So...I caught my girlfriend cheating on me.
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Funky Papa
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Bring the stats.
I can totally relate to you OP, as my 10 year long (EX-)boyfriend cheated on me just recently too. I too wanted to beat the crap out of him and that girl (who I actually know). But as everyone else already said, there´s no point in doing that.
Hurts like hell, but there is nothing else to do then just let time heal and move on.
Maybe try renting a temporary apartment for the time being, so you will never have to see that cheater again?
Hurts like hell, but there is nothing else to do then just let time heal and move on.
Maybe try renting a temporary apartment for the time being, so you will never have to see that cheater again?
Austriacus
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That doesn't change that it's morally wrong though.
Its morally wrong if you get caught or cannot keep your mouth shut.
Thus the girl deserves to be dumped.
Not on GAF. No one here ever cheats and it's never crossed anyone's mind. We have posters here that don't even watch porn because it disrespects their Gfs. Cheating is the worst thing a human being can do to another here.
Austriacus
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Its suddenly not morally wrong if no one ever finds out? what in the actual fuck.
mariachi507
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Edit: He recognized it was a bad joke so I'm deleting my original response.
I'm sorry you're going though this OP, I wish you the best in this situation.
Oh lol I remembered what my ex-boyfriend said when I caught him cheating:
"I never lied to you, I just never told you."
The phrase all is fair in love and war exists for a reason.
I don't even see cheating as a morals thing, it's just a waste of the other person's time and disrespectful.
Not even comparing it to cheating but if my friend gets into a fight, the morality box in my head doesn't tick. He's stupid but "z0mg he has no morals" doesn't cross my mind.
I don't even see cheating as a morals thing, it's just a waste of the other person's time and disrespectful.
Not even comparing it to cheating but if my friend gets into a fight, the morality box in my head doesn't tick. He's stupid but "z0mg he has no morals" doesn't cross my mind.
Yes. Problem is, if you are capable of lying your partner to the face your relationship is probably already dysfunctional.
Austriacus
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Thats ok, there are a lot of mildly psychopathic people in the world. But dont go saying your world view which is extremely coldhearted and lacks empathy is the norm(you are not saying it i believe, just a general advice)
OK but wtf has a relationship being dysfunctional by actions that leads to cheating got to do with the ACTUAL cheating not being morally wrong.
There was a time where having sex before marriage was considered immoral. I would have scoffed and called that stupid. We are horny from 12 onwards, the fact that people don't hold out until they are 25 and ready for marriage isn't a moral failing.
Monogamy is similar. Human beings are obviously not meant to be monogamous so when people fail to fit a square peg in a round hole, I tend not to chastise from my high horse.
So you've either never been in a serious relationship or you cheat a lot.
Pollux
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Have you ever been in a serious relationship? And did she ever cheat on you?
Austriacus
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Nobody gets to tell what humans are meant to be, at least not yet. We know little of the human mind and how it works. Anybody that does needs a reality check, what you consider reality its not the only form of it. You telling that you dont chastise others from your high horse and yet talking about absolute truths, im speechless.
Theres nothing wrong with polygamy. You wana know why? Because both parties agree to it.
Its morally wrong to cheat on someone because you are actually INFLICTING PAIN on someone else by destroying the trust they put in you. Its a betrayal simply put.
Theres nothing wrong with having sex while you are underage and there has never been because both people involved were consenting to it and they are free to do what they want with their bodies as long as they dont hurt others or do something while suffering from mental disorders.
Yes and yes. Like I said, disrespectful to me and a waste of my time. I was hurt, depressed, etc... but "immoral" is too strong a word IMO. I would consider someone who has animus for the poor or blames a rape victim as immoral over a cheater.
Austriacus
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You are getting to hung up on the word. A morally wrong action is simply one that damages another person physically or mentally taken from a self centered position,
Comfort Jones
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Who put you in charge of what is justified?
I've called men the "c word" before ffs. Don't even try to act like it's the same as a racial slur. You call someone a racial slur because you're trying to insult their race, you call a person a harsh word like cunt or asshole or shithead because they are being those things.
Argh.
Winterfang
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First of all OP, you are hero you handle the situation like a pro. So I don't have to say nothing else about that part, except that I hope your wounds heal quickly.
As for the stuck in another country situation, there I can off some input. I was in a similar situation when I came living in Puerto Rico, I had no friends, no job and didn't knew the country at all. I had my dad and my sister here, my dad died suddenly and my sister couldn't cope with it and ran away from home. So I had the option of going back as I didn't have anything in my country. Or stay in here since I was in here for a reason. What came next where the most difficultly years of my entire life but I met a lot of wonderful people who after knowing my situation went out of the to help me.
Don't give up OP, and less because someone cheated on you. Wish you well OP
As for the stuck in another country situation, there I can off some input. I was in a similar situation when I came living in Puerto Rico, I had no friends, no job and didn't knew the country at all. I had my dad and my sister here, my dad died suddenly and my sister couldn't cope with it and ran away from home. So I had the option of going back as I didn't have anything in my country. Or stay in here since I was in here for a reason. What came next where the most difficultly years of my entire life but I met a lot of wonderful people who after knowing my situation went out of the to help me.
Don't give up OP, and less because someone cheated on you. Wish you well OP
AyaisMUsikWhore
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You are not trying to defend a word that is literally a derogatory word for women by relating it to asshole and shit head. The c word is also equivalent to calling a women a thot, hoe, slut, smut, whore, bitch and whatever other demeaning word they apply to women. So please stop.
OP, I would leave. What she did was wrong and you don't deserve that. What makes me mad is she didn't have enough respect to even speak with you about whatever issue she was having but went straight to cheating. It's disgusting and you deserve better.
Mister_Bubbles
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Comfort Jones
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Yeah I'm gonna wager the grand majority of the posters on this board have used those words, sometimes towards men.
Especially "bitch".
So yeah not gonna stop.
AyaisMUsikWhore
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To down right degrade someone though? I think not.
Orbis Tabula
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Hmmm, this claim is very much falsifiable. Got any data on that or are you speaking out your ass?
OP has got to throw her out. She's an adult and can find her own housing like any other adult has to, and her sticking around might lead to some terrible shit. OP already had to fight off the urge to fight, what happens if he comes home to them riding bareback on the couch?
Convenient dodging of Mister_Bubbles' post there.
AyaisMUsikWhore
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I'm not dodging his post lol. I am not calling anyone a whore or using it to demeanor someone. It has a origin that does not apply to this thread. But yes, my name has whore in it.
Comfort Jones
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You realize my original post was aimed at a guy saying it's NEVER ok to say that word, now you're trying to defend others for using other words because it wasn't to "degrade" them. I've never used the c word to make a women feel like less of a person and I'm not going to tolerate people trying to tell me what we can and cannot say.
You are not trying to defend a word that is literally a derogatory word for women by excusing yourself with the fact that it's just your username.
ComputerMKII
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I'm pretty sure that the poster that complained about the use of the word "cunt" would take the exact same offense to your username.
Comfort Jones
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Yeah this is pretty much exactly how I feel. He's trying to make some argument about context when the guy I was originally responding to basically said context doesn't matter, you can't use that word!
Edit-
I love you too.
pretty sure its a she
AyaisMUsikWhore
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Am I excusing myself though? No I didn't. I know the context of my name which I am not going to defend or explain because it's there. I can't hide it, but it's not being used to disrespect another person. I am not calling you or anyone in this thread a whore, neither am I defending the usage of whore. Neither am I relating it to other words that don't have a similar meaning in context to that word as well. I get this is the whole kettle calling the kettle black here but this thread topic and that comment did not go hand in hand. Anyways this is veering off topic.
BladeoftheImmortal
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You are in Mexico, bro. Plenty of hot mamasitas (spanish isn't my first language) around. Plough the landscape!
Exactly. Being a white Spanish I would imagine he would be in demand over there. Take advantage of it and stop feeling sorry for yourself.
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