My GF called me bitch 3x then came into BR and when I wasnt ready said "Fuck You"
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Lol ok, have fun with that train wreck you call a relationship.
GhostWriter24
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We played flipcup. She was still socializing with everyone beforehand...maybe she was a 7-8? I was a 6? Or a 5? It's hard to quantify it but she claims she doesn't remember telling me to fuck myself, which is really upsetting because I remember it quite clearly.
Ummmm.
...is there a Ghostbusters thread still in circulation?
Well we already have him editing that she was calling him a bitch jokingly so we are halfway there
By making this thread, yes, he did.
Have fun being a condescending asshole when you know nothing about my relationship.
Although it's also clear that he didn't view it that way at the time so not sure what your point is aside from threadshitting
GhostWriter24
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Alright let's all just take a deep breath here, no?
I changed the OP because I wanted to assume she was joking with me when she called me that. Honestly, I can't be sure. So yeah, I did change it. I'll post this in the OP if you'd feel better about it.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Five bucks says she's gonna try to have makeup sex with OP in the morning tho
This thread is gonna be locked before the end of this page now, especially with all the name-calling.
OP, I am curious what happens tomorrow hen you talk to her. Find a way to let everyone know.
Heavy_D206
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Is this your first time dealing with a drunk chick?
They fly through every range of human emotion at a ridiculously quick pace. They go from puking and crying to taking their clothes off and making out with people.
If this starts to become common behavior then you need to cut her loose, but if it's a one time thing then don't sweat it and cut her a break.
They fly through every range of human emotion at a ridiculously quick pace. They go from puking and crying to taking their clothes off and making out with people.
If this starts to become common behavior then you need to cut her loose, but if it's a one time thing then don't sweat it and cut her a break.
lol you say that to me but not the guy calling my relationship a trainwreck?
well keep up with the good cop/bad cop and maybe this suspect will break?
dude you have the OP of the thread trying to calm you down, and nobody even called you a bitch.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Let's be honest, this entire thread is a trainwreck.
So you handle all your adult interactions by pre-gaming before hand with some liquor and making sure you're you're sufficiently sloshed? Because you're basically telling the OP no matter what is going on even if they are wasted they need to go right now to their girlfriend, tripping all the while, just to say "We're broken up"? That's the least adult thing anyone could ever do but you're supporting it because they "need to take a stand"? This can literally wait for sobriety. If it can't then no one was actually adult enough to have this conversation.
In a second doesn't literally mean in a second, are you serious with this?
This thread is some serious baffling shit
Wait until you both sober up and then talk it out. If you're still unhappy then you know what to do.
There is no objective measurement for your relationship. If her calling you a bitch, in the way she did upsets you then that's how you feel. Don't let anyone else convince you otherwise.
Try get to the bottom of it to see if there is some issue there, but I've known plenty of people who change when they drink and are just bad drunks. If so, then she shouldn't drink.
That's a complete myth. You get drunk enough things get distorted. Never trust anything a drunk person says.
There is no objective measurement for your relationship. If her calling you a bitch, in the way she did upsets you then that's how you feel. Don't let anyone else convince you otherwise.
Try get to the bottom of it to see if there is some issue there, but I've known plenty of people who change when they drink and are just bad drunks. If so, then she shouldn't drink.
That's a complete myth. You get drunk enough things get distorted. Never trust anything a drunk person says.
What? Where did I say any of this? Are you also drunk right now?
vinnygambini
Why are strippers at the U.N. bad when they're great at strip clubs???
I call people bitches all the time.
Aint nothing wrong with that.
Aint nothing wrong with that.
GHG
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Look, it's quite simple then. If she doesn't remember it and you believe her (if you trust her then you should be giving her the benefit of the doubt here) then you guys need to have a discussion about alcohol and how it might negatively effect your relationship. If she has trouble controlling herself when drunk then she needs to start taking measures to control her intake to remain in the "safe" zone where she is still in control of her actions.
If she doesn't take it seriously then it's your call as to whether you want to deal with her crazy shit every time she gets drunk or not.
Flat out breaking up with her over this without at least having a conversation with her about it first and explaining how you feel is incredibly petty and if you like her you will probably end up regretting it. You will come across far bigger bumps in future relationships. As it stands, until you fully understand her mindset, this shit is minor.
Yikes.
I suppose you could bring this up with her once she sobers up the following day, but god damn. I have such little respect for people who humiliate their SO, inadvertently or otherwise, especially in front of others.
I'd discuss this with her; if she apologizes and is sincere about it, then give her another chance. If she double-downs and gets defensive, then consider ending the relationship, as she clearly lacks respect for your feelings.
Drunk or not, she needs to be aware that her inappropriate actions/words have consequences; stunning lack of maturity for a 25 year old.
I suppose you could bring this up with her once she sobers up the following day, but god damn. I have such little respect for people who humiliate their SO, inadvertently or otherwise, especially in front of others.
I'd discuss this with her; if she apologizes and is sincere about it, then give her another chance. If she double-downs and gets defensive, then consider ending the relationship, as she clearly lacks respect for your feelings.
Drunk or not, she needs to be aware that her inappropriate actions/words have consequences; stunning lack of maturity for a 25 year old.
Hey before we continue, re-read the conversation. My literal only advice in this thread was wait until tomorrow because you'll be sober. If you don't have a problem in that you're just picking a fight because you want to pick a fight.
Are you? Or maybe you've been in this thread too long you're confused at who you're talking to and you think everyone who doesn't agree with you is wrong.
ScatheZombie
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If it's any consolation, people who take the "if the relationship isn't perfect, dump her" approach to every issue are either; incredibly young/naive and have no fucking clue what they are talking about, end up old and alone because they can never find someone who is their definition of perfect, or don't follow their own advice in their own relationship so you shouldn't bother listening to them anyway.
People are just super dense and definite. Like, if you say something isn't immediate break-up worthy, they think you mean it's totally fucking fine. Like there's a switch that just gets flipped. One fuck up and you're out. One incident and it's fucking 'emotional abuse'. There's no nuance, context, or discussion. There's no grey areas. There's no problem solving or conflict resolution. A problem comes up and it's time to fucking bail out.
Then they wonder why they don't have successful long term relationships while couples that have been together for 10+ years (like myself) point out how full of shit they are.
EatinOlives
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Sounds less like a "blurt" and more like prolonged verbal abuse throughout a whole night. This will be far from the last time he'll be around her drunk.
Byakuya769
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If djkhaled calls OP a "bitch," I'm 100% certain that khaled is his girlfriend.
This thread really is. I call for sober heads and clear minds to make a decision and now I have two posters attacking me as if I'm saying it's the OP's fault. You people have been in this thread so long you're just antagonizing people for no reason.
there does seem to be some real emotional drama in that intersection there.
Sickboy007
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I wouldn't put off the chance to forgive yet, but she would have to be very convincing. From what the OP said, she wasn't even that drunk (not that it makes it inherently better, but at least it's an explanation).
that's the million dollar question innit
This. Sometimes you get an angry drunk. Don't sweat it. Seems like she was trying to troll him and then want sex. If it becomes common, then have a real talk.
I reckon gamers are on the whole more often control freaks and don't get drunk. On the other hand, it could be simple relationships advice thread, where the common advice seems to be break up and be miserable single like us.
Strangelove77
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That kind of high quality twist would turn one of the current worst Gaf threads into one of the best.
It'd kind of be amazing.
GhostWriter24
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What it was was her continuously addressing me as bitch, and after each time I told her to stop saying that to me. After a third time, I went to the bathroom, she knocked on the door in front of others and called my name, and I let her in. She wanted me to fuck her on the spot, and I couldn't. It felt wrong. I left.
That's the situation.
I'm sober. I was a 5-6/10 roughly 7-8 hours ago.
Thanks. Very much.
And if someone repeatedly asks you to stop calling them a bitch, will you proceed to do so anyways?
NotTheGuyYouKill
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These type of posts should be ban-worthy.
vinnygambini
Why are strippers at the U.N. bad when they're great at strip clubs???
Then you are not my friend.
Kidding aside, the person in question was drunk. How can one expect a normal response from that said individual? A conversation the next morning to address the situation should follow through.
idk, from reading the OP u kinda sound like a bitch, OP ¯\_(ツ_/¯
you forgot this "/s"
Eppy Thatcher
God's had his chance.
This thread woulda been a graveyard by now...
GHG
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The OP said his girl couldn't remember saying those things. Some of you act like you are angels and have never done or said anything bad when drunk. We've all been there at some point in our lives. And if you haven't yet, then you will some day (as long as you actually drink).
With some of the responses in this thread you'd think she went and fucked some other guy after he declined.
I don't think a mod is reading this thread. At least I hope that's the case.
No one has said this. What has been suggested is the OP knows what he wants in a relationship as a 28 year old and he should stick to that. If it means not letting folks be ass holes too him, that's his perogative. I hate my partners driving, hate it, and we have arguments just from me suggesting switching lanes. What has never happened is me stooping to calling her names or questioning her mentality for it. It's never even entered my mind, because I love her and don't want to hurt her in any way.
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When you say you've been drinking all night I'm really less inclined to believe you but fair enough, that's your call to make not mine. As long as your not making drunk relationship decisions then there's no reason why you shouldn't have a break-up discussion if she's sober too (her sobriety is really for your own safety though).
Is it break-up worthy? Well that's really up to you. I don't know what your willing to put up with, think is a joke, or are willing to overlook because of her other virtues. Personally? If I'm slighted, I try to calm myself down, think about why I'm upset and then if it involves someone I very clearly express what it was that I took offense to and why and explain why they shouldn't do it again.
GhostWriter24
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I choose to think there is. I dont want anyone to be banned on my behalf.
Not even close to all night. Maybe from 1-6p? She's lighter than I am, though, and she probably said those things to me around 6p.
Yes, let's hope everyone that isn't saying DUMP HER NOW get's banned, that's how we promote discussion and help OP. I think the people saying that he shouldn't deny sex and all that are pretty fucked up, but just for disagreeing with him for wanting an echo chamber shouldn't be bannable.
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