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[Nameless]

Just saw a trailer for "The 40 year Old Virgin" and begain thinking to my self: "How can anyone go that long without sex"?? Makes me hve alot of respect for a guy like A.C. Green who despite the temptations of effortless groupie sex that even the most obscure NBA player can get held strong in his beliefs and saved(or is saving) himself for marriage.

For the sake of this thread, I'm asking those over 20 as you are expected by most of society to have gotten laid by the time you entered your twenties, and I while there are probably some, I doubt there are many 40 year olds here, much less 40 year old virgins.

But for those 20 somethings who have yet to have sex, why have you not? Is it because religion, bad luck with women, or is sex just llow on your priority list.??

 

[Mugen]

uhh, it's religion mang!

 

[Tarazet]

 

[sly]

I'm 23 and still a virgin. I'm too ashamed to tell my friends :lol I have a girlfriend who is a virgin and she isn't ready yet but she thinks I've had sex with lots of girls before meeting her and I haven't told her the truth(and I don't intend too).

 

[Forgotten_Taco]

I'm 23 and still a virgin. I'm too ashamed to tell my friends :lol I have a girlfriend who is a virgin and she isn't ready yet but she thinks I've had sex with lots of girls before meeting her and I haven't told her the truth(and I don't intend too).

You sly devil, you.

 

[Tenacious-V]

Just saw a trailer for "The 40 year Old Virgin" and begain thinking to my self: "How can anyone go that long without sex"?? Makes me hve alot of respect for a guy like A.C. Green who despite the temptations of effortless groupie sex that even the most obscure NBA player can get held strong in his beliefs and saved(or is saving) himself for marriage.

For the sake of this thread, I'm asking those over 20 as you are expected by most of society to have gotten laid by the time you entered your twenties, and I while there are probably some, I doubt there are many 40 year olds here, much less 40 year old virgins.

But for those 20 somethings who have yet to have sex, why have you not? Is it because religion, bad luck with women, or is sex just llow on your priority list.??

While I myself couldn't make it past 15.... I can understand those who can wait. Religion dictates it (I know, I was born into Roman Catholicism) and those who have the willpower to withold can make it. Also, if you think about it, once you did have sex, you craved it more am I correct? I sure as hell did... But those who haven't yet don't know the actual feeling or act, so they don't have that extreme yerning to have it all the time like the rest of us. All they need to do is not fall under the pressure of society.

 

[Tenacious-V]

I'm 23 and still a virgin. I'm too ashamed to tell my friends :lol I have a girlfriend who is a virgin and she isn't ready yet but she thinks I've had sex with lots of girls before meeting her and I haven't told her the truth(and I don't intend too).

It's gonna be hillarious when she expects you to go for an hour and you last a minute! :lol :lol

 

[fart]

the closest *** will get to a woman

 

[sly]

It's gonna be hillarious when she expects you to go for an hour and you last a minute! :lol :lol

I know! :lol Well she doesn't know better(unless she's lying and she's not a virgin :lol) so she 'll probably think I'm very good :lol

Spoiler

Who am I kidding?!?!?

 

[Deleted member 4784]

Teh Kao isn't a virgin.

Anyways, I'm a virgin, but I'm only 20. I turn 21 in September, though. I don't consider it to be that big of a deal. I mean, not in comparison to a guy who's 40+. Hats off to him, I guess.

Also, it has nothing to do with religion or anything; just the sensibilities/ideals I was raised with. I'm sure that this is the case for quite a number of other people as well.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

Teh Kao isn't a virgin.

Anyways, I'm a virgin, but I'm only 20. I turn 21 in September, though. I don't consider it to be that big of a deal. I mean, not in comparison to a guy who's 40+. Hats off to him, I guess.

Also, it has nothing to do with religion or anything; just the sensibilities/ideals I was raised with. I'm sure that this is the case for quite a number of other people as well.

I think there is a lot less social pressure on a woman being a virgin at 20 as opposed to a man at 20. It's that nasty double standard.

 

[sly]

I think there is a lot less social pressure on a woman being a virgin at 20 as opposed to a man at 20. It's that nasty double standard.

So true. Its a lot easier for women.

 

[pnjtony]

I was 18 before lady luck smiled upon me and then lent herself to me.

 

[Canadian Psycho]

I don't think I'm a bad looking guy or anything (pic of me at p. 61 of "Post new pics now" thread), but "performance anxiety" hampered my chances for a while. I lost my virginity at the tender age of 22 (I'm now 28). I, too, lied to (former) girlfriends about it:

Ex-girlfriend: "I once went out with this guy who was a virgin and wanted me so much to be his first, it turned me off."

Me: "Pff, what a loser." *all the while sweating like a pig*

Ex-girlfriend: "You're not a virgin, are you?"

Me: "HELL no!" *heart exploding in chest*

I was so stressed out I tried to avoid sexual situations, even though I had been masturbating more than I should for the better part of the decade. I always had excuses for not buying condoms ("there were WAY too many people at the counter of the drugstore, babe") or for not going at her place when her parents were finally out of there ("I dunno, 20 minutes is a LONG ride; I don't have anything to read on the bus").

The day I finally overcame this is when I had sex with a random girl I met at some bar. She was not overly attractive :lol, but she managed to get me over the hump (i.e. I didn't feel any pressure). Unfortunately, she fell in love and I had an whole other matter to deal with.

 

[Mr. E. Yis]

Those waiting it out until marriage for religious reasons should realize that they're making more of a 'sacrifice' than others who saved themselves for marriage in the past thousand years. Instead of waiting until marriage at 15/16 years old, today people are waiting into the 20s, or even 30s. And it looks like the average marriage age will rise even more. What was considered normal up to early 20th century is today considered pedophilia. Our physical bodies haven't even caught up yet.

As for me, I wanted to have my first sex to be with someone meaningful, no matter what my age was at the time. But this didn't end up happening until the age of 21. 1 year later I broke up with her.

 

[Boogie]

Oh great, another one of these threads. F*ck you, thread starter.

 

[Error Macro]

Dammit, I am sick of all this demonizing of us virgins.

I AM TIRED OF SOCIETY LOOKING DOWN ON ME



Oh wait, I don't give a shit.

Also, who in the eff who had a virgin girlfriend would lie to her and say you weren't one also? That sir, is being an oopidstay assface, umm, ay.

 

[demi]

I'm almost there, 20 in October!

 

[Cubsfan23]

Oh great, another one of these threads. F*ck you, thread starter.

You showed up too late. I had you pegged as the 7th post in this thread. Thanks for making me lose my pool.

 

[Monk]

26 virgin. Low on my priorities list. First I have to be able to leave the house at will. :lol

 

[Tarazet]

Teh Kao isn't a virgin.

Say what?!?

...Anyway, I just posted that because I'm not fit to legitimately participate in this thread.

 

[Dice]

I'm 21 and a virgin, and it's really not that bad. It would be difficult if I were to listen to society, but I don't--I don't really make a practice of that in anything. If you're going to have reasons to refrain, remember to your reasons. In this case it's not just a senseless "not allowed", but it's an entirely different way of looking at sex and marriage.

And actually you'll find this insane, but I haven't even kissed a girl. Why? Well I purposely refrained through highschool because I knew I was young and thought it better to learn self-control than open a can of worms that would lead to the mistakes I saw my brother and friends make, and then the few girls I took a liking to already had a boyfriend anyway. Since highschool I know my numbers are limited by my high standards... or should I say, unique. I'm a christian but disagree with the greater portion of christians, so it's hard to find someone remotely compatible. Girls like me but I know if I were to share certain views they'd lose interest. Though this past year I met a girl who has only been christian for 2 years, and we are incredibly compatible, so that might go somewhere.

Overall I'd say it just seems difficult because we live in a society that put so much importance on physical relations, or at least romantic relationships in general. Sure you'll get the desire, but you don't have to be mastered by it, not physical desires or emotions--you can control both. It helps greatly if you don't watch trashy TV, don't read trash, don't go to the club and shake it with some girl, etc. The best way to avoid something is to avoid the roads that lead it it, and it starts in your mindset, in how you view things and understand them to work.

 

[Macam]

At this rate, I'm more curious as to how many people here are actually over 20.

And yeah, I was kind of banking on Boogie being in here a little earlier, no offense It's just like having a celebrity thread without bishoptl, an anti-Bush thread without Incognito, or a Billy Corgan thread without myself and Diablos in it. We have expectations!

 

[Escape Goat]

I didn't have sex until I was 20. Mostly because I grew up knowing I was gay and I was in no situation to come out and have many people welcome me. I didn't even drink until I was 21 and I had missed out on alot of stupid fun in high school because I was "mature for my age". I regret not being able to do either. You're young! Have fun! But that doesn't mean to bang everyone in sight or to become an alcoholic. Act in moderation and be smart and you can still have fun.

 

[ChrisReid]

Overall I'd say it just seems difficult because we live in a society that put so much importance on physical relations, or at least romantic relationships in general. Sure you'll get the desire, but you don't have to be mastered by it, not physical desires or emotions--you can control both.

And someday you will attain kohlinar.

 

[Boogie]

You showed up too late. I had you pegged as the 7th post in this thread. Thanks for making me lose my pool.

At this rate, I'm more curious as to how many people here are actually over 20.

And yeah, I was kind of banking on Boogie being in here a little earlier, no offense It's just like having a celebrity thread without bishoptl, an anti-Bush thread without Incognito, or a Billy Corgan thread without myself and Diablos in it. We have expectations!

:lol

Geez, I'm sorry for not living right at my computer tonight guys

 

[Dyne]

I run by my parent's "no premarital" rule. 18 and holding strong.

Besides, everyone I know who partakes in it just ends up with heavy baggage and uncontrollable emotions.

 

[bionic77]

AC Green says keeping your virginity is cool!

 

[Space Age Playboy]

I run by my parent's "no premarital" rule. 18 and holding strong.

Besides, everyone I know who partakes in it just ends up with heavy baggage and uncontrollable emotions.

Everyone I know who doesn't partake in it has heavier baggage and uncontrollable emoticons. :lol

 

[Dyne]

Everyone I know who doesn't partake in it has heavier baggage and uncontrollable emoticons. :lol

Must be an age-difference thing.

 

[Trizten Dareeque]

"Virgins. I love 'em. No diseases, no loose as a goose pussy, no skank. No nothin. Just pure pleasure."

 

[sly]

"Virgins. I love 'em. No diseases, no loose as a goose pussy, no skank. No nothin. Just pure pleasure."

OMG that had me laughing so hard! :lol :lol :lol

 

[xsarien]

A friend of mine was a virgin up until age, oh, 20 or 21. That in and of itself isn't a big deal in my mind. The problem arises where the pressure and excitement of that belated "first time" supercede judgement, such as it did my friend, who managed to kick one past the goalie on his first time off the bench, if you catch my drift. (At least he had the common decency to marry her.)

I also don't buy the "She'll expect you to last an hour, and you'll only last a minute" argument. Not only is *ahem*...early release something that happens to everyone at a few points in their life - from the novice to the experienced - a girl who judges you based on that alone isn't worth dating in the first place. There's more to a relationship than what goes on between the sheets for an hour (or two, or three, or four...)

 

[demon]

People in their 20s and beyond can be virgins for very different reasons. Religion; waiting for the "right one"; far too incapable/ugly despite all the effort; no effort due to lack of interest/sex drive; and no effort due to serious issues in one's life.

If you must know.... I'm that last one. I'll be 24 in september and I'm still a virgin. I'm very occassionally asked stuff about my sexual history and "rounding the bases" and when did I first get to 1st/2nd/etc base, and I've never even been up to the plate. I'm a good looking guy who you definitley wouldn't peg as a mid-20s virgin at first glance, but I just had a lot of problems with my life in my teen/college years. Shy and 'quiet' all my life + never made large number of friends + extremely overbearing mother in highschool who wouldn't let me explore my own interest or give me any sense of independence, and thus not allowing me to build any self-confidence --> very little social life in HS past first year --> depressed (which eventually sorta evolved into apathetic) and anti-social in college --> no social life or fun in college --> no poontang in college.

I changed my life in a lot of ways the past couple years, have come out of my shell a lot and started working out, etc, but I've had a lot more internal changes than I have external. I'm no longer entirely convinced I'd die a virgin (as I once was), and at times I'll go out more in one week than I did in one year in college. But I still have no social life (I just lost my best friend of a year), and still have this lingering lack of confidence from the previous several years... and because of my current life situation (out of school, haven't found a job yet, no social contacts etc), it's really hard to meet people, including girls.

So there's your answer. I'm sure other 20+ virgins have different stories.

 

[Deleted member 1235]

26 virgin. Low on my priorities list. First I have to be able to leave the house at will. :lol

are you serious about that not leaving the house thing?

Why don't you get an escort to come over? It's time man!

 

[Excess Poo Flakes]

18 and a virgin, have turned down sex one time... it wasn't as hard as I thought it was going to be to say "no," some people make it out to seem that guys are unable to say no. My decision doesn't have to do w/ religion, I'd just like to save myself for my wife.

 

[Talas]

I lost my virginity at the age of 22, it's not a big deal. Who cares about what people think?

 

[Slurpy]

Yes, by choice. Have I had ample opportunities? Yes would be an understatement.
I see it as something which has significant weight. To each his own.

 

[demon]

Who cares about what people think?

It's impossible to go through life not giving one iota of thought to the way people think of you, especially on huge matters like this. When you tell someone you're a virgin in your 20s (especially mid-20s and up), that says a lot about you and the life you've led. Like I said, people have different reasons for being a virgin at that age, but I'd say the majority of the time it boils down to

 

[Trizten Dareeque]

"When you're young. Not much matters. When you find something that you care about, then that's all you got. When you're young. A lot of the time fucking is all you have, when you go to sleep at night, you dream of pussy. When you wake up, it's the same thing. It's in your face, in your dreams, you can't escape it. Sometimes when you're young, the only place to go is inside. That's just it. Fucking is what I love. Take that away from me, and I really got nothin."

 

[ZombieSupaStar]

i lost mine at 18



while star wars was on no less.





wasnt anything special, I just kinda looked over at her and said "hey wanna have sex" she said "ok" and that was it.

 

[Alyssa Hu$tle]

I think there is a lot less social pressure on a woman being a virgin at 20 as opposed to a man at 20. It's that nasty double standard.

True, but on the other had there is a lot more pressure on a girl to keep her virginity rather than loose it too soon... while men are heroes for the effort, women are often labelled as easy. That nasty double standard goes both ways.

Personally, I was wrapped when I lost mine. It was before 20 though. But I can understand those who choose to wait, whatever their reason.

No less I am very happy with my choice.

Very, very happy.

 

[Tenacious-V]

I also don't buy the "She'll expect you to last an hour, and you'll only last a minute" argument. Not only is *ahem*...early release something that happens to everyone at a few points in their life - from the novice to the experienced - a girl who judges you based on that alone isn't worth dating in the first place. There's more to a relationship than what goes on between the sheets for an hour (or two, or three, or four...)

Well I never stated judgement! I just said it'll be hillarious when she (thinking he is NOT a virgin) expects him to perform (like a non virgin) for an extended period of time, and when he's done almost as soon as he starts, it'll be quite startling!!! She most likely won't judge, just it sure as hell will be a funny surprise!! :lol :lol

 

[Dice]

And someday you will attain kohlinar.

*does google search*

No, not the removal of emotions, the guidance of them. Like your emotions are a river and you control which way they go. The control is similar to when someone wrongs you and you respond with grace and forgiveness instead of anger. I can choose to care for a girl romantically, or as a sister, and when I do the feelings are genuine. So why not just pick a girl? With romance what decides which way to go is wisdom, considering the potential positives and negatives, and then level of willingness to work through the negatives. You probably don't want to wait for perfection, but don't go against the grain.

I know that probably sounds unromantic, but the feelings really are the same and just as beautiful when it's moving. Besides, I think it's far more romantic to have been content with singleness and yet still choose a girl because you want to rather than just get carried away love, like your emotions are making you choose her and you can't do otherwise. With this mindset your commitment also won't waver through the rough times.

 

[SKluck]

It's hard to really give a shit when I've got more important things to worry about, like money. 21.

 

[Macam]

Personally, I was wrapped when I lost mine. It was before 20 though. But I can understand those who choose to wait, whatever their reason.

Wrapped?

demon: With the exception of the topic at hand, you sound like my mirror image, right down to the age. Who'd a thunk?

 

[demi]

wasnt anything special, I just kinda looked over at her and said "hey wanna have sex" she said "ok" and that was it.

Typical Toledo.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

True, but on the other had there is a lot more pressure on a girl to keep her virginity rather than loose it too soon... while men are heroes for the effort, women are often labelled as easy. That nasty double standard goes both ways.

Exactly, that's what I meant by a nasty double standard. Our society expects Men to lose their virginity before 20 and for women to keep theirs until they are married. ON TOP OF THAT as Mr. E. Yis stated our society has evolved greatly just physically from when those rules were implemented. It's a dirty game on all sides.

Personally, I was wrapped when I lost mine. It was before 20 though. But I can understand those who choose to wait, whatever their reason.

No less I am very happy with my choice.

Very, very happy.

Ditto, we think so much alike we would have been great together if you didn't mess it up.

Wrapped?

Excited. Probably closer to stoked if you translate it to American English. Those Aussies have a funny way to them.

 

[nitewulf]

Oh great, another one of these threads. F*ck you, thread starter.

thread starter, meet boogie.
boogie, meet thread starter.

 

[xsarien]

wasnt anything special, I just kinda looked over at her and said "hey wanna have sex" she said "ok" and that was it.

You sure you're just not quoting lines from Jackie Brown?