Kick some ass tonight!
I should probably rewrite my profile. I only have three months left of online dating before I move to a place where it doesn't exist.
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Kick some ass tonight!
I should probably rewrite my profile. I only have three months left of online dating before I move to a place where it doesn't exist.
NoctisVsStar
Member
Florida is a nightmare when it comes to PoF. I have had some of the worst dates and meetup thought that site. Either been super crazy or super boring.
stn
Member
I'm one of the people who thinks gaming should not be mentioned in a profile. Part of online dating is selling yourself and, maybe, stretching the truth of who you are. I'm a gamer but I don't mention it, I instead focus on my love of basketball and partying.
Gaming is something I mention in person. Depending on what kind of age you're trying to attract, you are expected to uphold a certain image. The average person will think of a gamer as someone anti-social, someone addicted to gaming. You want to give yourself the best chance possible in online dating because a girl can easily disappear in an instant. Once she does, she has 30 men waiting to message her.
Granted, I'm the type that doesn't look for 100% matching hobbies in a girl I exchange messages with. I prefer to actually meet girls with different hobbies so that I can be exposed to new things. The wisest thing to do would be to mention gaming if you see it in a girl's profile; if not, keep it for the first date when you have small-talk.
Gaming is something I mention in person. Depending on what kind of age you're trying to attract, you are expected to uphold a certain image. The average person will think of a gamer as someone anti-social, someone addicted to gaming. You want to give yourself the best chance possible in online dating because a girl can easily disappear in an instant. Once she does, she has 30 men waiting to message her.
Granted, I'm the type that doesn't look for 100% matching hobbies in a girl I exchange messages with. I prefer to actually meet girls with different hobbies so that I can be exposed to new things. The wisest thing to do would be to mention gaming if you see it in a girl's profile; if not, keep it for the first date when you have small-talk.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
i received a message from a girl, saying "/wave"
I sent one right after saying "hi, how's it going?"
no response, so today i sent another asking if she saw my last message, also asking if the "/wave" is a reference to wow.
she responds with "!!!!! Get it internet boy!" and then asks if i play wow in a second message.
i'm sort of confused. don't really get the calling me "internet boy" thing.
I sent one right after saying "hi, how's it going?"
no response, so today i sent another asking if she saw my last message, also asking if the "/wave" is a reference to wow.
she responds with "!!!!! Get it internet boy!" and then asks if i play wow in a second message.
i'm sort of confused. don't really get the calling me "internet boy" thing.
GUYS!!!!! I got a date! Been talking to this girl on OKCupid and she was really cool. So we arranged a date this yesterday. I was afraid she was going to be an axe murderer or stand me up or somethig but she came. We went to a used book store (seriously the best book store I've ever been to) checked out a board/card games shop, and ate at Panera Bread and Qdoba. She is amazingly fun. We're trying to arrange a second date but it's kinda difficult because of our schedules.
Checked out your profile. I think you should use a picture of you smiling with your teeth as the profile pic? Or maybe something else with you smiling. For some reason, your current profile pic bothers me. Sorry =/
She's obviously Clara Oswald.
Checked out your profile. I think you should use a picture of you smiling with your teeth as the profile pic? Or maybe something else with you smiling. For some reason, your current profile pic bothers me. Sorry =/
She's obviously Clara Oswald.
Lone_Prodigy
Member
I don't mention gaming on my resume and won't bring it up in an interview. I do the same with online dating.
Watch Da Birdie
I buy cakes for myself on my birthday it's not weird lots of people do it I bet
So, I decided to message that girl that caught my eye---you know, I thought maybe I'd actually just put our similar tastes of gaming out there. I was just honest that it was the first profile that caught my eye.
I mean, it's not even the dating factor, I just think it'd be fun to talk to a girl about stuff like that where we aren't as "strangers" as on NeoGAF, behind user names and avatars.
I mean, it's not even the dating factor, I just think it'd be fun to talk to a girl about stuff like that where we aren't as "strangers" as on NeoGAF, behind user names and avatars.
So, I decided to message that girl that caught my eye---you know, I thought maybe I'd actually just put our similar tastes of gaming out there. I was just honest that it was the first profile that caught my eye.
I mean, it's not even the dating factor, I just think it'd be fun to talk to a girl about stuff like that where we aren't as "strangers" as on NeoGAF, behind user names and avatars.
So we're no longer good enough for you? That's what you're saying right? =(
EdibleKnife
Member
Congrats on your date and no need to say sorry. I get where you're coming from. I'm weird about getting my picture taken. I smile but rarely do I show teeth. Aside from the one you pointed out, I really want to switch out most of the pics for better ones.
Z
ZombieFred
Unconfirmed Member
Hi guys, never tried this online scene before but have signed up to POF. Here's my profile here. Anyone happy to have a look and give any advice and info? Be greatly appreciated
Profile here
Profile here
Hi guys, never tried this online scene before but have signed up to POF. Here's my profile here. Anyone happy to have a look and give any advice and info? Be greatly appreciated
Profile here
Damn dude. You hot. And this is coming from a straight guy.
I dont think you'll have a problem getting messages. And I be jelly of your height.. Damn you... Lol
Bo Knows GAF
Member
Alright gaf, as I said the other night, I'm giving it another go. Some profile suggestions are welcome. Wish me luck
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Gone_Golfing09
Edit; to join A-List, or no? Is it worth it?
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Gone_Golfing09
Edit; to join A-List, or no? Is it worth it?
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
spelling error in the second sentence (sarcasm), improper use of semi-colon
idk, you're probably fine despite that anyway
I was always bad at the use of semi-colons, but is that really a turn-off for some people?
EdibleKnife
Member
Hi guys, never tried this online scene before but have signed up to POF. Here's my profile here. Anyone happy to have a look and give any advice and info? Be greatly appreciated
Profile here
Hmm I'm never too clear as to whether you should expound on your hobbies (like saying you like Fire Emblem, Fallout, etc.) or just keeping it simple (just leaving it at Video Games). If I had to say, I'd say keep it the way you've got it now so that it isn't too vague. Letting someone know you like Arrow rather than just saying I like Television gives them something to grasp onto. Other than that: going to the gym regular should be 'regularly' or 'on the regular'. The lack faith line seems strange. seems to lean toward "No one's messaging me" just how it's worded to me. I'd word it more like "So far my connections on this site haven't been so fulfilling but I know there ought to be someone right (or awesome) here so I'm expecting a message from just such a person". Also your pics are really good. Like Soi-Fong said, you're a handsome guy and the activity variety is great. I'd probably trade the far away mirror one for something slightly more clearer.
As davepoo said, touch up the errors. The bluntness of I suck at golfing is fine but I think it'd work better with something added "I suck at golfing but that still won't keep me off the links" or "I suck at golfing but you'll never be able to pry the clubs from my hands" or some such. Also I might go with "I've done scuba diving quite often in the past and want to get back into it, possibly with some new, fledgling friends that I can show the ropes to". Friday nights. Where are you and your friends going the bar, a concert? And the message me, I'd say you should go with "If you want to know more about Scuba, golf, the #1 stop on my tour of baseball stadiums or just wanna know more in general about yours truly". Other than that, I've got nothing. You're good looking. Fit. Pics are good. Profile pic is a bit fuzzy but not bad. Good profile. No idea about A-List. I've debated it myself.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
the rule about semi-colons is, if you don't know how to use them, then don't.
and yeah, it can be for anyone who holds an english degree or pays attention to grammar correctly.
So after trying online dating for three weeks and chatting with a dozen people I eventually met this really awesome chick on OkCupid. After two days of talking a ton we set up a date for Saturday but actually met up on Friday instead. We really hit it off and ended up seeing each other for 48 hours straight haha. She's one of the coolest people I've gotten to know and it's crazy that I've only known her for a little over a week.
I'm sharing this to let you guys know to just keep trying and be yourself. Don't over think your profiles and things like that. All I had were some boring-ass selfies as photos and one good picture of me in an office. My profile was just me pretty much me describing how I live my life and how I view things in a summarized fashion. I also never assumed anything of the people who'd view my profile. So there was nothing like "guilty pleasures" or "I have to confess" written anywhere when it came to my interest and hobbies as if those things about me are bad or uninteresting.
I'm sharing this to let you guys know to just keep trying and be yourself. Don't over think your profiles and things like that. All I had were some boring-ass selfies as photos and one good picture of me in an office. My profile was just me pretty much me describing how I live my life and how I view things in a summarized fashion. I also never assumed anything of the people who'd view my profile. So there was nothing like "guilty pleasures" or "I have to confess" written anywhere when it came to my interest and hobbies as if those things about me are bad or uninteresting.
Saiyan-Rox
Member
I've still had no luck with people responding don't think this route is gonna work with me guess i'm too boring lol
EdibleKnife
Member
So, a bit of an update on my end.
Went on a Starbucks date with the girl I met from OKC. The date in the simplest terms, went extremely well. It's a bit crazy on how well it went. I already had a slight feeling that it would go well when we both first saw each other and both of our faces just lit up like Christmas lights. We were texting each other like crazy before the date and both of us were just looking forward to it.
Talked about different interests from anime (she's a huge Attack On Titan fan) to gaming to completely random stuff like Ebola and Chicago overall to other topics. I was extremely happy in that as the date went on, I felt no pressure around her. She was talkative and extremely engaging with me. For example, I told her of my major being in animation and she was constantly asking me questions about it as well commenting on the animation reel I posted on my OKC account. She commented on how it's crazy how she had to meet me online instead of like a coffee shop or something.
She got to Starbucks around 8 or so at night and we stayed there till closing at 10. It was supposed to be around 7, but her work kept her late. Anyway, after closing she said she wanted to take a walk, but her not having a jacket, and it being already quite chilly, I asked if she wanted to go home since I knew that she also had work the next day. Same with me as well. She was insistent though that she wanted to spend more time with me so I suggested we could just sit at my car and chat more. I would have taken her to a bar or something, but she's only 20 and I'm 23.
Anyway, we spent two or so more hours just in my car chatting. Just literally talking about anything. We were both constantly laughing, talking about us, just different topics really. She was not afraid of putting her feelings out there which I really loved. It just made the atmosphere more "free." She played with my hair, we played fun "guessing" games, real random stuff. Like I said, nothing felt forced whatsoever. She actually told me that her cheeks were hurting from her smiling and laughing so much with me.
Anyway, around 12:30 AM, we said bye to each other. Before saying goodbye she asked me if I wanted to see each other again, to which I said yes. She held my face for a minute or two just looking at me saying, that she wanted to "etch it onto her mind" before leaving. I was making faces during this time which was making her laugh even more. I gave her a goodbye hug and a kiss on the cheek which made her blush like crazy.
Once I got home I sent her a text and again, just being playful with each other.
Planning on seeing her again this week.
Went on a Starbucks date with the girl I met from OKC. The date in the simplest terms, went extremely well. It's a bit crazy on how well it went. I already had a slight feeling that it would go well when we both first saw each other and both of our faces just lit up like Christmas lights. We were texting each other like crazy before the date and both of us were just looking forward to it.
Talked about different interests from anime (she's a huge Attack On Titan fan) to gaming to completely random stuff like Ebola and Chicago overall to other topics. I was extremely happy in that as the date went on, I felt no pressure around her. She was talkative and extremely engaging with me. For example, I told her of my major being in animation and she was constantly asking me questions about it as well commenting on the animation reel I posted on my OKC account. She commented on how it's crazy how she had to meet me online instead of like a coffee shop or something.
She got to Starbucks around 8 or so at night and we stayed there till closing at 10. It was supposed to be around 7, but her work kept her late. Anyway, after closing she said she wanted to take a walk, but her not having a jacket, and it being already quite chilly, I asked if she wanted to go home since I knew that she also had work the next day. Same with me as well. She was insistent though that she wanted to spend more time with me so I suggested we could just sit at my car and chat more. I would have taken her to a bar or something, but she's only 20 and I'm 23.
Anyway, we spent two or so more hours just in my car chatting. Just literally talking about anything. We were both constantly laughing, talking about us, just different topics really. She was not afraid of putting her feelings out there which I really loved. It just made the atmosphere more "free." She played with my hair, we played fun "guessing" games, real random stuff. Like I said, nothing felt forced whatsoever. She actually told me that her cheeks were hurting from her smiling and laughing so much with me.
Anyway, around 12:30 AM, we said bye to each other. Before saying goodbye she asked me if I wanted to see each other again, to which I said yes. She held my face for a minute or two just looking at me saying, that she wanted to "etch it onto her mind" before leaving. I was making faces during this time which was making her laugh even more. I gave her a goodbye hug and a kiss on the cheek which made her blush like crazy.
Once I got home I sent her a text and again, just being playful with each other.
Planning on seeing her again this week.
Horseticuffs
Full werewolf off the buckle
Lots of great shit happening the past few posts. Great jobs, everyone.
Reading this made me smile. Go get 'er, son. :')
NoctisVsStar
Member
NoctisVsStar
Member
stn I wish I had the same problems. >
So should I treat the 5th date with a nice dinner to impress or keep it cheap for a little longer (not that these past dates have been considered "cheap" by any means)?
Bruh 5th date! You gotta go all out and just make it official. Personally I would've sealed the deal by the 3rd date if both parties are truly interested.
Even with what I mentioned above, I'm pretty sure I'm gonna take it slow at first.
bananafactory
Banned
It's ok I'm bringing the average down. Talked to 5 people the past couple weeks, many exchanges back and forth and feel like conversation is great, then they just stop replying. I don't want to send another one and seem desperate. Also I can see that they read my messages :/
Single GAF representing
NipplesAndToes23
Member
It still seems like I don't exist on there. I only get messages from bots on Tagged and nothing everywhere else. I really wonder why the shit even exists. It doesn't work or maybe it's like that thread with okcupid bot, you have to be attractive for the shit.
I'm going to try that out and see if it makes a difference.
I'm going to try that out and see if it makes a difference.
Guessing you have A-list then..?
Ok, so the girl I've been talking about plays Minecraft... And I've never played the thing before.. Guess I should start.. lol
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
i'm guessing you meant Tinder since i don't know what "Tagged" is.
yeah, if you're attractive you'll definitely get the intended use out of Tinder. I've been using it for about 6 months(?) or more now, and only have gotten may be 3 or 4 legit conversations going before they stopped or I realized they were too far from me to bother trying to meet. Getting rejected by all of the girls in SoCal one by one is some sort of anti-fun, if anything.
NipplesAndToes23
Member
This is Tagged. http://www.tagged.com/home.html
stn
Member
A 3 or 4? lol.
@y2dvd
You're going out on a 5th date with the same girl. I'd rather have your "problems" instead of my own.
Your profile pic is of you with a very attractive lady. Scrap it. No reason to even hint that there may be competition or a reason to get jealous.
"Pissing people off..." is not a phrase you should be using. Positivity rules, always.
Your profile contains a lot of tropes...What I'm thinking about - the future...typical friday night I'm - spending time with family and friends...message me if - you find me interesting and want to get to know me better.
You need to read through your profile, and think of how many other gentleman those statements would apply to. You're selling yourself, so you gotta make you sound different from everyone else. You're going to school. Play that up! Talk about why you're doing what you're doing, and what you plan on doing with it. That can show passion, ambition, drive...all very desirable things.
electricshake
Member
Got my first okc date in months next week, and speaking to another guy which may or may not lead to a date. And my ex is sort of back on the scene. After a 6 month dry spell things are looking up!
Let this be a lesson to not let opportunities slide, be communicative, and see things til the very end!
So after going on a few great dates with this girl from OKC, we had a lull in conversation in planning the 3rd date. What was suppose to be a movie night (3 dates in 3 weeks) turned into her getting sick, so that didn't happen.
In the interim I met this other girl on Tinder and really hit it off. So I kind of let communication drop between the other girl (kind of unintentionally, but she didn't try to continue it either).
Now that Tinder girl and I are seemingly over, I texted the OKC girl if we're ever going to re-schedule that movie date. And turns out in between the time we haven't communicated - first it was 4 days w/o communication, then we talked a bit. Then 2 days w/o and a we talked again. Then 5 days w/o and finally talking again last night, it turns out she met someone else irl and wants to pursue and see how it goes.
She said some really nice things about me as we're ending it on good terms and kind of makes me wish I made more of an effort. She thought I was doing the fading and I thought the same of her.
So after going on a few great dates with this girl from OKC, we had a lull in conversation in planning the 3rd date. What was suppose to be a movie night (3 dates in 3 weeks) turned into her getting sick, so that didn't happen.
In the interim I met this other girl on Tinder and really hit it off. So I kind of let communication drop between the other girl (kind of unintentionally, but she didn't try to continue it either).
Now that Tinder girl and I are seemingly over, I texted the OKC girl if we're ever going to re-schedule that movie date. And turns out in between the time we haven't communicated - first it was 4 days w/o communication, then we talked a bit. Then 2 days w/o and a we talked again. Then 5 days w/o and finally talking again last night, it turns out she met someone else irl and wants to pursue and see how it goes.
She said some really nice things about me as we're ending it on good terms and kind of makes me wish I made more of an effort. She thought I was doing the fading and I thought the same of her.
Gahh I think I fucked up!
I went on two great dates with this girl from OKC, for the third on Saturday I asked if she wanted to come over and watch a movie, otherwise we could go out. She (surprisingly, to me) took me up on the first option, and came over; it seemed to go well in the beginning, it was something we had both seen before so we were laughing and talking through it, but after awhile I sort of just wanted to actually watch it (also because she put on the special features which I hadn't seen before) so I was a little bit quieter. As soon as the special features bit ended she said she had to be going, and I got the feeling that she wanted to leave pretty much immediately. She had a long day and said she was tired from it when she first came over, but I still got a bad vibe since it seemed abrupt. Up until that point I didn't think our date was as good as the first two, but I still thought she was staying over...
She still let me kiss her goodbye, but the first thing she did in the morning was send me a text thanking me for having her over and saying she couldn't hang out the next day. It could have been a legitimate reason, she sometimes has to babysit during the time we were scheduled to hang out, and that's what she said she had to do, but it seemed like it was also a convenient way to make that the last time we see each other. I just texted back "Yeah that's fine, hope you have a nice Sunday!" or something and we haven't spoken since.
I don't plan on really reaching out again since I feel like the ball is in her court, but I would have loved to know what/if I did wrong. Oh well!
I went on two great dates with this girl from OKC, for the third on Saturday I asked if she wanted to come over and watch a movie, otherwise we could go out. She (surprisingly, to me) took me up on the first option, and came over; it seemed to go well in the beginning, it was something we had both seen before so we were laughing and talking through it, but after awhile I sort of just wanted to actually watch it (also because she put on the special features which I hadn't seen before) so I was a little bit quieter. As soon as the special features bit ended she said she had to be going, and I got the feeling that she wanted to leave pretty much immediately. She had a long day and said she was tired from it when she first came over, but I still got a bad vibe since it seemed abrupt. Up until that point I didn't think our date was as good as the first two, but I still thought she was staying over...
She still let me kiss her goodbye, but the first thing she did in the morning was send me a text thanking me for having her over and saying she couldn't hang out the next day. It could have been a legitimate reason, she sometimes has to babysit during the time we were scheduled to hang out, and that's what she said she had to do, but it seemed like it was also a convenient way to make that the last time we see each other. I just texted back "Yeah that's fine, hope you have a nice Sunday!" or something and we haven't spoken since.
I don't plan on really reaching out again since I feel like the ball is in her court, but I would have loved to know what/if I did wrong. Oh well!
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
I think you should probably text her again, but that's just me. If she says she's still busy then tell her to let you know when a good time is and then that'll let you know if she is still interested
"I will always reply to messages!"
*doesn't get response*
Bah, I'm not sure if I should be witty/joke around with things like What I Think About or the Typical Friday evening. Way too easy for people to misinterpret sometimes.
*doesn't get response*
Bah, I'm not sure if I should be witty/joke around with things like What I Think About or the Typical Friday evening. Way too easy for people to misinterpret sometimes.