Why I'm Making My Husband Miss The Super Bowl

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Couldn't he watch a recording of the game on Monday?

fine with me if this would be possible without knowing the score. but it isn't.

Might as well celebrate New Years on Jan 2
and Christmas the day before

my family celebrate christmas whenever we have time for it in december. who cares if it is in the 5th or the 31th.

celebrating new years eve as silly as it is is more like the superbowl and can't be changed. but who cares about new years eve.
 
This. Your relationship with your spouse should take priority over a bunch of millionaires throwing a ball around for an hour.

You could just as easily trivialize the anniversary. They're already married. Will not celebrating their anniversary ON THE DAY suddenly make them unmarried? Will they never see each other again?
 
He's agreed that playing sports is meaningful... multiple times. People need to realize that.

I think Opiate is wrong, but I think it's because he's ignoring important social constructs, which he seems to place no value on for some reason despite valuing things like a caring relationship.

Watching sports is also meaningful just like animals observe other animals playing and competing in order to learn or make assesments about fitness or ease social tensions. So if he agrees that sports are meaningful then the only point of contention is whether a specific sport has meaning?
 
I think this whole discussion has taken a weird turn. The issue isn't whether a Super Bowl or an Anniversary is objectively more important. The issue issue whether or not this woman is objectively a cunt. She is objectively and absolutely a cunt. Even my girlfriend thinks so. Neither I or my girlfriend are big sports fans but we've both been married and know how it is.

Their marriage won't last to the fifth anniversary.
 
But the superbowl is important to him. Why is what she finds important more powerful than what he finds important?
Erm, I don't get this. At all. I've acknowledged (as has she) that the superbowl is important to him. They talked about it and agreed to go to the dinner. Their joint choice. After discussion and everything.

Your position seems to be that his passion should have won out by default.

I think this whole discussion has taken a weird turn. The issue isn't whether a Super Bowl or an Anniversary is objectively more important. The issue issue whether or not this woman is objectively a cunt. She is objectively and absolutely a cunt. Even my girlfriend thinks so. Neither I or my girlfriend are big sports fans but we've both been married and know how it is.

Their marriage won't last to the fifth anniversary.
Both you and your girlfriend fit the definition of what your claiming this woman to be by taking that position much more than she ever could. There is no "objectively" about this entire situation, just a couple talking about exactly what they want then compromising.
 
It's not necessarily bad (I don't like to use words like that because it implies objectivety ;)). I said it was depressing because then you're faced with the reality that the vast majority of people that have ever lived have contributed nothing to society. Regardless, I share that view sometimes, and hold the opinion that the world would be a better society by most quantitative metrics if every single person was committed to empirical science. I fear, however, that there will be repercussions of living in a society without sport or art.

I see. Yes, I can understand that. For example, I'm an atheist, and fully recognize that I believe that I live in an unremarkable galaxy floating aimlessly through space without any real purpose. It would be much more pleasant to believe in a God who cares about me and considers me special, but I've simply found no empirical evidence for it, personally.

I don't want to imply that your diction is off, but that sounds more to me like objective truth rather than objective meaning. The connotation of "meaning" seems inherently subjective in nature since it relies on a conscious being to interpret the meaning.

That is definitely reasonably debatable.

This is what I think most people are having trouble with. You are asserting that science is the only thing that has objective meaning, but most people find football far more meaningful in their lives than the more complex laws of quantum mechanics.

I'm not sure how to help. I don't find medicine particularly interesting, either, but I fully accept that it has objective value. I enjoy baseball very much (my team won the World Series this year!), but I fully recognize it is ultimately meaningless. Further, I personally feel it's a shame I do not enjoy medicinal research more; far from being upset that medicine has meaning, I feel upset that I can't personally extract pleasure from that.

And I wouldn't necessarily say sport and art have no visible evidence of meaning. I mean, watching football could certainly create a certain stimulus that fires certain neurons a specific way, which could lead to real, observable results. This pathway may be identical to other stimuli but I am severely disappointed in our knowledge of neuroscience that I believe any evidence for such a pathway would take decades to uncover.

Yes, if you could show that a sport was universally entertaining -- that it pleased people even when they didn't care about it or actively disliked it, then that would provide evidence of objective value to that particular sport.

no one specific. your tone in this thread is offensive to those that hold value and meaning in sports. Whether you can argue with empirical evidence to marginalize the value that people hold with their sports is beside to point.

I am a person who enjoys sports, who still fully recognizes they are meaningless. If you hold "value and meaning" in sports in some more objective fashion, then I think the evidence strongly suggests you're wrong, and I don't know what else to tell you. It certainly isn't meant to be offensive.

Right, but it DOES improve physical well being. The question is does viewing something that is inherently meaningful (playing sports) give it some tangential meaning?

This is the obvious difference from your woodworking example.

Absolutely, I very much agree. Practicing sports creates a much more complex discussion than watching them.
 
That's quite confrontational, and slightly dictorial, to schedule your wedding on the exact date of the Superbowl, knowing the conflict will arrise every anniversary thereafter. Second weekend in February and everyone's happy.

But more power to 'em if they are happy with the arrangements.
 
Reading some of the responses, it's pretty clear not everyone will bother reading the story. This woman is being ridiculous given that it's his livelihood to be there and take photos. Why couldn't they have an anniversary lunch in Indianapolis instead?
 
I read it but this is their 1st anniversary, it holds priority

if they would get married this year it would take 366 days for their first year and not 365 but nothing would change. why is it so important to celebrate the day you are 365 days married? the marriage date is chosen completely random it holds no value other than being exactly a year ago when you got married. why is it any more important than the 730 day you are married?
 
This thread is already an amateur epistemology circle jerk, but I'll throw in my 2 cents.
So, for example, medicine is objectively meaningful because it works whether you happen to believe in medicine or not, and also whether you happen to value human life or not. Regardless of your personal preferences, medicine attempts to extend the lifespan of humans, and it accomplishes that task, even if you hate humanity with every fiber of your being.
Medicines don't rely on the patient's personal opinion to be effective, sure -- but medicines do rely on the patient's personal biological chemistry. You can give the same medicine to two individuals, but it won't have the same measured benefit in each of them (it might even be harmful to some patients). Medicines are deemed effective only when their statistical benefit is satisfactory for the target population -- society declares the value of medicine.

So then we are confronted with questions about how pleasure relates to our biology and biological chemistry in the brain, and what makes medicinal benefit to our biological chemistry similar or different than the benefits entertainment has on our physical and mental self.

I think one could reasonably argue that neither are absolute or intrinsically valuable. Both rely on what are essentially non-constants to inherit their value. Even on the personal scale, environmental factors and personal choices can affect both your enjoyment of entertainment (its value to you) and your personal biological chemistry (therefor impacting the effectiveness/value of medicines).
 
My wife, who literally hates sports and finds them pretty much pointless, just read it and said "Wow, what a selfish bitch" after reading.
 
Absolutely, I very much agree. Practicing sports creates a much more complex discussion than watching them.

I think you missed what I'm saying. My point is that sports are even in your view inherently meaningful. Therefore, is watching something inherently meaningful (sports) different from watching something that ISN'T inherently meaningful (woodworking, shopping, etc.)? I think there's at least the value in seeing the pinnacle of physical achievement, though I think there are certainly other values I'm having a hard time putting to words right now. This goes back to my point about how I enjoy watching sports (maybe even moreso) now that I don't have time to play as much.
 
Both you and your girlfriend fit the definition of what your claiming this woman to be by taking that position much more than she ever could. There is no "objectively" about this entire situation, just a couple talking about exactly what they want then compromising.

She says it right in the title of the article. She is "making" her husband miss the Super Bowl and she's quite pleased with herself. Her husband is the one making the compromise. Allowing him watch the first 90 minutes of the biggest sporting event of the year in a bar when it's his livelihood is no compromise.
 
Yeah.

Unless he's a die hard Giants or Patriots fan, he really doesn't have much to stand on. I mean...come on...it's a stupid game versus the anniversary with the (supposed) love of your life.

Anniversaries are arbitrary hallmark bullshit days like Valentine's Day. Who cares if it's been one year, what would happen if they designated the exact time they decided they were boyfriend/girlfriend and then have dinner ONLY at that exact time? It's just as stupid as that. 'Honey you can't watch the superbowl we have to be at the restaurant by 9:23 PM and be seated there by 9:30PM remember that's exactly when we first decided to become boyfriend/girlfriend okay this is really important...'

I won't say the superbowl is more important, but this guy spends every week watching games and even more time during the week presumably. Waiting the entire year to get to the most important game of the sport, an event that's supposed to be watched live to get the full effect.

The superbowl is just as important to him as some anniversary is to the wife. Why does the wife get the final say? At least flip a coin and let chance decide. But people are acting like 'celebrating' by going to some restaurant to eat (which they could do any other day of the week), 356 days later after they met is somehow important. It's just silly. What if the earth stopped revolving around the sun and therefore the day wouldn't match exactly 1 year after they met? Is she going to break down and cry?
 
This thread is already an amateur epistemology circle jerk, but I'll throw in my 2 cents.

Medicines don't rely on the patient's personal opinion to be effective, sure -- but medicines do rely on the patient's personal biological chemistry. You can give the same medicine to two individuals, but it won't have the same measured benefit in each of them (it might even be harmful to some patients). Medicines are deemed effective only when their statistical benefit is satisfactory for the target population -- society declares the value of medicine.

So then we are confronted with questions about how pleasure relates to our biology and biological chemistry in the brain and what makes medicinal benefit to our biological chemistry similar or different than the benefits entertainment has on our physical and mental self.

I think one could reasonably argue that neither are absolute or intrinsically valuable. Both rely on what are essentially non-constants to inherit their value. Even on the personal scale, environmental factors and personal choices can affect both your enjoyment of entertainment and your personal biological chemistry (therefor impacting the effectiveness of medicines).
Moreover, the human species is not static, so medicine that could be considered "objectively meaningful" today, might have no value in a few thousand or million years. You may have already alluded to this, though.
 
I see. Yes, I can understand that. For example, I'm an atheist, and fully recognize that I believe that I live in an unremarkable galaxy floating aimlessly through space without any real purpose. It would be much more pleasant to believe in a God who cares about me and considers me special, but I've simply found no empirical evidence for it, personally.
If it makes you feel better, the way I always try to think about it as we are important by way of the fact that we question our own importance.




Yes, if you could show that a sport was universally entertaining -- that it pleased people even when they didn't care about it or actively disliked it, then that would provide evidence of objective value to that particular sport.
Why would it have to be universally entertaining? Medicine can help people, but also seriously harm those that are allergic to them.




Absolutely, I very much agree. Practicing sports creates a much more complex discussion than watching them.

I disagree. I find the strategy of football more entertaining the the physical aspect (though I do enjoy both). I'm not saying that you can't also discuss strategy while also playing, but I'd be much more comfortable in a "head coach" role than I would be if I was a player on the field.
 
If the dude is worth anything, he can give up watching the Super Bowl. It's an unimportant game. She is his wife. Wife > football.

It's a 5 hour long game with 4 hours of commercials you'll hear everybody bore you to death about for the next 2 weeks. Yeah, wouldn't want to miss that.

*Disclaimer: could not care less about watching the Super Bowl. Didn't watch it last year, not watching it this year, wouldn't have watched it any of the past 10 years if I hadn't been invited over to somebody's house (where we actually mostly played Halo and occasionally checked the score).
 
Wife > football.

Going out to a restaurant to eat doesn't = choosing wife over football. This can happen any day of the week, the superbowl is once a year. The restaurant date doesn't magically change somehow just because it's 356 days after they first met or whatever. Does the food on the table change into a shimmering glimmer of gold if it's 365 days after? But if it's 364 days after the restaurant date is suddenly not as meaningful?

You guys act like if someone doesn't want to commit to some arbitrary pointless holiday they automatically don't care about their wife and prefer football. Come on.
 
If the dude is worth anything, he can give up watching the Super Bowl. It's an unimportant game. She is his wife. Wife > football.

It's a 5 hour long game with 4 hours of commercials you'll hear everybody bore you to death about for the next 2 weeks. Yeah, wouldn't want to miss that.

*Disclaimer: could not care less about watching the Super Bowl. Didn't watch it last year, not watching it this year, wouldn't have watched it any of the past 10 years if I hadn't been invited over to somebody's house (where we actually mostly played Halo and occasionally checked the score).

I didn't even know I had missed the super bowl last year until a week or so later!
 
if they would get married this year it would take 366 days for their first year and not 365 but nothing would change. why is it so important to celebrate the day you are 365 days married? the marriage date is chosen completely random it holds no value other than being exactly a year ago when you got married. why is it any more important than the 730 day you are married?

Because society has a mindset of putting value into certain dates that hold special events in our life(birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, etc..). If you want to argue how giving meaning to special days is pointless you can go right ahead but it will be just as pointless as arguing that sports are meaningless.
 
If the dude is worth anything, he can give up watching the Super Bowl. It's an unimportant game. She is his wife. Wife > football.

It's a 5 hour long game with 4 hours of commercials you'll hear everybody bore you to death about for the next 2 weeks. Yeah, wouldn't want to miss that.

*Disclaimer: could not care less about watching the Super Bowl. Didn't watch it last year, not watching it this year, wouldn't have watched it any of the past 10 years if I hadn't been invited over to somebody's house (where we actually mostly played Halo and occasionally checked the score).

Yeah but "Wife" is all the time... He may not give a shit about the anniversary and it wouldn't mean anything in relation to how he views his wife. Bottom line here is it came down to something he cared about vs. something she cared about. She won. Which is fine, but she doesn't seem to get that.
 
I decided to be the Cool Newlywed Wife and make a deal with him: If his team made it to the Super Bowl, we could celebrate the day before. I hate to admit this, but I then secretly rooted for the other team -- the team whose name I couldn't tell you but that (thank goodness) -- ultimately won.
Wow, she really is a selfish bitch. God forbid his team win and him be happy. That might mess up her useless dinner plans.
 
If the dude is worth anything, he can give up watching the Super Bowl. It's an unimportant game. She is his wife. Wife > football.

The same argument easily applies to her. She knew well in advance of the wedding this was his job, he's not just plopping down on the couch on Sunday watching football. If she was a worthwhile woman she would have realized this would be a recurring issue for the rest of their marriage and she would have moved the marriage date by a couple weeks when they were planning it.
 
Fantastic. But, here's the thing:

Both of them, the husband and wife, obviously think anniversaries are important. So what is the problem?

The problem is her boasting about it and emasculating her husband in front of many people. That´s the damn problem, and the fact that she has seen the Superbowl as a threat and that she roots for the other team that her husband is rooting for. She is an insecure, power hungry woman that would put her own selfishness in front of something that makes her husband happy.
 
Fire will heat you whether you believe Fire exists or not, whether you enjoy it or not, whether you care about it or not. Fire will kill you if you step in to it, whether you believe in it or not.

Football evokes no emotions whatsoever if you don't care about it. If I lived in Saudi Arabia, stepping in to a fire would still kill me; but American Rules Football would almost certainly become extremely boring to me.

It wasn't really the point I was trying to make but seeing as how you responded I'll instead ask you if you think culture is meaningful or not.
 
I think for their FIRST anniversary, he can not go to a Super Bowl party. Especially if he roots for the Texans and has no dog in the fight. If he's a sports photographer and winds up on the job some future year, fine, but he can go get a goddamn steak with his wife and DVR it, at least for year one.
 
have you ever tried? i live in europe and i tried it last year and i got spoiled like 3 hours in to the day. it must be hell in the US avoiding the score a day after.

You'd have to avoid every media outlet. print, radio, tv, internet, etc...

word of mouth too. Its almost impossible to steer clear of it.
 
The problem is her boasting about it and emasculating her husband in front of many people. That´s the damn problem, and the fact that she has seen the Superbowl as a threat and that she roots for the other team that her husband is rooting for. She is an insecure, power hungry woman that would put her own selfishness in front of something that makes her husband happy.

Pretty much. While I can see the argument that anniversaries are important, the way she needed to get exactly what she wanted is not an indicator of a nice person. Just have a nice picnic lunch somewhere romantic on the day, then watch the game together.
 
You'd have to avoid every media outlet. print, radio, tv, internet, etc...

word of mouth too. Its almost impossible to steer clear of it.

he probably would hear it from the waiter at the restaurant. it is almost impossible unless you stay home for 2 day. but then you could just watch it.
 
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The problem is her boasting about it
Yes, very arguably a real problem.

and emasculating her husband in front of many people.
If you honestly think this is a problem of emasculation then you are either a disturbed individual who thinks a wife should always defer to her husband or you don't understand what emasculation is. I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume it's the latter.
 
If the dude is worth anything, he can give up watching the Super Bowl. It's an unimportant game. She is his wife. Wife > football.

It's a 5 hour long game with 4 hours of commercials you'll hear everybody bore you to death about for the next 2 weeks. Yeah, wouldn't want to miss that.

*Disclaimer: could not care less about watching the Super Bowl. Didn't watch it last year, not watching it this year, wouldn't have watched it any of the past 10 years if I hadn't been invited over to somebody's house (where we actually mostly played Halo and occasionally checked the score).

This is the point, though. You don't get it. You're not a fan of sports (or at least the NFL), so you see it as a game being more important than his wife. No one, in there right mind, would ever argue this.

As a sports fan, I don't see why the dinner can't be pushed to another day. Sports are meant to be watched live, it's why the contracts for each league are so costly; they are one of the few things in 2012 that have most of their value placed on the time that they are aired. DVRing the game is NOT a real compromise, since the score will come out soon, or he will hear it from others.

By not changing the dinner, his entire enjoyment of the last game of the season is gone. If she changes the date of the dinner, they both get to enjoy their company and celebrate roughly a year after they became an item.

It's not about subjectivity vs objectivity, or the relative merits of athletic competition, or the importance on relationships, it's the utility lost from making a compromise.
 
They certainly can be, yes. In other cases, that is not necessarily true. For example, a "failed" experiment to find the Higgs Boson at the LHC would in fact be extremely meaningful, as it would dramatically change our basic model of the functional universe.
That's the exact point I was trying to make. There are influences of "meaningless" activity that can lead to something that you consider meaningful whether you acknowledge it or not.

I'm sorry you feel that way, as it certainly is not my intention. What comments are those? Who did I direct these comments towards, specifically?
The comment that started it.

It was directed towards the entire community - a community that gives you a soapbox and wouldn't exist if people weren't passionate about so many 'trivial' things.
 
This whole thing screams compromise for compromise's sake. Some self absorbed attempt to manufacture and satisfy a marriage situation (and make Huffington post) rather than solve an easily avoidable issue. Would it have been much harder to reschedule the wedding date or have him worry about "compromising" ever year for the rest of his life?
 
As a sports fan, I don't see why the dinner can't be pushed to another day.
They decided, in terms of importance, the events rank as thus:

1 - Your preferred team making the superbowl
2 - Very first anniversary
3 - Regular superbowl
4 - Every other anniversary

Next year and most years, he'll be at the superbowl and she won't get her anniversary dinner on her preferred day. That's compromise.
 
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