Wow, i'm such a loser

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HappyBivouac said:
The fuck is this shit? Dude has a taste in women. I won't dispute your other points, but gaf needs to stop that shit.
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that woman is cute i agree, but the username/persona goes with that avatar, these are patterns i keep noticing. the avatar is a cutesy/adorable chick trying to be cutesy/adorable. the poster with said avatar tends to align him/herself to that kind of an ideal and keep looking for it somewhere. its a waste of time.

the avatars actually tend to say a bit about the poster him/herself, that's my interpretation anyway.


You know, you'd have much more e-cred if you came back to the writing challenges.
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one day!!! i cant seem to come up with plots these days.
 
EraldoCoil said:
i am all for the girl making the first move.
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always?

nitewulf said:
that woman is cute i agree, but the username/persona goes with that avatar, these are patterns i keep noticing. the avatar is a cutesy/adorable chick trying to be cutesy/adorable. the poster with said avatar tends to align him/herself to that kind of an ideal and keep looking for it somewhere. its a waste of time.

the avatars actually tend to say a bit about the poster him/herself, that's my interpretation anyway.
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what does ma avatar say about me!?
 
CaptYamato said:
You said a taste...not good taste
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A man assessing another man's taste in women is some sad, insecure shit. It happens all the time on gaf.

I don't think she's cute at all, but he does, and that's cool That's all I'm sayin'.
 
nitewulf said:
the poster with said avatar tends to align him/herself to that kind of an ideal and keep looking for it somewhere. its a waste of time.
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This makes sense and I agree.

nitewulf said:
the avatars actually tend to say a bit about the poster him/herself, that's my interpretation anyway.
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Not so sure about this. Even if the avatar says something about the poster, it's not likely anyone will come up with a good interpretation of what that is.
 
Liu Kang Baking A Pie said:
What would Don Draper do?

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:lol
 
HappyBivouac said:
A man assessing another man's taste in women is some sad, insecure shit. It happens all the time on gaf.

I don't think she's cute at all, but he does, and that's cool That's all I'm sayin'.
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Saying he has a taste is still an assessment.
 
friskykillface said:
no disrespect but i fucking hate that "old tradition" of a guy should be the one to break the ice with a woman he wants to date.

I, and im sure every men welcomes when a woman makes the first move.

I really :lol :lol when i heard a girl say the guy didnt go out with her because she made the first move.
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It's really just used as a fall back for when someone you don't want to go out with asks you out.
 
Good luck, GAF! Remember confidence is sexy. So go on ahead and tell her that you tame sea land lions for a living. (Props to those who automatically get the reference).
 
I'm currently talking to two women online through a dating site. I know I could advance either to the phone number/meet phase right now, but I'm probably going to wait until after I get back from a business trip for that.

Was going to ask a girl out at Board Game Night through work, but she wasn't there. Probably has a boyfriend already anyway, so I'm trying not to get my hopes up.
 
This advice about what to do when you meet a girl is good and all, but I still haven't figured out how to do that first step of actually being in a place where girls also are.
 
KevinCow said:
This advice about what to do when you meet a girl is good and all, but I still haven't figured out how to do that first step of actually being in a place where girls also are.
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Well the most obvious advice is to go outside. If you've already done that, go to bars, hang out, get a job, etc. General mingling with the outside world, you're bound to meet a girl. If you're just hanging out with friends, going to each other's house and playing vidya gaems you're not gunna meet many females. You gotta go out bro. Go see a movie, go to a fair, join a creative writing class. Something.
 
KevinCow said:
This advice about what to do when you meet a girl is good and all, but I still haven't figured out how to do that first step of actually being in a place where girls also are.
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Malls, clubs, um I don't know where else. I typically hang out at the local hobby store and just in my friends's houses! (I have only been to a club 2x in my life and I'm 22!)

Try cafes too. And libraries. Ore ven just a random encounter on the subway or bus.





P.S. Love the tag:)
 
KevinCow said:
This advice about what to do when you meet a girl is good and all, but I still haven't figured out how to do that first step of actually being in a place where girls also are.
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Follow them home and crawl into the bathroom window. Then...wait.
 
KevinCow said:
This advice about what to do when you meet a girl is good and all, but I still haven't figured out how to do that first step of actually being in a place where girls also are.
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Yeah, that's been my biggest problem in recent years. It can be particularly frustrating when you get asked (by women, mostly married friends or married friends' wives), "Oh, why don't you have a girlfriend?" as if they expect me to have one. How many opportunities you get can be significantly influenced by the demographics of your profession or social network. A ton of tech and science jobs (or programs in school) are overwhelmingly male, which doesn't just hurt how many you meet through work/school, but how many women are in your extended social network. It takes an even further hit if 90% of the people you work with have relocated a significant distance for their job, as that makes any friends you meet through work unlikely to introduce you to more friends or women.

It gets a bad rap, but internet dating can help if you have a fucked up social network or don't work with any single women at all. For every lonely tech nerd, there is a female teacher that has recently turned to alcoholism out of loneliness.

Also: go out more. Bars and Clubs can be rough if they really aren't your thing, but they're the best chance you have at meeting women that are putting themselves out there.
 
Yaweee said:
It can be particularly frustrating when you get asked (by women, mostly married friends or married friends' wives), "Oh, why don't you have a girlfriend?" as if they expect me to have one.
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for me, it's the worst when my own Mother/family asks me why I don't have a girlfriend, every fucking holiday or gathering i get asked that question. :lol

my mom pretty much asks me that question every weekend though...:lol
 
EraldoCoil said:
for me, it's the worst when my own Mother/family asks me why I don't have a girlfriend, every fucking holiday or gathering i get asked that question. :lol

my mom pretty much asks me that question every weekend though...:lol
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is your mother jewish?
 
EraldoCoil said:
for me, it's the worst when my own Mother/family asks me why I don't have a girlfriend, every fucking holiday or gathering i get asked that question. :lol

my mom pretty much asks me that question every weekend though...:lol
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Just tell them you're gay.
 
KevinCow said:
The problem is I live in the suburbs, so even when I go out, every girl I see is either underage or married. :/
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What mommy doesn't know, won't hurt you. And if it does, you hurt her...
 
Any advice on how best to hit the bars/clubs solo?

I'm living in Santa Monica and about 6 months ago my only real friend moved to Philadelphia.

The times I've been to bars/clubs alone I feel tempted to lie and tell girls that my friends had to step outside to do something, or that they would be meeting up with me later, etc.

But usually I get so nervous/insecure about being seen as a creepy solo guy that I just act as a wallflower or constantly pretend to be texting, walking somewhere purposefully, etc.

Anyone out there had success going out to bars or clubs by yourself? Advice?
 
CaptYamato said:
Nah. My mom is the worlds biggest troll. She would just laugh at me knowing she got under my skin.
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You're moms a troll? That's bizarre. Especially if she is the biggest in the world. Is there an article somewhere that I could read about her?
 
Rindain said:
Any advice on how best to hit the bars/clubs solo?

I'm living in Santa Monica and about 6 months ago my only real friend moved to Philadelphia.

The times I've been to bars/clubs alone I feel tempted to lie and tell girls that my friends had to step outside to do something, or that they would be meeting up with me later, etc.

But usually I get so nervous/insecure about being seen as a creepy solo guy that I just act as a wallflower or constantly pretend to be texting, walking somewhere purposefully, etc.

Anyone out there had success going out to bars or clubs by yourself? Advice?
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tell them you're there for the bbs meet-up
 
Rindain said:
Any advice on how best to hit the bars/clubs solo?

I'm living in Santa Monica and about 6 months ago my only real friend moved to Philadelphia.

The times I've been to bars/clubs alone I feel tempted to lie and tell girls that my friends had to step outside to do something, or that they would be meeting up with me later, etc.

But usually I get so nervous/insecure about being seen as a creepy solo guy that I just act as a wallflower or constantly pretend to be texting, walking somewhere purposefully, etc.

Anyone out there had success going out to bars or clubs by yourself? Advice?
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Just talk to them.

Any time I have been to a bar alone I have received more numbers. Just be willing to buy drinks. Nothing else to say but talk and don't come off has creepy. Which shouldn't be hard if you're just honest. If they ask why you are alone just tell them you're friends didn't want to go out and you wanted to meet new people...
 
CaptYamato said:
Just talk to them.

Any time I have been to a bar alone I have received more numbers. Just be willing to buy drinks. Nothing else to say but talk and don't come off has creepy. Which shouldn't be hard if you're just honest. If they ask why you are alone just tell them you're friends didn't want to go out and you wanted to meet new people...
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I'll try that. Strangely enough I've never bought someone a drink...probably because the PUAs say it's a demonstration of low value.

But I think PUAs are often full of shit (I've randomly met a bunch of them at bars and they invariably come across as too intense/ trying way too hard). So I'll give the drink-buying thing a shot.

Going out to a party or get-together you have been invited to is just so much easier. I really need more exp at going solo now that my few friends are no longer living nearby.
 
Rindain said:
I'll try that. Strangely enough I've never bought someone a drink...probably because the PUAs say it's a demonstration of low value.

But I think PUAs are often full of shit (I've randomly met a bunch of them at bars and they invariably come across as too intense/ trying way too hard). So I'll give the drink-buying thing a shot.

Going out to a party or get-together you have been invited to is just so much easier. I really need more exp at going solo now that my few friends are no longer living nearby.
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FYI


There is a difference between buying a drink and getting asked to buy a drink for someone. If you meet a girl and she comes out and ask for a drink don't waste your time. Now, if you have been talking to a girl for awhile and you mention a drink and she says ok. That usually means that she wants to talk more.
 
The best advice definitely is to seek out rejection. You gotta experience it a few times so you stop getting paralyzed by it. You'll actually start to realize that if you get insta-rejected with no attempt at just friendly conversation...you probably didn't want to waste your time with this chick anyway. All women aren't angels you need to be with. When you realize this you can't help but feel more confident because you will be more curious if the girl lives up to YOUR standards

I feel like we need a small talk thread though. Cuz even after you get the courage to break the ice, you gotta be able to get the conversation to flow without the awkward silences. I think most people are actualy more afraid of this, ha
 
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