A Human Becoming
More than a Member
Must not think with my dick. Must not think with my dick.
-
Hey, guest user. Hope you're enjoying NeoGAF! Have you considered registering for an account? Come join us and add your take to the daily discourse.
Online Dating |OT| Please Respond
- Thread starter Jhoan
- Start date
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
That is obscene. Lol.
One of the girls that was responding to decided to not answer my question about what sort of relationship she's looking for.
Just on Android so far, AFAIK and only in some countries. They claim it was implemented to stop Bots, which admittedly is pretty rampant. Supposedly it targets heavy right swipers only, but I got it yesterday and I swiped right less than 10 times throughout the day as I'm pretty picky and at least half the profiles in my area are dummy profiles with no profile pic.
I have no flippin' idea where it came from, anyway. I did message her in English, so...
After reading some of the profiles on PoF, I've concluded that it's for:
- trolls
- crack addicts
- serial killers
Why do you think I'm on there?
FalconLunch
Member
Doesn't sound creepy to me. If I saw someone on a dating site that went to the same school as I did, I'd be excited and send them a message about it as well. It's on a public profile after all, and is something you have in common. Not like you snooped the info or anything.
Nothing wrong with being honest. I think it's a bad move to hide mental illness if it gets brought up. I dunno if I'd bring it up so soon in conversation though as I'd get worried about driving someone away, like you said. It also can make it seem like you're insecure about it if you bring it up often. Asking her if you scared her off also says lacking confidence to me. I think you'll know if you had without having to ask. Just my two cents.
It's cool you both have some common ground though and that she wanted to talk some more.
Maybe she does remember and is trying to play it cool
It's obvious, isn't it? You're a serial crack addict killer! D:
Exploding8
Member
Yeah I figured, wanted a second opinion though so thanks. She hasn't replied but I'll probably end up meeting her at some point lol. I'll probably either pretend I never messaged her or tease her about it depending on my mood when I do see her.
I actually think I might have been messaging her on a chat service our club uses; she was asking about a volunteering group that I act as a point of contact for. But the avatars on that are low res so its hard to tell for sure if its the same person xD.
Meh, in the meantime I got a date out of Tinder on Saturday, and I may have a date with another person that I met IRL today. So not gonna get hung up on it.
Rest
All these years later I still chuckle at what a fucking moron that guy is.
I don't know what to think of a back a forth I'm having with one girl. She seems to think that some of the jokes I've made are serious. I don't know if she's not paying attention to what I'm saying and how I'm saying it, or if she just doesn't comprehend.
She's also doing the no question thing, but I'll give her a few more before I pull the plug.
She's also doing the no question thing, but I'll give her a few more before I pull the plug.
SlickShoesRUCrazy
Member
I know online dating is suppose to be a numbers game, but do you guys message every girl you see or are you guys selective?
I don't think I have once received a message from or a response from a single women I've found remotely attractive. I receive tons of messages from girls that just aren't my type. That's not to say I am great looking dude by any means, but I've always aimed for the women "out of my league" haha.
I don't think I have once received a message from or a response from a single women I've found remotely attractive. I receive tons of messages from girls that just aren't my type. That's not to say I am great looking dude by any means, but I've always aimed for the women "out of my league" haha.
Whoa, a Tinder girl messaged me first, she's cute, and she's not a bot. What's going on?!
Her: I want that hoodie!
Me: lol I can see why. We can trade sometime (she has a panda hoodie like me)
Her: haha, I suppose I don't mind sharing
Me: you even wore a Toad costume? Will you take my hand and marriage? Don't tell me the Princess is in another castle
Her: my Toad costume is way epic too haha! She is, do you think you're up for the challenge?
Me: I've got multiple lives and play on the hardest difficulty. I'm up for any challenge. Bring it!
Her: so not only are you cute, but you're a complete badass
Me: if I had a nickel every time I heard that...I's have a nickel
Her: bwuhahahahaha. You make me smile sir
It's still going on. The fact that we are still flirting with nerdy talk is awesome lol. I just tried to follow that simple pickup video advice. Keep it fun and poke a little fun at myself.
Her: I want that hoodie!
Me: lol I can see why. We can trade sometime (she has a panda hoodie like me)
Her: haha, I suppose I don't mind sharing
Me: you even wore a Toad costume? Will you take my hand and marriage? Don't tell me the Princess is in another castle
Her: my Toad costume is way epic too haha! She is, do you think you're up for the challenge?
Me: I've got multiple lives and play on the hardest difficulty. I'm up for any challenge. Bring it!
Her: so not only are you cute, but you're a complete badass
Me: if I had a nickel every time I heard that...I's have a nickel
Her: bwuhahahahaha. You make me smile sir
It's still going on. The fact that we are still flirting with nerdy talk is awesome lol. I just tried to follow that simple pickup video advice. Keep it fun and poke a little fun at myself.
User 479360
Banned
Whoa, a Tinder girl messaged me first, she's cute, and she's not a bot. What's going on?!
Her: I want that hoodie!
Me: lol I can see why. We can trade sometime (she has a panda hoodie like me)
Her: haha, I suppose I don't mind sharing
Me: you even wore a Toad costume? Will you take my hand and marriage? Don't tell me the Princess is in another castle
Her: my Toad costume is way epic too haha! She is, do you think you're up for the challenge?
Me: I've got multiple lives and play on the hardest difficulty. I'm up for any challenge. Bring it!
Her: so not only are you cute, but you're a complete badass
Me: if I had a nickel every time I heard that...I's have a nickel
Her: bwuhahahahaha. You make me smile sir
It's still going on. The fact that we are still flirting with nerdy talk is awesome lol. I just tried to follow that simple pickup video advice. Keep it fun and poke a little fun at myself.
Man, I wish I had that kind of personality.
Good job so far. And congrats.
great line :lol
User 479360
Banned
She never messaged me today. I just sent one, though, to see if she'd like to go out sometime for coffee or food and a movie. I think I'd win her over in person.
Troubled Bat
Member
Whoa, a Tinder girl messaged me first, she's cute, and she's not a bot. What's going on?!
Her: I want that hoodie!
Me: lol I can see why. We can trade sometime (she has a panda hoodie like me)
Her: haha, I suppose I don't mind sharing
Me: you even wore a Toad costume? Will you take my hand and marriage? Don't tell me the Princess is in another castle
Her: my Toad costume is way epic too haha! She is, do you think you're up for the challenge?
Me: I've got multiple lives and play on the hardest difficulty. I'm up for any challenge. Bring it!
Her: so not only are you cute, but you're a complete badass
Me: if I had a nickel every time I heard that...I's have a nickel
Her: bwuhahahahaha. You make me smile sir
It's still going on. The fact that we are still flirting with nerdy talk is awesome lol. I just tried to follow that simple pickup video advice. Keep it fun and poke a little fun at myself.
You, sir, have won.
Troubled Bat
Member
So, are you guys going for Round 2?
BIGWORM
Member
Fuck it. Double dip.
Hell no. We had sex and got into an argument about what we were wanting and expecting. This was two years ago. I guess we just forgot each other.
BIGWORM
Member
Double dipping out the fucking door, it is. It's funny how that played out completely backwards. Let's fuck, THEN talking about wants and expectations...
She brought it up, not me. I wanted a fuck (as stated on my OKC profile) and she wanted more than 'just sex' which makes no sense whatsoever. But, yeah, ain't going there again.
User 479360
Banned
She responded this morning, and said that going out sometime sounds good, but to wait and see how this next week goes.
I don't know how to feel.
I don't know how to feel.
Be cautiously optimistic, but don't set your expectations too high incase she backs down. But still, she's definitely interested in meeting up with you, so that's something. Keep us updated.
When you say talk, you mean yall talk over the phone or in person? If over the phone before even going on a date, don't do that again. Save a little excitement for the date itself. Once I secure the date, if they want to learn anything personal before the actual date, I just tell them they'll have to wait until we meet because that's the whole point of a first date, it's to get to know each other more intimately! It leaves some mystery by making them wait for answers.
These girls are going through so many guys. Just think of it as you're in a long queue and they haven't gotten to you yet!
Send one my way, bro.
A Human Becoming
More than a Member
Good or bad pic?
EDIT: Is there anyway to hide users you have messaged on POF? I don't see a hide button or the ability to leave them off search results.
EDIT: Is there anyway to hide users you have messaged on POF? I don't see a hide button or the ability to leave them off search results.
User 479360
Banned
Will do. Thanks.
We've sent a few basic messages today, but nothing more than the "How are you?" variety.
It's online. I'm not good on the phone at all.
Well, apparently that works for Girl #1 as she rung last night to say she loves me. And you know what? I'm okay with that. I'm going with Girl #1 as, honestly, she makes me smile. So, yeah, we'll see how this goes.
Go get 'em! Just don't use your cyanide strike on her.
Exploding8
Member
At first I thought you had it buttoned all the way up but then I realized that's just how it looks with the shirt. So maybe try a different shirt or mess around with the collar or unbutton an extra button so it doesn't look like that.
Unless I have to wear a tie, I always leave the first two buttons unbuttoned.
We've been texting back and forth all day. Fuck all those who say limit the number of texts you send someone. If you like them, go for it. Which is what I'm doing right now. This girl honestly makes me smile so much. She's beautiful, smart, funny, and we have a load in common. The fact she says she loves me doesn't bother me whatsoever. Her and I are giving this 100% already, and I love it.
A Human Becoming
More than a Member
Man, I can't even get a full positive response on a picture I like. The truth hurts.
stn
Member
You know what I would try? You should grow your facial hair a bit, the grey area makes me think you could have some good scruff. Also, I would get a haircut. I just think short hair looks best on dudes, which is ironic because I have exactly the same haircut as you at this very moment.
ReturnOfTheRAT
Member
I guess a couple of ladies want to respond to messages this Saturday morning. One on POF and one on Match have actually engaged me.
I'd also suggest playing around with lighting - http://blog.colsongriffith.com/2014...ng-from-the-douchiest-thing-i-have-ever-done/
With full front light and a photo looking up at you, your chin blends in with your neck at a quick glance.
User 479360
Banned
We've continued talking, and some of her messages include smiley faces (not the annoying emoticons). So, I guess it's going okay.
I sent her my cell number since texting would be easier, and received a text within about 20 minutes.
Been messaging another girl, but I don't think there's anything there.
I sent her my cell number since texting would be easier, and received a text within about 20 minutes.
Been messaging another girl, but I don't think there's anything there.
MonorailCat
Member
Tinder got updated in Germany.
you want 16€(!) per month (!!!!) for unlimited likes? 16 fucking euros? per. month?
I only swiped 10 people today. how greedy can you get?
is it that expensive everywhere or does europe get a special treatment like always?
you want 16€(!) per month (!!!!) for unlimited likes? 16 fucking euros? per. month?
I only swiped 10 people today. how greedy can you get?
is it that expensive everywhere or does europe get a special treatment like always?
It's just a shirt, man, which can be easily changed. If you let yourself get worked up over something as trivial as this, you'll really struggle to make your mark on the online dating scene.
Skid 4 Dead
Member
Wish I new about this thread when I spend my 2 weeks on OK Cupid. I suck at online dating, it's all so new to me. It feels like the women on those sights just lay back and get off on all the messages they get. Like, I question their motives. They don't seem to be too interested in meeting up or even chatting.
I'll have to give it another shot in the near future, I suppose. With some Gaf help. :]
I'll have to give it another shot in the near future, I suppose. With some Gaf help. :]
MonorailCat
Member
yeah, about 18 dollars.
App is pretty useless now for everyone who doesn't look 8+/10
I look above average and still need A LOT of swipes to get a match and even more to get someone to respond who isn't a bot.
I was even willing to pay a reasonable amount of money, but 16 is just not acceptable.
Hope a competitor gets a chance to rise now.
Exploding8
Member
Its funny because it really would not be hard to create an app with basically the same features.
A Human Becoming
More than a Member
My friend says I look shitty with facial hair. I like my stubble look, but I suppose I could grow it out more.
Hehe thanks.
I'm not worked up over it. You're reading too deeply into my posts. I just like the shirt.
Rest
All these years later I still chuckle at what a fucking moron that guy is.
Amazingly, on the last message I would have sent her if she didn't ask any questions back, she actually asked me a question. I'm a bit surprised, really. It still isn't anything in depth though, just a "how about you?" asking me a question I'd already asked her. She's also finally let on that she understands that my jokes were jokes. I'm not sure if she just needed to see that I'd really looked at her profile, or what happened. It seems like it's way too tough to get a girl to reciprocate interest. Even knowing that I have to do all the work to that end, it just never feels like my effort is worth the energy it takes.
Exploding8
Member
I'm not worked up over it. You're reading too deeply into my posts. I just like the shirt.
The problem isn't your shirt, it's how you're wearing it. Unbuttoning one or two buttons will make you look more relaxed. As it is now the only thing that is unbuttoned is the collar, which might look ok on shirts that don't have a stiff collar, but it doesn't work on that one.
A Human Becoming
More than a Member
When I just tried this the woman was confused. I thought I was being fairly smooth about it. More practice is needed.
Alright, next time I wear it I'll mess with the collar and work on the lighting.
Suddenly met up with a girl at a museum but nothing will ever become of it since she lives in Massachusetts and she's only here for the weekend. Her friend's boyfriend canceled plans so she bailed as a back up plan and left with her leaving me to my own devices.
I ain't even mad since I just wanted to boost my confidence and practice talking to girls. Ended up hugging her. She sure was cute though. The biggest silver lining is that I'm meeting up with a girl who's actually from the city on Monday night and we've had a lot good chemistry going back and forth via text.
I ain't even mad since I just wanted to boost my confidence and practice talking to girls. Ended up hugging her. She sure was cute though. The biggest silver lining is that I'm meeting up with a girl who's actually from the city on Monday night and we've had a lot good chemistry going back and forth via text.