Why I'm Making My Husband Miss The Super Bowl

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I wasn't aware this was superbowl sunday until I saw some political pundit wearing a jersey on Friday. I wouldn't be able to tell you who was in the last superbowl, much less who won or what the score was. I'm sure I knew at one point but I just don't care about sports at all and I don't hang onto that information.

I still feel for the guy.

Why are you all arguing over the inherent value of sports and shoe shopping? Ignoring the concerns of her partner, she purposefully decided to schedule her wedding and all future anniversaries in potential conflict with something that she knows her partner enjoys and values with the expectation that her partner will give it up every time the conflict arises.

That is just plain inconsiderate.

Coincidentally, I'll be on a date during the superbowl tonight :)
 
Yes, very arguably a real problem.

If you honestly think this is a problem of emasculation then you are either a disturbed individual who thinks a wife should always defer to her husband or you don't understand what emasculation is. I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume it's the latter.

How did you get that? She writes a blog about how she 'compromised' with her husband, oh how lucky he should feel (his new wife is so cool) :D, and went on to talk about gwyneth paltrow and shit then put it up as if to show off her shiny new leash... its not even a real compromise.
 
I am a person who enjoys sports, who still fully recognizes they are meaningless. If you hold "value and meaning" in sports in some more objective fashion, then I think the evidence strongly suggests you're wrong, and I don't know what else to tell you. It certainly isn't meant to be offensive.

By it's very definition it holds meaning if people find meaning in them. You acknowledged this before when someone said it to you. "Objectively meaningful" is your rhetoric but it only makes sense to look at sports as objectively meaningful. Their objective is to entertain; people are entertained by it. Success.

Moreover, your definition of medicine as an example of something "objectively meaningful" (which I assume to you means "more important to society") has been challenged and defeated multiples times. Sports must be objectively meaningful because they are being compared to medicine. "Medicine has more meaning," therefore sports can possibly have some meaning. You never explained how or why sports aren't meaningful. Your logical premise can be summarized as: medicine has more meaning, therefore sports has none. Which is not true, logically or in practice.

The institution of sports creates jobs that society deems acceptable. They create commerce for society. They give goals to individuals. They test human ability. All meaningful things. Things that are both important and necessary for society to function.
 
I love how people think the guy couldn't have said "no I refuse to have our wedding on the day before the superbowl". It was brought up, but he agreed to it.

How did you get that? She writes a blog about how she 'compromised' with her husband, oh how lucky he should feel (his new wife is so cool) :D, and went on to talk about gwyneth paltrow and shit then put it up as if to show off her shiny new leash... its not even a real compromise.
And that is akin to castration, is it? She is making him less of a man by having something go her preferred way?

Guy should have just manned up and slugged her one! Then he would have gotten his balls back.

(Not a criticism of any poster in this thread - I don't think anyone here believes that would have been a good course of action, obviously - but a criticism of the use of the term 'emasculation' in a situation that has none of it)
 
This whole thing screams compromise for compromise's sake. Some self absorbed attempt to manufacture and satisfy a marriage situation (and make Huffington post) rather than solve an easily avoidable issue. Would it have been much harder to reschedule the wedding date or have him worry about "compromising" ever year for the rest of his life?

But you don't get it, she's sacrificing too! She like totally gets up in the morning to take the dog out, and gives him the occasional back rub!

All he has to do is miss the biggest sporting event of the year in this country and take her out to dinner and listen to her whine about how their neighbor Trish is a total bitch for an hour. Sounds fair to me.
 
They decided, in terms of importance, the events rank as thus:

1 - Your preferred team making the superbowl
2 - Very first anniversary
3 - Regular superbowl
4 - Every other anniversary

Next year and most years, he'll be at the superbowl and she won't get her anniversary dinner on her preferred day. That's compromise.

Based on how she expressed herself in the article, my bet is she'll guilt trip him every year and he'll resent the day of their anniversary for the rest of the marriage.

If I were the guy, I'd suggest that as a couple we celebrate the anniversary of when we met/started dating rather than the day we got married.
 
I love how people think the guy couldn't have said "no I refuse to have our wedding on the day before the superbowl". It was brought up, but he agreed to it.

People have said the guy is whipped throughout the thread. Yes, he agreed. Also, she's a control freak if this is her idea of a compromise. They're not exclusive.
And that is akin to castration, is it?
....wut
 
I love how people think the guy couldn't have said "no I refuse to have our wedding on the day before the superbowl". It was brought up, but he agreed to it.

And that is akin to castration, is it?

Don't be obtuse
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emasculation

Emasculation is the removal of the genitalia (castration) of a male, notably the penis and/or the testicles.

By extension, the word has also come to mean to render a male less of a man, or to make a male feel less of a man by humiliation. This metaphorical usage of the word is much more common than the application of its literal meaning. It can also mean the reduction or removal of force behind a statute or legislation, e.g. "the Triennial Act was emasculated by the Cavalier Parliament".

The removal of male (pollen) parts of a plant, largely for controlled pollination and breeding purposes, is also called emasculation.
 
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Bet that could hold a lot of Cap'n Crunch
You two have made my day.
 
Yes, very arguably a real problem.

If you honestly think this is a problem of emasculation then you are either a disturbed individual who thinks a wife should always defer to her husband or you don't understand what emasculation is. I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume it's the latter.

My wife said, after reading it, "Imagine how emasculated this guy must feel after his wife not only made him miss it, but then put up a big article on the internet parading that fact around." My wife certainly doesn't think she should always defer to me, and she definitely understands what emasculation is.

Oh for fuck's sake, use this definition of the word: "to deprive of strength or vigor; weaken." She's most definitely doing that. She obviously prevailed over him in this situation, and then took glee on the fact that she's trampling over him and then proceeded to post it on the internet to gloat.
 
I didn't even know I had missed the Super Bowl last year.

For me to not know the score I would have to call off work tomorrow, turn off my cellphone till the game is over, not turn the radio on, not watch any live tv and basically live as a hermit.
 
I love how people think the guy couldn't have said "no I refuse to have our wedding on the day before the superbowl". It was brought up, but he agreed to it.

And that is akin to castration, is it?
Her own quote was "And yet I wasn't going to let a football game -- even the football game -- get in the way." He had concerns and she shot them down, then she bragged about it. Sounds like this guy is in a relationship where he is extremely weak and will get trampled on a lot.
 
Yes, very arguably a real problem.

If you honestly think this is a problem of emasculation then you are either a disturbed individual who thinks a wife should always defer to her husband or you don't understand what emasculation is. I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume it's the latter.

What isn't emasculating about humiliating your husband on the internet for all the world to read?
 
Just ask Kim Kardashian. Josh and I both agree that marriage is about compromise and wanting to make each other happy. (Gwyneth Paltrow agrees too, as we learned this week.)
What the hell is she talking about?

While hes eating dinner with her, his mind will be on the game. He'd rather be somewhere else.

lol So what if he never is able to watch a Superbowl again?
 
He's less of a man because it's public knowledge he didn't get to watch football? I'm not being obtuse at all here. I can think of situations I've seen I would describe as emasculating, experienced a couple of them myself.

This isn't one of them, unless you subscribe to one of the two following notions:
1 - Guys have to be able to watch their sports of choice. If anyone found out they didn't because their wives wanted them to do something ele, they're less of a man.
2 - Guys have to always win an argument. If anyone finds out he didn't get his way, he is less of a man.

That bad?
I am currently arguing with posters who feel that the man in this relationship is less of a man because of this compromise. That should tell you all you need to know. They have staked his metaphorical penis on either his ability to watch the game or the public not knowing he missed it.

What isn't emasculating about humiliating your husband on the internet for all the world to read?
Humiliation itself is emasculating. You're not less of a man because you were humiliated. Emasculation specifically is when you manly quality is called into question. This may be by act or by a certain un-manly form of humiliation. Unless you ascribe man-points to the ability to catch a game on TV, this isn't one of those situations.
 
That bad?

Edit: He's kind of a tool, why have your marriage on a date near an important sporting event you routinely watch.

He asked the same thing and I guess she ignored him =/

We knew last year this would be an issue. When we were deciding on wedding date, I suggested February 5 because it wasn't going to be a busy traveling weekend and we both agreed that we wanted a winter wedding. (It would be in Houston, and a sweaty bride in a white dress taking pictures outdoors was not an option.) My husband's immediate response to this date: "But wait, Babe, the next day is the Super Bowl. We need to think about this." Josh has been a freelance photographer for Sports Illustrated and ESPN the Magazine and has actually been on the field for a Super Bowl, so I understood that this was a big deal for him. And yet I wasn't going to let a football game -- even the football game -- get in the way. We went ahead with that plan, he watched the game at my parents' house the next day and life was (and is) beautiful.
She doesn't seem to acknowledge his sacrifice. As long as he keeps giving up the superbowl, life will be beautiful!
 
What the hell is she talking about?

While hes eating dinner with her, his mind will be on the game. He'd rather be somewhere else. That's the bottom line.

The oaf Kimberly married wanted to go back to Minnesota. She and he foolishly never discussed ANY of this before rushing into marriage.

Gwyneth and Chris Martin, lead singer of Coldplay, apparently have something worked out because they're often one movie sets or on tour.
 
That bad?

Edit: He's kind of a tool, why have your marriage on a date near an important sporting event you routinely watch.
cmon dev... this one isn't on him. he's a milkdud, but its not like he did anything other than let this woman establish a doormat on his face.
 
Wow @ that article. The wife sounds like she's bragging about how she's one of the few wives who can tame her husband into being denied the Super Bowl and then trying to justify it on the internet. Her notions of compromise are amusing.

Whoa @ how the rest of the thread turned out. For what it's worth, Opiate's right. I think what gets most people's panties in a twist is that when they hear him say that "there's no objective meaningfulness", they assume that it means that there is no subjective meaningfulness as well.

Opiate has even admitted that sports are meaningful to a lot of people and that even he himself finds lots of subjective meaningfulness in baseball. But still, many seem to gloss over that.

Opiate has a clear, testable definition for "objective meaningfulness", whereas some of you arguing with him hold a definition of "meaningfulness" that uses a subjective standard of measure. That's where the conflict arises.

I said it was depressing because then you're faced with the reality that the vast majority of people that have ever lived have contributed nothing to society.

Paging a Master Ninja. lol.

Seriously, though, the vast majority of people that have ever lived have contributed something to society. Even doing the most mundane things at work contribute to a connected economy that drives wealth and progress. Those great thinkers who came up with brilliant inventions, scientific theories, and beautiful symphonies should thank their lucky stars that if it weren't for the rest of us humans living our lives, they would have spent all their time hunting, gathering, and dying horribly instead.
 
He's less of a man because it's public knowledge he didn't get to watch football? I'm not being obtuse at all here. I can think of situations I've seen I would describe as emasculating, experienced a couple of them myself.

This isn't one of them, unless you subscribe to one of the two following notions:
1 - Guys have to be able to watch their sports of choice. If anyone found out they didn't because their wives wanted them to do something ele, they're less of a man.
2 - Guys have to always win an argument. If anyone finds out he didn't get his way, he is less of a man.

I am currently arguing with posters who feel that the man in this relationship is less of a man because of this compromise. That should tell you all you need to know.

1. This was not really a compromise. A compromise would have been celebratinting earlier in the day. This is one party getting exactly what they want with no concessions to the other.

2. If my partner that I thought loved and repsected me posted on the internet about how proud they were that they were making me not do something I wanted to do, I sure as hell would feel emasculated. Just as she should if I did the same to her (not emsculated obviously, but the shit would still be wrong). Imagine the guy writes an articfle called Why I made my wife miss our first anniversary'. That would be fucked up as well regardless of how they came to that decision in reality.
 
Yes, very arguably a real problem.

If you honestly think this is a problem of emasculation then you are either a disturbed individual who thinks a wife should always defer to her husband or you don't understand what emasculation is. I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume it's the latter.

Huh? She got what she wanted. She felt threaten by a sport. She is very insecure. Her boasting about in front of thousands and giving some bullshit explanation is emasculating her husband. How do you think the husband will feel that his has written their stuff on the internet for the whole world to read?
No, i don´t want or think that husbands should subjugate their wives in any way shape or form. Married couple are equal partners and to prevent him from enjoying something he likes because of her power hunger and insecurity is borderline psychotic.
 
Wow @ that article. The wife sounds like she's bragging about how she's one of the few wives who can tame her husband into being denied the Super Bowl and then trying to justify it on the internet. Her notions of compromise are amusing.

This, a thousand times this.
 
cmon dev... this one isn't on him. he's a milkdud, but its not like he did anything other than let this woman establish a doormat on his face.

That doesn't mean he's not at least partially responsible for allowing said doormat to be established on his face.

Agreed. Eventually he'll find his balls and things won't be pretty.

He'll only think he's found his balls, but he hasn't really. That's why it won't be pretty.
 
Is our pussy that powerful?
Duh.
That doesn't mean he's not at least partially responsible for allowing said doormat to be established on his face.
If you blame a wimp for being a wimp he's still a wimp at the end of the day. Trials and Tribulations of a Pussy Whipped Doormat.

Still, he's not the one putting himself on blast by blogging about it.
 
1. This was not really a compromise. A compromise would have been celebratinting earlier in the day. This is one party getting exactly what they want with no concessions to the other.
If you're not accepting this as a compromise, how is the man still not missing the superbowl but the wife not getting her preferred form of anniversary celebration a compromise? She very specifically held importance about the first year anniversary. Others, she doesn't. She also would have missed the dinner if his team was the one playing.

If my partner that I thought loved and repsected me posted on the internet about how proud they were that they were making me not do something I wanted to do, I sure as hell would feel emasculated. Just as she should if I did the same to her (not emsculated obviously, but the shit would still be wrong). Imagine the guy writes an articfle called Why I made my wife miss our first anniversary'. That would be fucked up as well regardless of how they came to that decision in reality.
I said I think she's shit for making the article. However, I also seriously doubt she didn't get his permission. I mean, if she didn't the relationship would probably be over.

Huh? She got what she wanted. She felt threaten by a sport. She is very insecure.
I struggle to see where you're getting any of that.
 
I think you missed what I'm saying. My point is that sports are even in your view inherently meaningful. Therefore, is watching something inherently meaningful (sports) different from watching something that ISN'T inherently meaningful (woodworking, shopping, etc.)? I think there's at least the value in seeing the pinnacle of physical achievement, though I think there are certainly other values I'm having a hard time putting to words right now. This goes back to my point about how I enjoy watching sports (maybe even moreso) now that I don't have time to play as much.

I see. I'm sorry, I did miss the subtlety. I'm not sure we know the answer, but it's certainly interesting to consider.

Moreover, the human species is not static, so medicine that could be considered "objectively meaningful" today, might have no value in a few thousand or million years. You may have already alluded to this, though.

This is an interesting suite of discussions. Medicines which harm some people only do so because our knowledge of physiognomy is imperfect; as our scientifically supported medicine continues to improve, the number of people who fall through the "cracks" -- and who are administered a drug which they violently react to, for example -- continues to be reduced. In other words, medicine continues to become increasingly personal, and our knowledge of these specifics only improves with time.
 
Victim blaming? Doormat?

This thread is taking a special turn of stupid.

This is about his partner, not her vagina. Their respective feelings on a topic where he agreed on the outcome, not his sex drive.
 
Love how this is blowing up in her face. Airing personal shit like this on the internet is like taking the express lane to divorce.
 
That would explain centuries of repression, scurred of that pussay.

Oppression is a different topic in itself...

But pussy is one of the few things that a man will betray all of his morals and values for. Always has been. Will continue to be too.
 
If you're not accepting this as a compromise, how is the man still not missing the superbowl but the wife not getting her preferred form of anniversary celebration a compromise? She very specifically held importance about the first year anniversary. Others, she doesn't. She also would have missed the dinner if his team was the one playing.

I said I think she's shit for making the article. However, I also seriously doubt she didn't get his permission. I mean, if she didn't the relationship would probably be over.

Yeah, fair enough that would not be a compromise for him. But, both parties would still get what they want.

I also think you may be assuming a little too much of her in thinking she got his permission.
 
Victim blaming? Doormat?

This thread is taking a special turn of stupid.

Her purposefully putting the marriage date near his Superbowl should have set off alarm bells and he should have put his foot down right there. This marriage looks solid.

Sounds like she's always on top.
 
This is the point, though. You don't get it. You're not a fan of sports (or at least the NFL), so you see it as a game being more important than his wife. No one, in there right mind, would ever argue this.

Actually, I'm a fan of both sports and the NFL. But I don't have an undying need to watch the largely boring, over-produced Super Bowl, particularly when my team is not involved.
 
Yeah he's not a part of his own relationship and can't put his fucking foot down or anything. He knew the woman he was fucking marrying. PITY PARTY FOR DUMBSHITS WHO MARRY OVERBEARING WOMEN.

You miss the past 5 pages? Everyone knows a pussy whipped kid when they see one. Its not everyday you see someone so proud of taking one for a ride like this.
 
Yeah he's not a part of his own relationship and can't put his fucking foot down or anything. He knew the woman he was fucking marrying. PITY PARTY FOR DUMBSHITS WHO MARRY OVERBEARING WOMEN.

It's possible he see's it as compromising and is just trying to be nice to keep the relationship solid. I don't think that's necessarily being a dumbshit. He does have a lack of balls but marriage does that to men, or so I hear. The majority of the blame lies on the woman in this case.
 
Yeah he's not a part of his own relationship and can't put his fucking foot down or anything. He knew the woman he was fucking marrying. PITY PARTY FOR DUMBSHITS WHO MARRY OVERBEARING WOMEN.

Wow. I thought you were better than that Devo. Pity party for dumbshits who marry abusive men?

Fuck this noise, I'm going to go watch the fucking superbowl.
 
You miss the past 5 pages? Everyone knows a pussy whipped kid when they see one. Its not everyday you see someone so proud of taking one for a ride like this.

Where did I deny she's an asshole? What's funny is the amount of sympathy for a fucking dumbass who made his bed.



Wow. I thought you were better than that Devo. Pity party for dumbshits who marry abusive men?

Fuck this noise, I'm going to go watch the fucking superbowl.

You're comparing being unable to watch the superbowl to abuse? You should be ashamed of yourself.
 
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