LadyGAF Advises ManGAF
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freenudemacusers
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well something will happen.Finaika said:
lunarworks
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I went to a dance club for years and only twice did a girl approach me to dance. So, simply making yourself available to dance isn't enough.Finaika said:
(That one time, though... if only the bouncer hadn't caught us on the fire escape. :/)
The Incarnation
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Ezalc said:
Why would any adult be jealous of someone who can dance, seriously?
spindashing
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Nix said:
y'know, a hooker* is generally cheaper than taking a dancing course in order to skim off whatever inebriated STI boat you can from closing time at your local dive. at least you get to retain your dignity and won't risk your "not so old fashioned" getting rudely interrupted by cocktail of stomach acid and partially digested kebab.
*may contain STIs
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Prax
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Ooh. Creepy.Always-honest said:
See, this is where self-consciousness is such a turn off. Doesn't just apply to dancing, but other things in general.Derrick01 said:
Can't just let loose and have fun without thinking you're losing rank or dignity..
(Fear of being judged--hey, happens to us all).
Some of you guys.. I dunno..~~~
Other things that should be obvious:
- Keep good hygiene (just.. keep yourself washed and shaved properly. Good teeth and good breath also. Plus points if clothes are not all in tatters)
- dress to attract the type of girl you want (I do not know the full correlation chart for what type of guy attracts what type of girl, but if you want an upscale lady, probably should not dress like a bum)
- have a cool skill (I mostly mean creative/artsy ones like writing, drawing, music, dancing, singing, but I'm sure there are others girls find attractive like uhhhh... okay, I don't know. I just think the creative ones are most impressive. Could just be that most girls like to be entertained by the guy in some way. Creative skills embrace some kind of audience factor. I suppose martial arts could work out too.)
- good eye contact and smiling abilities (knowing how to make someone feel comfortable and invited without creeping the heck out of them)
- easy going/flexible with the girl you are trying to attract (you may get the impression that lots of girls are interested in terrible jerks, but they more like the idea/fantasy of a jerk that is nice only to them. Something something, feeling special)
- can hold a conversation (I know it's hard for some of you introverts out there! On top of that, most people be boring! I will root for you anyway.)
- stop pursuing if girl is obviously not interested (unless you want to troll her.. but it's probably the trolls that ruin guys' chances with girls because girls start thinking most guys are creeps xD )
The Incarnation
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Kenak said:
Well if they really wanted to they'd do so wouldn't they?
It's not the hardest thing to do, and to be blunt the vast majority of people look like idiots when they dance anyway, very few people are so bad that they manage to stink up the dance floor.
I've seen complete nutcases wander onto the dance-floor with headphones lost in their own world and no one gives a shit. If you're THAT into the music playing you're not going to care. Well to me if you're dancing and thinking about anything else other than the music, then you're not doing it right.
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Trent Strong said:
I tried to get my pussy printing license and failed spectacularly. Fuck this shit.
I'm gonna try again in the near future, but this time i'll focus on ONE dancing style.
It's not like I have good coordination skills, but having to switch between 6+ different styles in one lesson really fucked me up.
The Incarnation
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Prax said:
You say men being self-conscious is a turn off, and then you go create a list for them?
EmptyCanO'wupass
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I can waltz.... Waltzing is still hip right?
I noticed a sort of pattern that occurs when it comes to getting chicks.
When I don't give a fuck, I'll get pussy thrown at me but I won't pursue because, well, I don't give a fuck at the time. When I do give a fuck, I'm apparently awkward, weird and mean... Not giving a fuck seems to be the best route to take in life.
Anyway back OT. Dancing for activities sake is all well and good. Dancing in the hope of getting pussy seems like a disaster.
When I don't give a fuck, I'll get pussy thrown at me but I won't pursue because, well, I don't give a fuck at the time. When I do give a fuck, I'm apparently awkward, weird and mean... Not giving a fuck seems to be the best route to take in life.
Anyway back OT. Dancing for activities sake is all well and good. Dancing in the hope of getting pussy seems like a disaster.
SpacedCadette
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Im gonna give you an honest answer. While I don't have any problem with people liking MLP I would probably be less likely to peruse a guy that was really into it.Chinner said:
freenudemacusers
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noChinner said:
Angry Fork
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I would love to learn how to dance, it's something I greatly respect when people do it well (and not just grinding in clubs I mean real dancing). However I'm too shy/self conscious to ever dare dance with someone on a whim since I have no experience. I'd rather practice by myself with a broom first (this is hilariously depressing and rife with potential innuendo).
I do feel like I have a shit ton of rhythm and coordination in me though, I just don't know the basic footwork at all so I'd end up looking goofy (or at least I think so). Dancing is something I definitely feel like a confident, outgoing guy should be able to do though. I imagine if I knew how to dance well I could get so many more girls it wouldn't even be a challenge, that would be the ice breaker. Cooking is another thing I feel like guys should learn which I have no clue of.
It's not really about doing it all to impress girls either, while that may be part of it, learning how to do these activities makes you a more well rounded person I think. You don't have to rely on others and it just makes you look/feel better in general and is more useful than knowing what typhoon aug you need to beat a certain boss.
I do feel like I have a shit ton of rhythm and coordination in me though, I just don't know the basic footwork at all so I'd end up looking goofy (or at least I think so). Dancing is something I definitely feel like a confident, outgoing guy should be able to do though. I imagine if I knew how to dance well I could get so many more girls it wouldn't even be a challenge, that would be the ice breaker. Cooking is another thing I feel like guys should learn which I have no clue of.
It's not really about doing it all to impress girls either, while that may be part of it, learning how to do these activities makes you a more well rounded person I think. You don't have to rely on others and it just makes you look/feel better in general and is more useful than knowing what typhoon aug you need to beat a certain boss.
I freaking love dancing. Girls love it too. I've had many success in picking up women by just going out on the floor and being a goof. Here's the thing, NetJEFF: all you need is to learn some of the most basic dance moves and just have fun. Be approachable and confident! When women sees that you're having fun, they would want to join. Just look at some youtube videos, practice them, and you're set.
Now for girl gaf (to move the subject from dancing): What do you girls think about the whole "after a guy gets a number, he should wait two days (or whatever the hell grace period) before he calls" subject? Does it depend on the situation and guy? Whats a perfect waiting period for a call back?
Now for girl gaf (to move the subject from dancing): What do you girls think about the whole "after a guy gets a number, he should wait two days (or whatever the hell grace period) before he calls" subject? Does it depend on the situation and guy? Whats a perfect waiting period for a call back?
SpacedCadette
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There's no recommended wait time. Just don't call immediately after seeing her or too frequently because you could come off as weird or aggressive. Just give it a night or something. You really just want to put a little bit of space between seeing her and calling her so she doesn't feel like you're coming on too quick.Raguel said:
Quite often people gain weight when they are in a long time relationship. Laziness and not having to impress the opposite sex are to blame. Certainly doesn't have to imply depression.DeathNote said:
Not your girlfriend? Just tell her she's gaining weight and should do something about it. Offer to work out with her or something in that vain. Then again, I'm a terribly blunt person which might partly explain why I'm part of forever alone GAF.Kenak said:
Sex buddy? Stop having sex with her because you apparently only care about the way she looks and not the reasons she's gaining weight?Kenak said:
Friend? Stop being friends with her because you're apparently don't want to be seen with someone unattractive or care about the reasons she's gaining weight?
"or something"Danielsan said:
They aren't in a relationship.
What the fuck does this even mean? The reason she's gaining weight?DeathNote said:
Fun fact: People who eat a lot of food and do not work out often gain weight. Especially really skinny people who had a high metabolism all of their life that suddenly goes kuhput. And even if she had a reason why she was gaining weight, the whole point of having a fuck buddy is the zero emotional attachment that usually comes with relationships. "You obviously don't care about her so you shouldn't be fucking." If that's all you're willing to share, I got it. Thanks.
Now an actual way to broach the topic would be really great.
I don't want her to feel bad. I just want to like... do an inception of putting the idea in her head that she should work out a lot or something.Danielsan said:
SpacedCadette
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That's not always the case though. Physical attraction is still important in a relationship. There's no easy way to go about he conversation and she is going to feel bad either way but if you really care about her and want this to last then you should say something. Be careful with how you say it. Let her know you care about her and want the relationship to work and that the weight gain is affecting your physical relationship. Ask her if she's going through something, like depression. Just make your concerns known.DeathNote said:
Edit: I was slow responding so I missed the updates. If she's just a physical relationship then still approach it gently. Make points about health or something, but when it's strictly a physical relationship she will probably feel like you're stepping over the line by mentioning her weight gain. You could offer to work out with her or something. Just approach it in a way that doesn't make her feel gross.
Well that's the thing. I've been actively trying to find a relationship, but you can't just find yourself really into a girl over night. I've found a lot of girls who are cute, funny, etc, but in the end I just don't have any feelings for them (besides sexual I guess). Having a fuck buddy is nice because I don't have to resort to shitty one night stands. I'd much rather fuck one person that I've known for a long time as opposed to random people who I won't ever talk to again.Fetts_Jets said:
It's like a safety net. It's just too good to give up.
She's going to feel a lot worse a year down the road when she's actually fat. I don't know what kind of sports you practice but you could try inviting her to participate some time. Running is a great way to work out as well as socialize. Recently started running with an overweight friend (male) of mine and he's been losing a good deal of weight. Running together keeps us both motivated and it's just fun.Kenak said:
SpacedCadette
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First, let me just clarify that I'm answering this from a girls perspective and I don't know anything about her so I'm just guessing, but...Kenak said:
No girl really wants to just be someones safety net. I'm guessing the weight gain is something more than just laziness. How long have you guys had this arrangement? Is she someone that you see regularly and do you care about her more than as just someone that you have sex with? Like, is she a friend?
If you're just looking for someone to have sex with and don't have an emotional attachment to her the best thing, for both of you, would probably be to move on.
Hahahaha. She's like 4'10 and I don't think I've ever seen her even run. I should also mention that she's like 500 miles away and I only see her like every other month. If it were just a matter of inviting her along with me when I work out or whatever, things would be a bit different. Hence why I need to get her interested in it. But how do you do that without making them feel fat ??? =[Danielsan said:
Perfect, that's exactly what I'm looking for. I was under the impression everyone answering me was male, so sorry if it seemed like I was disregarding what you were saying.Fetts_Jets said:
We've had this 'arrangement' for about two to three years. I've never explicitly stated that she's me "safety net" but I have made it very clear that I'm not looking for things to be anything more than they currently are. As shitty as it sounds, she's someone I have sex with before being a friend. We met as a drunken one night stand that turned into multiple drunken hookups. Then it eventually turned into non-drunken hookups.
She's under the impression that I'm not interested in a relationship with anyone, period.
It kind of already happened. She tried to turn things into a relationship -- I was unwilling. She told me to grow up and stopped talking to me. I figured we were pretty much over and started hooking up with another girl. A few weeks later she then decided to start talking to me again. One part of me wants to end things, but the other.... more male side doesn't see why I should until I've at least found a girl I'm interested in.
WyndhamPrice
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As far as dancing goes I can Bernie like a motherfucker and I do it with such skill that people have no choice but to think it's so ridiculous it's cool.
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What drives me nuts is that in the past year or so I've had four different girls come out and say that when we were in high-school together they liked me (when I had a couple steady relationships) and now that I'm in college I'm just forever alone.Chiave said:
Dr_Boris_Goltz
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Here's a question:
I met a girl through an online dating site; we're at the "phone call" level of getting to know each other. Well during the "texting" level she was totally awesome, but on the phone she seriously doesn't stop talking, even to catch her breath. It's totally not what I expected coming from texts. It's like I'm talking to two different people.
Knowing that rad girl I was texting lies behind that mountain of chatter keeps me pursuing, but am I making a mistake?
I met a girl through an online dating site; we're at the "phone call" level of getting to know each other. Well during the "texting" level she was totally awesome, but on the phone she seriously doesn't stop talking, even to catch her breath. It's totally not what I expected coming from texts. It's like I'm talking to two different people.
Knowing that rad girl I was texting lies behind that mountain of chatter keeps me pursuing, but am I making a mistake?
SpacedCadette
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This right here tells me that it's time to move on. She is probably hoping it will turn into something more than physical. If you're looking to avoid trouble then you need to end things with her. She'll be much better off emotionally and you can avoid trouble down the line.Kenak said:
Maybe the women want to chime in on this one:
Why is it that when you are with a girl, all of the sudden women seem to be mighty interested in you, but when you are single you are like fucking dust to them? At the start of the year a girl I was dating and I went out for the night and I was getting hit on by three women over the course of an hour. Shit like that never happens to me otherwise.Typical case of women wanting what they can't have or something else?
Why is it that when you are with a girl, all of the sudden women seem to be mighty interested in you, but when you are single you are like fucking dust to them? At the start of the year a girl I was dating and I went out for the night and I was getting hit on by three women over the course of an hour. Shit like that never happens to me otherwise.Typical case of women wanting what they can't have or something else?
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