OriginofHysteria
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That damn second message 
. It always stops there.
. It always stops there.
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ReturnOfTheRAT
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davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
Also the questions where each person should be opposite of the other and then they mark the match answer as incompatible.
Like do you want to be taller than your match?
A girl will say NO, but have a YES as a bad answer.
Just can't think too much about the numbers.
Allez Phill
Banned
There is not a single chick near my city that is attractive. All of the attractive girls are like 25+ miles away in different towns, I ain't got time for that.
I totally did thisssss. I mean. Not drastically, and if I thought about it I actually wanted to change some of my answers.
What are the chances that your soul mate is within 15 miles of you, bro?
ReturnOfTheRAT
Member
This doesn't apply to me or probably many of you guys/girls either, but you should check it out. It's a good, long read:
I'm Rich. You're Hot.
Edit:
It's about Sugar Daddies & Sugar Babies
I'm Rich. You're Hot.
Edit:
It's about Sugar Daddies & Sugar Babies
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
If they were his soul mate they would live near him. That's part of the requirements to be considered a soul mate
Lone_Prodigy
Member
You found the movie more interesting than her.
To be fair, this movie could have been *really* good. Imagine if one is watching Return of the King, and Sam is giving his amazing speech to carry Frodo. That's too epic to pay any attention to anything or anyone else.
You know what's up.
As much as you know what's down. ;-D
ReturnOfTheRAT
Member
Probably the most worthless message you can receive.
Just ask her out already. When I used Tinder I tried to get the girls number right away and ask her out after a couple of messages. Worked great.
First in-real-life date...casual restaurant, or something even more low-key and no pressure, like coffee or drinks?
I've been messaging two girls for the past week or so, want to take it to the real world soon. Nervous though since I haven't dated anyone for the better part of a decade.
I've been messaging two girls for the past week or so, want to take it to the real world soon. Nervous though since I haven't dated anyone for the better part of a decade.
a few days ago.
Dead Prince
Banned
idk. i like the third one better. but that's just me.
Ooooft. There's an idea....
But I would have missed loads of snappy
mean girls
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
You were obviously ogling Lindsay Lohan's boobs the whole time, of course she is angry
Man I feel like such a turd.
I met this chick earlier this week who was completely into me. I admit I wasn't like super fucking into her back, but she was cool and the attention was nice. Anyway, she says she wants to come over and watch a movie and I'm like alright, sure. Of course, when we get here the movie ends up just being fluff in the background as she's all over me.
But here's the fucked up part. I couldn't get it up! I just wasn't getting turned on by her. It didn't matter what she tried, I just wasn't feeling it. I wasn't even nervous, it was just like....idk. I felt basically zero connection with this chick, and it caused me to not be into whatever she tried to do.
I guess I'm just not cut out for casual dating, GAF. I need a serious relationship to be sexually attracted to someone. =\
I met this chick earlier this week who was completely into me. I admit I wasn't like super fucking into her back, but she was cool and the attention was nice. Anyway, she says she wants to come over and watch a movie and I'm like alright, sure. Of course, when we get here the movie ends up just being fluff in the background as she's all over me.
But here's the fucked up part. I couldn't get it up! I just wasn't getting turned on by her. It didn't matter what she tried, I just wasn't feeling it. I wasn't even nervous, it was just like....idk. I felt basically zero connection with this chick, and it caused me to not be into whatever she tried to do.
I guess I'm just not cut out for casual dating, GAF. I need a serious relationship to be sexually attracted to someone. =\
TOP SHOTTA
Member
...are not as attractive as the friend, and often not even in the same league. I have a decent amount of activity and interest in my profile - and I'd say my history with online dating has been extremely positive - I used Yahoo personals in the 2000-2001 tineframe, and after getting divorced used OKCupid and a few flings/hookups from Cragslist. It's not my first rodeo and I have had wonderful luck and even on CL met some really awesome people. I am good at figuring out who I want to see and who I don't. But a new trend I'm seeing is pics that show a woman with their friend and instead of mosaic'ing them out, they show the other woman's friend and they're usually better looking. Why do you suppose they do that?
What is the concept behind that? Let me be clear - I don't judge on outward beauty as much as the average person. I read people's profiles, I evaluate them based on a lot of quick mental "shoot from the hip" metrics when I decide whether or not to make contact. But if I have a more attractive friend and I have a picture with them - sure as shit that's not going in my profile. I am way too insecure for that. I thought that women were way more sensitive about evaluating themselves against their close friends and generally are aware of their "rank" among them.
What I look for is the funniest, the most sunny, the most charismatic woman in a group - not the 10/10 physically. But I really get stuck when I see these profile pics with several people - and learn after investigating that their friend is the pretty one. I see this so often, and it really throws me for a loop. I realize how judgmental that may come off, but when we're browsing these sites, isn't that what it's all about?
Do you folks see this too? If so, any thoughts or insights? Replies from female members would be appreciated too.
What is the concept behind that? Let me be clear - I don't judge on outward beauty as much as the average person. I read people's profiles, I evaluate them based on a lot of quick mental "shoot from the hip" metrics when I decide whether or not to make contact. But if I have a more attractive friend and I have a picture with them - sure as shit that's not going in my profile. I am way too insecure for that. I thought that women were way more sensitive about evaluating themselves against their close friends and generally are aware of their "rank" among them.
What I look for is the funniest, the most sunny, the most charismatic woman in a group - not the 10/10 physically. But I really get stuck when I see these profile pics with several people - and learn after investigating that their friend is the pretty one. I see this so often, and it really throws me for a loop. I realize how judgmental that may come off, but when we're browsing these sites, isn't that what it's all about?
Do you folks see this too? If so, any thoughts or insights? Replies from female members would be appreciated too.
electricshake
Member
I've only got one pic of me with someone else and it's not my main one. It's a decent photo of me which is why I use it. Wouldn't surprise me if guys thought she was hotter than me but it isn't in there to mislead. I've noticed some guys also have group shots and it can be hard to tell who's profile it actually is. Kind of annoying!
Has anyone else heard of the start-up called SINGLDOUT. I just read this TechCrunch article and the idea seems interesting.
http://techcrunch.com/2014/10/28/si...-to-get-science-and-romance-on-the-same-page/
http://techcrunch.com/2014/10/28/si...-to-get-science-and-romance-on-the-same-page/
Yeah, they often do cost a lot. Worth the price though.
I only set up my first online dating account less than two weeks ago and the first person I messaged got back to me, we'd been using whatsapp to talk for a while then she wanted to phone me, we talked for 15 hours in 3 days, kinda crazy really. I've told here things I haven't told anyone else and vice versa. Planning to meet tomorrow. I really hope I haven't jinxed it with this post because it feels like it's too good to be true.
Well, actually talking for that long is a good thing! As long as you can keep up conversations without trouble, you'll be fine. Good luck!!
Consider us envious
Just keep on trying. That's all you can do.
I'd been meaning to respond to this. With regards to the first paragraph, I can see how Hispanic cultures have this notion that guys are charismatic. However, it's perfectly normal in this day and age. I don't really hang out with Hispanics exclusively any more but in the end of the day, it makes you happy so you don't need to please your family or your friends.
I know the feeling since I'm also a good looking guy who resorts to online dating to meet girls as opposed to meeting girls in school since I'm super oblivious on top of it being easier. I think there are a couple of girls in a few classes that are cute and seem interesting. I've also talked to a few girls in the art studios whenever I'm doing homework there. I can understand you wanting to take a cool down period since I did the same thing last semester. With this being my final semester, I'm going all out.
I agree that a person's profile who's composed exclusively of group pics is a pain in the ass to go through. Especially when they don't indicate which one is the person in question. From what I've observed on Tinder, it's been a bit of a mix bag in terms of the types of group pics I see; in many cases if a girl is attractive, she'll usually be posing with friends that are just as if not more attractive than them. Conversely, In several profiles that I come across if a girl not that attractive, they'll usually be posing with more good looking friends.
Personally, I don't ever have group pictures on either my Tinder profile or my (now barely used) OKC profile that I haven't updated since July. My reason usually pretty simple: I'm concerned that potential matches might know some of the people I'm with or so I stay far away from it no matter how social it makes me appear (I know that you can easily edit a pic to black out the faces but still). I think pictures with celebrities are fine since they're more or less recognized by people.
I know that feel bro. I've tried to make plans a few girls for the weekend but all I've gotten is that they're busy; especially this weekend. For example, this 21 year old girl that I've been talking to told me that she's taking 4 grad level science courses so she doesn't have time to hang out in the weekend since she's always studying. So I told her to let me know when she does have time since I've been wasting my time talking to her. Funny thing is, I saw her posting pics on Tinder's Moment feature today which suggested otherwise. Another girl told me she wouldn't be able to hang out until next week which is a bummer so it's been a waiting game pretty much with many girls that I've been talking to lately. Usually if a girl constantly says she's busy, I move on.
Speaking Tinder/online dating, I'll leave these two articles here for you all to read that are pretty damn fascinating:
This first one is a NY Times article about Tinder that was just published a few days ago:
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/10/30/f...tentCollection=Fashion & Style&pgtype=article
This second one is about women busting online dating creeps and posting messages that guys have sent them. There's over 1,000 comments in this article:
http://www.theatlantic.com/national...-feminist-creep-busting-web-vigilante/381809/
Fair point, but they were glorious then.
I texted her today, got a long reply where she said things were moving far too fast for her and she got spooked, but that she'd like to continue hanging out. I think I'm fine with that, and told her as much; I like her and we get along well and I find this dating/courting process absolutely exhausting so I don't feel like cutting contact with someone I get along with just because they wouldn't sleep with me on the third date. I just have a feeling that this could go on for a couple of months and she'd still feel the same way and then I'd lose interest.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
This ain't exactly true. My cousin's now wife was a good friend of his sister's and his sister introduced them to each other.
Actually, my sister's makeup artist for her wedding actually said to me outright 'Hey, if you contact me later, I can probably hook you up with some girls. A lot of the couples I hooked up got married!"
I laughed, but I should've taken her up on the offer...
Its gonna be ok bro. *pats on shoulder*
That part was fine but I was sort of expecting her to stay over, and she picked up on that
Edit: Jipan LOL
For some girls, that would be too fast since you're signaling that you want to have sex. Remember, that if you move too fast, it can be taken by some girls that you just want some meat.
I edited my post to prevent derailing any future posts in this thread that focus on it. I sincerely apologize for my drunken stupor. If it's any consolation to you guys, I have a huge list of girls to apologize to on Tinder and via text for being in said state.
The take away from my episode is don't drink and text/send messages to girls on online dating services/social networking websites. Seriously. Alcohol makes people do stupid things while we're drunk. And if you do, then apologize the next day immediately. Any way, keep on trucking my online dating compadres.
The take away from my episode is don't drink and text/send messages to girls on online dating services/social networking websites. Seriously. Alcohol makes people do stupid things while we're drunk. And if you do, then apologize the next day immediately. Any way, keep on trucking my online dating compadres.