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[cilonen]

Just when you think the thread can't hit you any harder....

 

[O Canada Our Home and Native Land]

I appreciate it's difficult to convey as no one here knows me, but I'm really introverted. I mean look at the facts I'm on a gaming forum and play games excessively in my spare time.

People that know me wouldn't be shocked at my reaction.

The biggest shock was me snapping last night while she had the ipad out. That alone would have suprised anyone that knows me. That's why she was shocked, and didn't know what to do.

Change the locks!

 

[Future PhaZe]

OP is smooth as shit. Yea she lied and tried to come out as good in the breakup but it doesn't matter. She's gone and that's what matters.

 

[freethoughtbubble]

Wow this girl sounds like a grade-A dirtbag. Spinning the whole thing to make you look like some terrible person, even in front of your parents. I hope karma hits her hard.

If you ask me, it already has. People like this don't pan out.

Hey, as long as OP's sure they believe him, I think he can spare his poor parents the dick pic. If they're as proper as he says they are, they'll probably be scandalized by the very concept of a dick pic.

 

[Kwixotik]

I appreciate it's difficult to convey as no one here knows me, but I'm really introverted. I mean look at the facts I'm on a gaming forum and play games excessively in my spare time.

People that know me wouldn't be shocked at my reaction.

The biggest shock was me snapping last night while she had the ipad out. That alone would have suprised anyone that knows me. That's why she was shocked, and didn't know what to do.

Yeah, but not everyone knows you that well and she now knows she can talk all the shit she wants with no repercussions.

 

[Xenex]

I've been following this thread from the beginning and been on the OP's side all the way. The way she lied to your parents OP is a disgrace, I think you finding that photo was a blessing in disguise.

 

[Squalor]

Something seems weird, she was willing to lie about you cheating while you were in the room?

Even if she was wrong, that seems more like something she believes is true, rather than a purposeful and deceitful lie. Especially since she knew you had evidence.

No, it sounds like the ramblings of a guilty conscience.

She got cornered and became the shrill shrew she has always been.

 

[Lashley]

I think she could make up some story and bringing her waterworks to biker dick. Key or not that guy is paying you a visit if he has a backbone.

Staying in the same place is a risky move.

Why would he?

 

[Sephzilla]

Get dem locks changed immediately

 

[Statue of Limitation]

If OP had kicked up a fuss the lease could have become more of an issue, for the time being it is best to playcate his Ex while this is sorted - after that he still has a roof over his head and he hasn't lost any friends so he will be ok and move forwards.

His parents will get more details if he think its neccesarry to defend his character, but as for his ex and her friend they've spun the situation around so much since last night they probably actually do think this is OP's fault, the violation of privacy is the pertinent issue and he has been lousy the past couple of months so no wonder she did what she did blah blah blah

A scene was only going to posibly wreck some of his shit or cause financial headaches which will add to the stress of the whole situation.

Pretty sucky couple of days for you OP, good luck moving on with it.

 

[disastermouse]

It's Essex, I'd imagine it has one of the highest concentrations of WVM per square mile in the world.

People keep saying 'It's Essex'. Can some of UKGAF be explicit in explaining what that means? I saw the show clip but have no idea what specifically it's pointing out.

 

[ChaosZeroX]

I appreciate it's difficult to convey as no one here knows me, but I'm really introverted. I mean look at the facts I'm on a gaming forum and play games excessively in my spare time.

People that know me wouldn't be shocked at my reaction.

The biggest shock was me snapping last night while she had the ipad out. That alone would have suprised anyone that knows me. That's why she was shocked, and didn't know what to do.

Fancy seeing some more dicks?

I love you OP

 

[Glass]

And yeah, change the locks. I wouldn't put it past her friend, if not her. It takes £6 and 5 minutes to get a key cut.

 

[D6AMIA6N]

change the locks, she could have made or had another spare

Wouldn't it suck to come home to your place trashed?

 

[AbortedWalrusFetus]

I appreciate it's difficult to convey as no one here knows me, but I'm really introverted. I mean look at the facts I'm on a gaming forum and play games excessively in my spare time.

People that know me wouldn't be shocked at my reaction.

The biggest shock was me snapping last night while she had the ipad out. That alone would have suprised anyone that knows me. That's why she was shocked, and didn't know what to do.

No worries dude, the hard part is over. The only thing you need to do if you want to do any damage control on your reputation is a simple facebook post stating "I had reasons to do what I did relating to my relationship. If anyone is curious as to why they can feel free to contact me in private and get my side of the story, which I can easily back up with evidence." It's probably not necessary because as you said your friends circle is pretty separate from hers.

 

[LifEndz]

She's gone?

Fuck her. O.P. won. She's an awful person. You're better off.

As I said yesterday, her her ass out. Glad things have worked out.

Awful seems a bit harsh. She definitely has a lot of growing up to do.

 

[cilonen]

I appreciate it's difficult to convey as no one here knows me, but I'm really introverted. I mean look at the facts I'm on a gaming forum and play games excessively in my spare time.

People that know me wouldn't be shocked at my reaction.

The biggest shock was me snapping last night while she had the ipad out. That alone would have suprised anyone that knows me. That's why she was shocked, and didn't know what to do.

Man. you're a legend. You're handling this really well and in a completely adult way. Kudos.

 

[KingSnake]

Something seems weird, she was willing to lie about you cheating while you were in the room?

Even if she was wrong, that seems more like something she believes is true, rather than a purposeful and deceitful lie. Especially since she knew you had evidence.

It can also be something that was build up in her discussion with her friend, so she might believe it now, trying to justify him dumping her so fast after an "innocent" mistake. I could bet she thinks she did nothing too wrong. (and that's why not explaining her anything makes her "win" because she probably thinks now that she's right in her assumptions)

 

[diablos991]

Why would he?

She could make up any number of stories. Like "and that jerk is keeping my TV".

Think of the OLED here. It's at risk and it can't do anything about it. OLED is completely reliant on OP.

 

[Kaiken]

You seem to be in the clear now OP. You've held amazing restraint throughout this. Time to kick back, knock down a few beers, play some games then rub off a huge breakup load before bed. You'll wake up feeling amazing.

 

[Xun]

Personally in your situation I'd post up the chat she had on FB.

What a fucking cunt.

 

[Random Painted HIghway]

Good idea to not reveal that you have proof. You don't need to prove anything to your parents and winning now isn't as important as getting the lease resolved and her gone. If she persists you will have the nuclear option to drop, but at the time of your choosing to produce an optimal result. everyone in that room knows what's going on here, there is no need to prolong the pain and engage in a he said she said.

 

[Kinitari]

Something seems weird, she was willing to lie about you cheating while you were in the room?

Even if she was wrong, that seems more like something she believes is true, rather than a purposeful and deceitful lie. Especially since she knew you had evidence.

Does she know he has evidence?

People often lie when they go into defense mode. My ex lied about having my phone to both me and her mom. Luckily my buddy was there with me and a few days ago we tried the Google maps find your friends app thing, and could see where my phone was - at her new boyfriend's place. Her mom was like "are you swearing to me you don't have his phone?" And she replied "mom... I'm not lying, I didn't take anything", "but honey, it says that his phone is at [new boyfriends] place" "*click*".

 

[ZeroMaverick]

Silver lining here is that your mum is paying your ex's half of the rent for the remainder of the lease. You now have a bachelor pad all to yourself. That's kind of cool, right? And if you do meet a new lady (not that you should rush into it), you'll have somewhere to bring here, somewhere you won't have to sheepishly say, "Sorry, me mum's in bed, so we have to be quiet."

 

[Lashley]

She could make up any number of stories. Like "and that jerk is keeping my TV".

Think of the OLED here. It's at risk and it can't do anything about it. OLED is completely reliant on OP.

That guy might come, see the OLED and just fall in love with it

OP and biker dick man become the best of friends

 

[chefbags]

OP is smooth as shit. Yea she lied and tried to come out as good in the breakup but it doesn't matter. She's gone and that's what matters.

Unrelated but is your avatar lilymaymac's dog or just your dog?

I noticed for one, cause she posts a lot of of pics of her dog and your avatar seems related and two, she's gorgeous as fuck lol.

If not then just don't mind me haha.

 

[Dre3001]

I dont know how the OP did it.

Im annoyed just reading that she lied and pull that BS with your parents.

OP should have printed the convo/ pic and just dropped them on the floor in the middle of her fairytales that she was telling your parents without saying a word.

 

[Linkstrikesback]

People keep saying 'It's Essex'. Can some of UKGAF be explicit in explaining what that means? I saw the show clip but have no idea what specifically it's pointing out.

Essex is a place just outside london. It has a lot of "Man with Van" type people. Unless there's something more to this that I'm missing?

 

[ElRenoRaven]

She left her key, So she can't come back.

I just want to emphasise that I didn't react more out of respect for my parents, they are a bit prim and proper and they don't like all that sort of stuff.

It wasn't anything at all to do with my ex, or not wanting to upset her, or worried about her or her friends reaction.

We've got seperate circles, yeah we would do like couple nights, but the guys were acquaintances. Her friends might think I'm a cunt, but that won't matter. It's not as though their opinions will effect me.

I have to say you've handled this great. I know you said she left her key but I'd still change the locks. You just don't know when or if she has ever had a duplicate key made. Don't take a chance. Tell the landlords you would like the locks changed. Explain to them why and I am pretty sure they'd probably do it.

 

[disastermouse]

In addition, contrary to what you'd think, this thread is really improving my perspective about people in general. Even the most vengeful advice here is still pretty tame/funny. Very few people are using this one (I'm assuming young) woman's behavior as an excuse for mysogeny. OP seems to be astoundingly decent - the kind of guy who if I had a daughter, I'd want her to be with. He also shows a surprising amount of insight for someone so young - far more than I ever did at that age.

 

[God Dayumm]

You have a fundamental misunderstanding of family law. If you have been raising children as your own, they are considered your responsibility, even if you are not the biological father. I'm sure he loves the children, and if you can decide that you don't love them anymore because they are not technically "yours," then you are a terrible person. Also, don't immediately call a lawyer and assume your wife was twice impregnated by someone else because of a snapchat name. Talk with her, first.

I'm sure the post you quoted didn't mean to stop providing for the children. You can have the other spouse paying for the child support. Whoever moves first has better chances, and a lawyer will guide him on how to proceed with documenting every interaction with the cheating spouse, so that when the shit hits the fan he will be able to produce convincing evidence that she is not fit to keep the children.

 

[Iceman829]

Change the locks, like yesterday.

She left her key, So she can't come back.

I just want to emphasise that I didn't react more out of respect for my parents, they are a bit prim and proper and they don't like all that sort of stuff.

It wasn't anything at all to do with my ex, or not wanting to upset her, or worried about her or her friends reaction.

We've got seperate circles, yeah we would do like couple nights, but the guys were acquaintances. Her friends might think I'm a cunt, but that won't matter. It's not as though their opinions will effect me.

Change the locks anyway dude. It's a safety thing and I've heard bad things in the past with people I know. People make multiple copies of keys sometimes or they hide keys in case they are locked out.

As long as your friends and family know you're straight that's all good. If she tries to mess with you just light the fire and let it burn down on her. I'm an asshole so I would've taken the dog or made her buy me out of it just to piss her off.

Best of luck in the future

 

[cilonen]

People keep saying 'It's Essex'. Can some of UKGAF be explicit in explaining what that means? I saw the show clip but have no idea what specifically it's pointing out.

Essex is a place just outside london. It has a lot of "Man with Van" type people. Unless there's something more to this that I'm missing?

It's the Jersey Shore of the UK

 

[Xenex]

Like others have said, I also think of you should get the locks changed.

 

[MisterR]

Not really. Even his parents have now two versions of the same story with a similar weight attached to it. She even put more weight in her story than the OP in his.

They're his parents. I highly doubt they put any weight in her story.

 

[andythinkpad]

Get dem locks changed immediately

Yeah we are at the stage of walking the fired employee out, you need a security there to ensure minimum drama.

Change the lock or at least put a lock on the bedroom door so you can put your own stuff in it.

 

[Weevilone]

Picking the locks or kicking in the door are trivial as well. That's why I suggest ensuring proper insurance coverage if OP intends to leave his things there.

I'd leave the locks alone and setup a proper nanny cam.

I've pretty much taken in the whole thread, and it's probably hindsight and all that.. but I think she should have been gone when she threw the laptop. And if her choice of friends is what it seems from the one represented here (someone that doesn't respect boundaries, or anything else) then that's even more evidence that she wasn't worth a relationship.

But the laptop toss was a shot across the bow. Any sort of physical response to a relationship problem is bad news. Playing a game too much is cause for a discussion, not violence or abuse of someone's expensive personal property.

 

[KingSnake]

Good idea to not reveal that you have proof. You don't need to prove anything to your parents and winning now isn't as important as getting the lease resolved and her gone. If she persists you will have the nuclear option to drop, but at the time of your choosing to produce an optimal result. everyone in that room knows what's going on here, there is no need to prolong the pain and engage in a he said she said.

Nuclear option is not so nuclear after a while. Especially in a world in which you can photoshop anything. If she spreads her bullshit and people buy her side of the story, him coming with these screenshots after the whole thing passed might not be so nuclear.

He should have shown the screenshots to her already, so she would know that he has that. Nothing else.

 

[nortonff]

OP, I have been following the thread since the beginning, and I think you handled the whole situation like a boss.
Congratulations.
Now take some time, hit the gym, call your friends, get drunk, etc....and in no time you'll find someone way better.

 

[Lashley]

Yeah, OP.

I'd change the locks, just be to safe.

 

[JigglesBunny]

That's great, you get to keep the place and she leaves. Best outcome. Feel bad for the dog.

I'm eagerly awaiting the dog's thread when it finds a picture of a tail on her iPad.

 

[Replicant]

She left her key, So she can't come back.

It doesn't matter. CHANGE THE LOCKS, SAVE THE OLED!

 

[cilonen]

OP, I have been following the thread since the beginning, and I think you handled the whole situation like a boss.
Congratulations.
Now take some time, hit the gym, call your friends, get drunk, etc....and in no time you'll find someone way better.

I think OP has the gym situation on lock.

 

[DrBo42]

Like others have said, I also think of you should get the locks changed.

It's not a suggestion, it needs to happen. That and the landlord needs to be told she no longer has access so she's not let in while OP is at work.

 

[Lashley]

I'd leave the locks alone and setup a proper nanny cam.

I've pretty much taken in the whole thread, and it's probably hindsight and all that.. but I think she should have been gone when she threw the laptop. And if her choice of friends is what it seems from the one represented here (someone that doesn't respect boundaries, or anything else) then that's even more evidence that she wasn't worth a relationship.

But the laptop toss was a shot across the bow. Any sort of physical response to a relationship problem is bad new. Playing a game too much is cause for a discussion, not violence or abuse of someone's expensive personal property.

Yup.

I'd have finished it, and demanded she paid for a new one. Fuck that.

 

[Always-honest]

Do you have a shared bank-account?
She's a person who would take all.

 

[DKHustlin]

man OP you are so god damn cool Ive been reading this since yesterday and if i knew you id be your bud

 

[Dyson Industries]

It's the Jersey Shore of the UK

*ding ding*

OP, change your locks immediately. I cannot stress this enough.

 

[ChaosZeroX]

I commend you for keeping quiet OP, I would of not done the same. Had a girl pulled that shit on me, I'd get the dick pic from my email and shove it in her face.

 

[Negaduck]

Brother OCD, I'm glad that you were able to handle it very civilly even if she was throwing all that shade your way. You did great. Glad you didn't end up having to move your stuff.

Someone get this man a tag.