If him having him say he's awesome annoys you, you'll love my OKC profile. The whole thing reeks of pure arrogance. The best part? The girls seem to love it.
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Online Dating |OT| Please Respond
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Yes, sometimes they'll give you their phone number in the first message too. I wonder if you're signing up for something if you actually text those numbers.
Troubled Bat
Member
That moment when you find a really awesome person that shared many interests with you, both liked each other, but you decide to not message her because it was really late.
So, the next day you get on, you try to go to her profile but she deleted/deactivated her account.
My heart shattered.
So, the next day you get on, you try to go to her profile but she deleted/deactivated her account.
My heart shattered.
Any sort of link in the first message is a no-go for me. It's a clear sign that 'they' are a bot or some floozy out to make a quick buck. If I get any message like that, I unmatch them straight away.
Oh, man, this has happened to me a few times.
It's gut-wrenching.
QuantumBro
Banned
So I made my second foray into online dating this weekend with Tinder and OkCupid. As of now, I've gotten 70+ matches on Tinder (of which I've reduced down to 20ish) and 27 likes on OkCupid.
It is starting to get overwhelming. How am I suppose to turn these into dates?
It is starting to get overwhelming. How am I suppose to turn these into dates?
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
Troubled Bat
Member
It is..
And now I got another girl who liked me as I liked her back. I message her, and I get nothing back. She's even online! T-T
I also got this other girl messaged me about what anime I like, then once I respond. I get nothing in return.. >.<
I also got 14 total people that like me, but I only know of three! Rah! (σˋ▽ˊ
σThat does sound overwhelming. Just choose who the most interesting person is to you of the bunch.
Troubled Bat, there could be a number of reasons. Girls on OKC recieve a shitload of messages on a daily basis. I set up a profile as a woman once to see it from their side, and my God, it's crazy. The girls you messaged are either working their way through the messages, or yours got deleted as it didn't stand out enough. Give it a couple of days and hit her up again.
Troubled Bat
Member
I have no patience. I get too anxious of everything, but you're right. I do realize there's a bunch of thirsty ass guys there. Especially when I always see "If you're looking for casual sex, keep on going by. Etc. Etc." on a lot of females essays.
Troubled Bat
Member
How can she lose interest, if she's going to be with you on your birthday. :V
Troubled Bat
Member
Do tell, haha.
I've had girls fawn over me, only to tell me the next day that they're interested in some other guy. Or girls wanting something on the side, but, after refusing, feigning innocence to me later on.
Or, more recently, did 'things' with a girl only for her to give me the cold shoulder the few days afterward when it was she who wanted more dates, haha.
I have the worst luck ;_;
Troubled Bat
Member
Okay, now that is heart shattering. These females all sound confused on what they want to be honest. Lol.
That makes no sense! I just don't understand. But I can definitely see your point in things.. At least you can even have dates though! I haven't had anybody.
I feel like I'm not worthy of somebody. (´･_･`)
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
I scored like 10 hot girls in a row on tinder. Felt good man. Even if they were all bots.
Troubled Bat
Member
ClosingADoor
Member
Tinder is wierd. Got like 10 matches in a row when out of the country for a few days (jeej, can't meet up with anyone when I'm only there for one night, so whatever). But got a date monday with someone. Went rather quick, so let's see what I can expect.
You tried OKC? Got a bit more luck there. Two dates lined up this weekend from there. Should be fun.
And the main photo is so important everywhere. Went from barely any views to almost all the girls I message viewing my profile at least. Not everyone responds in the end, but more are now.
Demon Lizardman
Banned
Would it be a good idea for me to post some of my photo shoots and use them for my profile or will be think I am a fake account and ignore me?
Troubled Bat
Member
As long as you have other regular photos included, then there's no problem with it.
Tabasco
Member
OKC gave me even worse luck.
Woody Invincible
Banned
Etrian Oddity
Member
*sigh*
So I think I'm going to request some criticism for my OKC profile. If I could get anyone kind enough to volunteer, I'll pm you my profile page. Too shamed to post it to the public. :|
So I think I'm going to request some criticism for my OKC profile. If I could get anyone kind enough to volunteer, I'll pm you my profile page. Too shamed to post it to the public. :|
I only just started my OKC and have scored precisely zero dates through it so far but I'd be happy to offer my opinion for whatever it's worth!
How long do y'all usually go before switching from Tinder to texting? Starting messaging a girl just a couple of hours ago and she asked for my number. Not sure if I'm interested but couldn't really think of a reason to say no so I gave it to her.
Hopefully not a terrible idea.
edit: kept texting with girl, oh damn she just asked me why I'm on Tinder. getting into those deeeep questions fast. uhh...yolo?
Troubled Bat
Member
I've had no luck on Tinder.. Thinking about just taking it off.
How long have you had it?
Troubled Bat
Member
Since.. I think, the 14th.
Give it more time. I've had it a month and, so far, have only gotten four matches, two meaningful chats and zero dates. Honestly, I consider that a success, since it seems like Tinder plays host to a whole different type of people than me.
Troubled Bat
Member
It's hard though, especially when I've gotten no matches at all. >.< But I will keep trying for sure, at least I have OKC going very well for me. Actually talking with somebody right now.
ClosingADoor
Member
I'll take a look if you want to!
Depends a bit. Mostly after a few messages back and forth ask if they want to meet up sometime for a drink. If that's a yes, ask the number.
And why you're on Tinder? To meet fun new people! Not really a deep question.
Drop me a line in my inbox, and I'll help you as best I can.
Tinder takes a lot of getting used to. It's not in the same league as OKCupid or POF in the sense that you don't have a profile to read. You have a photo and a short personal statement to grab someone's attention. It's because of this that securing a date with someone - or even striking a match - is a lot more difficult. Don't give up though, bruh.
I'm meeting up with someone from OKC today after work for coffee. We've been chatting for a month or so now and she just moved here to New Orleans from Texas. I'm looking forward to finally meeting her but one thing is bugging me. In setting everything up see said, "Just as friends of course, I have none here."
I'm not disheartened by that, but slightly confused.
My general approach to online dating is chat online, set up a meeting, hang out and chit chat and see where things go from there. I never approach it with a "we gonna bang" mentality. I would like to think she's taking the same approach.
I'm not disheartened by that, but slightly confused.
My general approach to online dating is chat online, set up a meeting, hang out and chit chat and see where things go from there. I never approach it with a "we gonna bang" mentality. I would like to think she's taking the same approach.
depths20XX
Member
If she's straight up saying, "just as friends of course" then it's pretty obvious she has no intentions of anyting going past that with you.
Lone_Prodigy
Member
6tin (the unofficial Windows Phone app) is so much better than Tinder for Android.
-6tin has an option to review profiles you've passed on
-6tin doesn't require your location to be always on (can manually set it) so you can still use it if you're out of town for the weekend for example (also saves battery life)
-6tin can give you a one-line preview of a profile
-6tin doesn't slow down or lag, nor does it do a profile search after 5 swipes
-6tin has an option to review profiles you've passed on
-6tin doesn't require your location to be always on (can manually set it) so you can still use it if you're out of town for the weekend for example (also saves battery life)
-6tin can give you a one-line preview of a profile
-6tin doesn't slow down or lag, nor does it do a profile search after 5 swipes
ClosingADoor
Member
The one that got someone else to text her sooner.
megamerican
Member
Likely a booty call and you were just too slow on the draw, nothing personal.
I get them from time to time usually really late at night. They rarely ever respond after the first meet up message.
Etrian Oddity
Member
Appreciate the profile critiquing, everyone! I'll put your advice to use.
TimeEffect
Member
Ugh. Think Im getting catfished on Tinder. Asked to trade snaps to confirm ourselves and the response was "id love to but I get too many dick pics!"
And then "thats weird to ask, do you think you are getting catfished or that Im fat?"
Then she stops responding after I tell her I dont want to send dick pics and telling her it was okay.
Now Im uneasy and want to unmatch, but I liked talking to her
What should I do?
And then "thats weird to ask, do you think you are getting catfished or that Im fat?"
Then she stops responding after I tell her I dont want to send dick pics and telling her it was okay.
Now Im uneasy and want to unmatch, but I liked talking to her
What should I do?
Ugh. Think Im getting catfished on Tinder. Asked to trade snaps to confirm ourselves and the response was "id love to but I get too many dick pics!"
And then "thats weird to ask, do you think you are getting catfished or that Im fat?"
Then she stops responding after I tell her I dont want to send dick pics and telling her it was okay.
Now Im uneasy and want to unmatch, but I liked talking to her
What should I do?
Have you been chatting via the app or do you have a phone number?
TimeEffect
Member
app...why?
Because if it was by phone, there's more chance of her being real and less chance of her being a catfish.
TimeEffect
Member
Wow. So for the past four hours, 4:30 AM to 8:30 AM, I've been talking to a girl on tinder.
At the end, I got her number.
Ive never done something like this before, 4 hours of talking about all kinds of things.
I just hope to fuck almighty that she was real.
At the end, I got her number.
Ive never done something like this before, 4 hours of talking about all kinds of things.
I just hope to fuck almighty that she was real.
ClosingADoor
Member
The bots are pretty clear on there. Four hour talk would be someone real. Text her and check of course