I still disagree with you when you said that the moment wasn't earned. In life this ain't earned either, it either happens or not, if you empathize or not will depend on the type of life you've experienced. In accordance to what I've experience this happens.
Except that has pretty much less than zero relationship to what is going on here in this discussion. In life, the level of emotional response you feel for someone is generally related to how well we know that person. It's human nature. You spent however long developing your relationship with your Dad, and naturally because you had that history you understood at least some of what made him a person, his nuances, his good parts and bad parts. He was, in short, a real human being.
Movies have to do this too in order to earn emotional heft, and they have the harder task of trying to get you to feel for characters in a 2 hour span. But just because the task is harder does not mean it's even close to impossible: movies do it all the time. TAS simply doesn't, for the reasons I've stated.
I don't want you to take offense at what I'm going to say, because I mean it as gently as possible because it's horrible what you went through: you have had a certain life experience that makes you
especially sensitive to issues having to do with murder, no doubt. By definition, and without the normally negative implications that are associated with the word, you would be more easily manipulated by moments that involve such a thing, even if those moments were not earned for most of the rest of the audience. Objectively, it's not the rest of the audience that is having a problem judging the scene: it's you.
You're basically admitting that the movie didn't pander enough to your expectect receptors to make you feel that you should care about this character, however you aren't supposed to care about uncle Ben.
The movie is about who is the man behind the mask, who is peter parker, what motivates him as an individual to be spiderman and do the things he does. Your expectations are missplaced, the movie wants you to understand Peter Parker, not to care for an old fart that dies 1 hour into the movie. This event is tied to the origins of spiderman the Hero everyone knows, there's no time to provide such thing, you'll never get that and I'm ok with that.
What? If I'm not supposed to care about Ben (good news: I don't), then you can't expect me to feel anything when he dies. Like I said, Andrew Garfield's crying face was hilarious too and the dialogue leading up to this moment and in it was awful, so it was just a worthless scene for me. It literally only existed for a catalyst for Parker's growth. That may be fine enough for you, granted, but my standards call for me to ask for more than just cliche-ridden shallow shit.
That you're OK that the movie has bad writing and thus makes it impossible to care about Uncle Ben simply illustrates my point here. My expectations are not "misplaced." Once again, it is pretty easy to demonstrate that yours are.
Peter cares because the only father that he could do something to mantain by his side died for his selfishness and stupidity. He had the power to save him, instead of doing something positive for the man that was his father most of his life, he was the catalyst that caused his death. That's a horrible feeling, which the viewer is quite capable of understanding/empathyzing within the movie. Don't see why is lost on you.
Again, you're just making stunning leaps of conclusion. Any inbred retard could understand what you just said in this paragraph, because the writing was infantile, regurgitated after-school crap. They practically explicitly state it like an infinity times in the movie, even if it wasn't already stupidly obvious from, ya know, rubbing two brain cells together.
The point is NOT the intent; it's the execution. You like the execution, which is fine. I have no problem with that. I don't. The confusing thing is why you think this is a failure of understanding instead of difference in taste.
This uncle Ben incarnation is more natural than S-M 1 as well, did you presented the same complaints back then?
Not on GAF, but yes. I don't find Spider-Man 1 to be a particularly special movie. And Uncle Ben's character was similarly an empty husk. It's just that I actually have a problem with that.
I watch tons of films that don't require that of me. I'm not going to arbitrarily lower my standards when there is no reason to. I don't have to pick/choose... because other movies allow for all aspects to be great.
Edit: I'm going to sleep now, so if you respond I'll get back to you when I wake up at 5:30(AM)