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[Lord of Castamere]

I'm pretty sure Rule One of stalking is "Don't get caught stalking". Find a new hobby.

 

[Skux]

Get to know her. Then meet her.

 

[Earthbound64]

I think the OP is a server at a restaurant, I don't think that kind of job has an HR department, just a manager who will pull him aside and tell him to leave the female employees alone.

Do we know he wasn't stalking the male employees too?
Maybe he stalked the manager.

 

[sooperkool]

"I'm bored, I'll dox her for fun."

Once again someone on the internet thought that shit they do on the internet is ok in real life. SMH.

 

[Luminaire]

Unless its relationship advice.

Stalking is a relationship, albeit one-sided. She just doesn't know she loves him yet, that's all.

 

[Dash_Riprock]

"I'm bored, I'll dox her for fun."

Once again someone on the internet thought that shit they do on the internet is ok in real life. SMH.

I'm seeing this more and more nowadays. The internet really killing people's social skills.

 

[>:)]

GAF, What stories do you have of people totally missing the mark

Yours

 

[CrispyBoar]

I'm seeing this more and more nowadays. The internet really killing people's social skills.

Or the case of people not thinking before acting.

If you find personal info of someone such as home addresses or phone numbers, you're supposed to keep it to yourself.

 

[Mass_Pincup]

Every time I think we couldn't possibly go lower in relationships threads, someone managed to top it.

Every time.

 

[InfiniteBento]

You legit creeped on someone you don't know much at all.

That's weird as fuck.

 

[The JT]

Wow, I didn't know this was stalking. Looking for people's personal info online never crossed my mind, but seeing it now it does sound creepy as hell.

 

[Dash_Riprock]

Every time I think we couldn't possibly go lower in relationships threads, someone managed to top it.

Every time.

Worst part is I don't think they're joke threads. Not all of them...

 

[GHG]

Just when I was starting to think I'd seen it all on GAF you guys go and surprise me yet again.

Bravo.

 

[demosthenes]

Yours

Haven't seen this gif before, I love it!

 

[IdreamofHIME]

You're kinda scary, especially how unaware of being a stalker you are.

 

[Mortemis]

what the fuck. bruh, you looked her up on a database and then told her, holy fucking shit how do you not get it

 

[RootCause]

That's just creepy man.

 

[danm999]

Jesus Christ this is creepy.

 

[100%TrophyMaster]

Lololololol
My favorite part is how you know what she said IN THE BATHROOM afterwards. Picturing OP hanging upside down above the stall mission impossible style.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

You dense MOTHERFUCKER

 

[Grizzlyjin]

This is the rare moment before a G/A/F? story is on the news.

 

[Northeastmonk]

It's strange how social media can turn people into "stalkers". I mean, my now wife said she did a Google search for all my info before we met. Everything, just in case I wasn't on the county's list of SO's or something.

I mean, anymore the amount of power you can have just by a few clicks is more damaging than actually physically doing something.

Stalking is a terrible term. I deleted Twitter. I mean, the program is like a "stalking simulator". It can turn a person who might not normally have those tendencies and pretty much influence them to have even more contact with people they don't know.

I could be wrong, but today's day and age it's easy to mess up. I'd say just leave her alone and learn from it.

 

[Horse Detective]

im so glad I moved to chicago

 

[travisbickle]

To be fair to the OP, I'm sure the woman in question would be more weirded-out by him believing asking ordinary conversational questions was her showing romantic interest than him searching for her personal information online.

 

[RecRoulette]

HOW DID OP HEAR HER IN THE BATHROOM??

^

OP be like

 

[RootCause]

Lololololol
My favorite part is how you know what she said IN THE BATHROOM afterwards. Picturing OP hanging upside down above the stall mission impossible style.

Something like this.

 

[pigeon interrupted]

Thank for the laugh, op. Or should I call you Strelok? Try not to wierd her out anymore than you already have. M'kay?

 

[friskykillface]

Wow
Jeez man, that's stalking
You were going good too

Just take the L and do better next time

 

[GHG]

Oh and a woman asking if you have a girlfriend isn't always a signal. Assume nothing. Always fire back a why did you ask after answering.

 

[Two Words]

OP, even if what you say was done as innocently as you said it, it was very dumb to tell her you did that and not expect that reaction.

 

[shoelacer]

I'd look for a new job ASAP if I were you brah

 

[T-Rex.]

Lmao I knew there was only one way this thread was going to end.

 

[PatDH]

Obviously the sensible thing to do now is to use the information you've gained to your advantage. You have her address, correct? Then go to her place. Preferably around 9pm or later - a better chance that she'd naturally be quite relaxed at that point. Then simply explain to her your full side of the story.. maybe even print out a few pages from this thread (printing out the pages, instead of just showing her the thread from your phone, will show her that you've put a lot of thought into your explanation & that you're truly sincere).

I'd wish you good luck but you don't need it.

 

[psynergylover]

Like come on OP, you given GAF a bad name...

This should #1 in "how not to talk to girls"

 

[LyleLanley]

If you look at anything beyond the most basic stuff available on Facebook you are technically a stalker and a pervert.

 

[OrlanisWorks]

I got caught stalking once.

I told the police I was following up on a rumor that someone was stalking her.

Spoiler

huehuehue

 

[Two Words]

If you look at anything beyond the most basic stuff available on Facebook you are technically a stalker and a pervert.

Kinda strange to throw in pervert too.

 

[Count Dookkake]

Good lord.

 

[LyleLanley]

Kinda strange to throw in pervert too.

I thought "potential sex offender" would be a bit harsh.

 

[RedRum]

I'm thinking if she ever went to HR that OP would be fucked.

 

[ItIsOkBro]

I don't even think about this girl.

cmon bruh at least be honest with yourself

 

[NeoGold123]

So, OP, it was like

"Hey when's your birthday?"
"July"
"Oh really? Me too!"

And you decided the best response was
"I know..."

I mean... Come on, son...

 

[mo60]

What you did is really bad OP. Even with my terrible social skills and social anxiety issues I would never dare to dig up someone's phone number and house address using a random website. My friends usually tell me anything important they want me to know like there birthday for example or FB reminds me.

 

[ElRenoRaven]

I'm thinking if she ever went to HR that OP would be fucked.

Honestly I think she should. It's creepy as all fucking hell. Just why would you do that? I saw the site and noped the fuck out immediately. Hell even warned family and a casual friend cause our state is linked on that site and has the same damn kind of database.

 

[DaytimeWhiskey]

So, OP, it was like

"Hey when's your birthday?"
"July"
"Oh really? Me too!"

And you decided the best response was
"I know..."

I mean... Come on, son...

You mean this kinda kooky stuff doesn't happen to you guys all the time??

 

[newtypepilot]

instead of playing it off like "wow really? it was a lucky guess", OP told her how he got that information. WTF

 

[Alastor3]

Why would he need to look up her home address?

didn't I just said curiosity? I don't know what age is OP but I would have done something similar in high school

 

[AcademicSaucer]

That's some great self sabotage, good job Sir

 

[norinrad]

I don't even know why you look up her home address. At work you should have a see no evil hear no evil attitude. I work at a place where the majority are women and looking at them I suspect could get you into trouble let alone looking up their home address. When they say hello, I say hello back other than that I just mind my own damn business.

Op fucked up.

 

[brokenbeans]

Girl: What you got on that sandwich?

OP: I KNOW YOU VOTED TRUMP