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[AbortedWalrusFetus]

Ignore her texts and get to sleep OP. You've got a lot to do tomorrow, between packing, working things out with your landlord, work, and hitting the gym. You're not going to get any insights into her thoughts and nothing you say is going to change the result. Cut the cancer out of your life and leave it behind you.

 

[OCD Guy]

Wait, that's ocd?

If you got cheated on....I'm fucked.

That's an old picture though.

Also the looks don't really dictate whether someone cheats. Infact I've seen people cheat with people who might be less attractive than their partners.

I don't think it's necessarily because of looks, infact if the looks were a problem in the first place they wouldn't be with that person.

Often it's just people drift apart, get bored and countless other reasons. I think regardless of the reason looks are often very low down the list.

 

[Solideliquid]

OP,

Did you text her back? Maybe she will apologize. Or at least give you a hint of her mindset so you can at least weight the risk of leaving your stuff at home tomorrow vs calling in.

 

[OCD Guy]

OP,

Did you text her back? Maybe she will apologize. Or at least give you a hint of her mindset so you can at least weight the risk of leaving your stuff at home tomorrow vs calling in.

No I've not responded, it's too late to get into anything. She tried calling but ignored it.

Not heard anything since.

 

[God Dayumm]

So any summaries as to why this thread is 3,000 comments long?

- First it was bickering about "muh adult conversations"
- That failed because the gf is a womanchild
- More bickering
- DetectiveGAF unleashes pics
- Everyone faps to OP pics (Because he is damn hot)
- More bickering about "calling the cheater ugly is misogyny!"
- More fapping
- More bickering
- People begging for summaries
- More fapping
- More begging
- etc.

 

[Soodanim]

You can take the day off and should. You just phone and tell them you have a personal problem that you need to deal with and will be in the next day. It's that fucking simple.

I guarantee that your stuff is fucked up if you leave that house empty.

This is a good point. Unless you're irreplaceable tomorrow, it's not like you're making excuses. You have more pressing matters than work, unless you absolutely need the money.

 

[Zackat]

That's an old picture though.

Also the looks don't really dictate whether someone cheats. Infact I've seen people cheat with people who might be less attractive than their partners.

I don't think it's necessarily because of looks, infact if the looks were a problem in the first place they wouldn't be with that person.

Often it's just people drift apart, get bored and countless other reasons. I think regardless of the reason looks are often very low down the list.

pretty much.

 

[names2hard4you]

I am impressed by how calm you are OP. Really impressed.

Make sure to have a conversation with the girl at some point, but do not do it through text. Try to keep yourself calm and listen to what she has to say. If she starts throwing blame on you, don't even try fighting back because she is simply not worth it.

If she tries to apologize, and you feel like it is an earnest apology, or if there is some sort of background to the situation, use your judgement. I certainly wouldn't tolerate something like this, but you guys have history together, I am sure.

Be aware that it isn't unusual for someone that cheats to cheat again. Use that knowledge and whatever she says to you and weigh your options. Is she worth all this trouble?

 

[Helensmith]

Maybe start packing now if you can't sleep and have to go into work tomorrow.

 

[riotous]

What's with all the worry she's going to "Fuck up your shit"?

 

[Pancake Mix]

What's with all the worry she's going to "Fuck up your shit"?

OP said she was the type to get destructive and throw a tantrum, but OP has a nice OLED and a PS4, so we're worried about those.

 

[Slayer-33]

I'm glad I took part in this thread, sorry OCD, I would have cussed the vile friend out by now.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

Holy fuck, this thread blew up.

It was three pages when I saw it last time.

 

[Atilac]

Talk to her.

She was an ass to you, but let her explain herself.

I believe in second chances, you might find she deserves one.

Or you will just be more confident with your decision to get the fuck outta there

Keep your advice to yourself. It's one thing to be spineless, quite another to convince someone to follow suit.

 

[Talonz]

Sorry, OCD. You have way more restraint than me.

 

[Alpha Centauri]

As stated before, Do not talk to her over text. If you have to, do it in person. Edit: Or just block her and cut bait.

Do not believe her lies.

She wants to feel superior however this goes down. Either by winning you back, or by making you out to be the bad guy.

Don't fall for it. The relationship is already done once you confronted her. If you go back, she will find a way to break up with you at the worst possible time. Probably on a holiday or your birthday. It's just how people are.

Godspeed OP

 

[Disxo]

OP said she was the type to get destructive and throw a tantrum, but OP has a nice OLED and a PS4, so we're worried about those.

And the high end gaming pc

 

[dreamcastmaster]

She's not trying to salvage the relationship. She's trying to win the breakup.

She'll go supersweet and then a) rage against you for breaking up with her "for no reason" or "mistakes she made in the past", or b) she'll get back together so she can dump you properly over some arbitrary slight in two weeks.

100% truth in this post, remember this for any of your future breakups.

 

[GYODX]

Would've been better if you'd gone through with your original plan, whatever that was. I can totally understand why your emotions got the best of you, though. And it made for a more entertaining thread, at least.

Apart from that, I gotta say, I'm really impressed by how level-headed and reasonable you've been. You're a legitimately chill dude.

 

[B.O.O.M]

Read all of it...ALL OF IT

Damn OCD you have been an absolute rock so far in this ordeal. Hell even inspirational. Calm and collected while knowing wtf you want. Mad props

I have been through similar shit. I repeat, you are damn lucky you found this out now and not later so count your blessings. You will be more than fine going forward.

 

[Atilac]

As stated before, Do not talk to her over text. If you have to, do it in person. Edit: Or just block her and cut bait.

Do not believe her lies.

She wants to feel superior however this goes down. Either by winning you back, or by making you out to be the bad guy.

Don't fall for it. The relationship is already done once you confronted her. If you go back, she will find a way to break up with you at the worst possible time. Probably on a holiday or your birthday. It's just how people are.

Godspeed OP

Ever fucking truth right here!!!

 

[OCD Guy]

I am impressed by how calm you are OP. Really impressed.

Make sure to have a conversation with the girl at some point, but do not do it through text. Try to keep yourself calm and listen to what she has to say. If she starts throwing blame on you, don't even try fighting back because she is simply not worth it.

If she tries to apologize, and you feel like it is an earnest apology, or if there is some sort of background to the situation, use your judgement. I certainly wouldn't tolerate something like this, but you guys have history together, I am sure.

Be aware that it isn't unusual for someone that cheats to cheat again. Use that knowledge and whatever she says to you and weigh your options. Is she worth all this trouble?

I wasn't completely calm when I snapped earlier though, I think that's because I was letting my feelings build up. still it did kinda feel good for a split second to say what I thought.

The look on her face was something else though.

With regards to us getting back together, there's no chance, I don't give second chances, if someone really cares they won't put the relationship on the line.

If there's issues she should have spoken about it, and if she had enough of me she should have ended it before.

Maybe start packing now if you can't sleep and have to go into work tomorrow.

I'm far too tired to pack anything now, the chances of me waking up at 7am are very slim, so it is likely going to be a phone call to my manager in the morning...

What's with all the worry she's going to "Fuck up your shit"?

She's been prone to breaking my stuff.

I got addicted to football manager a couple of years ago and she threw the laptop I was using at the time against the wall.

To be fair I did get obssessed with it, literally on it in all my spare time, and never going to bed with her when she was round etc so I understand why she'd be frustrated, but damaging my stuff wasn;t right.

 

[Aselith]

Well checking my phone to see that a poster wanted to start "making my life hell" was real fun.

Thanks to those of you who shut that down even if they didn't know if it was me.

Anyways OP, as someone who has had rhinoplasty: you most certainly don't need it and it's not worth the complications.

Hope that got passed to a mod

 

[Ashhong]

I'll probably be in bed by then.

It's 1:40am right now, but I'm going to send you a request anyway so when you're next on send me an invite.

I normally just play with randoms but it will be good to try playing with a gaffer.

You ever see my request for haircut pics? Just sayin

 

[OCD Guy]

You ever see my request for haircut pics? Just sayin

No I didn't, there were so many replies earlier that by the time I'd quote a few posts another 10 would appear. So there's a lot of posts I've missed.

What did you say?

 

[san00ake]

How long is the relationship? Do you love her? Do you think she loves you?
Have a good, long, calm conversation with her and decide what to do after that.
You don't demolish a house every time a light bulb breaks, you go get a ladder and change the light bulb. Just my two cents.

 

[Cabbagehead]

How long is the relationship? Do you love her? Do you think she loves you?
Have a good, long, calm conversation with her and decide what to do after that.
You don't demolish a house every time a light bulb breaks, you go get a ladder and change the light bulb. Just my two cents.

I think we're way pass that.

 

[names2hard4you]

I wasn't completely calm when I snapped earlier though, I think that's because I was letting my feelings build up. still it did kinda feel good for a split second to say what I thought.

The look on her face was something else though.

With regards to us getting back together, there's no chance, I don't give second chances, if someone really cares they won't put the relationship on the line.

If there's issues she should have spoken about it, and if she had enough of me she should have ended it before.

Fair enough. If it was me I'd probably feel the exact same if not worse, and heck I'm known for not really being the emotional type, even with my girlfriend. If this was to ever happen to me, I'm not even sure I'd be able to throw a sick burn like you did lol.

And this is good and I agree with you right there. Even if she does say she feels bad about it, nothing stopped her from doing it before behind your back. Not cool. It is really like people say, you only really miss something when you don't have it anymore.

 

[Alebrije]

As stated before, Do not talk to her over text. If you have to, do it in person. Edit: Or just block her and cut bait.

Do not believe her lies.

She wants to feel superior however this goes down. Either by winning you back, or by making you out to be the bad guy.

Don't fall for it. The relationship is already done once you confronted her. If you go back, she will find a way to break up with you at the worst possible time. Probably on a holiday or your birthday. It's just how people are.

Godspeed OP

 

[Retsudo]

How long is the relationship? Do you love her? Do you think she loves you?
Have a good, long, calm conversation with her and decide what to do after that.
You don't demolish a house every time a light bulb breaks, you go get a ladder and change the light bulb. Just my two cents.

I think we're way pass that.

Yeah that ship has sailed, hit an iceberg and going down to the centre of earth as we post.
Op, you should at least lie down and try and get some rest. You wont sleep, but at least allow yourself to take a breather.

 

[Ashhong]

No I didn't, there were so many replies earlier that by the time I'd quote a few posts another 10 would appear. So there's a lot of posts I've missed.

What did you say?

I asked if you had more pictures of your haircut in that photo haha. I want to emulate the style. Or if there's a specific name for the style

 

[Boney]

How did the confrontation end up happening? Somebody have a page number I could check?

Seems like you kicked her out? Good for you man.

Managed to catch that you just blurted it out and she denied it and hid in the bathroom? What a spineless coward

 

[OCD Guy]

I asked if you had more pictures of your haircut in that photo haha. I want to emulate the style. Or if there's a specific name for the style

Which photo? As I posted a few in the rate the poster thread?

 

[Dommo]

How long is the relationship? Do you love her? Do you think she loves you?
Have a good, long, calm conversation with her and decide what to do after that.
You don't demolish a house every time a light bulb breaks, you go get a ladder and change the light bulb. Just my two cents.

A light bulb? More like the foundations of the house have been rotting away for an unknown period of time and it's become structurally unstable to live there anymore. Time for a demolition I think.

 

[Experien]

Had to go home and do a podcast for the past 2 hours...what did I miss?!

 

[Jombie]

Boredom, immaturity and resentment can transcend good looks.

Stuff like this reminds me that If i ever get divorced, I'm living out the rest of my days as a hermit.

 

[Arkos]

- First it was bickering about "muh adult conversations"
- That failed because the gf is a womanchild
- More bickering
- DetectiveGAF unleashes pics
- Everyone faps to OP pics (Because he is damn hot)
- More bickering about "calling the cheater ugly is misogyny!"
- More fapping
- More bickering
- People begging for summaries
- More fapping
- More begging
- etc.

I can vouch for this, I've been doing a lot of fapping. Wait what were we talking about?

 

[Retsudo]

How did the confrontation end up happening? Somebody have a page number I could check?

Seems like you kicked her out? Good for you man.

Check page 26 for "the confrontation".

 

[sirap]

The worse thing about this situation is not knowing what else she's done behind your back. Doesn't matter how handsome or wealthy you are, that shit's a terrible blow to your confidence.

Also, STDs...

 

[Jonogunn]

See OP and evryone in the morning I guess?

 

[Ashhong]

Which photo? As I posted a few in the rate the poster thread?

yea the one above

 

[Brazil]

We're all (partially) in this with you, man. Personally I've been following the thread the entire day and have not been able to stop thinking about the whole thing.

Try to get some sleep, and tomorrow will be better!

 

[Twilight Princess]

So, op is single?

 

[Tabasco]

Was reading this on page 10..

now 63.

Can anyone give a summary as to what happened?

 

[Bsigg12]

So anyone got a good summary for those just joining?

 

[commedieu]

It does not matter how attractive you are, some people can not help themselves.

Familiarity breeds contempt.

Cheater.

 

[tmac456]

Finally caught up. Mainly just read OPs replies but throughout I kept wanting to yell "Confront her immediately. Put the iPad with the dick pick in front of her and see what she'd say."

Because I knew you being in the same room as her was going to eat at you until you snapped.

Also, you need to contact your parents immediately so they can get over there and get your stuff out. No way can you leave your stuff there while you're at work.

 

[iBlue]

62 pages wow any summary?

 

[Exodust]

Good on you, OP. The worst thing you could have done was have her talk and convince yourself you're in the wrong. You handled this like a pro.

 

[Archpath1]

Can OP and I be friends now ,and have bro time?
Maybe PC lan party?