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My coworker thinks I'm stalking her because I found her home address on a website
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GrizzleBoy
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Imagine going on a first date with someone, and them asking you about stuff you never told them?
"Hey you didn't drive the BMW? I googled you and checked your address out on Google maps. Saw the X5 in the driveway. Nice house btw! I really like the way the blinds set off the colour scheme of the outer wall decorations. Anyway, enough about that. Your LinkedIn says you're still working with your ex that I found on Facebook? What's up with That?"
Come to think of it, the internet is kinda scary.....
"Hey you didn't drive the BMW? I googled you and checked your address out on Google maps. Saw the X5 in the driveway. Nice house btw! I really like the way the blinds set off the colour scheme of the outer wall decorations. Anyway, enough about that. Your LinkedIn says you're still working with your ex that I found on Facebook? What's up with That?"
Come to think of it, the internet is kinda scary.....
TheOfficeMut
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As far as this entire topic goes, the only thing I'd find weird is telling the person you researched her. Aside from that, the actual act of taking a few minutes out of your day to do a Google search is not at all weird to me. As I said, it's also my profession to conduct due diligence on people so every single day I have to wade through hits on Google to pull up anything adverse I may find on a subject.
The Salt Life
Banned
This thread is disturbing af and I have a pretty high threshold. I never liked detectiveGAF, If this is the next evolution of it, for shame.
I don't know if you're still working there OP, but if she did the right thing she would be doing is going to HR and having you put on blast or losing a job. Messed up.
I don't know if you're still working there OP, but if she did the right thing she would be doing is going to HR and having you put on blast or losing a job. Messed up.
GHG
Gold Member
Ok so let me get this straight... When a new employee starts at the company you work for, instead of saying to a colleague or the receptionist/secretary "hey, I heard we have a new joiner, where do they sit I'd like to go and introduce myself" or something along those lines, you go and look them up on Facebook?
Maybe I'm just a tad old school but as far as I knew most people post things on Facebook primarily for their friends and family to see, not for random dudes at work whom they haven't met yet.
GrizzleBoy
Banned
Ah, I see you've finally noticed the probe.
Nice diet btw. Really balanced macros. Keep up the good work!
Funny enough, this is exactly what my last employer did.... asked me if I had a Facebook account, for the not so obvious reason at the time of checking me out.
Poor GRIMES
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always crazy bacon
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All he has to do is go back to the girl with the reasons he was looking her up online and she'll see it was perfectly innocent. Just copy his posts in this topic that explain it well and send to her. What do 100's of gaffers know anyway!
It is a bit creepy OP.
Also got a question that popped into my heads, how would you feel if the roles were reversed, if a girl said she researched a guy and found out DOB, address etc.
I asked my friend about this and he said he would take it as a positive and wouldnt be a big deal. Me probably the same.
Also got a question that popped into my heads, how would you feel if the roles were reversed, if a girl said she researched a guy and found out DOB, address etc.
I asked my friend about this and he said he would take it as a positive and wouldnt be a big deal. Me probably the same.
outunderthestars
Banned
Six pages and the op still has not expressed any empathy for the girl, understanding as to why she would be upset, or remorse for his actions.
GHG
Gold Member
Just because the information is available it doesn't mean you should do it. Yes, that person is leaving themselves open, but have you ever stopped to think that it might not be intentional? There is a lot of sensitive information out there on the public domain and I think people need to show each other a little more respect in terms of the "research" you might decide to do prior to meeting somebody. Unless it's your job, dont act like a private detective.
There are much better ways to find out what somebody looks like or what they are about or even when their birthday is. It involves getting off your arse and having some real human interaction with that other person.
GrizzleBoy
Banned
Well that kind of makes me wonder.
If your information is made public by your own doing, should you not expect that people will access that info if they want to?
Can you claim to have private Information violated while displaying it in a public forum? If you pose naked and post it on Facebook, am I at fault for seeing the pictures, if you didn't want me to see the pictures?
I suppose you could argue about the ethics of it, but if you put yourself out there, then you're out there.
Edit: I understand this obviously depends on the scale of what's being looked up and the level of effort/means needed to do so.
MarkMclovin
Member
Lol at the fake outrage of googling someone.
Monochromaticx
Member
LMAO
Talk about self sabotage 😂
Talk about self sabotage 😂
It isnt like he met her online dude, this is a work ennvironment where he didnt need to stalk her online for information, he could have just met her if she was willing. As is, he definitely comes off as a creep just because he got asked if he was single
Mammoth Jones
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Who the fuck Google's their coworker they barely know then tells them? Who does this? Does that seem normal to you?
If so go find a co-worker you generally don't ok now well and go find as much info as you can via Google. Then let them know. Please report your finding back to this thread...
Count Dookkake
Member
Almost in tears reading this thread. Some killer lines. Good work, GAF.
I hope the youngsters learn from this one.
I hope the youngsters learn from this one.
This has probably been said in 11 pages but:
1) Assuming it happened as you described, that's not stalking.
2) you don't tell a woman something like that because you will absolutely sound like a stalker.
3) best to distance yourself as much as you can from her at this point and hope time heals wounds because this is an L your gonna have to hold for a while.
1) Assuming it happened as you described, that's not stalking.
2) you don't tell a woman something like that because you will absolutely sound like a stalker.
3) best to distance yourself as much as you can from her at this point and hope time heals wounds because this is an L your gonna have to hold for a while.
I'd say it's really more of a light sprinkling of stalking.
sturgboski
Member
"My coworker thinks Im stalking her because I am" is how I read the thread title.
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
How did you know what happened in the bathroom? Were you posting this from a stall in the girls bathroom? Did you repel into it through the ceiling?
Slayer-33
Liverpool-2
Probably the best post lol
RumblingRosco
Member
"My coworker thinks I'm stalking her because I'm stalking her" is what came to my mind.
This x1000. It's really weird the response here. It's normal in my line of work (academia) to do this, so l don't get why it is taboo every where else.
TheOfficeMut
Unconfirmed Member
And I agree. My line of work requires this sort of stuff as well (due diligence). I only find it weird if you tell the person you know this information or you happen to think you should Google every single person you meet.
As I said in my other post, had my friend not done a quick search on someone she was dating she might not have found out he molested a teenager.
Also this.
Don't tell people at work you know where they live because you went onto a website specifically for that purpose.
You go round telling women you know where they live, you're gonna have a bad time mmmkay
17 Seconds
Banned
this sums it up. he fucked up badly, but to call what he did stalking is pretty stupid.
Adam Sadler
Member
Lmao underrated post.
He didn't "google" her. He went on a site that shows her address and birthdate and all that stuff. Checking on the facebook is pretty normal but checking her address is a little over the line. And by the way, you still don't tell people you checked them out on facebook when you're creeping. If you want to be up front, that's when you send the facebook invite.
FreeMufasa
Junior Member
///PATRIOT
Banned
Yeah, but should he change of job?
Which to me reads like OP isn't really a stalker, just an idiot who doesn't understand social boundaries.. then again a stalker fits in that category too. No matter what we catergorize him as, we can all agree on that he fucked up big time.
ClosingADoor
Member
I take it you are looking up professional things then, like research done and papers written. Not home addresses, family pictures or any other personal things.
perfect
Ray Wonder
Founder of the Wounded Tagless Children
Send her an apology card to her house.
Billy_Pilgrim
Member
Have you considered that you may be, at best, an idiot?
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