Would you be insulted if someone was interested in you -because- of your ethnicity?

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Not really related to my ethnicity, but whenever people learn I'm American (currently living/studying in Europe), I get lots of attention, and tons of people I've never met will suddenly "know" me ("Oh! you're the American!").

Weird at first, but you kinda get used to it after a couple years. It's great for meeting people actually, since everyone will just come up and talk to me without me having to do anything.

As to the OPs specific question.. I'm a white male, so no, not really. I don't think you should be offended by it in any case. So what if someone is attracted to blacks/latinos/asians/etc?
 
Devolution said:
This is going to sound terrible but more than a few white women view minorities as fuckable but not marriageable material.
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I hate to say it, but this is precisely why I try to avoid dating white women. I learned young that I'm just a piece of meat to them.

My thread about this subject got locked, but I noticed white men date Asian women because they are Asian. They assume, at least from the information I gathered, that they are submissive and make great marriage material. A view which I think is naive if you actually know an Asian woman.

Maybe I'm just butthurt, but the idea of dating someone specifically because of their race is fucking stupid.
 
I like laughing at guys who are only attracted to asian girls because they think they are submissive. Mostly because they are SO WRONG. I'm not going to lie, I am entirely attracted to asian girls, but for superficial reasons. I don't particularly see a problem with that--it's just an extension of the concept that some people like hair colors, body types, accents, etc. Before I met my wife though, I had dated only white girls. I wasn't about to make the decision based on looks alone. I never understood the people who were so limited in their tastes.

Let's face it. I see the superficial/physical issue as one of the most pure reasons for it honestly. If someone is doing it because of some preconceived notion they are going to deserve it when it blows up in their face.
 
AbortedWalrusFetus said:
I like laughing at guys who are only attracted to asian girls because they think they are submissive. Mostly because they are SO WRONG. I'm not going to lie, I am entirely attracted to asian girls, but for superficial reasons. I don't particularly see a problem with that--it's just an extension of the concept that some people like hair colors, body types, accents, etc. Before I met my wife though, I had dated only white girls. I wasn't about to make the decision based on looks alone. I never understood the people who were so limited in their tastes.

Let's face it. I see the superficial/physical issue as one of the most pure reasons for it honestly. If someone is doing it because of some preconceived notion they are going to deserve it when it blows up in their face.
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I love me some asian girls, but never held the "submissive" stereotype in any way, shape or form. Asian chicks can be strong as hell. I have a couple of really good friends who are the toughest Korean and Chinese girls, respectively, on this planet :P

I actually think it's mostly something that Asian-attracted males are labelled with by others. "You think they're going to be sooo submissive, don't you?"

I actually wonder if this is a stereotype that people who are not that into Asia hold.... because it's incredibly naive and outdated. Something from 50+ years ago. I think most Asian-interested guys actually know better... but I could be wrong.


Zibrahim said:
Maybe I'm just butthurt, but the idea of dating someone specifically because of their race is fucking stupid.
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I can appreciate your sensitivity about race + dating issues. I feel that way sometime too.

But I'm deciding to be blunt in this thread and state that I think there is nothing wrong with race preferences in dating.

We date people for two broad reasons:

1. Physical looks .... that's hugely related to ethnicity

2. Personality style ... that's hugely related to culture

It may be uncomfortably shallow to choose based on things that people can't control.... but that's what mate selection always is.
 
Tiger Mom stereotype doesn't come from nowhere. You fuck with an asian girl and they'll bring the ruckus like you wouldn't believe.
 
EschatonDX said:
Tiger Mom stereotype doesn't come from nowhere. You fuck with an asian girl and they'll bring the ruckus like you wouldn't believe.
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Yes. If anything, my stereotype is that you'll have to work extra hard to please that Asian girl. :P
 
My asian friends love more americanized/western men and really despise the asian guys with an eastern attitude that treat their women like inferior maids.
 
no one ever would be. if they were, I wouldn't be insulted because I wouldn't assume that's why they were interested in me.

a lot of what makes a relationship work is attraction, but what makes relationships last is what's underneath the surface.. so I guess it doesn't matter either way?

I mean, say I meet a girl and we hit it off and we date and we fall in love and we get married and then when we're right about to die together holding hands at age 75 she says, "You know I only started dating you because you were white." I think it would be kind of cute. If she said it while she was screaming at me and throwing my belongings at me and saying she was going to egg my car it would be not so good..

my point is, initial attraction doesn't really matter in the long run. continued attraction, of course, but initial attraction is too primal to be offended by.
 
blame space said:
no one ever would be. if they were, I wouldn't be insulted because I wouldn't assume that's why they were interested in me.

a lot of what makes a relationship works is attraction, but what makes relationships last is what's underneath the surface.. so I guess it doesn't matter either way?

I mean, say I meet a girl and we hit it off and we date and we fall in love and we get married and then when we're right about to die together holding hands at age 75 she says, "You know I only started dating you because you were white." I think it would be kind of cute. If she said it while she was screaming at me and throwing my belongings at me and saying she was going to egg my car it would be not so good..

my point is, initial attraction doesn't really matter in the long run. continued attraction, of course, but initial attraction is too primal to be offended by.
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One step at a time dude.
 
blame space said:
no one ever would be. if they were, I wouldn't be insulted because I wouldn't assume that's why they were interested in me.

a lot of what makes a relationship works is attraction, but what makes relationships last is what's underneath the surface.. so I guess it doesn't matter either way?

I mean, say I meet a girl and we hit it off and we date and we fall in love and we get married and then when we're right about to die together holding hands at age 75 she says, "You know I only started dating you because you were white." I think it would be kind of cute. If she said it while she was screaming at me and throwing my belongings at me and saying she was going to egg my car it would be not so good..

my point is, initial attraction doesn't really matter in the long run. continued attraction, of course, but initial attraction is too primal to be offended by.
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wow dude. :')

This is the first legit post I've ever seen you make.
 
SRG01 said:
Very much so. Nothing sucks more than girls with "yellow fever" or "asian fetish". It's as insulting as girls who won't date any asian guys.

Both are ridiculously superficial and has no bearing on the character of the person whatsoever.

edit: even more insulting if they have certain expectations or "stereotypes" of you because of your skin color.
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This. I don't want that kind of attention (especially from the weeaboos).
 
I knew some girls who were like that, and one said loudly something along the lines of "aww yeah that asian guy is hot, i'd do him". she didn't know the guy was listening and he was just like "oh god, do not want"
 
Gvaz said:
I knew some girls who were like that, and one said loudly something along the lines of "aww yeah that asian guy is hot, i'd do him". she didn't know the guy was listening and he was just like "oh god, do not want"
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typically the kind of girl that says something like that about any guy openly is fat
 
Why would any red blooded male be mad? Even if there's no long term future, it's still sex for you isn't it? That is if she's mildly attractive.
 
As an American black dude that's been around Asia/Europe I gotta say...


I ain't even mad.



Especially in Germany.

For the short term ofc.
 
DominoKid said:
It'd be a welcome change from hearing "I don't date black dudes."

Pussy's pussy to me.
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Shit, it'd be a welcome change for me to stop hearing, "I only like black dudes." or "I only like white dudes." :jnc It's all good though. Can't hate someone for some random girl's opinions.

I'd take what I can get. Definitely wouldn't consider the girl relationship material if she was only interested in me because of my ethnicity, but we could kick it.
 
After several months of going out I found out my now exgirlfriend was interested in me when we first met because she thought I was a homeless traveling Mexican...
 
If some guy decided to pick me up solely on the basis that I was white I can't imagine myself being offended. It's not like skinny white guys are a rarity in Buffalo.
 
Moppet13 said:
After several months of going out I found out my now exgirlfriend was interested in me when we first met because she thought I was a homeless traveling Mexican...
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Good thing she's your ex. If a girl is interested in a man she thinks is homeless, she's got issues.
 
I don't think people should factor ethnicity into their dating decisions regardless. If you like a person, why would that matter? In my experience, people that are very selective based on ethnicity are always motivated by racial bias either in them or the people around them.
 
It's certainly not a great feeling. I always have to wonder if they like me for who I am, or just have a fetish for uncooked chicken flesh.
 
I met an Iranian girl and was quite excited and interest went way up, then she learned I was American and probably now hates me. sorry! it's my government not me!
 
Alpha-Bromega said:
I met an Iranian girl and was quite excited and interest went way up, then she learned I was American and probably now hates me. sorry! it's my government not me!
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I don't think she'd hate you because of your nationality...
 
Nugg said:
I'm white. I wouldn't be insulted, but genuinely concerned about the kind of person she is.
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Don't see how attraction based on ethnicity is any different to my attraction to girls with at least a pair of DD tits. It's a physical trait that some people find attractive, use it to your advantage!

Can't believe the butthurt reactions of some people here? B-b-but girls only like me because I'm black/Indian/whatever! Use that shit as a foot in the door, don't be offended by it.
 
Well, I would be pretty sad if someone didn't like me for who I am and what I like of hibbies and sub-culture. The problem is, most girls do like men within thier sterotypes, so It is quite hard for me to date within that circle. For, example, I can't date goth because I don't look like one.
 
I don't think I've ever met a girl who was interested me, because of my ethnicity. The ones that do are from my own ethnicity. My parents are from Bangladesh. Don't know where the hell you guys are finding these girls that are into Indian guys, they sure as hell aren't around here(the Netherlands). While I haven't had any real trouble in the dating, my skin color sure as hell ain't making it easier.
UnluckyKate said:
I'm a french dude in a korean women university and all the girl are interested in me because of my ethnicity.

I aint even mad.
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What are you doing there? In the sense of being a dude in a women university.
 
UnluckyKate said:
I'm a french dude in a korean women university and all the girl are interested in me because of my ethnicity.

I aint even mad.
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Weren't you the one with the crazy apartment in Moscow? Or am I mixing you up with another member of FrenchGAF? That's quite the life you're living :)

I'm planning on spending a term studying in SK, but not in a women's university.. my gf would kill me before I could board the plane haha
 
Cozzy said:
Don't see how attraction based on ethnicity is any different to my attraction to girls with at least a pair of DD tits. It's a physical trait that some people find attractive, use it to your advantage!

Can't believe the butthurt reactions of some people here? B-b-but girls only like me because I'm black/Indian/whatever! Use that shit as a foot in the door, don't be offended by it.
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The looks of a person start to matter less and less the longer you are with a person. If the only reason you are with or not with a person is because of their ethnicity (or in your case, the size of their chest) then there is something wrong with you. I think attraction and subsequently, a relationship, is much more complex than that. Ethnicity can be a factor - the least important factor preferrably, but the only factor? Seems like a superficial basis for a relationship that can easily be torn apart.
 
EviLore said:
Quite possibly a different story in the real world, but okcupid statistics have this to say:


http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-race-affects-whether-people-write-you-back/

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That's what it would seem like to me. This race curiosity thing is probably based more off of location and availability than actual large scale trend. In major cities I see nor hear none of that stuff. I only found people inquiring about my race in a very rural area.

Cozzy said:
Don't see how attraction based on ethnicity is any different to my attraction to girls with at least a pair of DD tits. It's a physical trait that some people find attractive, use it to your advantage!

Can't believe the butthurt reactions of some people here? B-b-but girls only like me because I'm black/Indian/whatever! Use that shit as a foot in the door, don't be offended by it.
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Having large breast doesn't come with stereotypes. If someone is interested to you because of rumors or something they "think" your supposed to do/be like then it becomes very uncomfortable, very quickly. You just never know who you are dealing with.
 
Im black. I date all races. I liked this amazing black chick in middle school (90% white school mind you, so she was like 1/10 black girls), and she denied me because she only dated white guys.

Insulted? Not sure, but I felt like shit for about a week. lol But true enough, throughout middle school and high school she only dated white guys.

Funny thing is, I saw her a few months ago. (havent seen her since 2005), and she was holding hands with a black guy.

Again, I felt like shit for a week. Could of been me man.
 
Nugg said:
I'm white. I wouldn't be insulted, but genuinely concerned about the kind of person she is.
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Are you kidding me? Lay yourself out on some white silk sheets, playfully cover your albino gecko skin with some saltines and mmm baby, sexy time has begun. I've tried it a few times and, while and you can tell that they feel uncomfortable, I think they appreciated the crackers; an overly-long and monotonous trip to sexual mediocrity goes more smoothly with some carb packing.
 
Nope, generic near-30 Italian/Polish guy with short brown hair - who always ends up with other generic Euro-ancestry white girls (Irish being the main one for whatever reason). A number of Indian girls show interest, I don't think it's just because I'm white but because they can tell I'm a software engineer who loves the vindaloo...

shadyspace said:
A black girl in high school was flirting with me and told me she liked white boys.
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A black girl I became friends with via OKC has told me the same thing... loves the hispanic and white dudes. Black girls into white guys are out there but I don't really know too many personally.
 
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