
I'm lucky if I get 1 non-bot match a week on Tinder.
EDIT: It's a fact, not a complaint.
EDIT: It's a fact, not a complaint.
Admiral Woofington
Member
Jesus christ it's almost becoming a joke how many girls have close ups of their faces where they try to hide their weight. That's a massive red flag, and the few that eventually have a full body picture end up being overweight. Nothing against overweight people, but trying to hide it likely won't end up in a positive outcome in online dating where all people have to go by is your picture and profile.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
you have a lot to learn lol
Admiral Woofington
Member
TEACH ME SENSEI
Also I just sent a message to a girl. She outright says she doesn't respond to many OKC messages, but reading her profile about taking it slow and having awkward experiences with dating and hoping the guy is patient, she sounds like the perfect girl for me. Wrote her a message explaining that I'm in the same boat and that I'd love to hear from her if she sees my message. Probably a mistake but I'm new at this.
I'll probably eventually resort to "HEY BU. HOW U DOIN?!"
Also I just sent a message to a girl. She outright says she doesn't respond to many OKC messages, but reading her profile about taking it slow and having awkward experiences with dating and hoping the guy is patient, she sounds like the perfect girl for me. Wrote her a message explaining that I'm in the same boat and that I'd love to hear from her if she sees my message. Probably a mistake but I'm new at this.
I'll probably eventually resort to "HEY BU. HOW U DOIN?!"
User 479360
Banned
Well, after a few days, the girl I was talking to sent me a message. She told me about her weekend, and how busy it was, then asked how mine was.
I replied, then asked when she's going out of province to visit family, and mentioned I'd asked because I was thinking we should do something. She replied and is interested in coffee, my most dreaded type of date.
I'm happy but nervous
I replied, then asked when she's going out of province to visit family, and mentioned I'd asked because I was thinking we should do something. She replied and is interested in coffee, my most dreaded type of date.
I'm happy but nervous
It's not just a girl thing.
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
For every girl who uses creative angles, there's a guy who adds 3 inches to his height and doesn't understand what the word "fit" means. Besides, we all pick the best pictures we can.
Pretty much. Haha.
Got myself out there on my profile at least and trying not to lie haha.
I entered into a relationship today with a girl that I met online. Just released about ten or so girls back into the dating pool. I will miss the attention, but will be happy to get my free time back. Dating and talking to multiple women at a time is exhausting and really isn't all that fun.
Man, asking someone out at the right time is truly an art. I've had someone send me 3 messages so far, which is where it gets iffy for me as far as not boring her with too much online chat vs asking to meet to soon. Especially cautious about it since I'm very picky on OKC and thus rarely get messages, but the ones I do get are from people who seem really cool.
Admiral Woofington
Member
Oh I know, but since I'm not bi/gay all I'm seeing are girls haha.
I put "thin" on mine. I've actually come a long way in terms of feeling comfortable in my own skin, but that's mostly because I put on a little bit of weight.
Being skin and bones all your life isn't easy.
I never really understood why you wouldn't be honest in the profile, if you meet in person they'll find out in 1 second anyway. There's a lot I don't understand about online dating though.
In any case a friend linked me this group of tinder convos, some of them are killing me.
Damn! Haha!
This hurts, because I genuinely thought i was around 5 ft 11 for most of my adult life until about 2 months ago when i decided to actually measure myself, and I'm actualy 5 ft 8.5
My parents lied to me!!!
MY LIFE IS A LIE
User 479360
Banned
I'm still talking to another girl who I messaged a few months ago, if not more. She doesn't reply all that often -- or at least she wasn't -- and I don't know what her mindset is. She's tough to read.
She told me she's been dealing with depression and in a rut, so I was trying to help her out. Before that, I asked her if she'd like to text and she said she'd like to talk more first. However, she's never brought it up or mentioned anything dating-wise.
That said, she seems to be messaging me more often now, so perhaps there's a chance.
She told me she's been dealing with depression and in a rut, so I was trying to help her out. Before that, I asked her if she'd like to text and she said she'd like to talk more first. However, she's never brought it up or mentioned anything dating-wise.
That said, she seems to be messaging me more often now, so perhaps there's a chance.
Admiral Woofington
Member
jesus that moment when you find another girl who is absolutely perfect for you (loves and makes bad puns, is a geek), is gorgeous... and you see written in their profile that they are moving away and are only looking for friendship or short-term dating due to that. Shit. I might still want to get to know her but god damn that sucks.
Although I found my current girlfriend on match, I have to say that plenty of fish had the most women interested in me. Ok Cupid and Match were like a slow trickle after the first few days. On POF, I constantly had women showing interest in and wanting to meet me. Keep in mind that I almost never messaged a woman unless she showed some kind of interest or messaged me first.
That was my favorite one too.
Admiral Woofington
Member
I'm curious if match has mid 20s and younger people.
From what I could see, it was mostly mid 20s and higher; mostly higher educated women.
Admiral Woofington
Member
seems like a place to go to once I'm closer to 30 then. I mean I'm looking for somebody now and I'm 24, so hopefully it doesn't take that long to find somebody in OKC haha. I might try plenty of fish if the matches on OKC aren't working out though.
I think that if you're looking for something serious, then I would go with match. The women are of a higher quality, and since they paid, they are more serious about finding a relationship. POF is great for dating, but you will have to filter out a lot of low quality women if you are looking for something serious; women with a low income, kids, overweight, crazy etc. OK Cupid got me noticed by women that wouldn't have bothered with me on other dating sites, maybe because of the questions. I say this because I noticed a few of the same girls who didn't contact me on match, but did on ok cupid. There are also a lot of weirdo women on there too. Within a few days, I was contacted by two different women looking to add a man to their bi sexual relationship and a web cam porn girl that was also a swinger.
Anyhow, if you are looking for something long term, I would place my money with match. Nowhere near as many women will contact you as on POF or possibly ok Cupid, and it may take some time before you get dates, but the women that you do go out with will have their lives together, be relatively normal, and serious about dating long term. You also won't have to deal with a crazy number of weirdos or women with kids like on POF and ok Cupid.
I've deleted my OKCupid account within 2 weeks.
The only messages I received went like ''Hi my name is ... ... from <insert other country than where I live> and I'm looking for serious man for serious relationship, my emailadress is hahahahayoufellforit@hotmail.com''
The only messages I received went like ''Hi my name is ... ... from <insert other country than where I live> and I'm looking for serious man for serious relationship, my emailadress is hahahahayoufellforit@hotmail.com''