Skullface
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Pretty sure it's ooolld. I remember when they were advertising all over the train system in Boston. That must have been the early to mid 2000's. I'm pretty sure they've never changed their UI.
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Pretty sure it's ooolld. I remember when they were advertising all over the train system in Boston. That must have been the early to mid 2000's. I'm pretty sure they've never changed their UI.
CherryWoodFuton
Member
Thanks Jipan and Freshair!!!
Here is the updated profile
Here is the updated profile
Skullface
Member
Thanks Jipan and Freshair!!!
Here is the updated profile
Others might disagree with me here, but I might suggest removing anything to do with comics. Why? It can only broaden your horizons. Sure, there are probably some girls out there that dig that, but your chances of finding that are slim to none. However, if you do, surprising a girl with your knowledge of that particular subject can win you major points, particularly if they don't expect that's your thing. I would group all that in with generalized "I like to read" and "I enjoy movies". The specifics of what you like to read an what movies you like are also often in person conversation pieces that can take you out of a doldrum if you start to run out of stuff to talk about. Otherwise, looks good.
Edit: One more thing, lose that picture of you in the scrubs if that's a picture of you at work with coworkers. If it's school, keep it. Shit can always be used against you, however unfair.
Yep, I agree with all that.
I went ahead and deleted my Tinder account. Taking a break. Focusing on work and school. I still use Coffee Meets Bagel and Hinge since it requires hardly any effort and the girls are all pretty legit on there.
and you misspelled "yeah"
I also wouldn't go with a pic of you holding bottles of liquor. That's college freshman level
So, a random girl messaged you out of the blue and you're complaining you have nothing to work with? Nigga, she did 90% of the work for you.
I also wouldn't go with a pic of you holding bottles of liquor. That's college freshman level
Ok, POF is weird... it's full of crazies and the UI is just destroying my eyes
I'm going back to OKC.
New message; "Hi"
Give me something to work with
So, a random girl messaged you out of the blue and you're complaining you have nothing to work with? Nigga, she did 90% of the work for you.
Messaged a girl asking her if she was a bot or if she was real since she only had two pictures, got a response but checked it 20 minutes later only to realize she unmatched me. I guess she was real lol.
@CherryWoodFuton, I'll agree with the other guys about getting rid of the nurse scrub picture with you and your coworkers as well as the picture of you posing with the alcoholic bottles akimbo. It won't do you any favors. I don't put up pictures of me with friends unless it's a famous person e.g. I took with Henry Winkler (The Fonz).
@CherryWoodFuton, I'll agree with the other guys about getting rid of the nurse scrub picture with you and your coworkers as well as the picture of you posing with the alcoholic bottles akimbo. It won't do you any favors. I don't put up pictures of me with friends unless it's a famous person e.g. I took with Henry Winkler (The Fonz).
Guy messages me, we talk, he gives me his number and we text for a bit, everything is going well we seem to get along pretty good. He tells me to text him tomorrow with a smiley face. Today I text him saying hi how are you doing he replies "busy..you" .......um ok wow nice tact you got there. I just reply "oh sorry if you are busy I will let you go" and no response for the rest of the day... Wtf if you are busy the next day say "I will text you tomorrow" instead of asking me to text. Or he could have reworded it to "hey sorry im sort of busy today, can I text you later?" Ugh anyway whatever at least I am talking to some other nice fellows.
sounds like a jerk.
on to the next one!
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things are going well with the girl I met off OkCupid... we're probably nearing our 7th or 8th date..? I disabled my account over a week ago.
He could've, you know, actually been really busy. Or he sucks. Who knows. This whole online dating thing really sucks.
Yeah basically, and that is awesome! I hope it works out for you!
Yeah he could have but the thing is, he didn't write to me like that before and all of the sudden he is all cold like that, so fuck him AND his alleged busy schedule.
At least you had the courtesy of thinking of her feelings, it is really shitty when people lie like that but I would prefer having someone look nothing like their photos because then at least you have a good reason to turn them down aka: you are a liar and I don't like liars.
In my own experience it is real fucky when the person is who they are in their photos but they look a little different, for example: in their pics they have nice clear skin, look tall, or whatever seems attractive to you at the time but then you meet them and they actually have a ton of acne or are super short or whatever you think is actually unattractive. (nothing wrong with height or skin appearance I am just giving examples). This is worse because there is no way you can turn them down without seeming like a total shallow asshole, you basically have to lie, and that can land you into the harassment territory, which is the worst! Technicaly they are still lying, old pics, photoshop,cropping, angles whatever but it is the kind of lie that you can't really call them out on.
I would prefer if the person said in their profile that they are not serious and only want to fool around, there are so many guys/girls that will say "I am not looking for a one night stand" but in reality they totally are they just said that to snake people into going out with them, and to me that is a way worse show of character than just being up front. It shows you are manipulative and sneaky which are really horrible attributes.
CherryWoodFuton
Member
Thanks for all the suggestions. I didnt know that akimbo bottles would fuck up my chances with the ladies.
I went ahead and used the akimbo fork and knife pic as my main pic instead. I also got rid of the reading comics blurb.
I went ahead and used the akimbo fork and knife pic as my main pic instead. I also got rid of the reading comics blurb.
Skullface
Member
Are you cute? Har har, I kid. Insert some generic joke about the need for a Gaf dating website (there's no need for that). However, a dating website that makes you use a uni or paid email client? There might be something to that. I feel like advertisers might pay top dollar for that kind of traffic as well.
Skullface
Member
Sorry for the double post, but I didn't want this post to be misconstrued. This is now a r8 me m8 thread. How'd I do GAF?
More importantly, how obvious is it that this photo was me trying to make a selfie not look like a selfie? Lolol
Edit: This photo will self destruct at 9pm EST.
Edit # 2: photo self destructed.
More importantly, how obvious is it that this photo was me trying to make a selfie not look like a selfie? Lolol
Edit: This photo will self destruct at 9pm EST.
Edit # 2: photo self destructed.
Skullface
Member
No way dude. What's next, your bank routing number?
I wish it was that simple. Some people think it's not a date if you don't pay for them.
Skullface
Member
In my opinion, if you go on a date and the other party doesn't expect to pay their own way, there's something up with that person.
They usually want your last name to FB stalk. Was she asking where you work in general conversation, like, "Oh, what do you do? Where do you work?" Or was it like, "Please fill out this form."
One chick from a few weeks ago may have run a background check on me. I couldn't ever figure out if she was joking or serious. Either way, fucking crazy.
I always pay. It's just a date, it's not as if we're friends or anything more at that point, and I asked them to come with me. If it's a financial thing, that's different. If you're too worried about simpin, you're fuckin' up.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
Background check.
I sorta had the same thing happen right now. Tried to exchange my number with this girl and she asks "why 818?" For my area code.
Like, um, why does that matter. Are you going to exchange or not lol
It got deflected into more conversation so I guess I'll see if she ends up offering it...
Skullface
Member
Don't get me wrong, I also always pay. But again, if the other part isn't prepared to pay their way, that's a bad sign.
Skullface
Member
It depends. If the date sucks, definitely don't pay. It might send the wrong message. Now you've got someone sweating you over an awkward meal.
I gave her my last name, but she seemed unsatisfied with that as my fb purposely has a lot of bogus information, such as workplace. She wants to make sure I "actually exist".
I totally get not wanting to get catfished, but damn, i don't think i'm just gonna give out my workplace to anyone who asks.
CherryWoodFuton
Member
First date I always pay....I figure I'm asking them to go out with me might as well
Skullface
Member
Don't even think twice bro. Let's say every thing goes smoothly on date number one. Date 2 rolls around and all of a sudden she thinks she can pay surprise visits to your place of work at inappropriate times. This actually happened to me with a girl I dated that I met in the city. Long story, but yeah... Not a grand situation.
But what do you do if the girl goes for her purse to pitch in, stop her? No, no, no. This is the wrong move for every type of girl.
A. There are some girls that are genuinely offended by your paying for dinner.
B. There are some girls that will watch for your reaction to size you up. You pay for this one meal, you'll probably pay for everything. This also means this particular type doesn't respect you.
C. There are some girls who will just accept and appreciate the gesture.
D. My personal favorite; Some girls think paying for the entirety of a first date is simply inappropriate and can send mixed messages. I, as a guy, place myself in this camp.
My friends FB stalks like crazy which leads to instagram stalking. I did it once to see if they were for reals before lol.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
Uhhh. I think I got a date/meetup thing. But it seems like it'll have to be for tomorrow. Sort of weird because she doesn't seem to want to exchange numbers but we are arranging it over pof. I'll have to ask for her number again.
if it makes you feel better we didn't even know each others names until we met in the bookstore.
I wouldn't push it, to be honest. She may have had a bad experience and doesn't want to give out her number until she's actually met you.
Yes. Yes I do. It's so great that 2 blocks away a building burnt down. Great orange glow at night.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
yeah, she dodged again, so i'm not gonna ask anymore.
now i gotta figure out where to meet lol. didn't expect it to get this far.
Get out of Surrey.
Speaking of paying for dates, my ex and I actually had a pretty good rule: whoever thinks of the date idea pays for the date. I've adopted it to a lot of different dates, and it works pretty well. Of course if the girl really insists on paying -- especially if I paid for something early on in the evening -- then I'll gracefully allow her to pay.
Speaking of paying for dates, my ex and I actually had a pretty good rule: whoever thinks of the date idea pays for the date. I've adopted it to a lot of different dates, and it works pretty well. Of course if the girl really insists on paying -- especially if I paid for something early on in the evening -- then I'll gracefully allow her to pay.
Get out of Surrey.
Speaking of paying for dates, my ex and I actually had a pretty good rule: whoever thinks of the date idea pays for the date. I've adopted it to a lot of different dates, and it works pretty well. Of course if the girl really insists on paying -- especially if I paid for something early on in the evening -- then I'll gracefully allow her to pay.
Leave Surrey? Why? Cheap and good transit. Haters be damned.
Split it. No need to play power games on a date.
A Human Becoming
More than a Member
I reinstalled Tinder and reactivated my OKC profile tonight. Ten minutes in I realize I don't feel compatible with anyone. I'm too weird.
I'm Chinese. I actually need training to not pay for a date.
I tried to pay for a round of beer for my friends once and they all said nooooo we all split and I was all awkward after
Some girls only give out numbers after the first date, if it goes well.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
well, looks like i got the date squared away... she gave me her number. i say hi, and then she sends a picture of herself (not naked, just in case someone was wondering).
that's a little bit weird to just get a picture randomly, right? it definitely isn't a selfie either...
that's a little bit weird to just get a picture randomly, right? it definitely isn't a selfie either...
No, it's not weird, especially if her photos aren't that identifiable or clear in her profile.
I'd definitely appreciate a current photo at times, to spare the awkward 30 seconds trying to place her at a coffee shop at the very least.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
ok so how do i respond to this then? i'm guessing i compliment her, but i dont really have a super recent picture.
dickpic.jpg
edit: So real talk, I can't help but feel I'm gonna fuck it up with this girl. She's already mentioned (and brought back up tonight) plans for like a month away, so that's a good sign. And I know GAF hates this, but she's honestly out of my league. ugh, I need to get out of my head.
edit 2: so a few minutes after I posted that, I get a message from her on tinder that I'm 99% sure was meant for someone else...
edit 3: I don't understand women and I'm just going to go celibate
To be fair, you DO live in Surrey.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
A Human Becoming
More than a Member
More than once I've found women on OKCupid who are big gamers and hot. I would have had a massive hard on for them years ago, but not now.
Haha, I live one province over and even we understand the Surrey jokes
I dunno, play it by ear? There's no hard fast rule on what you should say.
You can't take anyone seriously if they say something like that. May as well paint, "I'm an idiot" on their forehead.