The more you concentrate on what you need to get a girl, the less you're able to pull them in. Yes, it seems kind of contradictory and Zen-like, but it's true.
As long as you focus on what you're lacking and not on what you already have, you won't have much success. Quite frankly, what you don't have doesn't matter. It's more about playing the cards you already have than to worry about the cards you don't.
You've already got two good qualities: funny and sociable. Being funny is worth its weight in gold because girls love to laugh more than anything else. You don't need anything more than those two qualities.
i used to think like that and tried to be myself. but being myself isn't enough. the more older i gets, the more i realized how superficial this world and you got to play by the rules. this craps about being yourself isn't enough nowadays or even ever. money, looks, status, and personality play huge roles in life. that includes women. maybe i'm wrong, but doing the other way didn't work for me before. of course you don't want to seem desperate to get girls, but you gotta know how to play the game.
And for the record, I'm asian. Unless you're doing online dating, race is never an issue unless you make it one.
nice, an asian gaffer. i really wish race doesn't really matter. but most asian friends of mine are single. and over here where i live near miami, seeing an asian guy with another race is really rare. i'm not gonna let that hold me down tho. just saying that it might have to do with race to a certain extent. of course there are exception, some girls are open minded. but some are not into asian guys especially when we're branded with a lot of negative stereotypes.
More common than you think.
i'm not saying it might not be true. but it seems kinda fishy, don't you think? i think most f them are self fish and wants guys attention more than anything.
