LadyGAF Advises ManGAF

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Danielsan said:
Maybe the women want to chime in on this one:
Why is it that when you are with a girl, all of the sudden women seem to be mighty interested in you, but when you are single you are like fucking dust to them? At the start of the year a girl I was dating and I went out for the night and I was getting hit on by three women over the course of an hour. Shit like that never happens to me otherwise.Typical case of women wanting what they can't have or something else?
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I can answer this if you don't mind the male perspective. Basically it shows other women that you have something to offer if you can find a mate. It's very primal.
 
Kenak said:
I'll keep that in mind. In the mean time, have any advice on how to broach the weight issue? =]
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I'd say there's no easy/nice way.
She probably already knows she's getting fat and unattractive (unless you're the one that's really picky about how a girl looks) and she's not doing much about it because.. hey.. you're still hooking up with her anyway!

Maybe next time she sends pics over, mention how different you guys both look from then and now. Then you can discuss how all those things changed for both of you (hair, fashion, WEIGHT). Then she might mention "haha, yeah, I've been getting faaaat." and you can be all supportive and say "then you should work out! Nothing hotter than a tight body ;) ". THOUGHTS SEEDED.

This works assuming you have stayed the same or have gotten hotter. Could be a double-edged sword and you have gotten worse-looking too. xD

Danielsan said:
Maybe the women want to chime in on this one:
Why is it that when you are with a girl, all of the sudden women seem to be mighty interested in you, but when you are single you are like fucking dust to them? At the start of the year a girl I was dating and I went out for the night and I was getting hit on by three women over the course of an hour. Shit like that never happens to me otherwise.Typical case of women wanting what they can't have or something else?
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Probably because they realize that if one girl finds you tolerable/datable/relationshipable, then that girl's onto something. Otherwise, you project a more confident/self-secure image now that you have a girl, and probably can relate to girls better now, and girls feel that and think it's hot?
 
Kenak said:
I'll keep that in mind. In the mean time, have any advice on how to broach the weight issue? =]
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She's not going to feel great, no matter what, when you bring it up, but you you can kinda soften the blow by mentioning things like health. I'm going to be super honest with you and say that there isn't really much you can do to change her habits if you guys don't have an emotional investment in the relationship. She might get a little bitter at you if you try to bring it up because of the fact that she tried to start a relationship with you and you rejected her.

However, if you're super dead set on maintaining this arrangement then mention that you enjoy the way things are, but that the change in her weight is beginning to affect your physical relationship. Say that you're concerned about her health (as a friend).

I know you want to avoid an emotional relationship with her, but if you're somewhat friends then you can ask her if there's something going on in her life that could be causing it (this could open up a HUGE can of worms though).


Edit: The stuff that Prax said is good, too. It all depends on her personality, so go with whatever you think would get the best response.
 
honestly, in my experience, i've learned that women are TERRIBLE at giving advice on how to pick up chicks and relationships.
for the most part.
 
Prax said:
I'd say there's no easy/nice way.
She probably already knows she's getting fat and unattractive (unless you're the one that's really picky about how a girl looks) and she's not doing much about it because.. hey.. you're still hooking up with her anyway!

Maybe next time she sends pics over, mention how different you guys both look from then and now. Then you can discuss how all those things changed for both of you (hair, fashion, WEIGHT). Then she might mention "haha, yeah, I've been getting faaaat." and you can be all supportive and say "then you should work out! Nothing hotter than a tight body ;) ". THOUGHTS SEEDED.

This works assuming you have stayed the same or have gotten hotter. Could be a double-edged sword and you have gotten worse-looking too. xD
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Yeeaaah, I probably look much worse than I did before, even if that isn't saying much, hahaha. My hair is all long and shaggy, and I have facial hair. People still say I look 17 though =[

I could give it a try. She claims that she works out a lot though, which is why I'm so vague on her reasons for being a little.. heavier. It's either she goes all the time and doesn't actually work out (just walks on the treadmill like half the girls I see at the gym do) or she is lying and never actually goes. I'm thinking it's the former more than the latter.

It all just seems so... underhanded though. Like I'm being really dishonest. I'd almost rather end things than lie about something like that. Which has to sound really contradictory given the frame of discussion up until this point.. but meh. I'll definitely keep your advice in mind and maybe will try it out next time we video chat or something. If it doesn't feel right, then I'll probably just cut things off which would more than likely be better for her.
 
Pinko Marx said:
honestly, in my experience, i've learned that women are TERRIBLE at giving advice on how to pick up chicks and relationships.
for the most part.
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I agree... same thing can be said about the inverse...
 
Kenak said:
I could give it a try. She claims that she works out a lot though, which is why I'm so vague on her reasons for being a little.. heavier. It's either she goes all the time and doesn't actually work out (just walks on the treadmill like half the girls I see at the gym do) or she is lying and never actually goes. I'm thinking it's the former more than the latter.

It all just seems so... underhanded though. Like I'm being really dishonest. I'd almost rather end things than lie about something like that. Which has to sound really contradictory given the frame of discussion up until this point.. but meh. I'll definitely keep your advice in mind and maybe will try it out next time we video chat or something. If it doesn't feel right, then I'll probably just cut things off which would more than likely be better for her.
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Or just ask her if she'd like to do some activity like a fitness bootcamp with you.
 
Pinko Marx said:
honestly, in my experience, i've learned that women are TERRIBLE at giving advice on how to pick up chicks and relationships.
for the most part.
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I agree. I told one of my female friends that I was interested in this girl we both knew and it was like she couldn't WAIT to tell the girl. Thankfully, things didn't get too awkward between us and everything is cool now, but I learned my lesson about who to turn to for advice.
 
Kenak said:
Yeeaaah, I probably look much worse than I did before, even if that isn't saying much, hahaha. My hair is all long and shaggy, and I have facial hair. People still say I look 17 though =[

I could give it a try. She claims that she works out a lot though, which is why I'm so vague on her reasons for being a little.. heavier. It's either she goes all the time and doesn't actually work out (just walks on the treadmill like half the girls I see at the gym do) or she is lying and never actually goes. I'm thinking it's the former more than the latter.

It all just seems so... underhanded though. Like I'm being really dishonest. I'd almost rather end things than lie about something like that. Which has to sound really contradictory given the frame of discussion up until this point.. but meh. I'll definitely keep your advice in mind and maybe will try it out next time we video chat or something. If it doesn't feel right, then I'll probably just cut things off which would more than likely be better for her.
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OH, so you DO look worse. Why is she still sticking with YOU then? Right.. the wanting it to turn into a real relationship thing...

And good on you.
I like how I tried to teach you to be manipulative, but you rejected the idea. XD
THAT WAS A TEST! (not really).

If she is really working out but still has weight problems, she's probably pretty frustrated with what's happening as well.

Better route IS to end it if she's not doing it for you anymore.
 
Always-honest said:
Haha, well, i prefer a converstation, but you can't hear shit in a club.
I rarely visit those hellholes though. Weird way to find a partner. But it's nice to watch women dance.
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Know what's also nice? Watching men dance (well).

Reciprocatin' brings appreciation!
 
Best advice that I've been given (tho have yet to apply) is to read dating books and psychology books to level up your game. Or to change your way of thinking. One of my guy friends who has too much sex told me this. He also told me that no one likes nice guys. If a chick calls me mean I would probably tell them to fuck off nowadays.
 
Prax said:
OH, so you DO look worse. Why is she still sticking with YOU then? Right.. the wanting it to turn into a real relationship thing...

And good on you.
I like how I tried to teach you to be manipulative, but you rejected the idea. XD
THAT WAS A TEST! (not really).

If she is really working out but still has weight problems, she's probably pretty frustrated with what's happening as well.

Better route IS to end it if she's not doing it for you anymore.
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cooljeanius said:
What does LadyGAF think of guys "White Knighting" females?
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Depends on the context. Sometimes it's annoying when I feel like I can handle myself, other times it's appreciated. On the internet it's kind of whatever, but I can remember a couple times "irl" when it happened that it was really appreciated because the threat was more real and psychically dangerous vs just some guy being a butthead online.
 
"White knighting" doesn't mean helping a woman, just like "I'm a nice guy" doesn't mean the guy is really nice. It's a knee jerk reaction, based in ignorance and stereotype, that denies women their personhood.

One could conceivably help hundreds of women, online or IRL, and never once be considered a "white knight."
 
cooljeanius said:
What does LadyGAF think of guys "White Knighting" females?
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Generally, I do not care unless the "White Knight" is actually treating the "victim" as a frail sacred goddess. Some people just don't like seeing others ganged up upon, girl or not.

I am more annoyed by people attacking someone and calling them a "White Knight" as an insult when all they are trying to do is bring up a conversation about double standards and respectfulness. The term's thrown around too much by people that don't want to own up to being insensitive, wrong, or actually sexist.
 
Fetts_Jets said:
Depends on the context. Sometimes it's annoying when I feel like I can handle myself, other times it's appreciated. On the internet it's kind of whatever, but I can remember a couple times "irl" when it happened that it was really appreciated because the threat was more real and psychically dangerous vs just some guy being a butthead online.
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Could I get some more concrete examples of which exact contexts you'd be okay with it in?
 
blame space said:
i never thought i'd see pussy putting itself on a pedestal
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I am sure I'd find this funny too if I actually.. thought this was happening?

Sense of timing and wit is off!

Works in the sense that I'm a girl, my avatar is "Solar Cat" and has a knight helmet thing...
But you should have caught me while I am knighting harder! You wasted your chance!
 
TangMeng said:
Does fist-pumping count as dancing? That's all I do and I won't even approach a girl if I dont see her throw the fist
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hahahaha

+1 for finding guys willing to dance attractive, did not realize this myself until recently
 
Danielsan said:
Maybe the women want to chime in on this one:
Why is it that when you are with a girl, all of the sudden women seem to be mighty interested in you, but when you are single you are like fucking dust to them? At the start of the year a girl I was dating and I went out for the night and I was getting hit on by three women over the course of an hour. Shit like that never happens to me otherwise.Typical case of women wanting what they can't have or something else?
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It proves you're socially dominant and is really more a statement about your desirability.

It's not uncommon to hear dating is very much like a job search. You need experience to make it. And you can't make it without some sort of reference.
 
Pinko Marx said:
honestly, in my experience, i've learned that women are TERRIBLE at giving advice on how to pick up chicks and relationships.
for the most part.
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Ah-ha! This is because when you ask anyone a question like this they will relay to you the details behind the workings of their very specific dating game in their very specific circle of friends and the very unique experiences they have had. Taking information like this and applying it to your personal game is not likely to work, so it's always best to take it with a grain of salt and not expect a 100% success rate or a magical universal answer.
 
Prax said:
I am sure I'd find this funny too if I actually.. thought this was happening?

Sense of timing and wit is off!

Works in the sense that I'm a girl, my avatar is "Solar Cat" and has a knight helmet thing...
But you should have caught me while I am knighting harder! You wasted your chance!
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i sincerely have no idea what you're talking about
 
cooljeanius said:
Could I get some more concrete examples of which exact contexts you'd be okay with it in?
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I don't really care for it online, but if someone is getting ganged up on unreasonably or they are struggling to shoo away the trolls then the white knighting doesn't seem so bad. Sometimes having someone back you up can help. When it gets into the "just doing it because she's a chick" realm then it's lame as hell. You can usually tell when someone's reasons for white knighting are because it's helpful vs doing it because they feel obligated to defend the women-folk.
 
cooljeanius said:
But does he do it specifically in response to other characters making groan-worthy sexual puns?
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No, you step on this circular pad with a guitar on it and it usually unlocks a sequence.
 
Ducky_McGee said:
Since a lot of fellas have entered that other thread asking for advice, general questions, and random silliness (and since that practice is openly discouraged in that other thread). Perhaps it's time for a spinoff.

The demand is there. Obviously a lot of guys want to know what girlfolk look for in a cartoon character. Though I'm sure some others have questions that are more interesting and less hmm, what's the word. Retarded? Anyways I don't want you to feel judged. If you have a question here's the place to ask it. If myself or another member of ladygaf decides to answer then huzzah! This thread worked out!

I'll start out with a copy/paste of something I posted in the other thread. It's a piece of advice I think will serve mangaf well. Especially single mangaf. But ESPECIALLY relationship mangaf.

Dancing. Is there anything else a guy can do to make himself more attractive than:

A: Be willing to dance.
B: Be able to dance.
C: Actually seem like he enjoys dancing, especially with you?

I suggested my boyfriend and I take a dancing class and he was resistant at first. He's not some super machismo guy or anything. He was just the kind of guy who'd rather hang back than get out and have fun. Afraid of looking like an idiot or something. Whatever. Anyway. He was resistant at first but after some minor coaxing I was able to get him to go with me. We've been to a few of them now and guess what? He seems to really enjoy it, he has a knack for it, and I find him all the more incredibly sexy and attractive as a result.

Guys. Because I know you're watching. I don't mean to be crude but knowing how to dance is like a license to print pussy. Heck. Just being WILLING to dance is like a learners permit to print pussy. When you go out somewhere and dancing is involved you would be wise to at least put yourself out there. I've never known a girl to give an old fashioned to a guy for being really good at hanging out at the bar sipping a beer.

If you are a lady and you would like to confirm this statement you may proceed. If you are a man and you have tried this method and it has proven true you are also encouraged to say so.
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I come from jamacian background.

This is what they call "dancing" http://youtu.be/EjW2Np3Z6so?t=1m13s

no thanks. Ill sit at the bar or not go at all.
 
^ Ahahaha..~!
Dry humping as dancing always gets me. So ridiculous!

Maybe focus on musical instrument mastership then.

blame space said:
i sincerely have no idea what you're talking about
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Okay. Fine. I'll take your word for it.
(Though now whatever you said doesn't even make sense.. >_> )
 
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