That sucks, was it someone you were really into? It seems that there is some level of difficulty getting people to meet when you chat with them a long time online. Like you said, if they were that interested, they would have made it happen. Then again, I think sometimes people are just scared or tired of online dating and throw away good chances like this for no real reason, sorry dude!
She felt bad about it that she responded and said that it doesn't help that I'm 2 hours away from her but said that she would let me know when she has got some free time. I replied and said that there's always a half way point so the distance wouldn't be a problem at all.
There's always silver linings because I've been messaging a new wave of girls but I think I think I'm going to take it a lot more easier on the dating this month. I'll elaborate below on what's been working for me.
Slightly off-topic: I'm watching a movie called
Missed Connections, a rom-com about a girl who uses a pseudo-craigslist style website to try to find this British dude she only briefly met but her ex- IT tech company co-worker finds out and tries to pine for her by posting a missed connection ad to meet with her. Co-worker promises to make an app to try to find the dude (and take out the competition), asks her out on a series of secret dates much to her being oblivious. The guy's actions are stalker type/obsessive/douchey for a rom com that it wouldn't fly in real life at all.
Clearing out some old messages, I decided to read some to compare what I was sending then that almost never worked to what I'm sending now that's a bit more successful. There's a girl who's picture is her holding a mug full of coffee that's a big as her head. My message was
How's your day going? I see your picture, and I've got to ask: where were you at that they serve bowls of coffee? Did it have stuff floating in it like soup? You could drown a small child in that thing...
I'd forgotten all about it, and that shit made
me laugh. I wish more women appreciated my sense of humor...
I can see why it didn't get you a reply and will point out what's wrong with this message. First of all, I think you bombarded the girl with too many questions all at once. Second I think the dark sense of humor remark turned her off at the end turned her off since it made you sound condescending/like a jerk (I'm in no means insulting you as a person before you go up in arms). Lastly, I don't think it sounds funny and it doesn't have to be funny so long as you express genuine interest. Keep in mind that what you might find funny, another person might not like at all.
Personally, my version of that same message would go as follows:
Say what's the story behind the picture of you holding a giant coffee mug? It looks really interesting that I've never seen it in any coffee shop that I've been to.
It's simple and to the point because it's one sentence asking about the other person and the other sentence is me commenting on why it stood out to me. It's gotten me a good amount of replies that I continue to use it to this day although it's had its share of misses.
Or to modify your original message, this is what it would look like:
I see [the] picture [you holding that giant coffee mug], and [it looks pretty cool]. Where [in insert your city here would one be able to get such a huge sized cup of Joe?]
Another type of message that has been getting replies/dates has been the Knock-knock joke message when a girl "Likes" me since it serves as a great ice breaker. One can use any knock-knock joke that they've heard so long as it isn't crass/sexual (unless that's what one is looking for). The one that I've been saying has been Orange. Girl says Orange who? Orange you glad I messaged you first? Girl usually laughs, then we proceed into a regular conversation about the other person.
It also helps that my pictures are pretty damn solid as well as my profile. Messaging girls has gotten really easy for me that my reply rate is high. It doesn't bother me any more if a girl doesn't reply but glazes over my profile despite "Liking" me. All a numbers game so one stranger isn't going to keep me down.
