Relax. Chances are that she's just as nervous as you.
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Relax. Chances are that she's just as nervous as you.
I know how you feel, man. There's a lot of fish in the sea, but fishing itself is a game of patience. It's easy to forget.
And here I thought I was the only one who'd never been on a date before. Monday's gonna be my first.
What's your plan?
TangerineCloud
Banned
She actually seems really enthusiastic about it. So that should help calm me down some at least.
And here I thought I was the only one who'd never been on a date before. Monday's gonna be my first.
What's your plan?
Hah, two (studly) Gaffers having their first dates a day apart. That's a hell of a coincidence.
I'm picking her up from her college and then we're gonna be heading over to a restaurant to have lunch/dinner. She said she likes long dates, so I imagine we'll screw around and find some other stuff to do afterward if things go smoothly. What about you?
lol, seriously. It's actually really cool.
She's new to town and said she likes the outdoors, so I suggested either the park or lake. She said she wants me to pick since I know the town better, so I'll be picking her up from her house and we'll take a walk around the lake. I'd slightly prefer the park just because the trail is longer and a bit more visually interesting, but at the same time I feel like going into the woods alone doesn't exactly give a great image, lol. The lake's nice anyway - lots of ducks flying around and there's a big tree I used to climb as a kid that should be fun to visit.
From there I figure we'll head to the mall and get some teriyaki, my treat. It's a fast food chain but I told her about the place yesterday and she said she's a huge fan of Panda Express and fried rice, so I figure it'll be a nice surprise.
I'm getting a bit restless waiting for it lol. Nervous, but super excited. She just seems like a very nice person and she's got this white-ish blonde hair/blue eye thing that's a weakness of mine lmao.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
Someone messaged me on OKC just to tell me they think I'm weird
I checked their profile out but did not message them.
wow
Someone messaged me on OKC just to tell me they think I'm weird
I checked their profile out but did not message them.
i'm weird as fuck.
own it. say "thanks for the compliment," and move on. they probably just say "hi ur cute" to everyone else, so i wouldn't worry about their perspective.
I just blocked them. It's a bit hurtful that some random I've never messaged insults me out of the blue but, I'm not going to let it get to me.
I might delete/deactivate my account though. Not because of this incident, there is just a limited number of girls in my area on OKC.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
odd, was messaging some girl, anticipating a reply, then i get a message from some other random girl without messaging her first (which this would be the third time that has ever happened). but of course she can't type at all and there's practically nothing on her profile
CherryWoodFuton
Member
Had an awesome Tinder date over the weekend. Started out at a nice tapas bar and ended up making the fuck out at another bar. Tempering my expectations but she quickly set up another meet tomorrow. Me likey
Raptomex
Member
Yeah, I'm sure she's the definition of "normal". Don't worry about it.
TangerineCloud
Banned
You'll kill it. I believe in you! Good luck!
Thanks, man.
You be sure to post about your date afterwards too! I'm excited to hear about it.
In the meantime I got a new match a few hours ago. I genuinely think this might be the most boring, stilted conversation I've ever had.
It's actually pretty funny, lol.
Raptomex
Member
I hit it off with this girl over the last 3 days. She actually messaged me first. I went with the funny approach. I'm assuming she thinks I'm actually funny because I got her number. I made that move. Success! She works a lot and so do I so we may get together one of these weekends. Exciting since I've never done this before. Also nervous. She's cute.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
Thanks, man.
You be sure to post about your date afterwards too! I'm excited to hear about it.
In the meantime I got a new match a few hours ago. I genuinely think this might be the most boring, stilted conversation I've ever had.
It's actually pretty funny, lol.
at least she's asking you questions back half of the time. every girl i've talked to so far for online dating never asks me questions back. its infuriating when i get to that point since i don't get to that point very often.
TangerineCloud
Banned
Will do. I'm actually starting to feel confident about this. We've been texting all night and the chemistry's been really great. She already said she's gonna give me a "super hug" when I come to pick her up. Seems like a good sign.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
more weirdness. i messaged like 14 girls, and 7 of them actually visited my profile. that is ridiculous.
none of them replied, but a 50% click through from a message, i guess i'm doing something right there
none of them replied, but a 50% click through from a message, i guess i'm doing something right there
You already won plus points posing with #basedgod so I'm bias.
Good luck, dude!
True, lol. Still, it is amusing when I'm pretty sure we're both fully aware that neither of us is interested. Haven't had that happen before.
Will do. I'm actually starting to feel confident about this. We've been texting all night and the chemistry's been really great. She already said she's gonna give me a "super hug" when I come to pick her up. Seems like a good sign.
Wow, sounds like you're gonna have a great time, man. I'm really happy for you.
AdventureRacing
Member
Someone messaged me on OKC just to tell me they think I'm weird
I checked their profile out but did not message them.
Depending how they worded this it may not have been meant as an insult.
Had a really down to earth conversation with a new match this morning. She's three years older than me, which is a bit intimidating, and I'm not really sure what kind of relationship I'd have with her, but I definitely want to keep in touch.
She's smart and realistic
, which has sadly not been super common on here. Hopefully this goes somewhere.
In the meantime, I've still not heard anything from the girl I'm supposed to go out with today. She's been offline since Saturday. :/
She's smart and realistic
and also really cute
In the meantime, I've still not heard anything from the girl I'm supposed to go out with today. She's been offline since Saturday. :/
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
Are you just supposed to meet up somewhere or are you confirming it today or something?
I was supposed to pick her up today so we could go to the lake. It was confirmed, just didn't have a time.
Have you texted her asking what time she wants you to pick her up?
And here you were lamenting about how hard Tinder was a few days ago. Good to see a turn around of opinions. Good luck duder.
I predict that you're going to hit a home run at the rate you're going.
Not much of an update from my end. The Australian girl went cold on me two days ago. Her friend departs today so I have a feeling I'll be hearing back from her by the end of today hopefully. The Indian girl also gets back from her travels today so I'll see if there's still anything there.
Veterinarian girl that I went out with last week also went MIA after I tried contacting her last Wednesday but never heard back. I suppose I should try one more time. Israeli girl is the same situation; my therapist told me to be upfront with her and simply ask her out this week whenever she's free instead of beating around the bush. I've been speaking to a few new girls on Tinder but nothing to report otherwise.
I also had a 20 girl message me on OKC saying that the age gap was too wide. I told her that age is nothing but a number and she went into some self-pity thing about many things in the city requiring being over 21. Suffice to say, she stopped replying after I told her that she was assuming that just because I'm 21 doesn't mean I solely go to bars. People in their early late teens/early twenties can be incredibly naive at times.
I'll leave you guys with a New York Times article about IAC/InterActiveCorp---the parent company of OKC, Zoosk, HowAboutWe, and Tinder among others---trying make moves on trying to make money off Tinder with ads. It also has a few other tidbits of facts that pertain to this thread: http://www.nytimes.com/2014/09/15/business/media/iac-interactivecorp-makes-moves-in-online-dating.html?ref=business&_r=0
Had a date Saturday, I actually realized that I didn't have my ID on me right when I met up with her. So I dragged her back to my house to look for it and I couldn't find it, was pretty embarrass. I got into a few places but not the place we had planned on going. She was down to come back home after, and yea but she was pretty tired for all the walking.Had another date planned Sunday with someone else, but I was feeling lazy. Talking to a few girls but I might just settle and see where it goes.
Matched with a tinder girl on Thursday. Smashed her on Saturday night.
And thennnnn my Tinder account got deleted. If anyone was curious if that was possible, it definitely is. Right after she gave me her number on Thur (good timing on her part) I was banned and was unable to see new matches, view a current matche's profile, log out, or delete my account. So if anyone ever gets the same errors, you know why.
All those lewd comments and lines have caught up to me lol.
And as weird as this may sound, I'm starting to crave intimacy more than just sex now that I've had my fill. I mean I still enjoy and will still be attempting to hook up with girls, but I miss spending time with someone you care about on an emotional level and cuddling and making out and exploring each other physically and mentally, hah.
And thennnnn my Tinder account got deleted. If anyone was curious if that was possible, it definitely is. Right after she gave me her number on Thur (good timing on her part) I was banned and was unable to see new matches, view a current matche's profile, log out, or delete my account. So if anyone ever gets the same errors, you know why.
All those lewd comments and lines have caught up to me lol.
And as weird as this may sound, I'm starting to crave intimacy more than just sex now that I've had my fill. I mean I still enjoy and will still be attempting to hook up with girls, but I miss spending time with someone you care about on an emotional level and cuddling and making out and exploring each other physically and mentally, hah.
Yes. Several times now. I kind of need confirmation by 3:00 so I can get the car.
Whatever. I tried.
Raptomex
Member
Actually this was on PoF but thank you. So far it's been good.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
If she doesn't respond after one or maybe 2 she is done. Several times she probably thinks you are insane.
Halcyon
Member
I get the feeling based on how the replies have been generally in this thread, that this is already the case.
This is getting creepy. Some girl from Ohio (I'm from Canada) keeps visiting my profile. The only problem is that she's looking for a hardcore Christian and I'm not.
So what gives?
Man, all my 'watch some movies' encounters were actually movie watching. I have terrible luck.
So what gives?
Man, all my 'watch some movies' encounters were actually movie watching. I have terrible luck.
Eh, she can think what she wants. I'm done anyway.
I made a new friend today, at least.
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You got cojones that you got yourself banned. I only sent one lewd pick up line a few days ago and all it got was a laugh so I went back to my usual routine of sending out neutral messages with matches. At least we now all know that if you play with fire too much on Tinder, expect to get a ban. Regardless, it sounds like you got what you wanted out of it that you put the "hook up app" back in Tinder so respect knuckles for sure.
You'd be surprised how many "god above all else" people I've found on the hookup app.
Raptomex
Member
But they can't filter out the bots and escorts/prostitutes. Both of these "escorts" were charging $125. Ridiculous. They should really be banned for insane prices.
Raptomex
Member
I need some GAF advice. As some know I hit it off with this girl. Got her number. I've officially asked her out and she agreed and she will be checking her Saturday schedule to see if we can meet up. Thing is, I'm always the one sending the first text. She messaged me first, that's how we even started talking. We talked for a few days. She thinks I'm funny. I'm assuming that's not a lie since she gave me her number. My issue is she never really sends me messages first but she will hold a conversation for a while. I usually message her daily to get a convo going. She does work a lot and go to school. Since she agreed to meet, she said she'll let me know what time is best for her. I haven't texted her since. So should I just wait? She did add me on Facebook and everything. Other than this messaging thing, everything has gone smoothly and much better than I expected.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
As long as she is engaged in conversation once you text her I think you should overlook it until after you at least meet.
Its really a crap shoot as far as how often you text her between now and Saturday. I had a girl who stopped replying to me after the second day we were talking, so it may have been too much for her, but at the same time she probably found someone more appealing
I think your main barrier is making sure her interest doesn't subside and hoping she doesn't find someone more interesting in the mean time.
I say wait.
Raptomex
Member
The conversations go places when I initiate them. We message for a while.
I think I will.
I need to get on this dudes level lol! What kinda lewd comments were you making?Matched with a tinder girl on Thursday. Smashed her on Saturday night.
And thennnnn my Tinder account got deleted. If anyone was curious if that was possible, it definitely is. Right after she gave me her number on Thur (good timing on her part) I was banned and was unable to see new matches, view a current matche's profile, log out, or delete my account. So if anyone ever gets the same errors, you know why.
All those lewd comments and lines have caught up to me lol.
And as weird as this may sound, I'm starting to crave intimacy more than just sex now that I've had my fill. I mean I still enjoy and will still be attempting to hook up with girls, but I miss spending time with someone you care about on an emotional level and cuddling and making out and exploring each other physically and mentally, hah.
I'm in the same boat in that I want intimacy. I have a girl that I'm trying to drop that text me every day even though I'm trying to cut ties. She's willing to give it up, but I don't even want it from her.
The other girl I mentioned before I feel like we can go somewhere intimately. She text me this past Friday with an emergency needing a ride to the airport because her mom had an incident. I didn't even mind because our chemistry was just there. I kissed her goodbye as I dropped her off and we embraced like we've been dating for awhile now. It's only been one date lol. We've been texting each other while she is away. It feels good possibly feeling that way about someone again.
But I'm not throwing all of my marbles into it yet. Tomorrow, I was going to pick up this girl I've been chatting for a few days with now and hit up this restaurant. We found out it's closed though and I asked her what she wanted to so. She said to just pick her up and let's be spontaneous. I like how this one thinks.
TangerineCloud
Banned
Damn, really sorry to hear that your date flaked on you, Discoid. This likely goes without saying, but someone who would just bail without a word like that probably wasn't worth your time anyway. I hope things go better for you with this new woman.
I think I kinda just want to be her friend? I can't really pin my finger on why - she's very pretty and really cool, but something feels a bit different. I want to get to know her more, and I'm very interested in meeting up. We almost did today but the schedules didn't match.
And yeah, the flaker is just... whatever, lol. I'm not heartbroken about it.
I got a new match a few hours ago - got some common interests and she's cute, so I'm talking to her. She's pretty slow to respond to texts though.