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[ZackieChan]

I never said I didn't care.

And it was hardly two novels. I was answering the questions and responding to the assumptions people were making.

You wouldn't like some of my posts in the college football or cricket threads if you thought those posts were long, haha.

By "didn't care," I mean didn't want to date either of them. This ain't Friendship-Gaf OT.

But they were extremely long for the amount of investment you should have had in that particular interaction. Regardless, I'm kind of a dick, so just get used to it (I'm somewhat lovable, though).

My issue wasn't with how long they take to read, it's with the correlation between what you should be concerning yourself with versus the sheer amount of writing you did about the situation. Just seemed odd, and I certainly wasn't the only one to point it out!

 

[Miles Quaritch]

I'm not really seeing anything to be frustrated about, though. He was literally asked a single question, and because of a single incident in the past, attributed a ton of extra subtext into it, including her liking him. Then wrote two short novels about it while claiming not to even care. Just overall odd behavior.

But for Dating-Age, it was Tuesday.

Okay, I followed back the quote chain and yeah, this isn't anything like the first example I gave. I thought she was constantly on at him about it rather just asking once...

You're right, there's too much thought going into this if it's just one question.

Embrace them feels, chicko!

 

[Blitzrules240]

Well, the social worker texted me this morning to apologize. We had made plans to have drinks downtown tomorrow evening but now her mother is visiting this weekend...so I basically got cock blocked by her Mom lol.

Thankfully she still wants to hang out next week and I'm gonna be on vacation, so I'm gonna try to hang out twice to make up for lost time.

So this is sort of a non update but it did put a damper into my weekend plans.

 

[chicko1983]

By "didn't care," I mean didn't want to date either of them. This ain't Friendship-Gaf OT.

But they were extremely long for the amount of investment you should have had in that particular interaction. Regardless, I'm kind of a dick, so just get used to it (I'm somewhat lovable, though).

My issue wasn't with how long they take to read, it's with the correlation between what you should be concerning yourself with versus the sheer amount of writing you did about the situation. Just seemed odd, and I certainly wasn't the only one to point it out!

It's the closest thing to friendship gaf on here considering not much dating seems to be going on, haha.

Sorry, wast trying to single you out, yours just was the post which stuck out to me to respond to.

 

[Miles Quaritch]

No. We're both queer, and there's a rainbow parade next week, so she asked whether I'd like to meet her there. That's actually what I planned to ask in my earlier message, before I asked about Skype instead, as you recommended, so.. awesome!
I agreed, of course, but considering all the chaos and noise, I suggested to meet up a few days earlier in some quiet cafe to get to know each other first. I didn't mention a specific time/place, though. Waiting for her response right now.

Sounds good!

None of yall have ever bought clothes for someone or ever had clothese bought for you? Tbh I find that extremely weird as well. I dont think someone buying you a shirt equates to telling you what to wear but fuck do I know lol

I never bought a dress for anyone because womens clothing specifically dresses is not something particularly easy to buy for (also I have no one I would ever want to buy one lol) but just the concept of buyimg clothes for someone or someone buyimg clothes for you isn't weird.

What's weird is this whole thing comes across as trying to desparately salvage somehing through gifts and gestures. That's why "I bought you a dress and you should wear it to the dinner reservation I made, btw peep these Roses I got ya!!" comes across as excessive.

That's weird about all this

Not for someone I'm not in a committed relationship with. I'd find it weird as hell if a date randomly bought me a shirt to wear on our date just as much as I'm sure they'd find it super weird if I bought them a dress.

Buying people clothes in the context of a date has the hidden messaging of "wear this, I don't care what you had picked out. I want you to wear this".

Weird.

 

[chicko1983]

Okay, I followed back the quote chain and yeah, this isn't anything like the first example I gave. I thought she was constantly on at him about it rather just asking once...

You're right, there's too much thought going into this if it's just one question.

Embrace them feels, chicko!

She did ask me today if I had thought of anyone. I gave her the name of a friend to give to girl b to check him out on Facebook. We will see what happens.

 

[Gotdatmoney]

Not for someone I'm not in a committed relationship with. I'd find it weird as hell if a date randomly bought me a shirt to wear on our date just as much as I'm sure they'd find it super weird if I bought them a dress.

Buying people clothes in the context of a date has the hidden messaging of "wear this, I don't care what you had picked out. I want you to wear this".

Weird.

This is his girlfriend isnt it? If my girlfriend buys me a shirt and says "you should wear this tonight", I'm prob just gon wear it. I.dunno, doesn't ring any alarms to me personally.

Edit: Oh gawd reading this over please tell me that is his girlfriend. Because if not holy fuck do not buy that dress.

 

[dskillzhtown]

Has anyone taken a nice, long break from dating? Why'd you feel the need to take a break? How long did you take off dating? What finally motivated you to get back into it (if you did at all)?

I just stopped 3 months ago and haven't really felt the urge to start again until recently. But now that i'm settled into a nice new place and have more spare time on my hands, I would like to do some more dating. Maybe i'll give bumble a try.

Of course. Life gets in the way of dating at times and plus if a few dates in a row go nowhere, I take a break from meeting someone new. Right now I am in a situation where I am truly casually dating. Nothing serious, not really trying to meet someone new. When you go on a string of dates that go nowhere it is easy to start to think that it is a complete waste of time.

 

[ZackieChan]

This is his girlfriend isnt it? If my girlfriend buys me a shirt and says "you should wear this tonight", I'm prob just gon wear it. I.dunno, doesn't ring any alarms to me personally.

Edit: Oh gawd reading this over please tell me that is his girlfriend. Because if not holy fuck do not buy that dress.

They were together for a couple months, but then she broke up with him recently. It's part of his attempts to get her back, I think.

 

[dskillzhtown]

How has Bumble in BFF mode worked for you? I'd seriously take dudes out for drinks/dinner these days to see if anything clicked. Met a cool guy (and his wife, meh) last weekend at my friend's pig roast, and I need to text him to set up beers that we agreed to.

In girl-land: congratulatory flowers should arrive tomorrow evening for my lady to celebrate her exam. Her parents will be in town the following day and stay throughout the weekend. We're meant to get together on Monday, and I made reservations for her favorite restaurant (and still need to buy a dress for her as a surprise). Basically, I'm content with this plan of attack -- I'm doing everything right -- and, you know, if it doesn't work out, I had (and am having) a great visit with my parents, which I've never had in my entire life. The girl taught me that family's important, and if that's all she does, it's truly worthwhile.

Hold up. Is this "your lady" or some girl you are trying to get with? Doing all that for someone you aren't serious with is a complete mistake. You do all that for someone who means something to you, not someone you are trying to impress. In the end, it looks poor to do all this for someone who couldn't possibly mean that much to you in such a short time. Plus, where in the hell do you go from there? Once you get serious are you going to buy her a boat or something?

The "plan of attack" sounds like something you do for someone you are serious about and have been together for awhile. But by using the phrase, "plan of attack" it seems like you two aren't together at all.


edit -

They were together for a couple months, but then she broke up with him recently. It's part of his attempts to get her back, I think.

That makes it worse. Together for only a couple of months, she calls it off and he is doing the "please baby baby please" to get her back? Curious to know what she thinks of all this.

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

Good lord. I love when a thread blows up overnight. Yes, for everyone calling my ideas creepy and disconcerting and full of thirst: this is my girlfriend, whom I've been with since January.

They were together for a couple months, but then she broke up with him recently. It's part of his attempts to get her back, I think.

That makes it worse. Together for only a couple of months, she calls it off and he is doing the "please baby baby please" to get her back? Curious to know what she thinks of all this.

This is his girlfriend isnt it? If my girlfriend buys me a shirt and says "you should wear this tonight", I'm prob just gon wear it. I.dunno, doesn't ring any alarms to me personally.

Edit: Oh gawd reading this over please tell me that is his girlfriend. Because if not holy fuck do not buy that dress.

There's no "please baby please" here -- I have self-respect, I promise. The problem is that I cross-posted in the other thread, and it's hard to keep track sometimes. The tl;dr version: been going out for five months, but we had some issues to work on, and she asked for a break until her next exam, yet stated that she didn't want to be without me. Since then, we've talked every day and we both hope that the time apart has been good for us.

I think this is what I was getting at. I guess it's nice that it's a congratulations gift, BUT there's already flowers and now a special dinner and dress - it's like the opera night in Pretty Woman now. Seems like too much to me.

Sure, the flowers are for congratulations. Monday's a nice dinner to celebrate my first day at a new job and her finishing this exam. I guess I'm still wavering about the damn dress now. Do people really think it's too much? I mostly wanted to roll in there with confidence, and a female friend suggested this would be a bold statement. It's not meant to impress. But it could always be saved for a subsequent outing.

 

[Lone_Prodigy]

I'm a bit surprised at the responses to AD's "plan of attack". But then again, this is Dating-Age, not Relationship-Age. I believe they've been together for six(?) months and it's very serious, so I don't think his grand romantic gesture reeks of desperation. Is it a bit excessive? Maybe (it's not my style). But they've been apart for some time and her exam seems pretty important to her; why not splurge a little?

I remember meeting some friends for lunch and one was decked out in a suit. I asked him what the occasion was, and he said his girlfriend was finishing her exams so they were going out later to celebrate at a fancy restaurant. Me, I celebrate the end of exams by sleeping in and playing video games all night.

If she's fine with it, all the power to him.

EDIT: I see he responded already.

 

[ZackieChan]

Eh, I have no idea what the right move is.

Congrats on the job, though, AD!

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

Eh, I have no idea what the right move is.

Congrats on the job, though, AD!

It's a contract gig at a sneaky place, but it might roll past the end of the FY, and I'm networking the fuck out of DoJ line attorneys. For them, I am not beyond "please baby please" tactics.

 

[ZackieChan]

It's a contract gig at a sneaky place, but it might roll past the end of the FY, and I'm networking the fuck out of DoJ line attorneys. For them, I am not beyond "please baby please" tactics.

Buy them hookers and blow. Leave the dress at home.

 

[Kiever Sher]

Hiking girl cancelled just as I was leaving. She has to help her brother with a math paper. A likely story. She wanted to move it to Saturday but I said I couldn't make that work, which I can't. Felt a bit bad about being so short so said it was a shame we couldn't meet. Bah, people are annoying. Another one bites the dust. Clear case of cold feet, right?

Got a jeans on for nothing.

 

[Gotdatmoney]

Hiking girl cancelled just as I was leaving. She has to help her brother with a math paper. A likely story. She wanted to move it to Saturday but I said I couldn't make that work, which I can't. Felt a bit bad about being so short so said it was a shame we couldn't meet. Bah, people are annoying. Another one bites the dust. Clear case of cold feet, right?

Got a jeans on for nothing.

Well I never heard of a math paper before so. . . . Yeah probably. Her brother should also struggle through writing his own fictional paper.

 

[Kiever Sher]

Well I never heard of a math paper before so. . . . Yeah probably. Her brother should also struggle through writing his own fictional paper.

Maybe she meant test? Or maybe it's a postmodern paper on the unique nature of math in everyday life and its usage... yeah probably not.

It's weird how people go from so eager to.. nope so quick. Dating age huh.

 

[Gotdatmoney]

Maybe she meant test? Or maybe it's a postmodern paper on the unique nature of math in everyday life and its usage... yeah probably not.

It's weird how people go from so eager to.. nope so quick. Dating age huh.

Depending om the age of her brother she either A) shouldnt need more than an hour or 2 to help him study B) would be of no help without essentially learning it all herself again or C) is like a Masters in Math student. Is she a masters student lol?

I dont see why people hop on datimg apps but aimt tryimg to meet. Ego boost?

 

[Kiever Sher]

Depending om the age of her brother she either A) shouldnt need more than an hour or 2 to help him study B) would be of no help without essentially learning it all herself again or C) is like a Masters in Math student. Is she a masters student lol?

I dont see why people hop on datimg apps but aimt tryimg to meet. Ego boost?

She feels ''so bad'' but it's the ''serious exams'' and she can't let him down. She's ''so so sorry'' I wish people would just straight up say ''sorry, changed my mind'' it would be a lot easier and I wouldn't have to wonder what's what.

I've heard of the ego boost thing, she was the one who brought up meeting me though. She just skipped over Saturday and no suggestion for another day. Maybe I'll just let this one alone. She orgainised the whole thing, picked the place etc so a bit confusing.

 

[gwailo]

I dont see why people hop on datimg apps but aimt tryimg to meet. Ego boost?

One of the reasons.

Also:

For the lulz (groups of women getting together and talking shit about guys they've "met" on there)

Just "seeing what's out there" (excuse for their social awkwardness/anxiety that will never allow them to actually go on a date)

In a shitty relationship and want to talk to "nice" men

Waiting for Brad Pitt riding a rainbow colored unicorn that shits out gold bricks (technically trying to date, but have ridiculously high standards that will never be met)

Catfishing/LARPing/trolling (BBWs posing as models and the like)

Bots/scammers

I've heard of the ego boost thing, she was the one who brought up meeting me though. She just skipped over Saturday and no suggestion for another day. Maybe I'll just let this one alone. She orgainised the whole thing, picked the place etc so a bit confusing.

Given that, it's probably her getting cold feet than being insincere. I had women cancel via text while I was literally at the place we were meeting at. A lot of guys in OLD don't take rejection well, so most women will give excuses or just ghost rather than coming straight out and saying they're not interested any longer.

I'm a bit surprised at the responses to AD's "plan of attack". But then again, this is Dating-Age, not Relationship-Age. I believe they've been together for six(?) months and it's very serious, so I don't think his grand romantic gesture reeks of desperation. Is it a bit excessive? Maybe (it's not my style). But they've been apart for some time and her exam seems pretty important to her; why not splurge a little?

My 2 cents is that buying clothes for a woman is VERY tricky, especially if they try to dress nice, do their makeup, etc. The women like that I've known are very particular about the style, brands, colors, etc they will wear. They may appreciate getting a dress, but if it isn't something they like ("this is the wrong shade of black") the expectation of them having to wear it in public to please/thank you may stress them out.

Think about it like getting an ugly sweater from a crazy aunt that you then have to wear to the next family function. A lot of women really stress out about stuff like that, that's why it takes them forever to get ready. Probably a better move is to bring them shopping to one of their favorite stores and let them pick out something they like.

 

[Weckum]

Gonna sit with my now-ex on Saturday. It'll be a week after we broke up and I'm doing okay. Still think about her and us a lot and I know it'll be better. It'll just take time.

I just still have a question I want answered, and I want you guys to chime in on this because it's just so weird to me.

Three weeks ago we got into an argument after she got a call from her ex (he cheated on her, now he wants her back even though he has a girlfriend now). I wasn't too worried about it but she said she'd like it if I was a bit more jealous. Anyway, we get into some kind of argument but nothing major.

Day after I'm still a bit grumpy and she asks me why I'm grumpy when she basically is trying to tell me 'I just want you and I want you to tell me you just want'. Next time I see her I tell her this. Just over a week later she breaks up with me because she feels she isn't ready for a committed relationship yet. I can't in my right mind understand how it's possible she changed her mind that quickly?

I know thinking about these things after a breakup are pointless but I still like to see what you guys think, because it absolutely baffles me.

 

[Kiever Sher]

One of the reasons.

Also:

For the lulz (groups of women getting together and talking shit about guys they've "met" on there)

Just "seeing what's out there" (excuse for their social awkwardness/anxiety that will never allow them to actually go on a date)

In a shitty relationship and want to talk to "nice" men

Waiting for Brad Pitt riding a rainbow colored unicorn that shits out gold bricks (technically trying to date, but have ridiculously high standards that will never be met)

Catfishing/LARPing/trolling (BBWs posing as models and the like)

Bots/scammers



Given that, it's probably her getting cold feet than being insincere. I had women cancel via text while I was literally at the place we were meeting at. A lot of guys in OLD don't take rejection well, so most women will give excuses or just ghost rather than coming straight out and saying they're not interested any longer.

Jesus I didn't even think of ANY of those reasons. The girl group thing has me shook.

I guess she just maybe thought it was a bit quick. Maybe I'll try to reschedule. Another excuse/vague response and I'll know for certain.

 

[gwailo]

Gonna sit with my now-ex on Saturday. It'll be a week after we broke up and I'm doing okay. Still think about her and us a lot and I know it'll be better. It'll just take time.

I just still have a question I want answered, and I want you guys to chime in on this because it's just so weird to me.

Three weeks ago we got into an argument after she got a call from her ex (he cheated on her, now he wants her back even though he has a girlfriend now). I wasn't too worried about it but she said she'd like it if I was a bit more jealous. Anyway, we get into some kind of argument but nothing major.

Day after I'm still a bit grumpy and she asks me why I'm grumpy when she basically is trying to tell me 'I just want you and I want you to tell me you just want'. Next time I see her I tell her this. Just over a week later she breaks up with me because she feels she isn't ready for a committed relationship yet. I can't in my right mind understand how it's possible she changed her mind that quickly?

I know thinking about these things after a breakup are pointless but I still like to see what you guys think, because it absolutely baffles me.

Don't overthink it. She is NOT ready for a relationship. Someone that actually wants their SO to be jealous is an immature drama queen. She was intentionally trying to goad you by talking with an ex, especially one that she (and you) knows is trying to get back together with her. Life's too short for bullshit junior high school games like that. I wouldn't even bother talking with her; she just seems really toxic to me.

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

My 2 cents is that buying clothes for a woman is VERY tricky, especially if they try to dress nice, do their makeup, etc. The women like that I've known are very particular about the style, brands, colors, etc they will wear. They may appreciate getting a dress, but if it isn't something they like ("this is the wrong shade of black") the expectation of them having to wear it in public to please/thank you may stress them out.

Think about it like getting an ugly sweater from a crazy aunt that you then have to wear to the next family function. A lot of women really stress out about stuff like that, that's why it takes them forever to get ready. Probably a better move is to bring them shopping to one of their favorite stores and let them pick out something they like.

This is a good point. My female friend who helped hatch the idea said, "This shows boldness and confidence, and it proves that you know what she likes." And if she's like, "Oh, I don't like this" -- and believe me, she's as blunt as I am -- then the appropriate play would be to let her wear something else.

I don't think it's going to be that hard, and I'm going to do it -- in the future, but not Monday -- mostly because I think she'll appreciate the gesture, and I know her best. Besides, I want her to see me in my new suit. If I fail (or succeed) miserably, I'll be sure to let you all know.

However, I love how The Dress now has a vocal "yes" and "no" communities.

 

[jdstorm]

Good lord. I love when a thread blows up overnight. Yes, for everyone calling my ideas creepy and disconcerting and full of thirst: this is my girlfriend, whom I've been with since January.



There's no "please baby please" here -- I have self-respect, I promise. The problem is that I cross-posted in the other thread, and it's hard to keep track sometimes. The tl;dr version: been going out for five months, but we had some issues to work on, and she asked for a break until her next exam, yet stated that she didn't want to be without me. Since then, we've talked every day and we both hope that the time apart has been good for us.



Sure, the flowers are for congratulations. Monday's a nice dinner to celebrate my first day at a new job and her finishing this exam. I guess I'm still wavering about the damn dress now. Do people really think it's too much? I mostly wanted to roll in there with confidence, and a female friend suggested this would be a bold statement. It's not meant to impress. But it could always be saved for a subsequent outing.

The dress is too much. Exhibit A: Brandon routh in Arrow season 3.
never copy dating moves from characters played by Brandon routh

 

[ZackieChan]

It sounds like a plan that a woman came up with, thinking that it'd be romantic in an idealized world. In reality, those things don't often work or come off as creepy.

 

[Advocatus Diaboli]

It sounds like a plan that a woman came up with, thinking that it'd be romantic in an idealized world. In reality, those things don't often work or come off as creepy.

Fine. Actually, I basically decided y'all were right. Don't say that I don't listen to advice in this thread. If I do it, it's going to be much later in the relationship, and it's going to be the "I'm taking you shopping" route.

Now that The Dress is settled, can we move on to others' problems so I can give advice? I'm sappy and sentimental tonight: I'm at my parents' house, and my childhood SNES died.

 

[ZackieChan]

Fine. Actually, I basically decided y'all were right. Don't say that I don't listen to advice in this thread. If I do it, it's going to be much later in the relationship, and it's going to be the "I'm taking you shopping" route.

Now that The Dress is settled, can we move on to others' problems so I can give advice? I'm sappy and sentimental tonight: I'm at my parents' house, and my childhood SNES died.

Agreed with first paragraph. Richard Gere you are not.

Burn the SNES on a pyre in your backyard. It's the only way to heal your relationship with your father. Then go camping with him or something.

 

[salty_Josh]

Hey gaf the weirdest thing happened to me yesterday. I was messaging this girl who I know quite well and thought was cute and I was about to send the message asking her to go on a date. Then I all of a sudden realised I don't like her like that. Has this happened to anyone else Where you "pull out" at the laast second not because she might say no but because she might say yes? It was super weird.

Edit:
I see now she was kinda fishing and I was sort of coached into it. I guess this shouldn't be in this thread but we don't have an anti-dating-age thread.

 

[Miles Quaritch]

It sounds like a plan that a woman came up with, thinking that it'd be romantic in an idealized world. In reality, those things don't often work or come off as creepy.

Yeah, there's some crazy level of projection going on there. This is what I'd love to happen to me, it's so cute and romantic. I've learnt the hard way to not take too much advice from female friends, they can have a tendency to project a lot of their desires because they feel what works for them will work for someone else...that's rarely ever been the case.

Take bits of advice but advice on grand gestures, clothes, make up gifts after a big fight or just gifts to make someone feel special...that doesn't tend to work out well.

Anyway, glad to see common sense prevailed.

 

[Ambitious]

No. We're both queer, and there's a rainbow parade next week, so she asked whether I'd like to meet her there. That's actually what I planned to ask in my earlier message, before I asked about Skype instead, as you recommended, so.. awesome!
I agreed, of course, but considering all the chaos and noise, I suggested to meet up a few days earlier in some quiet cafe to get to know each other first. I didn't mention a specific time/place, though. Waiting for her response right now.

Sounds good!



Not for someone I'm not in a committed relationship with. I'd find it weird as hell if a date randomly bought me a shirt to wear on our date just as much as I'm sure they'd find it super weird if I bought them a dress.

Buying people clothes in the context of a date has the hidden messaging of "wear this, I don't care what you had picked out. I want you to wear this".

Weird.

Still nothing, even though she has been online a few times. Not just quickly checking for new messages or something; she was answering OKC questions for a while.

For the love of god, please don't ghost me at this stage. Not now.

 

[Gotdatmoney]

She feels ''so bad'' but it's the ''serious exams'' and she can't let him down. She's ''so so sorry'' I wish people would just straight up say ''sorry, changed my mind'' it would be a lot easier and I wouldn't have to wonder what's what.

I've heard of the ego boost thing, she was the one who brought up meeting me though. She just skipped over Saturday and no suggestion for another day. Maybe I'll just let this one alone. She orgainised the whole thing, picked the place etc so a bit confusing.

Eh. Thing about people you have to understand in general is that words mean nothing. You can say any shit, its easy. Following through, making your actions project your words, that's all that matters.

So when someone sounds excited or brings up meeting you simply have to wait until they follow through. People that consistently follow through on their words, those are people who gain trust and make themselves more believable. But someone you just met in an app? Nothing they say holds any weight. Because you have to actually follow through with your words for them to mean anything.

So when someone bails on a date dont take it as an indictment of you. At the end of the day its someone you met who talks a lot but doesn't follow through. That's not someone to lose sleep over. You'll only ever be disappointed if you put all your faith in someone who hasn't even done basic trust building activity #1: actually follow through on something that requires more than talk.

As long as you recognize that nothing matters until they do something other than talk, you wont get discouraged. And yeah a lot of people use dating apps with no intention of dating. Its why I dont have Tinder/Bumble. Not looking for anything at this point, no reason to waste everyone's time.

 

[gwailo]

Still nothing, even though she has been online a few times. Not just quickly checking for new messages or something; she was answering OKC questions for a while.

For the love of god, please don't ghost me at this stage. Not now.

A lot of people have multiple messages going on, don't be creepy/clingy by sitting and constantly looking at the app waiting for a message. If there is a pride festival going on this weekend, there are probably a ton of people on local dating/hookup sites. You should be seeking out others as well.

 

[Miles Quaritch]

Agreed. Don't be creepin' her account or waiting for a reply. Give her some time, if she doesn't respond, send one more message the night before the festival and if there's no reply, move on.

Speaking of the festival, do you have any plans to go by yourself?

 

[Blitzrules240]

Have to reschedule my date and any day works but I'm blanking on which day to pick and where to go. I could just do my original plan but she mentioned doing trivia night at a local pizza restaurant on Tuesday. idk how Trivia night would go as a first date but I want it to be convenient for the both of us.

Also I texted the former classmate that I'm on vacation next week if she wanted to hang out and get a beer but I got no response...so I'm just gonna drop that one.

 

[Jokab]

Have to reschedule my date and any day works but I'm blanking on which day to pick and where to go. I could just do my original plan but she mentioned doing trivia night at a local pizza restaurant on Tuesday. idk how Trivia night would go as a first date but I want it to be convenient for the both of us.

Also I texted the former classmate that I'm on vacation next week if she wanted to hang out and get a beer but I got no response...so I'm just gonna drop that one.

If you sense that the two of you are somewhat on the same level of intellectuality (is that a word?), then trivia night could be a great idea because of the teamwork aspect. However if one of you is far ahead of the other in general knowledge, then it could be quite unfun for the less knowledgeable of the two of you to never know the answer.

 

[electricshake]

Have to reschedule my date and any day works but I'm blanking on which day to pick and where to go. I could just do my original plan but she mentioned doing trivia night at a local pizza restaurant on Tuesday. idk how Trivia night would go as a first date but I want it to be convenient for the both of us.

Also I texted the former classmate that I'm on vacation next week if she wanted to hang out and get a beer but I got no response...so I'm just gonna drop that one.

I've done pub quizzes for a first date a couple of times and it's worked well. Less chance for awkward silences but still plenty time to chat. Do it!

 

[Zaraki_Kenpachi]

Jesus I didn't even think of ANY of those reasons. The girl group thing has me shook.

I guess she just maybe thought it was a bit quick. Maybe I'll try to reschedule. Another excuse/vague response and I'll know for certain.

Why would you be shook over people you'll never meet talking about you which is still a low likelihood?

 

[gwailo]

Have to reschedule my date and any day works but I'm blanking on which day to pick and where to go. I could just do my original plan but she mentioned doing trivia night at a local pizza restaurant on Tuesday. idk how Trivia night would go as a first date but I want it to be convenient for the both of us.

Trivia can be pretty fun. One of the first dates me and my wife went on was a trivia night and we had a blast. Plus we ended up winning a $50 bar tab, so it was a cheap date as well

 

[Tdog987]

She after she cancelled at the last hour, I got really really down. So that I night I pounded pavement on pof and Okcupid

At the end of the night I got 4 dates (today-wed) lined up

Tonight is a girl from pof. She was dumb and didn't read my profile (says I don't want kids, but she does) before clicking the "wants to meet me button. She world retail. Looks ok, but She smokes pot and uses words like dope and yo...this is one is to knock of the dating rust, since it's been a year and a half since my last 1st date. Best case scenario is getting laid I guess. Her fault for not reading. She did text me last night (at 9:30) wanting me to meet her for happy hour, but I declined since I was tired and it would have taken me 40 min to get there. For the date, we are going to Applebee's for happy hour

Monday is the one with the most potential. Chubby asain from Okcupid. We had great texting back and forths. This is the weirdest date...she wanted to go to jack I box for dinner. I offered something fancier, but she declined. There is a coffee shop right next to there, so we can make another stop. This will be the fanciest I ever dress up for jack in the box

Tuesday is a pof girl. This one is super direct and kind of loud I imagine. We know an area of where we are going out, but we decided to pick a restaurant when we meet. Then go for a walk afterward. She is s theater costume designer. I'm not holding out much hope for this one

Wed is a girl from Okcupid. She is a big movie buff, so she even put in her screen name. We are going to see capstan America. We had good texting Chem. I hold out more hope than sun and tue, but not mon. We'll probably grab something to eat afterward, so we can actually talk

I have a date on pof 90% set up...don't know much about her bc she didn't have much of a profile. We decided on movie and dinner, but just trying to figure out if we do it Thursday or Friday


Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

As with the girl that cancelled...probably gonna text her tomorrow or Tuesday and see if she wants to reschedule. She wants sex and I want sex, so I'm hopeful this will be rescheduled

So I had a 2nd date with the Wed girl...as we were (2nd date...the conjuring 2) talking after the movie next to her car. We decided on a 3rd date. She then asked what we were...I said "well we're dating...do you want to just be exclusively dating?" she was like "yeah, I would find it weird if you were dating other people too", so I canceled my OkCupid, pof, and tinder. We became friends on FB, and we are now "in a relationship"



Thank you so much for your support everyone. My ex of a year and 3 months dumped me on May 13th (a Friday) and it was very hard

I so happy

I'll check in periodically and help my brothers and sisters out when I can

 

[Miles Quaritch]

Two dates seems awfully quick to call something a relationship...two dates also seems awfully quick to even ask that question...

Anyway, If you're happy, that's all that matters. I'd just say that you should keep some level of emotional independence should it not work out. Hope for the best but sometimes you gotta think about your own emotional health first and foremost, even when you're in a relationship.

 

[Lone_Prodigy]

2 dates, and less than a month after your last relationship?

 

[Lionheart1827]

So I had a 2nd date with the Wed girl...as we were (2nd date...the conjuring 2) talking after the movie next to her car. We decided on a 3rd date. She then asked what we were...I said "well we're dating...do you want to just be exclusively dating?" she was like "yeah, I would find it weird if you were dating other people too", so I canceled my OkCupid, pof, and tinder. We became friends on FB, and we are now "in a relationship"



Thank you so much for your support everyone. My ex of a year and 3 months dumped me on May 13th (a Friday) and it was very hard

I so happy

I'll check in periodically and help my brothers and sisters out when I can

Nice man! Though it is a little early in general for "relationship talk" but every relationship is different, just be cautious from here on out since it seems like its moving fast.

 

[Miles Quaritch]

2 dates, and less than a month after your last relationship?

I want to say something and I think some might know what that is, but I feel like I might across as a major dick if I do and I don't want to ruin posters happy moment...

 

[Gotdatmoney]

2 dates, and less than a month after your last relationship?

I call that efficiency.

 

[Tdog987]

Nice man! Though it is a little early in general for "relationship talk" but every relationship is different, just be cautious from here on out since it seems like its moving fast.

Honestly it probably is...I'm going to see a psychiatrist next Thursday and probably get on some anti depressants. I am moving slow, bc it does feel a bit quick, but if it doesn't work...oh well

I want to say something and I think some might know what that is, but I feel like I might across as a major dick if I do and I don't want to ruin posters happy moment...

It's ok. I can imagine what it is. I'm not going in to this with super high expectations right off the bat (that would be dumb)

I call that efficiency.

It's like finding a job. The more messages/resumes you send out, the less time it will probably take to find someone and you have more options the more people you meet

 

[Banjo-Kazooie]

I want to say something and I think some might know what that is, but I feel like I might across as a major dick if I do and I don't want to ruin posters happy moment...

Is it about a certain colored flag?

I've been seeing someone for like a month now and have hung out probably 10 times or so, and even I don't want to ask what we are yet, so 2 dates to me is wayyyyyy too soon (although she did bring up yesterday that we don't have any pictures together yet, so I took that as a subtle hint heh). Especially after just being out of a relationship for not even a month. Oh well though, if hes happy hes happy I guess

Edit: just read that the second date was a movie, which features pretty much no social interactions...so really just 1.5 dates assuming dinner was at least had

 

[Tdog987]

Is it about a certain colored flag?

I've been seeing someone for like a month now and have hung out probably 10 times or so, and even I don't want to ask what we are yet, so 2 dates to me is wayyyyyy too soon (although she did bring up yesterday that we don't have any pictures together yet, so I took that as a subtle hint heh). Especially after just being out of a relationship for not even a month. Oh well though, if hes happy hes happy I guess

Edit: just read that the second date was a movie, which features pretty much no social interactions...so really just 1.5 dates assuming dinner was at least had

Well before the 1st date we had coffe for an hour and chatted

And after the movie last night we chatted for another hour

I think we've been texting like non stop since the 1st date

I don't disagree with the the some of gaf's opionion that it's probably a little soon. I'm going in cautious

 

[Banjo-Kazooie]

Well before the 1st date we had coffe for an hour and chatted

And after the movie last night we chatted for another hour

I think we've been texting like non stop since the 1st date

I don't disagree with the the some of gaf's opionion that it's probably a little soon. I'm going in cautious

Ya not trying to be disrespectful, you seem to have a good grasps on it, just putting in my .02....everyone is different and that's what makes dating fun