davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
she may just never respond to you and not unmatch you. i have 13 of those right now.
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Raptomex
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That's what I'm assuming will probably happen. If I check in the morning and see she was active and still no message I'll move on.
Yeah, I've had someone unmatch me in the middle of a conversation haha. It took me by surprise when they just vanished out of nowhere.
Only advice I can give is just to give it a bit of time and try not to let it grate on you too much haha. The waiting period sucks, I feel ya.
In the meantime, I got a match and message while I was asleep last night! She's pretty cute, too. Apparently we have opposite personalities. ESFJ (me) vs ISFP. Her profile says to hit her with the best pickup line but sadly I am not creative and I do not know how I could possibly turn Myers Briggs personality tests into one lmao. Thinking about how to respond. I always dig it when a girl takes the initiative though so she has my attention for sending the first text to begin with lol.
Grats!
Lone_Prodigy
Member
"ISFP? More like CUTE.
"(Or whatever other 4-letter compliment you can come up with.)
"ISFP? More like CUTE.
(Or whatever other 4-letter compliment you can come up with.)
Haha, I like that one. xD
I ended up going with "If your name was Ers Briggs I'd make you MY Ers Briggs". Play on Myers Briggs.
I dunno, I didn't really think it was good, but I thought it was kinda funny in an ironic way.Edit - Man I just realized this person hasn't responded aaaall day. She hasn't signed into Tinder since her last text though so I'm not worried, just getting a bit impatient lol. I got the match last night so I was hoping to talk a bit and possibly meet today.
Who the hell is Ers Briggs?Haha, I like that one. xD
I ended up going with "If your name was Ers Briggs I'd make you MY Ers Briggs". Play on Myers Briggs.
Edit - Man I just realized this person hasn't responded aaaall day. She hasn't signed into Tinder since her last text though so I'm not worried, just getting a bit impatient lol. I got the match last night so I was hoping to talk a bit and possibly meet today.
Please tell me that's something she had on her profile.
Edit: oh.... ok.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
It depends on your experience with it. I haven't even had a conversation on it despite having 20+ matches. Guess they were all accidental swipes.
I've never said a pick-up line before man :C
Went ahead and sent Prodigy's with a "better? ;P" at the end. Fingers crossed, lol. Talking to another person as well though I'm not really as interested.
Could be bots. I have a few matches that haven't responded to anything I've sent too though.
#firstworldproblemsHad another date yesterday, went well as usual
Another one tonight, feeling a little overwhelmed. Pretty sure the person tonight just wants some action, which I'm all for but meh. I kinda wanted to go to the gym.
jk I'm doing the same. Gonna hit up the gym before dinner. I delayed dinner just to do this and gave her this line: "I rather plan for a later time and show up on time than plan it earlier and be late."
Thanks guys!
I havent really seen anyone get up in arms or anything, besides it does suck when people dont reply or randomly unmatch you.
Also, you havent answered me yet batman.
Exactly.
Honestly my problem is that I'm impatient in general. I get a huge rush out of befriending someone new and making a new relationship, especially if the possibility of dating is there. It's just exciting, haha. Long periods of nothing make me feel a bit restless.
Halcyon
Member
I think I was gonna say something about sex being off the table so that's why the guys were flaking. Wasn't anything too intelligent.
Raptomex
Member
Exactly. Over 24 hours and she's hasn't been active on Tinder. I sent a message yesterday. Pfft. I bet she has life.
But seriously I question if it's a bot myself because I'm pretty sure you would get a notification on your phone if you got a message, no? So either she just doesn't care and didn't look, or it's a bot, or she died, or her phone broke or something. But if they delete their account I would hope they would disappear from your match list.
Welp, seems I'm once again in that annoying little phase where not a single girl/woman out of dozens that I've messaged has messaged me back. This happens periodically for whatever reason. But the good news is, this is generally followed by a period of a significant number of responses later on, so I guess there's that.
Also, shoe girl never responded back.
Also, shoe girl never responded back.
Tonight's date went so much better. She showed up right on time. She looked exactly like her pictures. She was engaging and had a great sense of humor. She also spoke Viet and French fluently so that was pretty sexy.
We met at a cafe and then walked around the park afterwards. We were walking around with either arms locked in, holding hands, or my arms around her shoulder. To me, that's usually a sign it's safe to go for a kiss.
By the end of the night, I leaned in for a goodbye hug, but she thought I was going for the kiss and stopped me by putting her hand to my chin. That got me annoyed and I took it as a challenge. I knew she wouldn't mind me kissing her, but she was putting up a wall. So I dragged on the conversation for a few more seconds, reset the goodbyes, and went for the peck on the cheek. I can tell pulling away, her head was tilted towards wanting to kiss and not away just allowing a peck on the cheek. So I went for it and we made out a bit. I have been pretty aggressive in wanting that kiss lately lol.
I hope this keeps up as I can already see myself going far with this one. The only problem is she said I was her first date in awhile and that her friends have been trying to hook her up with their friends, so she probably had plenty of dates lined up already and want to try her options. I wouldn't even be mad if she did. She did text me when she got back home, said she had a lovely night and she'd like to see me again so that's reassuring.
We met at a cafe and then walked around the park afterwards. We were walking around with either arms locked in, holding hands, or my arms around her shoulder. To me, that's usually a sign it's safe to go for a kiss.
By the end of the night, I leaned in for a goodbye hug, but she thought I was going for the kiss and stopped me by putting her hand to my chin. That got me annoyed and I took it as a challenge. I knew she wouldn't mind me kissing her, but she was putting up a wall. So I dragged on the conversation for a few more seconds, reset the goodbyes, and went for the peck on the cheek. I can tell pulling away, her head was tilted towards wanting to kiss and not away just allowing a peck on the cheek. So I went for it and we made out a bit. I have been pretty aggressive in wanting that kiss lately lol.
I hope this keeps up as I can already see myself going far with this one. The only problem is she said I was her first date in awhile and that her friends have been trying to hook her up with their friends, so she probably had plenty of dates lined up already and want to try her options. I wouldn't even be mad if she did. She did text me when she got back home, said she had a lovely night and she'd like to see me again so that's reassuring.
I dont like the long waits people like to put others through it feels like a waste of time. Basically it signifies they are uninterested.
I am disappoint.
Yeah, its basically just peoples interests, I have had even the opposite extreme where even though I state I am looking for a relationship...the fact that I have blonde hair was too sleazy to the guy....some people I swear.
She probably died, it seems the most logical to me.
Had another date yesterday, went well as usual
Another one tonight, feeling a little overwhelmed. Pretty sure the person tonight just wants some action, which I'm all for but meh. I kinda wanted to go to the gym.
Glad to see my Hispanic/NYC GAF compadres doing well. That's awesome. You guys are pimpin' like no tomorrow. Keep it up.
I don't really have much to report on my end except that one of a few things:
Talking to the Israeli girl has been like beating a dead horse: I don't think she's interested in meeting up. She'll reply to my texts but god does it feel like a chore to get her to talk to me. I mean she's good looking and all but I think all she wants is an ego stroke. Ain't nobody got time to be stroking egos so I think I'm gonna move on.
The Australian girl on the other hand? Awesome, meaty texts as always. 4 more days to go until her friend leaves so I can make plans with her. I think it's going to pay off waiting for it. Pretty sure that she's not going to want to take her hand off of me but then again, I shouldn't get all my eggs in one basket but still.
I've also gotten a few new Tinder matches but nothing to report there and hit up Vet girl I went out with on Sunday on a whim; no reply. School life is going solid. I'll see if I get a cute girl that I spoke to last week's number in this next class in a few hours.
Raptomex
Member
Right? I mean what else could it be?
Oh also. After a really long hiatus, I finally returned to college to finish up my degree, and man, the amount of young, nubile women here is staggering. For the past two years I've just been working and the amount of women I would encounter was fairly small, so it's nice to see some variety again.
Speaking of which, asking out a classmate who has the same major as you, good idea or bad?
Speaking of which, asking out a classmate who has the same major as you, good idea or bad?
Do it. What's the big deal? You're gonna meet girls in your major all the time. I'm an art student therefore I gravitate towards artsy type girls.
http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/race-attraction-2009-2014/
So OKC update their racial "profiling" numbers from 2009 over time to 2014. good news everyone, it's still great to be white. BUT Asian men made a HUGE comeback with Asian women, mostly at cost of black men. Black men also dropped among Latina women.
So... Black men: Down across the board. Asian men: Huge improvement among Asian men. White Men: still kings.
Women: As long as you're not black, a man probably won't discriminate against your ethnicity.
Women show MUCH stronger racial preferences than men.
ouch.
So OKC update their racial "profiling" numbers from 2009 over time to 2014. good news everyone, it's still great to be white. BUT Asian men made a HUGE comeback with Asian women, mostly at cost of black men. Black men also dropped among Latina women.
So... Black men: Down across the board. Asian men: Huge improvement among Asian men. White Men: still kings.
Women: As long as you're not black, a man probably won't discriminate against your ethnicity.
Women show MUCH stronger racial preferences than men.
ouch.
It's gotten worse for Black men as compared to Asian men? I find that kind of hard to believe to be honest...
Then again, this study was purely on the attractiveness scale, right? And not actual dating success?
edit: Also guys, the guy who makes those OkCupid statistics released his book Dataclysm on Tuesday. Might want to pick it up!
Then again, this study was purely on the attractiveness scale, right? And not actual dating success?
edit: Also guys, the guy who makes those OkCupid statistics released his book Dataclysm on Tuesday. Might want to pick it up!
Lone_Prodigy
Member
http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/race-attraction-2009-2014/
So OKC update their racial "profiling" numbers from 2009 over time to 2014. good news everyone, it's still great to be white. BUT Asian men made a HUGE comeback with Asian women, mostly at cost of black men. Black men also dropped among Latina women.
So... Black men: Down across the board. Asian men: Huge improvement among Asian men. White Men: still kings.
Women: As long as you're not black, a man probably won't discriminate against your ethnicity.
Women show MUCH stronger racial preferences than men.
ouch.
Of course you'd make a post about race.
Got a reply from that girl this morning. I actually didn't think she'd bother replying, so it was a nice surprise. She said the pick-up lines were "omg cute 😂" and asked how I was doing, and apologized saying she wasn't using tinder that much. Sadly I was in class so I asked if I could get back to her later. She said "okay ", but wasn't available when I finished. It's okay though, it's nice to know she's still interested.
Went ahead and asked if she'd be interested in grabbing something at Starbucks later. Hopefully things go well, she's by far the most interesting of all the matches I got haha.
", but wasn't available when I finished. It's okay though, it's nice to know she's still interested. Went ahead and asked if she'd be interested in grabbing something at Starbucks later. Hopefully things go well, she's by far the most interesting of all the matches I got haha.
TangerineCloud
Banned
As a guy who primarily identifies as black, I always feel depressed when I read stats like those.
I wonder if I'd have any success at all on OkCupid if I weren't technically mixed. -_-
I wonder if I'd have any success at all on OkCupid if I weren't technically mixed. -_-
Hooked up with Tinder girl from Tuesday night. Big.Ass.Titties. But it was her first time meeting someone online, and if that wasn't enough, first random hook-up too. I ordered pizza and left half the box there #datregret
I've got 3 more girls interested in hooking up. It's almost a bit too easy at this point. And I'm an Asian male. And these are all non-Asian girls.
Now that it's approaching fall and the holidays, I imagine more and more girls will be interested in relationship. The spring/summer fun flings are starting to dwindle down. And has become a trend I've noticed the past few years where I will get more responses and interests in dates on OKC.
However aside from the hookups, there's on girl on OKC who is eluding me. We started messaging earlier this month and transitioned to texting pretty early on and she likes to text.a.lot. Which is fine because I like texting. However due to conflicting work schedules we haven't been able to meet yet. And now it's starting to slow down to barely 1 or 2 exchanges a day.
So the lesson of the day is in addition to showing interest early on, try and meet the person asap. Initial attraction does die down if you're not able to keep the momentum going and meet up in person. I'm going to try and push for a meeting this weekend, even if it's just 15 min. for coffee.
#datregretI've got 3 more girls interested in hooking up. It's almost a bit too easy at this point. And I'm an Asian male. And these are all non-Asian girls.
Now that it's approaching fall and the holidays, I imagine more and more girls will be interested in relationship. The spring/summer fun flings are starting to dwindle down. And has become a trend I've noticed the past few years where I will get more responses and interests in dates on OKC.
However aside from the hookups, there's on girl on OKC who is eluding me. We started messaging earlier this month and transitioned to texting pretty early on and she likes to text.a.lot. Which is fine because I like texting. However due to conflicting work schedules we haven't been able to meet yet. And now it's starting to slow down to barely 1 or 2 exchanges a day.
So the lesson of the day is in addition to showing interest early on, try and meet the person asap. Initial attraction does die down if you're not able to keep the momentum going and meet up in person. I'm going to try and push for a meeting this weekend, even if it's just 15 min. for coffee.
What's wrong with my asian brothas? Latina women are so hot. Gonna go out with a cute one next Tuesday.
I'm sure outside of OKC, black men are wayyyyy more successful than those charts indicates. Sadly, I wouldn't be surprised if it was accurate for black women though.
Asian male here and my top 2 that i find attractive would be white and latina
And its true for other asian males i know so i dunno how accurate that sample chart may be
Hooked up with Tinder girl from Tuesday night. Big.Ass.Titties. But it was her first time meeting someone online, and if that wasn't enough, first random hook-up too. I ordered pizza and left half the box there
I've got 3 more girls interested in hooking up. It's almost a bit too easy at this point. And I'm an Asian male. And these are all non-Asian girls.
Now that it's approaching fall and the holidays, I imagine more and more girls will be interested in relationship. The spring/summer fun flings are starting to dwindle down. And has become a trend I've noticed the past few years where I will get more responses and interests in dates on OKC.
However aside from the hookups, there's on girl on OKC who is eluding me. We started messaging earlier this month and transitioned to texting pretty early on and she likes to text.a.lot. Which is fine because I like texting. However due to conflicting work schedules we haven't been able to meet yet. And now it's starting to slow down to barely 1 or 2 exchanges a day.
So the lesson of the day is in addition to showing interest early on, try and meet the person asap. Initial attraction does die down if you're not able to keep the momentum going and meet up in person. I'm going to try and push for a meeting this weekend, even if it's just 15 min. for coffee.
Mind posting your tinder profile?
Nothing special really, imo. haha
Honestly, for ever 1 success I get, I strike out like 10/15 other times. And I don't really bullshit around as I posted one of my messages earlier in the thread. I get straight to the point. And for a lot of girls honestly, it turns them off. But once you find that 1 that's down, you close as soon as possible. For dating, I honestly prefer OKC. You get to showcase your personality better, and you don't have to be a mutual match to send a message. This kind of works in a guy's favor because if you don't have the best of pictures you can at least show you're funny/witty/etc and *maybe* you'll get a second look where in other cases you might not. But for hooking up, Tinder is the easiest.
Yes this was on rating attractiveness. Some of the numbers are quite big nonetheless.
What's wrong with my asian brothas? Latina women are so hot. Gonna go out with a cute one next Tuesday.
I'm sure outside of OKC, black men are wayyyyy more successful than those charts indicates. Sadly, I wouldn't be surprised if it was accurate for black women though.
I honestly wouldn't be surprised if that held true outside of OKC, too. Racism/non-liberal areas will skew those numbers a LOT. In a big, liberal city it'd probably be more even.
An interesting analysis via Buzzfeed on Tinder and perhaps why matches are difficult to come by: http://www.buzzfeed.com/annehelenpetersen/we-are-all-classists
Raptomex
Member
Good luck.New match! She responded right away to my message as well. Rad. I'll keep you guys updated as always.
Glad to see my Hispanic/NYC GAF compadres doing well. That's awesome. You guys are pimpin' like no tomorrow. Keep it up.
Hell yeah. Going to be harder with school and work to try and find time for dates, but I will try and make it work.
Texting is going fantastically - feeling great right now haha. She's really cute, which is always nice, and just seems really upbeat and fun in general.
She said she likes going into the woods and on trails so I recommended a nice one I've been to a few times. Said I'd love to go and she agreed so I guess I'll ask her out when I have the time and opportunity. Sadly she goes to a different school, but it's close so it's not too bad.
She said she likes going into the woods and on trails so I recommended a nice one I've been to a few times. Said I'd love to go and she agreed so I guess I'll ask her out when I have the time and opportunity. Sadly she goes to a different school, but it's close so it's not too bad.
Raptomex
Member
This is just an observation. Is it just me or are many of these girls all the same? Or at least the girls I find attractive. If I had to base attraction off of their profiles/about me's they would all be the same.
I haven't messaged many I was matched up with but this is what I see on their profiles and, now, my thoughts about these statements just to keep it exciting in my head.
Her: "I'm adventurous!"
Me: I'm assuming this means you go outside. I do, too but I want to be clear, I'm not Indiana Jones.
Her: "I love to laugh!" (this is one of my favorites)
Me: Yeah, there's too many girls that get angry when they laugh.
Her: "I don't want a little boy, I want a man." (this one is quite popular)
Me: I would hope so. Otherwise it could be pedophilia.
So if you strip away most of the common details that they all share, "easy-going and laid back", "I like to hang out with my friends", "I like to go out and have fun", you don't have much left. These aren't really bad I suppose. It just gets boring to read the same thing over and over again. I mean the idea is to talk to them and get to know them, I get that but just observing the profiles, if I had to base anything off of that, there's not much to go on with most of them. The quotes need to stop, though; "I live life to the fullest!". Yeah, I don't know what that means and it tells me nothing. Some girls just quote shit that make absolutely no sense for an "about me" section.
No offense to anyone that puts any of this in their profiles. Just observing. I actually find a lot of it amusing. The quotes drive me up a wall, though.
Idk about you guys but I'm surrounded by a ton of girls who want to be, becoming, or are nurses or are in some form of medical profession. I'm starting to think the hell with this. I can just jump into traffic, wake up, meet them that way. Lol.
I haven't messaged many I was matched up with but this is what I see on their profiles and, now, my thoughts about these statements just to keep it exciting in my head.
Her: "I'm adventurous!"
Me: I'm assuming this means you go outside. I do, too but I want to be clear, I'm not Indiana Jones.
Her: "I love to laugh!" (this is one of my favorites)
Me: Yeah, there's too many girls that get angry when they laugh.
Her: "I don't want a little boy, I want a man." (this one is quite popular)
Me: I would hope so. Otherwise it could be pedophilia.
So if you strip away most of the common details that they all share, "easy-going and laid back", "I like to hang out with my friends", "I like to go out and have fun", you don't have much left. These aren't really bad I suppose. It just gets boring to read the same thing over and over again. I mean the idea is to talk to them and get to know them, I get that but just observing the profiles, if I had to base anything off of that, there's not much to go on with most of them. The quotes need to stop, though; "I live life to the fullest!". Yeah, I don't know what that means and it tells me nothing. Some girls just quote shit that make absolutely no sense for an "about me" section.
No offense to anyone that puts any of this in their profiles. Just observing. I actually find a lot of it amusing. The quotes drive me up a wall, though.
Idk about you guys but I'm surrounded by a ton of girls who want to be, becoming, or are nurses or are in some form of medical profession. I'm starting to think the hell with this. I can just jump into traffic, wake up, meet them that way. Lol.
Don't forget the likes going out, but also enjoys lounging on the couch watching TV/Netflix/Movies.