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Pregnancy Scares
- Thread starter egruntz
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Crap. Don't know why I said "a year" lol
exmachina64
Banned
I actually believed you. I've heard the figure "$1 million" quoted before.
Rubbish King
The gift that keeps on giving
Duuuuuude that sucks, best of luck
-Stranger-
Junior Member
I've got my second child on the way, due in August.
I want to be a father again though so i am excited about it.
I want to be a father again though so i am excited about it.
Messofanego
Banned
At least you'll know you're the daddy.
Artofwar420
Member
Come on guys, don' t you guys know about plan B? Keep a couple in reserve in case of contraceptive emergency.
It works. At least in the States is fairly easy to get. So get some if you're one of the few here having sex on the regular.
It works. At least in the States is fairly easy to get. So get some if you're one of the few here having sex on the regular.
superdeluxe
Member
The GF was confused by the pregnancy test, Not sure the Plan B pill would have worked out.
CapitalismSucks DonkeyBalls
Banned
"Do I stick it 'up there'?"
It also only works if you take the first pill within 24 hours.
Congrats I guess, OP. I feel like this girl is hiding something from you or is trying to tie you down, but you need to get confirmation ASAP. Don't let her squirm her way out of it.
Also, please let us know what her parents say. Thank you.
InfiniteBento
Member
Go see that shit for yourself. She is acting sketchy as fuck about this entire thing. Surely she isn't that dumb to say "I don't know if I'm doing it right" You legit just pee on the damn stick and wait for an answer.
If you haven't physically seen the test, don't trust this kind of shit. Don't play the "IDK" game when it comes to pregnancy. If its your kid, you want to KNOW. Go find out and be 100% up on whats going on. This whole not replying or idk nonsense is ridiculous, OP. She would've at least sent you a picture of the positive test rather than just throwing them out blindly.
Get in there and get a definite answer cause honestly, none of this shit makes any sense.
KnockOneOff
Banned
So erm... update OP?
She's pregnant.
I'm being very serious here guys: What do I do? Please give me advice. Where do I start? I'm so lost. I'm just unsure what to do. We spent the better part of our day fighting. I can't really mention abortion again, but I really think we can't afford a kid. We're only 21. Part time jobs. Full time students. She says it's not right in God's eyes. She also seems against the idea of adoption BUT SHE WON'T TELL ME WHY! She just says it wouldn't be right. What the hell? She's being difficult. I understand why right now. I'm being difficult too but I'm so freaked.
I'm being very serious here guys: What do I do? Please give me advice. Where do I start? I'm so lost. I'm just unsure what to do. We spent the better part of our day fighting. I can't really mention abortion again, but I really think we can't afford a kid. We're only 21. Part time jobs. Full time students. She says it's not right in God's eyes. She also seems against the idea of adoption BUT SHE WON'T TELL ME WHY! She just says it wouldn't be right. What the hell? She's being difficult. I understand why right now. I'm being difficult too but I'm so freaked.
OJdaKiller
Member
I'm sorry to hear that.
If you haven't already, make your feelings clear of what you'd like to see happen and why. Ultimately, the decision is hers so you have just roll with it. So don't bug her about it, but then again, checking in to see where things are at is also good. It sucks the child support system is so outdated but that's another story.
In the future, make sure you aren't having sex with anyone that doesn't feel the same way about kids as you do (now, never, maybe, etc....). I hope this works out for you.
foxuzamaki
Doesn't read OPs, especially not his own
Well......congratulations.
I myself have nothing to offer you really other than, people have found a way in the past, it just takes you 2 working together to make it work.
As far as abortion and adoption, thats a pretty big thing to ask someone to do and will take more than just the moment to decide if thats even a option they want to consider. That is life growing inside of her now, afterall.
I myself have nothing to offer you really other than, people have found a way in the past, it just takes you 2 working together to make it work.
As far as abortion and adoption, thats a pretty big thing to ask someone to do and will take more than just the moment to decide if thats even a option they want to consider. That is life growing inside of her now, afterall.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
You're in it for the long haul. Come to terms with it now if she won't give it up for adoption.
You're going to have to think hard about what you want to do going forward. Are you going to take responsibility here, are you going to smooth out the fighting and accept what is obviously her decision -- to keep it?
You need some answers yourself as well. Ask her when the last time she took birth control was, if she ever took it. If she tricked you into this it isn't going to be good for you. You need to know what happened before moving forward into this.
I figured that's what it was. If she doesn't want to get an abortion, then you two need to start planning out finances and stuff now. You still have time. Start thinking about what it'll take to afford a kid and just do it. You two aren't the first in this situation and you won't be the last.
Of course, if you want nothing to do with it then that's up to you. She'll likely hit you with child support in the future and that may cost more than actually staying with her and the kid. Focus on finishing school in the long term, but short term if that means working more and take one or two less classes then so be it.
Deified Data
Banned
IUDs are awesome. Come inside as much as you want, never have to worry about getting an abortion scare.
terrisus
Member
Expected.
Did she thank you at least?
As far as the things she doesn't want to do?
Maybe buy her a bracelet and some earrings?
This is also good advice.
OJdaKiller
Member
I love when people mistakenly say "IED" instead of "IUD", always makes me laugh.
MatrixMan.EXE
Member
OP, you firstly need to get to the bottom of why she only told you about not being on birth control just as you're about to bust a nut during unprotected sex. Had she been on birth control before? Because that's the only reason I can come up with for you assuming she was on it in this instance.
Reason I say this is because it'd be pretty fucking bad if she's tricked you into this. Sounds outlandish maybe, but it happens more often that we'd like to think. Once you've established that, you can start thinking about whether you're going to distance yourself or work together with her to get your shit together before September rolls in.
Not sure whether to say congrats or condolences, but stay strong.
Well, if you graduate next year, you may have a better revenue flow from a better job in due time. This may yet work, my friend!
Just don't name it Little Shit. Bullies will have a field day.
terrisus
Member
Might want to edit some of the posts later too, so the kid doesn't run into them in a few years.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
Also, next time you guys have sex, and don't say anything about this beforehand, and I'm being REALLY serious about this, not trying to be a jerk or make a joke about it:
See if she keeps saying "thank you."
See if she keeps saying "thank you."
uncredited male
Member
There are a lot of professional organizations that offer free advice/counseling dealing with unwanted pregnancies. At the very least they can give you a better idea of what to expect.
I'm kind of suspicious of this to be honest, but I don't and wouldn't understand why. Things got heated today and I kind of got accusatory just in general. "God why didn't you just take the pill, why didn't you tell me," etc. I shouldn't have said these and other things but it was really hard to keep my cool and not say what I thought. Her response was just, "I don't know. I don't know. I'm sorry. I don't know what to tell you." Really frustrates me.
terrisus
Member
This is actually a very good point as well.
If she stops, what she may have been thanking you for was the chance to have a baby.
terrisus
Member
That would be so fucked up. I'm sorry, OP.
Welfare
Member
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
Number one thing that pops in my head is religion. If she is super religious I would bet that is the motivation to it.
Motivation might be too strong of a word though. More of an "inclination"?
That's if it is proven she wasn't taking the pill regularly.
shadyspace
Banned
You have ruined your goddamn life son.
yankeeforever2
Member
You are both adults, talk about it like adults.
Its obvious she wants to keep the kid, if you are the father you have to make a decision yourself.
Its obvious she wants to keep the kid, if you are the father you have to make a decision yourself.
EchoChamber
Member
Run OP run,go to Mexico I will help you your name will be now elgruntz and you will work making tacos for a living.
Welfare
Member
El Gruntz Taco Village
terrisus
Member
I honestly did not think she was actually pregnant, was almost certain you guys had just stressed her into throwing her cycle off. I know it happens but from the circumstances you posted, the chances seemed pretty low. Um...I'm sorry, I guess. Hope you guys can work it out once the shock has passed.
That said, your girlfriend is sketch as fuck. Either that, or she's just a plain idiot.
That said, your girlfriend is sketch as fuck. Either that, or she's just a plain idiot.
CapitalismSucks DonkeyBalls
Banned
Has premarital sex yet condemns the idea of an abortion as a slight against God.
Give me a fucking break.
Give me a fucking break.
exmachina64
Banned
How close are the two of you to graduating?
Some women are worried that through circumstances they'll have trouble or won't be able to conceive in the future when they're more financially able to have children. Women with religious beliefs can struggle to come to terms with their earlier choice to abort their child or give it up for adoption.
Presuming she doesn't change her mind about either of those options, how involved do you want to be in your child's life? You'll need to provide some kind of financial support. You'll also need to take some time to consider what kind of future the two of you have together. Don't rush into marriage only to get a divorce down the road.
As a future note to posters in the thread: she and her parents (with whom she lives) are against abortion and they'll presumably know about the pregnancy soon, if they don't already. OP's not going to be able to force the issue.
Future PhaZe
Member
Yo damn
exmachina64
Banned
Regardless of whether people are hypocrites, it happens a lot.
terrisus
Member
You missed the part about the $1000 necklace.
Random Painted HIghway
Member
Op where did you go to school, is this the result of abstinence only education?
terrisus
Member
I mean, OP mentioned she was using birth control, and obviously they were having sex, and it seems like the only reason they weren't using a condom is because OP didn't want to/felt comfortable with the birth control, so, even if that was what was taught (either in school or by her parents), it seems unlikely that was a factor.
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