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[GhostWriter24]

Throughout the night, at a party of about 20 people, she consistently called me bitch jokingly. Once. Twice. Three times. Each time I told her to stop, but she persisted. She was drunk. Very drunk. I was heartbroken. Idk how drunk she was, but Ive been through enough of this bullshit that I will not commit myself to someone who will say that about someone they care about. After we had both drank a lot, she came into the bathroom and demanded I fuck her. I legitimately wasn't ready, so I told her we would later. She immediately told me to fuck myself and left to join the rest of the party.

Before tonight, I thought she was incredible. After tonight, I guess the jokes on me.

 

[Spoiled Milk]

Elaborate?

Yeah, disrespect is not ok.

 

[Messi]

Care to explain what is going on? I am completely lost. Why is she cursing at you?

 

[PumpkinSpice]

How old are you?

 

[Beerman462]

Any context?

 

[ItIsOkBro]

What would have happened if you were ready tho?

 

[Escargo]

No chill. Im sure you can forgive her a little bit.

 

[-Pyromaniac-]

Ready for what?

 

[elguero]

I wouldn't get carried away if this isn't a recurring pattern of behavior. Sleep it off tonight but don't submit yourself to this crap moving forward if she keeps treating you like garbage.

 

[solomon]

Any context?

.

 

[DJKhaled]

What? I feel that you are really taking someone being an idiot to heart way too much, it doesn't seem like that big of a deal from what you posted.

EDIT: Okay, read your edit, I'm assuming you are a fairly young teen, don't worry about it, it's not a big deal at that age, it seems like it's bigger than it is.

 

[Spoiled Milk]

What would have happened if you you were ready tho?

"She kept calling me bitch while we were having sex. She kept saying 'You like that bitch? Yeah I bet you like that. You little bitch.'"

 

[BTM]

Wasn't ready for what?

 

[Rabbi_Vole]

Yeah... Fights happen man. Regrettable words are often said.

 

[GhostWriter24]

How old are you?

28. She's 25.

 

[jiggle]

Stop leaving the toilet seat up

 

[Menchi]

Doesn't sound like you've known each other long?

 

[DJKhaled]

28. She's 25.

Wow you are way too old to be taking it to heart this much, fights happen and people say dumb shit especially when drunk.

 

[Piichan]

Joke's on me because I don't understand.

 

[SuperStiltzkin]

Gonna need more information on this before we can say anything of use.

 

[xRaizen]

She's drunk. People are different types of drunk. Maybe she's a mean drunk.

I'm a no secrets kind of drunk.

 

[GifGafIsTheBestGaf]

do you need dick pills op? or alcohol fucks you up?

 

[crimzonflame]

Wonder why they call you bitch?

 

[……forgetit]

Thought BR would be Baskin Robbins, leaving disappointed.

 

[SuperStiltzkin]

Wow you are way too old to be taking it to heart this much, fights happen and people say dumb shit especially when drunk.

Not enough information to be making judgements on either party.

 

[GhostWriter24]

Wonder why they call you bitch?

Sorry?

 

[Arkos]

What a bitch

 

[TimeEffect]

Wow you are way too old to be taking it to heart this much, fights happen and people say dumb shit especially when drunk.

I dont see how that's acceptable behaviour. She's demanding sex, and then putting the OP down for not having it, essentially forcing it out of him by making him feel small. It's a shitty thing to do.

OP shouldn't simply brush it off if he's not comfortable with it.

Edit* Oh, she was calling him a bitch during the party and then told him to fuck himself, my bad.

Still, calling your SO a bitch during a party is pretty awful.

 

[Messi]

Wonder why they call you bitch?

lol...I laughed.

 

[GhostWriter24]

do you need dick pills op? or alcohol fucks you up?

Um yeah, Im not ashamed to admit three hours of alcohol fucks me up. Why is this a thing?

 

[ThisGuy]

Wonder why they call you bitch?

Turning it up now.

Acting like that on a regular basis. At a party around other people? I'd ditch her. 25? I wouldn't waste my time. At that age you should have your shit together. Plenty of other women out there to meet.

But if it's just a one time thing. Let it slide. And depending on how long you've been dating. Some details missing.

 

[diaspora]

She sounds like a rude as hell jackass.

 

[ExVicis]

After we had both drank a lot

28. She's 25.

Oh! Well then. Sleep on this thought you're having, wake up and take a shower and think on it, then go to her and talk to her about it in the morning in a serious person-to-person way. If this is a repeat offense I would talk to her about her behavior and ask her to stop, if it's a one-off I would tell her to take the alcohol down and try not to be mean when she's drunk.

Decisions and emotions should never be acted upon when one is drunk/after drinking. This should be a rule everyone should follow. As well most relationship problems are usually easily solved by communication, so at least try that before breaking it off after being upset about it, especially if you have been drinking.

 

[Messi]

Maybe it was like this op?

Don't take it to heart man. Sleep it off and see how you feel.

 

[Imm0rt4l]

Wonder why they call you bitch?

lmao

 

[mm04]

Not enough information to be making judgements on either party.

Yeah, not cool at any age. How long have you been with her, OP?

 

[Psychoward]

Wow you are way too old to be taking it to heart this much, fights happen and people say dumb shit especially when drunk.

She's also way too old to get away with the "I'm drunk" excuse. If it's a fight and she's sorry about it later then they can work it out I guess but being drunk doesn't give you the right to shit on your SO.

 

[BreezyLimbo]

Was she a dom? There's some people that get off on belittling others in public. That's how they get 'hot'.

 

[ThisGuy]

Was she repeatedly calling you a bitch in front of the twenty something people?

 

[rtcn63]

I really want a mod to change BR to Battle Royale

 

[Replicant]

Verbal and emotional abuses are still abuses. Tell her you're not okay with it and if she refuses to listen and the pattern continues, I hope you know when you have to part ways.

 

[hie]

I would've rolled out after the first "bitch".

 

[Messi]

She's also way too old to get away with the "I'm drunk" excuse. If it's a fight and she's sorry about it later then they can work it out I guess but being drunk doesn't give you the right to shit on your SO.

People of all ages get drunk and say stupid shit. Not an excuse, its just the way it is.

 

[Stallion Dan]

What did you do

 

[NormalFish]

People of all ages get drunk and say stupid shit. Not an excuse, its just the way it is.

Their SOs aren't obligated to forgive that, though.

 

[Blackleg-sanji1]

28. She's 25.

Instead of telling u your taking it to personal I'll ask you? Are you a heavy drunk? Is that what you like to be around when you GUys do go out? Like for example I had a girlfriend that drunk and smoked a lot obviously when drunk and high names will be called all types of cursing will happen etc I got tired of it because 1. I don't smoke and two it was embarrassing for me.

So maybe take a step back and think about it. And also hell just let her now she gets a bit crazy when drunk and you feel disrespected nothing wrong with that

 

[Tal Shiar Agent]

Wow you are way too old to be taking it to heart this much, fights happen and people say dumb shit especially when drunk.

In vino veritas.

Dump her and move on OP.

 

[Messi]

Their SOs aren't obligated to forgive that, though.

Absolutely. The shit you say and do while drunk at any age has consequences

 

[Boney]

Wait which was first, her calling you a bitch multiple times or she demanding drunk sex on the bathroom of whoever's place you were at?

Also, was she calling you a bitch directly or was she making fun of you in front of others addressing others?

Either way, sounds like she's a mental person and that something went down that night that triggered here and if I was a betting man I'd say something to do with an ex.

But sounds like trouble and if you're not gonna come down hard on her for what she pulled I'd just cut my losses and bail out.

 

[OniBarubary]

1. How long have you been with her?
2. Has this or anything similar happened before?
3. Does she have any history that would cause her to lash out if she was drunk, physically or emotionally damaging?

Shit like this is far from being irreparable or relationship destroying. It's certainly something that needs to addressed, talked about and worked out however. What you do depends on how those things go.