I was in a similar boat with terrible, terrible anxiety issues for a while. But it's possible to work through it, get laid, and have a good relationship.
If boogie2988 on youtube can get a girlfriend, you can too.
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If boogie2988 on youtube can get a girlfriend, you can too.
Yeah but on the other hand who are you to tell him whether or not sex should be important? I can understand you saying not to put it on a pedestal but to tell him outright what he should hold important is just you pushing your views on him.
umop_3pisdn
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It is quite common for asexual people to still have a desire for romantic relationships.
FreeMufasa
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Y'all shud look to Atramental as an example. I got mad respect for him.
- was goin to a religous school, had no friends and cudnt socialise.
- after cryin on gaf he finally said "fuck it" and actively pursued change.
- got poom like 5 months later.
- regularly gets it now.
Mad respect.
- was goin to a religous school, had no friends and cudnt socialise.
- after cryin on gaf he finally said "fuck it" and actively pursued change.
- got poom like 5 months later.
- regularly gets it now.
Mad respect.
What's important in the world, and this should be to any worthwhile human being, is knowing the issue of suffering in the world or matters that cause serious, serious issue to those inhabiting it. I find it hard to see a lack of sex as genuine suffering between children in the world starving and dying of famine and disease, or people suffering in hospital with cancers that will take their lives. In fact, I get pretty mad at how offensive that comparison is. People put so much weight into incredibly fickle things sometimes that it blows my mind and makes me wonder how low-level their thought processes are. I'm not saying he was, or anyone in this thread is, but I've met people who think like that, and I can only hope they're that ignorant because they inhale paste and eat cement.
Princess Carl
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Welp...it's why I stopped trying. But yeah, even if someone did want to date me, I wouldn't anyway. I much prefer being on my own.
Not this post in particular, but I have a real hard time believing much of what you are saying.
What did he do exactly?
I never had an issue being up front about it if queried ... though it's not like I advertised the fact. Then again I lost mine like 21 years ago lol.
As far as the virgin girls I've dated, they were fairly up front about it as I recall. Again though, it's not like that topic was brought up immediately anyway. Why would it be?
I remember I was walking with a girl who I worked with and she ran into someone she knew from college on the street, when we walked away from him she made joke about him being virgin and how he prob was still. Being a virgin was never was so disgusted with another person after she virgin shamed this guy.
If its going to be a long term thing I'll tell the person upfront.
If its going to be a long term thing I'll tell the person upfront.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Why are you guys being such assholes to Carl? If he's happy, he's happy.
Hm, when it finally does happen, I'd probably tell the girl. I don't give a fuck. I doubt that would turn anyone off. Hell, the only person that in real life mocks me for being a virgin is one of my best friends, and that's just cause he likes to bust my chops.
Buckled down in life and made the best version of himself he could. Mind, body, etc. Pretty awesome.
Hm, when it finally does happen, I'd probably tell the girl. I don't give a fuck. I doubt that would turn anyone off. Hell, the only person that in real life mocks me for being a virgin is one of my best friends, and that's just cause he likes to bust my chops.
Buckled down in life and made the best version of himself he could. Mind, body, etc. Pretty awesome.
Anything specific though?
NotTheGuyYouKill
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You'll have to ask him. I do know he requested like a 3-6 month ban so he wouldn't waste time on GAF.
Don't waste your time with people like that outside of the workplace. They really show their true colors in how shallow they are. I would have told her to fuck off, but that's because I've become very short tempered at how people judge others on very poor grounds. People can be worse in their judgments than that, I've learned, so that hole goes far deeper than that sort of shaming.
Hmm, maybe we should get him to make a thread detailing how he turned his life around or whatever.
I don't suppose you've ever tried therapy have you? These posts, especially the language I bolded in the first two posts, are very disconcerting. If I didn't know any better I'd say it sounds like you're about to lash out in a violent fashion.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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I didn't realize as I read the thread, but if someone were talking like that in real life, I'd call the cops.
Hey man how do you deal with it? Have you considered cheating (not encouraging it just asking if you ever thought about it)?
BadAss2961
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He could just be trolling, but he's obviously coming off as one of those murder-suicide guys.
RustyNails
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What's stopping you from traveling the world? People have no idea how much traveling to a different country changes them for all the more positive. You will only find girls who like you if you liked yourself first.
Don't know if I'm reading into the bolded to much but please don't hurt yourself. I'm 23 and still a virgin so I can't say I know exactly how you feel but killing yourself can't be the only answer.
Gemüsepizza
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No offense, but that sounds a bit... strange. You don't intend to go on a rampage or something like that lol? Just kidding, but the tip (traveling) someone else gave earlier is probably not bad, I think it could be quite refreshing to see other places and meet totally different people... maybe you find a place somewhere else which you really like and where you can make a new start there?
Ditto. Month before I turned 22
blame space
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what in the world is this thread about
It's time for you to get pregnant by me through the butt. You remember, don't you?
thesoapster
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Pretty sure this is my main problem.
Messofanego
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what in the world is this thread about
It's time for you to get pregnant by me through the butt. You remember, don't you?
These posts with those avatars made me laugh for some reason.
stufte
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I agree.
Hmm.. if you feel depression then you shouldn't ignore it. It's something that needs to be addressed as soon as possible. You having these thoughts you should talk to someone and seek professional help. it's not as bad as you think, living you know. You just have to understand all things don't happen quickly, so please, if you truly feel that kind of anger towards yourself you should seek some help.
Enter The 36 Chambers
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I purposely didnt have sex with a girl when i was told she was a virgin. Dealing with all that. Virgins are usually boring when it comes to sex.
By that i mean the girl just lays there and does nothing exciting or takes the lead.
For the virgins here i advise avoiding girls that are virgins for your first time. When you got 2 people who dont know what theyre doing its just meh.
Getting an experienced girl for your first time is better. I was 16 and told my girlfriend i was a virgin. She understood and it was actually pretty great. You hear disaster stories about peoples first times. That shit can be avoided if you just tell the girl.
Unless your in your 20's of course, then you should probably lie about it, otherwise you'll never get sex.
By that i mean the girl just lays there and does nothing exciting or takes the lead.
For the virgins here i advise avoiding girls that are virgins for your first time. When you got 2 people who dont know what theyre doing its just meh.
Getting an experienced girl for your first time is better. I was 16 and told my girlfriend i was a virgin. She understood and it was actually pretty great. You hear disaster stories about peoples first times. That shit can be avoided if you just tell the girl.
Unless your in your 20's of course, then you should probably lie about it, otherwise you'll never get sex.
You have a great user name
If you've devoted even one word to disparaging another person on the basis of when or whether they've had sex as a measure of a life's milestone, self-worth, or social development, I hope you are shamed and humiliated very soon. I hope someone takes something that's private to you and rubs your face in it.
It is natural for human beings to have sex. They don't need to be reminded of it.
It is natural for human beings to have sex. They don't need to be reminded of it.
FortunateSon
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I'm sorry. I'm going to defend the whole virginity aspect here. I don't see why would anyone have to lose their virginity before a certain age? It's their personal choice. It doesn't reflect on them as a person. ---> It only does so because that's what people have believed for years.
It's fucking ridiculous that there are people in this thread claiming otherwise. Can someone be so kind to provide insight on why should a person lose his virginity as soon as possible? Not everyone is lucky as some of you in here that are claiming to have lost your virginity, who the fuck knows if any of you aren't lying.
Yes, we get it. Sex is great and is part of life. But I didn't know there was "rules" that stated, everyone should have sex because it's great and is part of a healthy lifestyle. Get out with that.
Here are some reasons to why some people are still virgins:
1) Religion
2) No interest.
3) Social issues.
4) Focus with their life. Work, hobbies, sports, traveling etc...
5) Can't find a girl to have it with.
6) Disease phobia.
7) Infections, body imperfections etc...
Whoever the fuck thinks that sex should be a mandatory part of your life is fucking stupid. Yes, I called you fucking stupid for that. It's a choice. But somehow, for those that for whatever reason haven't had sex are seen in a negative light or will be seen as something else.
I'm not a virgin. Lost it at 21. And I've had my fair share of sex since then. So....
Uh... I was 21 when I lost it. What are you trying to say? And I was honest about my virginity. Like I said, the girl liked it that I was a virgin.
It's fucking ridiculous that there are people in this thread claiming otherwise. Can someone be so kind to provide insight on why should a person lose his virginity as soon as possible? Not everyone is lucky as some of you in here that are claiming to have lost your virginity, who the fuck knows if any of you aren't lying.
Yes, we get it. Sex is great and is part of life. But I didn't know there was "rules" that stated, everyone should have sex because it's great and is part of a healthy lifestyle. Get out with that.
Here are some reasons to why some people are still virgins:
1) Religion
2) No interest.
3) Social issues.
4) Focus with their life. Work, hobbies, sports, traveling etc...
5) Can't find a girl to have it with.
6) Disease phobia.
7) Infections, body imperfections etc...
Whoever the fuck thinks that sex should be a mandatory part of your life is fucking stupid. Yes, I called you fucking stupid for that. It's a choice. But somehow, for those that for whatever reason haven't had sex are seen in a negative light or will be seen as something else.
I'm not a virgin. Lost it at 21. And I've had my fair share of sex since then. So....
Uh... I was 21 when I lost it. What are you trying to say? And I was honest about my virginity. Like I said, the girl liked it that I was a virgin.
Haha I wish I was lying.
do you? you try hard to make it seem like you don't then.
Enter The 36 Chambers
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Thanks. Get that a lot actually, lot of Wu fans around here.
Wtf? It clearly is a milestone. Its human instinct to attract a mate right? Being a virgin for sol long means your failing at that. Thats like giving kids trophies for coming last at sports.
it's not an achievement. I wish people would just fucking get over it. It makes me laugh when I see some douchebag brag about having sex though. It's like, congratulations on still thinking like a 15 year old, your family must be so proud.
But not everyone lives life with that in their mindset. How can it be a milestone that way? Only societal norms would dictate that, but they're the same norms that make it that people have to be masters in bed, make lots of money, and/or be famous. Not everyone wants those things, and some don't want any of that.
Is it a milestone for a person's first sexual experience to be raped? Surely having a mate in some fashion implies they've hit some milestone by simply not being a virgin by your childish assumption.
I wish men IRL didn't call me ugly. I wish I wasn't afraid of guys.
But as I am, yeah, I'm great being on my own
So yes and no. Haha.
FortunateSon
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A milestone? It's all subjective. To me, a milestone would be doing a base jump at a height of 1000 ft. Having sex would be the last priority on my list.
If it's human instinct to attract a mate, everyone would be having significant others. The fuck? Maybe people have no interest in being in a relationship, they want to stay single or bachelor for whatever personal reason. Being a virgin does not entail failing at anything. Maybe they are busy at accelerating at other things. Maybe people are concentrated on their careers etc...
The logic flowing in this thread is unbelievable. I should give you a trophy for that post.
Enter The 36 Chambers
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Whenever this topic comes up people get so defensive and hostile. My family must be proud? Wtf are you even talking about.
It is an achievement.
I'm not saying it's not a milestone for many people. I'm saying people shouldn't be disparaging each other on that basis. Please try to read what you reply to.
FortunateSon
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Since when? Or what?
Enter The 36 Chambers
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We get it. You dont care about sex. Congratulations. Unfortunately the majority doesn't think like that. You really think there are mid 20's virgins who dont want to have sex? Of course they do, just like everyone else.
FortunateSon
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Exactly. Perfect! It has more to do with that than anything else. There's a bad stigma attached to virgins. Therefore, most people do it in a rush just more or less to get it out of the way.
Where did I say I didn't like sex? I just don't put much importance in the grander scheme of things in my life. Sex can be great. Since you are the expert on what the majority of people like to do? Enlighten us more sir. I can find you people that don't give two shits about sex at the moment because of multiple factors. The most likely one being, career focus; as for them, sex can come later once they are settled and whatnot. Seriously dude, preach.
I'll make sure to notify all of the virgins who were raped their first time that they achieved something. Do you know how fucking stupid that sounds, to put something like that on some sort of pedestal?
Good job on dodging the other guys question, by the way.
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