My mind is fucked
So, I've been thinking. Perhaps it is my age group (I'm 22), but I find many african-american men are still are trying to have that "OG" persona and fit into the common stereotype. I am not black, nor am I even male, so I won't act like I know what's it's like to be either in american society, but do any of you find that it is/was hard to move out of that stereotype (if you fit it at all)? Do black men tend to move beyond that persona as they mature, or is it static?
I simply ask because I find myself attracted to black men, however I am not attracted to the "gangsta" style of the masses in my age group... maybe this is a regional thing but I think not. I have lived in the Midwest all my life, always around big cities (Milwaukee, Chicago, Minneapolis, etc.) though the black population has never been particularly large in the suburbs. Perhaps I am just being exposed to such a small percentage that it seems like the majority are "Gs" but in reality, perhaps the majority really doesn't follow this trend?
I guess the stereotype I'm talking about exudes an immature and uneducated vibe. This may not be true and of course, who am I to judge anyone by how they dress or act, but it's what turns me away. In fact, I know it is not true a lot of the time. I went to high school in a wealthy area with black classmates that adopted the "G" look and persona. They were well educated, came from good backgrounds...I guess it's just how they liked to identify. Why would you willingly choose to fit yourself into a stereotype that is often looked down upon?
What do you all think? Hope I'm not offending anyone with this post, that's not my intention what so ever.
Those guys in baggy pants, looking like thugs?
Those are my uncles. My cousins. My friends. Me.
Those are the men in my life who encouraged me to work hard, succeed, and be better tomorrow than I was yesterday. Those are the men in my life who taught me how to be a man in conjunction with all the Indomitable Queen I have in me.
They are REAL PEOPLE. They're not a headline. They're not a cautionary tale. They're not something that you've been told to fear. They're not something you learn to avoid. They're people. With feelings, and thoughts, and loved ones, and families, and a perspective on how they want to live their own fucking lives, and so goddamn what if it doesn't conform to what you consider to be an educated person? And how could you even think to bring that shit into the black culture thread? The fucking disrespect is off the goddamn charts.
I could put up with these plays at honest ignorance in OT, but not in here.
Amazing how you can discern she's a secret racist by one post asking a question on the internet.
I can assure you she isn't. But carry on.
clicked on the last post for FashionGAF instead of FitnessGAF...I'm sorry but...dis nigga...
http://i.imgur.com/SgOPVfZ.jpg
They are pushing him to be the next "big one"where is wrassle gaf
i want to know more about this Roman Reigns character ��
i may have to get back into watching for his beautiful face ��
where is wrassle gaf
i want to know more about this Roman Reigns character 👀
i may have to get back into watching for his beautiful face
He is their next 'big thing.' He also came from a faction that has some Bieber levels of fangirls. He's being primed to be the top guy when Cena's gone, whether he will or not, who knows.
What have you got against haute couture poopsocking? It's quite practical, really. Also great for pregnant women who are on the move a lot.I am happy state fine for saggy pants. That shit tacky/disgusting.
where is wrassle gaf
i want to know more about this Roman Reigns character ��
i may have to get back into watching for his beautiful face
He is their next 'big thing.' He also came from a faction that has some Bieber levels of fangirls. He's being primed to be the top guy when Cena's gone, whether he will or not, who knows.
He also has four moves. The Superman punch, the spear, some kick thing, and he calls female interviewers 'babygirl'.
where is wrassle gaf
i want to know more about this Roman Reigns character 👀
i may have to get back into watching for his beautiful face
Thank you for your responses...but I think I should probably butt out of this thread before I start anymore trouble accidentally. Sorry all.
So, I've been thinking. Perhaps it is my age group (I'm 22), but I find many african-american men are still are trying to have that "OG" persona and fit into the common stereotype. I am not black, nor am I even male, so I won't act like I know what's it's like to be either in american society, but do any of you find that it is/was hard to move out of that stereotype (if you fit it at all)? Do black men tend to move beyond that persona as they mature, or is it static?
I simply ask because I find myself attracted to black men, however I am not attracted to the "gangsta" style of the masses in my age group... maybe this is a regional thing but I think not. I have lived in the Midwest all my life, always around big cities (Milwaukee, Chicago, Minneapolis, etc.) though the black population has never been particularly large in the suburbs. Perhaps I am just being exposed to such a small percentage that it seems like the majority are "Gs" but in reality, perhaps the majority really doesn't follow this trend?
I guess the stereotype I'm talking about exudes an immature and uneducated vibe. This may not be true and of course, who am I to judge anyone by how they dress or act, but it's what turns me away. In fact, I know it is not true a lot of the time. I went to high school in a wealthy area with black classmates that adopted the "G" look and persona. They were well educated, came from good backgrounds...I guess it's just how they liked to identify. Why would you willingly choose to fit yourself into a stereotype that is often looked down upon?
What do you all think? Hope I'm not offending anyone with this post, that's not my intention what so ever.
Can someone explain Neil deGrasse Tyson to me? He's like become this weird liberal idol. All over Facebook I see these stupid memes with him in it.
Pretty much. It's a damned if you do damned if you don't in some situations. It would honestly be best to get to know them and get a feel for the personality before writing them off based on apparel.
Roman snags another one :|
the lazy dropkick.
babygirl, you're in for a treat
where is wrassle gaf
i want to know more about this Roman Reigns character 👀
i may have to get back into watching for his beautiful face
While you may have said something that is unpopular and gotten negative reactions, you were being truthful with your questions and wanted honest opinions, and for that reason I hope you don't "butt out" of the thread if you do want more answers/want to genuinely be informed. There are some people that show up into this thread just to start shit (gloating about getting members banned/etc...) and those people are the ones that should "butt out" and some of the regulars here are weary because of these situations. But you shouldn't be afraid to ask questions/have discussion here whether it is unpopular or not if you are serious. Particularly because this is the BCT and yes, if you want an answer to a question about black culture on GAF, THIS is the place to ask.
H'm?
Wait what going here?! Im confused. Did click on the wrong thread? Hope that OT BS don't spill in here.
And it's largely because I view these sub-community threads as safe spaces for the people who subscribe to the whatever the subject of the community is. I feel you should have some basic level of understanding of the community before you go posting in their threads.
goldeneye separated the men from the boys real fast with their ridiculous strafe controls on the yellow (c?) buttons
I don't know. I KNOW I'm somewhat new to posting regularly in BCT (although I've been lurking for years), but I feel like if you're going to go into a GAF sub-community's thread, you need to at least be primed enough to not ask completely ignorant questions based on stereotypes.
Her post was like if I had gone into LGBT-GAF and was like, "So, hey gays, where can I find some Molly?"
Or if I went into a theoretical Latino-GAF thread and asked for a Spanish lesson.
I get the same way when people come into PopGAF with bullshit like, "How can you guys even like Pop music? They don't write their own lyrics!" Ain't nobody got time for that shit, and it's largely because I view these sub-community threads as safe spaces for the people who subscribe to whatever the subject of the community is. I feel you should have some basic level of understanding of the community before you go posting in their threads.
I don't know. I KNOW I'm somewhat new to posting regularly in BCT (although I've been lurking for years), but I feel like if you're going to go into a GAF sub-community's thread, you need to at least be primed enough to not ask completely ignorant questions based on stereotypes.
Her post was like if I had gone into LGBT-GAF and was like, "So, hey gays, where can I find some Molly?"
Or if I went into a theoretical Latino-GAF thread and asked for a Spanish lesson.
I get the same way when people come into PopGAF with bullshit like, "How can you guys even like Pop music? They don't write their own lyrics!" Ain't nobody got time for that shit, and it's largely because I view these sub-community threads as safe spaces for the people who subscribe to whatever the subject of the community is. I feel you should have some basic level of understanding of the community before you go posting in their threads.
Solitaire
MollyAttack's question and your examples aren't on the same level. Someone coming into a Pop GAF thread asking "How can you guys even like Pop music" is not interested in Pop music to begin with. They are coming into the thread to insult Pop GAF members because of their music choice and that type of thread shitting isn't welcome in any community thread. If MollyAttack had come into the thread with a question like "Why do black people like rap music? It's not real music and it's just a way to insult women and sell drugs", then I would agree with you 100%.
Now I may be assuming too much from MollyAttack, but based off of the few posts she posted in here, she seemed genuinely interested in our answer to her question because she was clueless on an aspect of black culture that she is trying to invest herself in. Sadly as we all know, there are plenty of people in the US that don't have a clue (why did Trayvon have to wear a hoody, etc...) and need to be educated/learn to respect their fellow human beings from other cultures. And we've seen more than our fair share of GAFers that are just as clueless. But based off of MollyAttack's post, she wasn't intentionally being insulting so I see no reason to shrug her off, especially if it means she puts more effort to knowing black people in her day to day. Plus I'd rather us answer her question than some of the other jokers in the OT.
MollyAttack's question and your examples aren't on the same level. Someone coming into a Pop GAF thread asking "How can you guys even like Pop music" is not interested in Pop music to begin with. They are coming into the thread to insult Pop GAF members because of their music choice and that type of thread shitting isn't welcome in any community thread. If MollyAttack had come into the thread with a question like "Why do black people like rap music? It's not real music and it's just a way to insult women and sell drugs", then I would agree with you 100%.
Now I may be assuming too much from MollyAttack, but based off of the few posts she posted in here, she seemed genuinely interested in our answer to her question because she was clueless on an aspect of black culture that she is trying to invest herself in. Sadly as we all know, there are plenty of people in the US that don't have a clue (why did Trayvon have to wear a hoody, etc...) and need to be educated/learn to respect their fellow human beings from other cultures. And we've seen more than our fair share of GAFers that are just as clueless. But based off of MollyAttack's post, she wasn't intentionally being insulting so I see no reason to shrug her off, especially if it means she puts more effort to knowing black people in her day to day. Plus I'd rather us answer her question than some of the other jokers in the OT.
I don't know.
I didn't read full-scale trolling in her post, but her use of scare quotes around shit like "Gs" and "'Gangsta' style of the masses'", as though she already had a considerable awareness of the black community (while simultaneously demonstrating that she didn't have an iota of a clue), came off to me as someone who'd already made up their minds about the topic before they event brought it up. There were way too many assumptions in that post for me to take her seriously about being genuinely curious. She knew what she was saying, and she wanted affirmation.
It gave me flashbacks of people telling me that I act "really white for a black guy" and thinking they were paying me a compliment. Like a backhand disguised as a handshake. "Oh, I'm actually ATTRACTED to black guys! But...can you tell me where to find the less 'thuggish' ones? K thx BCT!"
Or you're reading way too far into something. Quotes are used to say "hey, this person calls it this" at times. Meaning others call it that, hence the quotes.
You've been disregarding any posts or otherwise disagreeing with your view of her intent.
Fuck your milk, I'm a Rice Krispie.It's a Cocoa Puff in a bowl of milk bruh
Or you're reading way too far into something. Quotes are used to say "hey, this person calls it this" at times. Meaning others call it that, hence the quotes.
You've been disregarding any posts or otherwise disagreeing with your view of her intent.
Who the fuck even says "G" anymore?
If you want to project genuine curiosity, don't presume to already know what you're talking about. And that goes for ANYTHING.
That's not the only way quotation marks are used, don't play coy.
Exactly what I was thinking when whiteknight came off the sidelines QUICK in defense lol.Is there a lurker buddy system?
I don't know.
I didn't read full-scale trolling in her post, but her use of scare quotes around shit like "Gs" and "'Gangsta' style of the masses'", as though she already had a considerable awareness of the black community (while simultaneously demonstrating that she didn't have an iota of a clue), came off to me as someone who'd already made up their minds about the topic before they event brought it up. There were way too many assumptions in that post for me to take her seriously about being genuinely curious. She knew what she was saying, and she wanted affirmation.
It gave me flashbacks of people telling me that I act "really white for a black guy" and thinking they were paying me a compliment. Like a backhand disguised as a handshake. "Oh, I'm actually ATTRACTED to black guys! But...can you tell me where to find the less 'thuggish' ones? K thx BCT!"
Or you're reading way too far into something. Quotes are used to say "hey, this person calls it this" at times. Meaning others call it that, hence the quotes.
You've been disregarding any posts or otherwise disagreeing with your view of her intent.
Since this is your first time in the thread, it might be a good idea to contribute something to it besides defending a poster that asked a ill received question.