No kidding... First congrats OP on keeping your cool, kudos to your girlfriend for her instincts I have to admit. I'm not a gun owner and don't really believe in it mainly because I never want an unfortunate accident to happen with my children. But I can say, if I was and that dude took one step towards my girls that barrel would've been resting firmly against his head.
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We just had a drunk home intruder
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No kidding... First congrats OP on keeping your cool, kudos to your girlfriend for her instincts I have to admit. I'm not a gun owner and don't really believe in it mainly because I never want an unfortunate accident to happen with my children. But I can say, if I was and that dude took one step towards my girls that barrel would've been resting firmly against his head.
Mammoth Jones
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Glad it turned out well. Glad he didn't get more aggressive than he did.
But in retrospect you shouldn't have opened the door for a stranger.
Nor should you have allowed him in your home for as long as you did with your GF and kids there. Noticed how she was NOT letting dude proceed in the home but you just kept capitulating? She knew what's up.
Get a door-club. So you can open the door a crack to see who's there but they can't just barge in.
But in retrospect you shouldn't have opened the door for a stranger.
Nor should you have allowed him in your home for as long as you did with your GF and kids there. Noticed how she was NOT letting dude proceed in the home but you just kept capitulating? She knew what's up.
Get a door-club. So you can open the door a crack to see who's there but they can't just barge in.
soundscream
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So much this!
Mr.Monitor
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Damn OP, sounds like you handled that flawlessly. Good work.
GregLombardi
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I am pretty sure if the OP had engaged the guy physically, it would have worked out 100x worse than it did.
EricTheRed
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I had a similar situation last year with someone drunk and shouting outside my house late at night accusing me of hitting my gf (despite the fact I've been single for 5 years). He kept banging and pulling at my front door despite me shouting at him to go away. I eventually opened it and as he tried to get into my house I wrestled with him and managed to throw him on his arse in to the middle of the street where he stayed until the police showed up and took him home. Moral of the story is: ain't no fucker getting into my house if I don't want them to. Drunk or not drunk.
At the very least OP knows not to open the door. I don't even answer my phone if it's not from someone I know, if it's important they can leave a message.
I do believe girlfriend is the one here that did the right thing. That piece of shit wouldn't get near my bathroom which is close to my girls bedroom.
I do believe girlfriend is the one here that did the right thing. That piece of shit wouldn't get near my bathroom which is close to my girls bedroom.
Once, when I was in college in Scotland, there was a hammering on our ground floor apartment door at about 3am. Which apparently is prime idiot time. It was three dudes, looking for a chick who we later discovered used to live in this apartment. The "lead" dude had a knife and simply backed me right back into the apartment by swinging it at gut level when I opened the door.
I was weirdly calm and explained they had the wrong place. She wasn't here. I'd never heard of her. I think he believed me. He said something about "did I think I was a tough guy" and I said, something about not being tough because of him having a knife and two buddies.
This was Scotland in the early 90s. Not even a bad area, but a sort of transition point between the nightlife in the city and residential neighborhoods.
So he threw it on the ground and said, "I don't have a knife now, are you still a tough guy." Or very Scottish words to that effect.
So I stepped forward and picked the knife up, and my room mate Danny came out of his room with a bar from his weights. This all took like one second. The three of them backed out, left and we never saw them again.
Anyway I was terrified they'd come back the rest of the time I lived there.
I had actually been stabbed months, maybe a year before this event, and was scared shitless of being stabbed, unsurprisingly.
I was weirdly calm and explained they had the wrong place. She wasn't here. I'd never heard of her. I think he believed me. He said something about "did I think I was a tough guy" and I said, something about not being tough because of him having a knife and two buddies.
This was Scotland in the early 90s. Not even a bad area, but a sort of transition point between the nightlife in the city and residential neighborhoods.
So he threw it on the ground and said, "I don't have a knife now, are you still a tough guy." Or very Scottish words to that effect.
So I stepped forward and picked the knife up, and my room mate Danny came out of his room with a bar from his weights. This all took like one second. The three of them backed out, left and we never saw them again.
Anyway I was terrified they'd come back the rest of the time I lived there.
I had actually been stabbed months, maybe a year before this event, and was scared shitless of being stabbed, unsurprisingly.
Shake Appeal
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In a story that ended peacefully with no one hurt, your only conclusion is that a firearm should have been involved?
As we all know, this is what's most important. Gotta show your female that you are the strong one! I mean, sure, both of you managed to solve a terrible situation without anyone being harmed, hurt or otherweise and basically achieved the best possible situation, BUT WHAT ABOUT YOUR AUTHORATAH?! Gotta show your woman you are a real man. It's the most important thing.
Yeah, I mean, you are right but at least then the woman would have regarded him as a strong hero and would have loved him 100x more. That's how it always works in my Anime.
Angry Grimace
Two cannibals are eating a clown. One turns to the other and says "does something taste funny to you?"
A guy I know did this (he went in the wrong apartment through the window). He went back the next day to apologize profusely, but when he got there the occupant was wielding a SAMURAI SWORD and told him to leave.
This guy was a dick so whatever.
This guy was a dick so whatever.
echoshifting
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This is one of those weird things that everyone should have a plan for even if it isn't terribly likely to actually happen to you. It's really hard to turn away a stranger at your door in apparent need, especially if you don't have your common sense hat on because it's the middle of the night. When I was around 21, my then-girlfriend and I were awakened in the middle of the night by two kids in their mid-teens who claimed they were stuck away from home and needed to use a phone (this was 2001 so it was not unreasonable to claim you didn't have your own phone). They used the phone and left, they were never a threat, but it wasn't long after that I thought to myself, "man, if they'd had a weapon or a bigger guy hiding next to the door when I opened it, they could have done whatever they wanted and I wouldn't have been able to stop them. Heck I could have placed the call for them without even letting them in." If only I'd had that thought BEFORE I opened the door. Lesson learned, thankfully without any harm to anyone, and that seems to be the case for the op. I'm glad it ended well.
FrenchToastDisciple
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Glad you and yours are safe OP. You have a kind heart to not act belligerently in such an obviously dangerous situation. Yeah, don't open the door in the future in a situation like this, but, I think that's the only reflection that has to be made about the experience. If that guy can pull himself together, he'll be incredibly thankful to you in the future.
Pinko Marx
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Seriously. This whole time I was thinking your GF has more gusto than you.
out0v0rder
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I probably would not have opened the door but i think you handled the remaining situation pretty well. You evaluated his demenaor and formed a plan based on it. You remained calm and de-escalated the situation without any major incidents. There would probably be a few less unneccesary deaths happening in the world if more people had your attitude. Im glad theres still people like you out there that are willing to give a helping hand to thier fellow man. One day i may need some real help and i hope there is someone like you around to assist me instead of immediatly shooting me in the face.
I like how you think you're being progressive by saying this.
Also you were just fucking up, OP, until the cigs part. Your girlfriend did a great job at being stern and safe.
Lil'DigiOp
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Cops did absolutely not shit and took 10 years to arrive.
Don't rely on cops
Don't rely on cops
Really guys? Nobody?
I understood that reference
ScatheZombie
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Really? Because what I'm seeing is the OP making a series of extremely poor decisions that repeatedly put himself and his family in more and more danger and increasing made the situation worse and it's only because of blind fucking luck that everything worked out OK.
Reading skills are fundamental.
Shake Appeal
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My reading suggests you're fantasizing about murdering a dude for making a drunken/high mistake.
I'm not suggesting anything there captain. If a dude makes his way into my house and I don't know what the fuck his intentions are nor do I know what he's carrying you're damn straight I'd do what it takes to protect my children. It's not a fantasy, if you read what I said I'm not a gun owner nor do I intend on ever being one.
i've very drunkenly gone into two of my other flatmate's rooms thinking they were mine before. in both cases my flatmates were woken up because i was super loud and the first time it happened my flatmate freaked out because she thought i was an intruder. apparently in both cases in realising i was in the wrong room i was super apologetic before stumbling off to my own room. i have no recollection of either time 😬
You made some really really stupid decisions and you should be thanking your wife for physically protecting your home and children, and whatever gods you believe in that this guy you opened the freaking door for didn't have a weapon in him.
TickleMeElbow
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Well, at least he didn't lock himself in your bathroom, shit and puke everywhere, then pass out with his ass out like Urijah Faber's home intruder.
Mammoth Jones
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I'm not gonna beat OP up for what happened once dude was in the house. What's relevant is that there needs to be a safety layer to prevent someone from entering if you need to crack the door to see who's there.
A chain is shit. I've popped those one handed just pushing the door firm.
But a doorstop works well.
A chain is shit. I've popped those one handed just pushing the door firm.
But a doorstop works well.
Oppo
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by the way
doorbell cameras are super cheap. even with their own little dedicated screen.
you could have had this convo without opening the door.
also don't be too hard on OP, shouldn't have opened the door but they diffused the situation, I'd say he did alright in not escalating on a confused individual.
doorbell cameras are super cheap. even with their own little dedicated screen.
you could have had this convo without opening the door.
also don't be too hard on OP, shouldn't have opened the door but they diffused the situation, I'd say he did alright in not escalating on a confused individual.
Escape Goat
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I'm not gonna beat OP up for what happened once dude was in the house. What's relevant is that there needs to be a safety layer to prevent someone from entering if you need to crack the door to see who's there.
A chain is shit. I've popped those one handed just pushing the door firm.
But a doorstop works well.
How does this work exactly? I'm not sure where it goes w hen you actually have to open the door.
PS - How are your balls?
Mammoth Jones
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You can rotate it which gives it a bit more room for the door to open a crack. So you can either slot it in snug or slot it the other way around and it haves a bit more of a gap when the door opens. Not much but enough to chat through the crack.
PS: I'm not living that one down, am I?
Go away
TickleMeElbow
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I think you pull it out of the floor, and hook it onto that thing on the door.
Edit: Oh never mind. Dude gave an answer. I thought that's how they worked though.
Escape Goat
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Triggerhappytel
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That's pretty scary man. Glad it had a peaceful resolution and good on you for keeping your cool. Don't know if I could do that in the same situation.
Basically where I'm at.
Warm Machine
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It all turned out well and you have a story to tell. It was really a bass akwards Good Samaritan tale. Even the cops didn't get all shooty with it.
Pancake Mix
Copied someone else's pancake recipe
You handled it well.
Hopefully your girlfriend doesn't read this thread and see the "very stout" part though LOL.
Hopefully your girlfriend doesn't read this thread and see the "very stout" part though LOL.
Oppo
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what would you strong, capable guardians have him say?
George Washington
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Unfortunately, you put your entire family at risk when you let him into your home (you had no idea who this person was, his intentions, or how the situation could have unfolded).
Next time, kick him out the moment he steps in or don't open the door at all if you're physically unable to throw someone out.
Next time, kick him out the moment he steps in or don't open the door at all if you're physically unable to throw someone out.
Surface of Me
I'm not an NPC. And neither are we.
You're lucky the dude was a friendly drunk.
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