I wanna give advice, but it's hard because even though I used to be a introvert, I've always liked talking to people about shit I liked. I still stutter and talk too fast, but when I'm with someone who I want to find me interesting, I'll be a bit slower, my voice is deeper, I just find things to talk about. Plus I'm a good listener so that's a plus.
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The Black Culture Thread |OT17| - Thanks, Obama
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Lightning_Roller
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Hmmm, I'll consider it. Thanks!
Alligatorjandro
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You guys don't deserve steak
Frozenprince
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Also if you're not cooking it medium rare you doing it wrong. Tbh
It's like anything else, you'll get better with practice. Just gotta put yourself in situations where you'll meet and talk with people. Doesn't even have to be a dating situation.
International Iron Man
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You need black friends.
As in, you need to be around black dudes that actually are successful with women without being sexist trash, and learn, and have them put you on.
Gordon Shumway
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Come get it..
EstoyBlackWaldo
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Second this but I never personally got the internet thing. I know it can work for others so I won't really knock it.
I get wanting to be with someone but you have to 100 work on yourself before committing to an actual relationship and person. So there's wanting to be in a relationship which is nice to think about and then there's actually being in one. The latter is work you have to be willing to put in.
Maybe the online thing is the way to go for you. Establish a profile, read others have time to think of good conversation topics and just casually date around if that's your thing.
Lightning_Roller
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Okay. Slow down when I talk, okay.
Yeah. I'm improving a bit but still mince my words sometimes. I'm getting there though.
Right. Got it, thanks.
Why the fuck do black people like their meat well done? I'll never get it. The one area white people have a leg up is that they know not to eat meat well done
...No, you did.
Frozenprince
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I get verbal problems like that, your brain processes what you want to say but you can't get the words right.
It takes practice. That's how you develop socially. Real life 1:1 human interaction. Online helps, but you need a verbal face to face to really improve.
You don't even need to pursue that person as a partner or whatever, just making conversation is a good start.
It takes practice. That's how you develop socially. Real life 1:1 human interaction. Online helps, but you need a verbal face to face to really improve.
You don't even need to pursue that person as a partner or whatever, just making conversation is a good start.
International Iron Man
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This is the most important.
The biggest success you will ever see with women is when you see them as people and not conquests or potential dating partners. When they can be around you and feel no sexual pressure, they will be more attracted to you off rip.
Do black singles events, game nights, etc. Anything that puts you around a bunch of single and available women and go in with the mindset that you're here to make friends and that's it. All that anxiety will melt away.
Lightning_Roller
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You don't need to worry about that. My grandmother and mom didn't raise no disrespectful person. Also I do need to find some events around my area. But considering my home town is kinda small, I'm not sure.
Forearm Star
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Argue with my boy about this all the time.
The fuck is up with getting your steak well done?!
Lol we went to fancy steak house and they refused to make it well done for him
Medium-rare or medium for me thanks!
Professor Beef
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I get medium just because it's the only way to appease my mother
TangerineCloud
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Yeah, I'll second this. Online dating can be a game-changer for people who have anxiety or general issues talking to people. Speaking from personal experience, it helps take the pressure off and can make you more comfortable with romantic interactions in general.
Crimson_Gold
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You'll be in that condo in no time
Prototype Viktor
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It was so hot they forgot to wear shirts for more likes
Lol yeah, lurked in it a couple of times.
Gordon Shumway
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Who's that Charlie's Angels looking dude?
Gordon Shumway
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Ah..that's a bad one lol.
Massive Duck. C.M.
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I was about to say, Alfonso done went through some things
I had no idea who Yasuke was before that.
1) Being used to eating well done meat from family/upbringing/tradition and not being exposed to other ways of eating meat.
2) "Soul food" cooking/family cook outs.
3) The meat available in "black areas" requiring it to be well done/not being fresh enough to eat under cook (leading to "soul food" cooking).
International Iron Man
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These are pretty much the reasons black people cook everything well done.
Having to buy clearance/bodega ground beef and meat your whole life definitely leads to folks wanting to cook the fuck out of anything.
Gordon Shumway
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BCT got that rich blood, homie..
International Iron Man
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Ricky Ricardo
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I'm unsure of how to respond ... please advise
EstoyBlackWaldo
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andthebeatgoeson
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Gordon Shumway
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I'm good..🙄
Forearm Star
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Two mix is still great.
andthebeatgoeson
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I'll pass on the dricks.
But who's Lizzy's sister?
But who's Lizzy's sister?
How do you "used to be an introvert?"
An extrovert as I understand is someone who needs to be around people in order to gain and maintain energy and generally just operate optimally. An introvert as I understand it is someone who needs to be alone to do those things.
andthebeatgoeson
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Probably just used to be shy. Then came out his shell. Then killed a few people. And said I'm sorry.
I need an adult.
International Iron Man
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