EatinOlives
Member
Hey, you're quickly approaching 20-24, that's golden for college.
Try living in a college town and being 25. I've crossed the line past into "too old" status for pretty much 80% of the people I'm my age range.
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Hey, you're quickly approaching 20-24, that's golden for college.
Try living in a college town and being 25. I've crossed the line past into "too old" status for pretty much 80% of the people I'm my age range.
I'm 30. Most people in their twenties set a X to 29 age limit for some reason, even if they're 26-27
I'm 30. Most people in their twenties set a X to 29 age limit for some reason, even if they're 26-27
1. Change your FB age to 27
4. Profit
mekes
Member
I think what you mean to say is that someone in her position isn't really ready for a relationship. To look for that to make your life complete, is backwards of how relationships should work. It's the only time Jayden Smith's said something that applies:
People Think A RelationShip Makes You Whole, That It's Two 50%'s Coming Together To Make 100% When It Should Be Two 100%'s Making 200%
Happens to me on a weekly basis.
Try being in your 30s. I'm 36. Which means chicks 29 say 28-35 or something like that. I'm also not white. So it's a bitch. I message who ever, ignoring age. If they don't message back, well they have tons of company.
Buckethead
Banned
Anyone in a LTR with someone with semi-middling match %?
I've actually enjoyed more dissimilar people on these sites. I've met a handful of people with high matches, 1:1 interests, but completely contrary personalities.
I've actually enjoyed more dissimilar people on these sites. I've met a handful of people with high matches, 1:1 interests, but completely contrary personalities.
More of a hook up app. Not to say people on there aren't looking into dating, but as a whole, I think its used for hook ups.
I like the app. Nice and easy and not much hassle to it. Give it a shot.
I've only gotten one straight-up hookup encounter from Tinder. I must be doing it wrong. I'll just keep working out at the gym until my pictures show a fuckable guy.
EatinOlives
Member
The only thing I get from this is "it's all downhill from here"...
Not really. Nearly all of the dates I've had with older women have been amazing. Actually, older women are amazing period.
I'd love to date more older women, but I have a baby face that makes them not take me seriously
I guess it varies from location to location. One thing is for sure. It is what you make of it. Look for hookups, and I'm sure you can find them. Look for dates, and I know you can find those, too. In fact, it's very rarely used as a hookup app in Norway.
RandyBobandy
Banned
Date went really well I think. Lots of fun was had
Let's see how it goes
Let's see how it goes
malingenie
Member
I've got 2 dates tonight. One at 7 and one at 8. If the 7 one goes well I'll text the 8 one that I'll have to cancel. If the 7 one goes bad I'll leave and give an excuse and meet up with the 8 one.
Too bad it's hot out.
Aren't you cutting it a bit close?
Since I started using it, I have gotten three hookups. I have been trying to use it for dating, but not having much luck there.
First world problems, dawg.
Fisticuffs
Member
It's crazy how things work out. I was doing online dating and having zero luck. I'd go out on dates with girls, and they would disappear out of nowhere. So I decided to stop using my online accounts, and be single for a while. Mere days after I quit online dating, I end up on dates with two different girls that I met in person. They both actually want to continue dating and more, and now I have to decide which one I want to pursue a relationship with (actually I've already decided). I'm not trying to brag, I just think it's bizarre because this never happens.
So final date is this Saturday. Week 3 of knowing her. Things are going swimmingly. We already talked about being strictly monogamous at the end of week one. At this point we're practically a couple sans title (pet names are frequently used) all in all everything is turning out splendidly. I have to say that finding this girl on okcupid yielded me a better chance than trying to find someone so compatible in the real world and for that I am grateful. If I hadn't taken this last jump onto the site I'd likely still be with women who I have no business being in serious relationships with and her all the same. She's not perfect but neither am I. she's an amazing woman and I'm pretty excited for the future of our relationship. I think every couple of weeks I'll keep coming in here to encourage those who have their head down on this online dating thing. It works, but it takes time. I've had my profile three times in the last year and in that time I've met three women (including my current) and this the first time it's not all blowing up in my face. There's still a lot of time for things to change between us but at this point I'm proud to call her my girl and she is too. Just keep your head up guys. Play the game, because chances are this thing will work for you. It really does work.
RandyBobandy
Banned
So, I've been playing around with Tinder and it's going alright (I guess), but almost all of the chicks near me are the same (which means they are "southern" and all that) and it's getting kinda..boring to see that all the time
I also decided to open up another OkCupid account and hope that it goes pretty well this time around (messaging a good number of people, rather than one person and all that)
I also decided to open up another OkCupid account and hope that it goes pretty well this time around (messaging a good number of people, rather than one person and all that)
Tinder I find is terrible for dating because there's no way to have a real conversation before you actually meet. At least with other dating sites -- or even real-life dating -- you'd have something to talk about to gauge interest.
How do you start conversations with people you meet in real life? They don't have a list of 'my interests' pinned to their side.
BIGWORM
Member
They were doing the OKC equivalent of "swiping right."
gutter_trash
Banned
hey guys, is OKC free?
I went onto POF (haven't been in 5 years), and noticed that it's the still the same type of people on there.
I went onto POF (haven't been in 5 years), and noticed that it's the still the same type of people on there.
okc is free, though you can become a "a list" member by paying money
TangerineCloud
Banned
it's free but i really recommend paying if you want to get full mileage out of it. and there aren't many dating sites i'd recommend paying for
NipplesAndToes23
Member
Has anyone else been messaged on one of these sites and found out that some of these sisters are prostitutes?
One said "nah, I'm an escort", but that sounds like the same thing to me.
One said "nah, I'm an escort", but that sounds like the same thing to me.
Cow Mengde
Banned
Hmmm, I wonder if there something really wrong with me that I don't see? Anyone else interested in taking a stab at my profile? I got a rating and they said it was fine, but doesn't hurt to have more opinions. Right now, I'm more interested in finding out if there's something I need to work on personally and make more improvements to myself. It doesn't matter if it's online or outside, it won't do me any good if I don't work to improve myself. The funny thing is I do get replies.
RandyBobandy
Banned
I asked her out again for next Friday. I'm more nervous than I was the first time
Really? What benefits do you get from paying? I've been using it for like 2 years now, and it's...okay. Got a good amount of dates out of it, but as far as the premium service, all I saw was that you could view people's profiles anonymously and shit.
i guess it depends on how you want to use it. for example I usually visit profiles more than once but don't want to come off as a creep, or seem too interested, so the invisibility alone is worth it to me.
also you can see who "likes" you, which, as said above isn't always a slam dunk, and a lot of girls don't even use that rating feature thingy, but still it helps you gauge on who's interested or not. I've messaged girls and went on dates with some who I otherwise would've thought had no interest, but I understand this is a non-issue for folks who're gung ho about messaging whoever they feel like
also you can see if somebody has read your message or not. but this is one of the features i dislike... kind of like it being left a mystery, but that's just me.
if you're just a pedestrian user i don't recommend paying. like I said it really depends on how you use the site
During my date yesterday I talked to the girl about her dating experience with OkCupid.. and about all the things people say. Well, it turns out they are all true. These girls get their inbox filled weekly (300+ messages) and so you need to be really unique (yes I said unique, not 'hot', though that doesn't hurt your chances) to get their attention.
For the record, my first message to her was commenting on how amazing a particular soundtrack was that she had listed in her profile.
I'm not a pro by any means, but I'd be happy to help if you'd like.
Cow Mengde
Banned
No need to be a pro. Just see if there's anything that pops out that strikes you as bad. I'm working on just being better than worry too much about getting replies. Getting replies is pointless if they see your profile and run.
stn
Member
General point based on what I've been seeing here the last while:
I see people spend lots of time thinking about what's wrong with them after something fails online. The harsh reality is that online dating is mostly about the pics. There's generally no point in wondering what you did wrong or are doing wrong. If online dating isn't working, go offline. Its a hell of a lot more interesting to meet girls in real-life, anyway.
I had some girl stop talking to me even though she "liked" me, we found out we were from the same background, and we had a shit-ton in common. Sometimes even that is not enough. You never know what goes in someone's head chemically when they make the decisions they make.
If you're a person who's ever said to yourself shit, I'm not getting any replies online, then ditch it immediately and go out. The main issue with that is that it can slowly drain one's confidence. If you're going to get your confidence drained per say, at least go get rejected by a girl outside. At least that builds character and immunity to rejection as opposed to nothing gained online.
I see people spend lots of time thinking about what's wrong with them after something fails online. The harsh reality is that online dating is mostly about the pics. There's generally no point in wondering what you did wrong or are doing wrong. If online dating isn't working, go offline. Its a hell of a lot more interesting to meet girls in real-life, anyway.
I had some girl stop talking to me even though she "liked" me, we found out we were from the same background, and we had a shit-ton in common. Sometimes even that is not enough. You never know what goes in someone's head chemically when they make the decisions they make.
If you're a person who's ever said to yourself shit, I'm not getting any replies online, then ditch it immediately and go out. The main issue with that is that it can slowly drain one's confidence. If you're going to get your confidence drained per say, at least go get rejected by a girl outside. At least that builds character and immunity to rejection as opposed to nothing gained online.
Cow Mengde
Banned
NipplesAndToes23
Member
stn
Member
No! Not a good way to go about it, man. Offline you get to present your whole self, online you're just an image. Also, most girls will hesitate online because they'll be wondering the following:
-Are you real?
-Are you normal and not a freak?
-How embarrassing and/or awkward will it be to meet the first time?
You have to fulfill that whole criteria for it to work. Lots of hoops to jump through, especially with the good looking girls who are willing to play the field since they get messaged 50 times a day. Online dating is not a good "market" for us guys, there are too many of us and the majority of us are boring and/or crazy (my lady-friend showed me the messages she received).
If you approach girls outside then you get rid of much of the pressure associated with online dating. Make sure you have your best pic in your profile, add a bunch of humor. Don't fill the lists out as is, everyone does it and its boring. If this works for you, keep it up. If you find that you're not getting replies still, start going out more. Leave the online profile up just in case some girl does message you, but go meet girls at social outings.
In fact, once my A-List runs out I'll be disabling my profile.
@Blasian Persuasion
It doesn't get any easier online in most cases. You need to figure out why it didn't work offline and make changes.
NipplesAndToes23
Member
I've actually received more first messages on Tinder than on OKC, so that's quite encouraging at least.
Another first date from Tinder today, then I'm gonna lay low for a while. Originally I had already planned that after Thursday, but this girl mesdsaged me first and she seems pretty chill.
Another first date from Tinder today, then I'm gonna lay low for a while. Originally I had already planned that after Thursday, but this girl mesdsaged me first and she seems pretty chill.
i get what you're saying but the reality is for a lot of us (or well for me anyway) it's too damn difficult to meet anybody offline. like me for example i work with a lot of much older people, all of them dudes, and everybody in my social circle is taken. i admit i could do something like take a class or volunteer or something, but there's virtually no way for me to meet people. online dating is kind of mandatory
and while i do think dwelling on "what went wrong" can be poisonous it can be a learning experience. as dumbfounded as I am about my online dating experiences i'm a lot better at it than i was three months ago when i started. analyzing it a little can help
Great story, man. Happy for you
Thanks guys =}That sounds really nice. Congrats, man.
stn
Member
Its simple. Look at yourself in a mirror and analyze how you appear. Are you in shape? Are you clean? Are you stylish? Next, look at your social skills. Are you shy? Are you awkward? Are you boring? Ask yourself questions like that and work based on the answers you give yourself. Improve what you can.
I'm skinny. My fashion has been shitty for years. I joined the gym recently and bought hipster clothes over the weekend (first time I've ever followed a trend). I just attacked two of my flaws. Its not the advice that's vague since only you can figure out what needs improvement.
Dorimukyasuto
Member
Guys, I still kinda suck with OKC. I've been messaging a couple girls back and forth but the two girls are really only in my area during the school year (my city has 5-6 really big universities and student housing is everywhere) so I've not gone on any dates. It really is getting kind of annoying, I'm from Philly and it seems like lots of girls put on their profile that they're in the city but then you find out they actually live like 9 hours away in north western PA or something.
Also, what am I supposed to say in my first message to a girl? It seems like most girls don't even read my messages. The only girls I've had conversations with messaged me first.
I also got a weird message today from a near 40 year old woman from Texas telling me she is in the area. I am pretty sure it is spam, at least I hope it is.
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Also, what am I supposed to say in my first message to a girl? It seems like most girls don't even read my messages. The only girls I've had conversations with messaged me first.
I also got a weird message today from a near 40 year old woman from Texas telling me she is in the area. I am pretty sure it is spam, at least I hope it is.
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