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Armadilo

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It fucking sucks, you get already and try your best because somebody is going to spend their time and you want to make that time worth it for them, the both of you.

But that date never shows up and you stay waiting for a long time and you're just some lonely dude waiting for someone that never showed up.

Maybe there has been similar threads, don't know.

But at the end whoever stood you up isn't worth it. Comes back to you giving someone a minute of your time and they can't even give you a second of theirs.

(Today I got stood up at a comedy show, empty seat next to me but still got some laughs, so it was ok kinda :l
 
Thats why you don't go anywhere you weren't already planning on going OP. You can spell lesson learned without a few L's
 
Armadilo said:
It fucking sucks, you get already and try your best because somebody is going to spend their time and you want to make that time worth it for them, the both of you.

But that date never shows up and you stay waiting for a long time and you're just some lonely dude waiting for someone that never showed up.

Maybe there has been similar threads, don't know.

But at the end whoever stood you up isn't worth it. Comes back to you giving someone a minute of your time and they can't even give you a second of theirs.

(Today I got stood up at a comedy show, empty seat next to me but still got some laughs, so it was ok kinda :l
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Again?

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=232893877&postcount=8820

Please tell us it's not THE SAME girl....
 
Maybe she spent too long getting asked to take pictures of tourists.
 
daffy said:
Thats why you don't go anywhere you weren't already planning on going OP.
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This the real lesson. The date is a favor that youre including them for the potential love interest. You gotta go with the mindset you would have a good time with or without them. A for effort though. I myself have had no prospects for a little while.
 
always crazy bacon said:
Again?

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=232893877&postcount=8820

Please tell us it's not THE SAME girl....
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always crazy bacon said:
Again?

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=232893877&postcount=8820

Please tell us it's not THE SAME girl....
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Sadly yes, after the first time she was telling me that she was sorry and this time, I basically had the tickets and told her if she was down,. She says Yeah, then 20 mins before the show. She's says that she can't go.

I need some self respect and stop giving her anymore of my time. I dress like a Man, talk like a Man, behave like a Man . Yet I feel like a kid when it comes to dating. Just have to keep searching
 
Armadilo said:
I'm not going to try talk to chick anymore, she's just wasting my time
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Good idea. But you know, just next time plan around humanity letting you down because they will. Never expect people to be more than below average at best and future dates will be easy

Armadilo said:
Sadly yes, after the first time she was telling me that she was sorry and this time, I basically had the tickets and told her if she was down,. She says Yeah, then 20 mins before the show. She's says that she can't go.
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ooof soooo if she asks you out on a date her treat, you gonna say no? obviously you see something in her silly ass. maybe under all these flakes she might have flawless hair.
 
Armadilo said:
Sadly yes, after the first time she was telling me that she was sorry and this time, I basically had the tickets and told her if she was down,. She says Yeah, then 20 mins before the show. She's says that she can't go.

I need some self respect and stop giving her anymore of my time. I dress like a Man, talk like a Man, behave like a Man . Yet I feel like a kid when it comes to dating. Just have to keep searching
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Best advice I can give is to stop searching. Live life, do what you love doing, and things will work out how they will. It's when you stop looking when things align!
 
daffy said:
Good idea. But you know, just next time plan around humanity letting you down because they will. Never expect people to be more than below average at best and future dates will be easy
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When it comes to dates, I always try my best. Because I want us both to have a good time. Just that I don't have luck When it comes to my date.
 
Armadilo said:
Sadly yes, after the first time she was telling me that she was sorry and this time, I basically had the tickets and told her if she was down,. She says Yeah, then 20 mins before the show. She's says that she can't go.

I need some self respect and stop giving her anymore of my time. I dress like a Man, talk like a Man, behave like a Man . Yet I feel like a kid when it comes to dating. Just have to keep searching
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We told you, you obviously thought you were man enough to ignore that. Now you want people to feel sorry for you? Sorry dude, your own fault for doubling down on someone that does not respect you and were told her actions did not respect you.

neurosisxeno said:
If people can't make time for you clearly either they're not ready or they're not all that interested, and it's not worth wasting your own time.
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Miles Quaritch said:
You didn't text before the date to confirm plans or she forgot even though you confirmed plans earlier in the day?
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always crazy bacon said:
Sorry to hear that, I know that feeling It's happened to me a few times. Remember this, it was her not you and her actions do not reflect on the person you are. Cut her off and look for someone else who respects you.
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Horse Detective said:
Your time is worth something.

Unless they are actually sorry for wasting it, move on. Don't feel sad, it's not like you did the shitty/accidental thing.
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kevin1025 said:
Best advice I can give is to stop searching. Live life, do what you love doing, and things will work out how they will. It's when you stop looking when things align!
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this is untrue do not listen to this advice unless you want to live a lonely life
 
Armadilo said:
Sadly yes, after the first time she was telling me that she was sorry and this time, I basically had the tickets and told her if she was down,. She says Yeah, then 20 mins before the show. She's says that she can't go.

I need some self respect and stop giving her anymore of my time. I dress like a Man, talk like a Man, behave like a Man . Yet I feel like a kid when it comes to dating. Just have to keep searching
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Dude.

DUDE. You post in that thread enough to know what you're supposed to be doing. Come on man, this is a self inflicted L, no wonder you're so pissed off. You're not mad at her so much as you're mad at yourself for falling for it again.

Block her my dude and forget she exists.
 
daffy said:
Good idea. But you know, just next time plan around humanity letting you down because they will. Never expect people to be more than below average at best and future dates will be easy



ooof soooo if she asks you out on a date her treat, you gonna say no? obviously you see something in her silly ass. maybe under all these flakes she might have flawless hair.
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She's weird in the sense that we are both goofy and she seems genuine in ways. We use Snapchat so that helps a bit but at the same time, I don't know what she really wants.

Maybe she just wants atention because she obviously doesn't think I'm worth her time.
 
Surface of Me said:
this is untrue do not listen to this advice unless you want to live a lonely life
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With everyone living different walks of life, it could be beneficial to certain people. It could work for him, it could not work for him. It could be true, it could not be true. I don't mind if people don't want to take my advice, but making it sound like a certainty for loneliness is silly town.
 
Yeah, getting stood up sucks. I've been stood up 3 times. Cooler people are out there though so try not to get to down about it. At least she didn't give you the "I was washing my hair excuse". I mean, you already bailed on the date at least put some effort into the lie.
 
Miles Quaritch said:
Dude.

DUDE. You post in that thread enough to know what you're supposed to be doing. Come on man, this is a self inflicted L, no wonder you're so pissed off. You're not mad at her so much as you're mad at yourself for falling for it again.

Block her my dude and forget she exists.
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She's nice, but weird. I already told her that we should not text anymore until after we go on a date because we don't even know if we like each other. She got mad and told me to talk to her like a friend and not like if we were already dating.

I just thought that a date is important. I'm a Man who is kind. Time to move on
 
norm9 said:
It's too bad there's only one person in the world that is perfect for the OP.
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What some people allows others to do them depresses the shit outta me. In a city of millions, to allow one person to continually disrespect you, your time and even your money and keep talking to them in the hopes things will turn around?

....

At least you still went to the show Arma. Should have asked a friend if they'd like to join you.
 
Armadilo said:
She's weird in the sense that we are both goofy and she seems genuine in ways. We use Snapchat so that helps a bit but at the same time, I don't know what she really wants.

Maybe she just wants atention because she obviously doesn't think I'm worth her time.
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Projecting 101.

I'll tell you what she wants. Not you.
 
Armadilo said:
She's nice, but weird. I already told her that we should not text anymore until after we go on a date because we don't even know if we like each other. She got mad and told me to talk to her like a friend and not like if we were already dating.

I just thought that a date is important. I'm a Man who is kind. Time to move on
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You're trying to date and she's playing the friend card before you've even met and making sure she still has someone to talk to for when she's feeling bored/lonely/needs a self esteem boost.

Arma my dude. Sigh. It's fine to be kind, but there's a limit and you need to look at what happened here and re-evaluate just how much shit you're willing to take in the name of being 'kind'.
 
Miles Quaritch said:
What some people allows others to do them depresses the shit outta me. In a city of millions, to allow one person to continually disrespect you, your time and even your money and keep talking to them in the hopes things will turn around?

....

At least you still went to the show Arma. Should have asked a friend if they'd like to join you.
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Yeah, it makes no sense. No contact is advice I like to drop for any weird gaf advice thread, but it's appropriate for this.

Can't let someone else define your worth. Fuck snap chatting with her. She's not OPs friend.

There's others out there. Millions of them. Go find them and let them compliment your life.

Armadilo said:
I'm just the guy that she stood up, I'm a Man, a good Man. Kind hearted. Time for someone else

Sucks to try your best for someone that doesn't even notice you
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Go no contact.
 
Armadilo said:
I dress like a Man, talk like a Man, behave like a Man . Yet I feel like a kid when it comes to dating. Just have to keep searching
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Armadilo said:
I just thought that a date is important. I'm a Man who is kind. Time to move on
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Armadilo said:
I'm just the guy that she stood up, I'm a Man, a good Man. Kind hearted.
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Kind of strange, dude. These lyrics make this all seem like you're directing a music video, or something.
 
If someone is 15 minutes late, I text them "are you running late?"

If they don't reply after 10-15 more, I leave.

99% they don't get a second chance. The 1% is reserved for those that had some legitimate emergency, which of course is basically never.

Have some self-respect, man.

Doing so has actually gotten me more dates.

For example, I got stood up by a girl in my social circle that claimed she left her phone at a bar the night we met. She didn't text me until 8 hours after our meeting time. She had me on Facebook. We have many mutual friends. She absolutely could gave gotten a hold of me if she wanted to. But she didn't.

Yeah, I could've just accepted the apology and given her a second chance, but I deserve to be treated better so I didn't.

A week later at the same bar she asked me out again in front of a few friends and I told her no because she obviously got wasted and stood me up hung over, so that door was closed permanently. She started getting offended and bratty so I just told her I deserve to be treated properly and walked away.

One of the girls listening came up to me the next night and specifically mentioned that moment as why she wanted to go out, so I accepted and she showed up, on time, and we're now seeing each other casually.

If you have value, don't price yourself below market just because you're worried about being alone.
 
I've never been stood up myself, though I have made arrangements to meet with people and just got caught up in whatever I was doing.

When I got the "Where the hell are you?" phone call though, I snapped out of my stupor and raced to get there. I was extremely late on these occasions but damn it, I turned up. To do otherwise is just plain rude.
 
So many girls in this world to feel like ass if you get flaked. Next.

Don't send her any messages. If she hits you up just say come to my house. Don't put in effort
 
Armadilo said:
I'm just the guy that she stood up, I'm a Man, a good Man. Kind hearted. Time for someone else

Sucks to try your best for someone that doesn't even notice you
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Why do you feel the need to keep saying "I'm a man" in your posts? Generally when people do stuff like that it means they're the opposite of what they're saying. Like kids who constantly insist "I'm mature for my age".

Was there a large age difference between you and this girl? I found that trying to date people several years younger than me, a lot of them were incredibly flaky and didn't like the idea of committing to a date, but always were willing to talk about wanting to go on dates together. Young people in the dating scene are generally very noncommittal because they're always looking for something better to come along and if it does they'll jump on that.

My advice is to cut it off 100%. Ghost, and don't look back. But then again you've already proven yourself to not listen to the advice you're given here so I guess there's not much point.
 
daffy said:
Thats why you don't go anywhere you weren't already planning on going OP. You can spell lesson learned without a few L's
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norm9 said:
This the real lesson. The date is a favor that youre including them for the potential love interest. You gotta go with the mindset you would have a good time with or without them. A for effort though. I myself have had no prospects for a little while.
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This is terrible advice. So you let the fear of being stood up dictate the venue?

I've met 9 girls off Tinder at either bars or coffee shops. All I did was text them before I left to make sure they were coming. It's as simple as that.

If they're actually going to come then you'll probably be having active conversation anyway.
 
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