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[entremet]

Did you play competitive basketball? Any good at it? Name some accomplishments?

Did you ever go and play at competitive e-sports tournaments? How did they go?

How many views/downloads has your music on soundcloud/youtube etc.?

If you are too good at so many things you must have something to show off.

Basically.

If you're that good, you'd be getting paid for it.

That's what too good is.

 

[DeathoftheEndless]

Are you Gears of War 2?

Spoiler

You might have ADHD

 

[JinjoUnchained]

InB4 "only problem with game is that it's almost TOO good" GIF

 

[Admiral Woofington]

You were so good you didn't exploit it to try and make a career?

 

[Aurongel]

Start programming. You're bound to fail a lot there. Curse lifted.

I tried this once and it led to a lifetime of feeling bad at my job and bad at math.

 

[Siegcram]

I was very fit 6-7 years ago.

That tells me nothing.

 

[Not Spaceghost]

What you actually mean to say is:

You catch on quick with a lot of things and even get up to a mediocre level with ease, but then drop them as soon as you realize you'll have to start putting in effort to go further.

Because I think that's what you actually mean.

 

[Skeyser]

If those are the first things that pop into your head, then congratulations, you're a master at activities that no one gives a shit about. Join the rest of us in the real world.

Actually being a master of most of those activities would get you rich.

 

[Aeriscloud]

Feel free to link your music and or drawings.


Gaf is full of excellent judges I promise.

I PROMISE.

 

[Alienous]

I call bullshit.

People are terrible evaluators of their own talent.

Seems like you need some grit.

Watch this.
http://www.ted.com/talks/angela_lee_duckworth_the_key_to_success_grit?language=en

lol

She's just saying that the people who do well are the ones who don't give up.

How do you become a person like this? "I dunno, lol".

You don't fucking say.

 

[Peltz]

I'm very careful of this now that I have kids. They're still very young, but I make sure to compliment effort ("wow, you worked so hard at this!") rather than accomplishment ("you did it!"). Effort scales better with increased difficulty, where pride in achievement does not. In the same vein, I don't call them "so good," or "very smart," but try to find other descriptors, like "determined," "focused," "resourceful," etc.

I love this. This is positive reinforcement done properly.

I will do this with my kids some day.

 

[Siegcram]

If those are the first things that pop into your head, then congratulations, you're a master at activities that no one gives a shit about. Join the rest of us in the real world.

Right, nobody cares about obscure things like "music".

 

[BigAT]

You sure about that?

He's not wrong, there is nothing stealth about it.

 

[riotous]

That sucks man. I'm the best at everything but also a hard worker. Also I'm sexy as hell.

 

[ElectricBlanketFire]

Feel free to link your music and or drawings.


Gaf is full of excellent judges I promise.

I PROMISE.

Here you go.

 

[kirblar]

I love this. This is positive reinforcement done properly.

It's recommended universally in order to try and help avoid the problem the OP describes.

 

[War Peaceman]

I can say for certain that you are not good at perspective

 

[BPoole]

Any time there is an obstacle that requires hard work to overcome, I give up.

Sounds like you're good at easy things, but anything that may prove difficult has you running for the hills because you're afraid of trying at something and failing.

 

[BigAT]

Recognizing blatant video editing apparently not on the list of skills.

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1051992&highlight=

 

[Gaz_RB]

The Gifted kid problem

 

[ahoyhoy]

I've got the opposite problem as the OP. I suck at everything, even things I'm apparently good at.

I much prefer the OP's delusion.

 

[Sarobi]

I also believe I'm too good at things, OP.
I'm really good at wasting time and doing unproductive things.

 

[zeemumu]

Get...bad?

You'll hit that wall eventually, OP. Everyone gets their moments of awesome before they realize that they haven't left the tutorial level yet.

 

[Siegcram]

Recognizing blatant video editing apparently not on the list of skills.

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1051992&highlight=

First sentence though ...

 

[Frank Serpico]

This is not a stealth brag thread. This is more of a problem than a good thing. Almost everything that I do has come extremely easy to me. From when I was a child, to an adult. Football, Basketball, Juggling, Drawing, Music, Video Games, too many to list. But, I think this "gift" has been more of a curse.

I've never worked hard for anything during my adult life. I don't know if I could if I wanted to. Any time there is an obstacle that requires hard work to overcome, I give up. I honestly believe I may have an underlying problem that saps me of all motivation. I can't focus on one thing. I'm always flying back and forth between tasks without even realizing I switched. I'll end up on Gaf, with an hour passed and not even think about it. This is something that I need to change.

This may sound stupid to most, but I can't be alone in this.

I was just about to just say fuck it, and delete this. I really want to hear what yinz have to say about it though.

No offense but the things you listed being good at, I didn't see anything relating to math, science, English....

 

[ugly]

OP, here's a video of an extremely accomplished guitarist and how he strives for meaning in his life. It's 6 mins and pretty spot-on.

 

[entremet]

lol

She's just saying that the people who do well are the ones who don't give up.

How do you become a person like this? "I dunno, lol".

You don't fucking say.

Here's a good resource. It's aimed at teachers.

http://www.edutopia.org/blog/true-grit-measure-teach-success-vicki-davis

 

[Lunar15]

I have the same problem OP. Took a while for me to realize it, which is terrible. I definitely think it comes from a mix of factors, including being over congratulated growing up.

I just forced myself out of my comfort zones and realized how much I really do suck at everything, and then just kind of pushed myself to get better. For example, I went into improv. I fucking suck at improv, and it was a good humbling experience and it forced me to work to gain any kind of respect from my peers.

Also, I think you worded this thread badly. I totally get what you mean though. It's overconfidence but it leads to horrible self-doubt/under-confidence. If you're anything like me, it's that you learn things fast, but then never work hard to master it. You trick yourself into thinking you're good at something just because you understand it, but then don't force yourself to train in order to put it to practice. Trust me, I had the same shit, and you have to reverse it, quick.

You're just undisciplined and a little spoiled, in all honesty.

 

[Frank Serpico]

OP mentions being too good at sports, at what level exactly?

 

[Mermandala]

How good at juggling... Bowling pins? Knives and Dangerous things? or just dumb old regular juggling?

 

[Randolph Freelander]

OP mentions being too good at sports, at what level exactly?

Pop Warner football? Dude is unstoppable.

 

[diffusionx]

Can we hear some of your music?

 

[Prinz Eugn]

is it possible you just have a strong cognitive bias where you tend to perceive that you are good at things regardless of whether or not you are? this is well documented.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning–Kruger_effect

Recognizing blatant video editing apparently not on the list of skills.

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1051992&highlight=

Huh, I seem to be really good at making a connection between these posts.

 

[Nickle]

Not good at being humble.

 

[Skeyser]

First sentence though ...

OP never miss a chance to tell GAF how good he is at things, even when he isn't lol

 

[Captain Tuttle]

This is my problem. There are things in life that no matter what you do, still require hard work. I can't seem to muster that up. Getting fit, for example.

You should change your thread title

You need some grit man

 

[entremet]

OP ain't coming back lol.

 

[Condom]

Yeah you are lying to yourself. Everything that I don't directly succeed at (for example a failed test) is stupid in my opinion. So I'm good at everything that is relevant, obvious bullshittery of the mind.

 

[Timeaisis]

We need a mod to change the title: "I think I'm too good at juggling..."

 

[MrCunningham]

I've never worked hard for anything during my adult life. I don't know if I could if I wanted to. Any time there is an obstacle that requires hard work to overcome, I give up.

So you are not 'too good' at everything? You seem to be a failure at doing hard work.

 

[Cryxo93]

Not good at being humble.

.

 

[BrassDragon]

Paging Dunning-Kruger, Dunning-Kruger to the OP please.

 

[Auctopus]

Jack of all trades, master of none.

You can have a knack, maybe even a talent but nobody gets anywhere without hard work.

 

[EGM1966]

Not fit, but good at sports?

Yea... okay.

Jesus that GIF. Fucking given me multiple hernias. Bloody brilliant though.

Also OP I actually kind of get what you mean but you're confusing a combination of luck and being good at some things as signifying things come easy to you with the clear side effect that you shirk from anything that does require effort and doesn't come easy to you.

In short you're not actually good at everything and if you can accept this, understand how to better interpret the meaning of what you are good at (and recognize when you've been luck) and teach yourself to accept effort is needed when you're not automatically good at something and you'll be fine (probably).

 

[Nevasleep]

Do you work in Sales or something?

 

[commish]

This thread:

"Hi, I'm good at some things. And if I'm not good at them, I just quit and don't do them to maintain my record of 100% awesomeness in everything I do."

 

[injurai]

Brain plasticity ends eventually OP.

 

[Shanlei91]

This is my problem. There are things in life that no matter what you do, still require hard work. I can't seem to muster that up. Getting fit, for example.

It sounds like you might be exhibiting a mix of the Dunning–Kruger effect and ADHD. Almost definitely the latter. I would say that you should get that checked out but also people these days are so easily distracted by the shininess of the internet that it's a grey area of whether meds are needed vs training yourself to focus.

I could make a thread about how everything I've ever put effort into I've been very good at and how many things, like weight loss, come easy to me but I suck at drawing. ¯\_(&#12484_/¯

 

[Admiral Woofington]

Dat thread back fire

 

[Angry Grimace]

This sounds more like an ego problem where you convince yourself that you're good at the stuff you like, and the stuff you aren't good at you say is dumb, therefore, you are good at everything worthwhile.