Miles Quaritch
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That chat is something else.
Lick it like an oreo. Girl is thirsty as fuck...
Lick it like an oreo. Girl is thirsty as fuck...
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Shuggananas
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Why won't you lick it tho
ZackieChan
Member
That girl is kind of awesome
Shuggananas
Banned
Agree, she sounds fun, crazy but the good kind of crazy
Holy shit. The girl got back to me and said, "yes, definitely." Amongst other things, like why she took so long to respond. I'm so happyI wish I could posts gifs from my phone.
GAF came through.
Yay! <3
But it's her birthday bruh
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
100% agree. Seriously, why not try with her? Lick that Oreo.
Kill Your Masters
Member
So I am in weird spot I think. Seeing a girl I really like and would want to get serious with. But I am still friends with my last ex. Like, we hang out sometimes, completely platonic and I have absolutely no feelings for her. I am kinda afraid this may be a problem for the girl I am currently seeing, not really sure how to approach the situation, as I never stayed friends with an ex before.
ZackieChan
Member
This is the very definition of over thinking it. Just send a text and get an answer and be done with it.
I have a platonic friend who is an ex. Some girls I date can't understand or accept it, and others don't care. Friendship is important to me, so new girls better accept it! It's not for everyone, though.
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I went out to the main food street area here in Chongqing, China to get some food tonight. As I was eating some hot and sour noodles, I started choking. I couldn't breathe for about 30-60 seconds. Finally something dislodged and I coughed the noodle up, or whatever was blocking my windpipe. Unbelievably scary.
A cute girl was sitting right near me and was going to go get me a drink. We started to talk as I was recovering, and it turned out that she was in town on vacation from another part of China. We ended up hanging out for a few hours and walking around town! Hopefully we can hang out more in the week she's here. From near-death to meeting a nice girl - not a bad night!
Lone_Prodigy
Member
And that kids is how I met your mother.
By choking.
By choking.
ZackieChan
Member
Prior to that, I walked around the city for 15 minutes with my fly open. So it could be worse, I suppose.
Gonna have to talk to her about it. In these types of situations, I would just be honest. That way, there aren't any surprises.
She's got a little too much filling for my taste
Miles Quaritch
Member
The crazy thing, I've been thinking about the oreo thing nearly all day and it's actually growing on me.
But I do have to wonder why she refers to a vagina as an oreo. The mental imagery is weird as hell.
But I do have to wonder why she refers to a vagina as an oreo. The mental imagery is weird as hell.
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
I'm already getting signs that I should move on ("When you go out tonight with your friend, at least you don't have to worry about me being irrationally jealous like last week, right?!
"). But it was undeniably an intense three weeks. I even logged on OKC again -- something like 600 visitors, 600 likes, and 15 messages, which isn't bad considering I hadn't even logged on since October 23rd. Nothing immediately appealing, though. And the thought of starting the entire process all over again sounds daunting.It won't take much to move on, but this really just sucks.
Lone_Prodigy
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600 visitors and 15 messages. Women really don't initiate, do they?
Vaudeville Villain
Member
So, I kind of have a date on Friday. It's a little weird. I asked to hang out this weekend, she has work sat and sun, and has plans Friday. Although, she said I can join her Friday. She's taking her little sister to go roller skating. Roller skating could be fun, but I'm not certain it's the best idea since she's going to have to balance time between me and her sister. Should I just wait until the following weekend, or make plans on a weekday?
Advocatus Diaboli
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They do. But I think it's important to segregate the data sets: some were via app, some were via QuickMatch, and others might have viewed me through searching on the website. I also get more messages when my "last online" time isn't a month old.
Are you...sure it's actually a date? 'Hang out', sister. Make sure you're direct.
Being a "texting buddy" is the worst...
Vaudeville Villain
Member
Well, I said, "date," to her, but she is busy this weekend and invited me to skate with her and her sister. However, like my younger brother told me earlier, I should not go. I'm some random guy and I'm essentially infringing on family time. I'll text her, tell her that I'd rather go on a date sometime next week with just us.
stn
Member
Wise move. Also, it'd be so weird to flirt with her when you know her younger sister is right there. Keep it to the two of you.
Vaudeville Villain
Member
Awesome. Okay, now date ideas. There is the place near where I live that has sort of painting class and wine sessions, she doesn't drink as far as I know, but I think the painting could provide nice memories. It's also pretty unconventional, at least better that my usual, boring, and predictable coffee date
ZackieChan
Member
That seems like a lot for a first date. Like, if you end up not liking her or she not liking you, you're stuck in the class. Also, there's probably a much bigger cost than with a coffee date.
Maybe go for a walk around the city or something? I don't know - I don't like to overcommit for a first date.
Vaudeville Villain
Member
Yeah, that's true. Damn, idk, there isn't much around where I live, nothing very exciting at least. I'd do LA or SD since they're a reasonable distance, but I'd face the same issue.
ZackieChan
Member
Keep it simple, then. Just meet up and chat, but have a 2nd location planned out in case things are going well.
neurochasm
Banned
I'm already getting signs that I should move on ("When you go out tonight with your friend, at least you don't have to worry about me being irrationally jealous like last week, right?!
It won't take much to move on, but this really just sucks.
Good lord. Are you an astronaut?
ZackieChan
Member
Apparently women want to date lawyers. Who knew?
Apparently they don't want to date traveling nomadic virtual lawyers like me when I'm only staying in the US for a month or two, though
Stay hydrated?
Drink more water...? Happens to me too, just listen to your body and drink.
Ugh, my date was on a trip for a couple of days and the last thing she said was 'I'll talk to you later'. So I was of the assumption that she was gonna be busy and that she'd talk to me as soon as she had time (as had happened once or twice before).
So yesterday I hit her up after three days since I didn't want to seem to clingy, and she basically asked me why I hadn't spoken to her. Her: 'Yeah, I was busy but it's nice getting a message once or twice'. So I kinda made a joke out of it where I told her I was waiting for her to send me something and that we have to get our communication in order.
I get where she's coming from but I finally get the not being too clingy-crap and then this happens.
She seems a bit more distant now (but she was busy as well) and she's gonna be gone for another couple of days, so fuck. But I said I'll take her out after she gets back.
So yesterday I hit her up after three days since I didn't want to seem to clingy, and she basically asked me why I hadn't spoken to her. Her: 'Yeah, I was busy but it's nice getting a message once or twice'. So I kinda made a joke out of it where I told her I was waiting for her to send me something and that we have to get our communication in order.
I get where she's coming from but I finally get the not being too clingy-crap and then this happens.
She seems a bit more distant now (but she was busy as well) and she's gonna be gone for another couple of days, so fuck. But I said I'll take her out after she gets back.
ZackieChan
Member
Just send a message every day or so. Don't get too worked up over this. If she is super serious about this, then it's a bad sign anyway. You're fine.
She already "downgraded" the date by bringing her sister along. Don't try to reschedule NOW or you'll loose her. She had ample choice on the date timeframe but choose it to be a very specific time and a very specific situation: it's likely she is doing this on purpose to see if you can flirt without being too obvious and if you can play along with the date like some sort of step-dad.
If you try to dodge this... "trial" by setting another date, it will look like you already know you won't be able to keep up. Don't do it.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
Woooooooooow, chick just went crazy when I asked if she'd send me a picture back after asking me to send her a picture. Awkward....
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
I'm already getting signs that I should move on ("When you go out tonight with your friend, at least you don't have to worry about me being irrationally jealous like last week, right?!
It won't take much to move on, but this really just sucks.
Someone asked me out for drinks, and after debating it, I said yes. I told the girl I'm on a break with: it seemed weird not to let her know, for some reason. I mean, I'd like to try being with her, but if she's not going to compromise, then I'm not going to wait around, I guess. We're still talking, though; I'm not giving up entirely.
Is it fast? Kind of, but I was only dating the other girl for a little over three weeks, and we never even had the DTR talk.
For some reason not really feeling it with the girl I'm dating. She's nice and all, but I simply have no feelings for her even after two months of dating and I recently realized why: I'm still thinking about the last girl I dated who unceremoniously dumped me right before she went on her 5 month trip across the world and told me to date other people while she was away. I didn't want to wait for her so I've been dating other people, the former girl included, but it's just not working out for me.
So I decided to contact trip girl asking how she's doing, half expecting her not to even respond. She does and we talk a bit and it turns out she has a boyfriend, even though the reason she dumped me, in her words, was that she didn't want a long-distance relationship. Well, that sure is what she's having right now. Most likely was seeing this dude while we were dating as well, which we did for about two months as well, saw eachother like 12 times (yeah I counted, sue me). Pretty much just told her that I hope it works out for them and wished them good luck (I don't mean it), she hasn't responded to that. Can't believe how stupid I was, both then and now for thinking she might still be interested. Just feels really bad.
Probably taking a break from dating. Can't seem to let this girl go, need to focus on myself and studies.
So I decided to contact trip girl asking how she's doing, half expecting her not to even respond. She does and we talk a bit and it turns out she has a boyfriend, even though the reason she dumped me, in her words, was that she didn't want a long-distance relationship. Well, that sure is what she's having right now. Most likely was seeing this dude while we were dating as well, which we did for about two months as well, saw eachother like 12 times (yeah I counted, sue me). Pretty much just told her that I hope it works out for them and wished them good luck (I don't mean it), she hasn't responded to that. Can't believe how stupid I was, both then and now for thinking she might still be interested. Just feels really bad.
Probably taking a break from dating. Can't seem to let this girl go, need to focus on myself and studies.
Vaudeville Villain
Member
Seriously? Why?
I mean, if this is true then I already fucked up because I tried to reschedule. Why would anyone do this though?
Honestly, anyone who plays these kind of games (not saying she is, I have no idea) are probably sociopaths and not worth pursuing anyway.
Huh? I don't get it. To me he's doing the right thing by putting his foot down and saying that he wants to spend time alone. There's...nothing wrong with it. And if he "loses" her by rescheduling, big deal, she wasn't worth it in the first place.
Vaudeville Villain
Member
Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. I don't have to go through some arbitrary trial to prove my worth.
I sincerely doubt she was doing that though.
electricshake
Member
Take everything tsukumo says with a pinch of salt.
Yeah, I find he has good advice at times, but other times... less so.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
I wouldn't worry about it. You did the right thing, nothing about it was unreasonable. As long as you realize you can lose her then there's nothing to change but I'd also argue that if I lose someone like that then I don't want to date then in the first place.
When someone says they don't want a (whatever) relationship, just add a "with you" at the end of it and move on, rather than cling onto hope that she'll change her mind.
Don't worry about it. Just do what you feel like. If you fail a 'test' by being yourself, you're dodging a bullet
It's an important mindset to have: instead of worrying about screwing up over trivial things, just be yourself. If it's the right person, being yourself is all you need.
So I deleted Tinder over the weekend and still haven't downloaded it again. I was at literally the worst party I've ever been to (I can tell y'all about it if you're curious lol) and after I'd a decent number of drinks my friend handed me my phone and told me I had a new match. Immediate reaction was "ugh I don't caaaare, Tinder's only ever been boring and I know that I like ____. Even though I don't like waiting I don't need this" and just deleted it without looking at the match lol.
Moderately Drunk Sami knows himself decently well I'd imagine. I think I'll just stay off it and focus more on me while she does her thing. I haven't seen her in a few days - after the party she texted me saying that she wanted a few days alone to focus on school because the party was just the last straw and she needed some social hibernation. She'll be at my birthday party Friday though and finally meet some of my best which should be fun.
Moderately Drunk Sami knows himself decently well I'd imagine. I think I'll just stay off it and focus more on me while she does her thing. I haven't seen her in a few days - after the party she texted me saying that she wanted a few days alone to focus on school because the party was just the last straw and she needed some social hibernation. She'll be at my birthday party Friday though and finally meet some of my best which should be fun.
PflargBlarg
Member
Lol, don't do this, for the love of god.
stn
Member
Its good you rescheduled. If she asks why, just playfully say "it'd be hard to flirt with your younger sister nearby." Be playful about it. She'll like it.
Vaudeville Villain
Member
Lol, smooth. I like it.
However, she is either a terrible texter (I am too, but not this bad) or she just isn't interested. I haven't heard anything since yesterday. Speaking of which, what is the general consensus on texting, or lack thereof? Can it be taken as a bad sign?
It's fine, though, there's another girl talking to me more frequently, so we'll see what happens
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