Did I just get dated?

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Greddleok said:
I'm more just shocked that someone could use such an underhanded tactic to arrange a one-on-one meeting.

I eat lunch with my co-workers who are women and men all the time one-on-one, and I've never felt like I was being dated. It's just a friendly lunch. It's the fact I was lead to believe there would be multiple people. Multiple people means it's friendly.
Also the questions where standard date fare.

Probably over thinking it, but it was super weird.

I'm not looking to date. She was cute. I'm late 20s. I also have no idea if she has a boyfriend/husband/partner.

Violated was an exaggeration.
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Well, if you would of manned up and asked what happened to her friends you wouldn't be in this situation. Were you having a good time before you began to overthink the situation? That's all that matter. Truth be told, her friends probably bailed and she wanted to make friends with you and now you think women are trying to "trick date" you.
 
Greddleok said:
I'm more just shocked that someone could use such an underhanded tactic to arrange a one-on-one meeting.

I eat lunch with my co-workers who are women and men all the time one-on-one, and I've never felt like I was being dated. It's just a friendly lunch. It's the fact I was lead to believe there would be multiple people. Multiple people means it's friendly.
Also the questions where standard date fare.

Probably over thinking it, but it was super weird.

I'm not looking to date. She was cute. I'm late 20s. I also have no idea if she has a boyfriend/husband/partner.

Violated was an exaggeration.
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Jesus Christ...
lol, some of you on this board.... SMH
 
Greddleok said:
So I'm new in this town and a girl at my gym invited me to lunch with her and her colleagues from the university's psychology department. Seemed friendly enough so I accepted.

When I turned up, it was just her. We also ended up talking for way longer than I would if I was eating lunch with other buddies. I started freaking out a little towards to end because I wasn't prepared for that kind of interaction so I decided it was time to go after about an hour of talking.

The worst part was the goodbye. I didn't know whether to hug her (see my previous thread) or what. So I gave an awkward wave and hastily went in another direction.

I'm so confused. Was I tricked into a date? I didn't ask where her friends were because I didn't want to be presumptuous. I feel a little violated.
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Sounds like a 3rd date to me.
 
If you're not looking to date and she's trying to make something more between you two, you need to let her know that. Right now, if she's oblivious (a lot of people are, like myself), then you're just leading her on.
 
Greddleok said:
I'm more just shocked that someone could use such an underhanded tactic to arrange a one-on-one meeting.

I eat lunch with my co-workers who are women and men all the time one-on-one, and I've never felt like I was being dated. It's just a friendly lunch. It's the fact I was lead to believe there would be multiple people. Multiple people means it's friendly.
Also the questions where standard date fare.

Probably over thinking it, but it was super weird.

I'm not looking to date. She was cute. I'm late 20s. I also have no idea if she has a boyfriend/husband/partner.

Violated was an exaggeration.
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Yeah! That scheming wench! Trying to make a new friend. SO UNDERHANDED!
 
Greddleok said:
I'm more just shocked that someone could use such an underhanded tactic to arrange a one-on-one meeting.

I eat lunch with my co-workers who are women and men all the time one-on-one, and I've never felt like I was being dated. It's just a friendly lunch. It's the fact I was lead to believe there would be multiple people. Multiple people means it's friendly.
Also the questions where standard date fare.

Probably over thinking it, but it was super weird.

I'm not looking to date. She was cute. I'm late 20s. I also have no idea if she has a boyfriend/husband/partner.

Violated was an exaggeration.
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Is this real life.
 
Greddleok said:
I'm more just shocked that someone could use such an underhanded tactic to arrange a one-on-one meeting.

I eat lunch with my co-workers who are women and men all the time one-on-one, and I've never felt like I was being dated. It's just a friendly lunch. It's the fact I was lead to believe there would be multiple people. Multiple people means it's friendly.
Also the questions where standard date fare.

Probably over thinking it, but it was super weird.

I'm not looking to date. She was cute. I'm late 20s. I also have no idea if she has a boyfriend/husband/partner.

Violated was an exaggeration.
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As if it matters. EA Sports, it's in the game.
 
entremet said:
Underhanded tactic?

Good fucking lord.
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Oh man, I wonder what he would call the time I convinced the girl I was dating (now my wife) that we should get a single hotel room with two beds instead of two rooms to save cash on a trip we took with other students to Universal Studios.

Shit went just according to plan.
 
Greddleok said:
How should I have said bye? Handshake? Super awkward hug like a wooden plank? High five?
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OP getting roasted.

It's okay OP, awkwardness happens. However, your words on it in retrospect are kind of weird. Just be real about it. If you don't like her, ask her "Hey, what happened to your friends last time out?" if you guys are talking. If she isn't up front then, if you happen to meet up with her again and get date vibes, either drop the hint that you aren't looking to date or be up front yourself.

It ain't nearly as deep as you're making it out to be.
 
Greddleok said:
How should I have said bye? Handshake? Super awkward hug like a wooden plank? High five?
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Say "Hey I have to get going, but I did really enjoy getting lunch with you. We'll have to do it again sometime." Smile, and walk away.

Seems like basic human interaction has become less common than common sense nowadays.
 
You blew it.

You had the perfect opportunity to take her back home and show her the latest video games but you let it slip through your greasy little fingers.
 
BudokaiMR2 said:
Oh man, I wonder what he would call the time I convinced the girl I was dating (now my wife) that we should get a single hotel room with two beds instead of two rooms to save cash on a trip we took with other students to Universal Studios.

Shit went just according to plan.
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Play of the Game tier move here. Going for a single bed would have been pushing your luck but a single room is just enough plausible deniability.
 
Chapter 2: GAF, I met this girl recently and she kept acting friendly every time we were together. What was even weirder was she always seemed to just want to spend time with me on my own. This happened like five times and it scared the hell out of me, especially as we had loads to talk about and we seemed to have a lot in common. Then last night she invited me back to her house and we were sitting on her bed and she put her hand on my peepee. I got up and got the hell out of there because that made me feel dizzy and confused and honestly pretty violated. What gave her the right to touch my special area like that? Is this rape? I'm not sure if I should call the cops on her.
 
Greddleok said:
I'm more just shocked that someone could use such an underhanded tactic to arrange a one-on-one meeting.

I eat lunch with my co-workers who are women and men all the time one-on-one, and I've never felt like I was being dated. It's just a friendly lunch. It's the fact I was lead to believe there would be multiple people. Multiple people means it's friendly.
Also the questions where standard date fare.

Probably over thinking it, but it was super weird.

I'm not looking to date. She was cute. I'm late 20s. I also have no idea if she has a boyfriend/husband/partner.

Violated was an exaggeration.
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Holy shit. Luck is wasted on you, my friend.
 
kavanf1 said:
Chapter 2: GAF, I met this girl recently and she kept acting friendly every time we were together. What was even weirder was she always seemed to just want to spend time with me on my own. This happened like five times and it scared the hell out of me, especially as we had loads to talk about and we seemed to have a lot in common. Then last night she invited me back to her house and we were sitting on her bed and she put her hand on my peepee. I got up and got the hell out of there because that made me feel dizzy and confused and honestly pretty violated. What gave her the right to touch my special area like that? Is this rape? I'm not sure if I should call the cops on her.
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LMFAO
 
Did she pay for your food? If she did then it was probably a date. If you paid for both of you it was probably a date. If you split it then probably not.
 
kavanf1 said:
Chapter 2: GAF, I met this girl recently and she kept acting friendly every time we were together. What was even weirder was she always seemed to just want to spend time with me on my own. This happened like five times and it scared the hell out of me, especially as we had loads to talk about and we seemed to have a lot in common. Then last night she invited me back to her house and we were sitting on her bed and she put her hand on my peepee. I got up and got the hell out of there because that made me feel dizzy and confused and honestly pretty violated. What gave her the right to touch my special area like that? Is this rape? I'm not sure if I should call the cops on her.
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LOL. Sadly, I can see a post like this coming from GAF.
 
alright, i cringed a lot reading your post.

yes you got "dated".

the fact you made a thread to ask that question probably is indicative of your issues.
 
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