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Anyone over the age of 20 and still a virgin??
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I lost it at 17; kinda surprising when I look back on it, cos I was one of those anti-social highschoolers that never went out. Supermarkets are awesome places to work for random no-effort highschool girlfriends, the more checkouts the better.
That first relationship lasted just over a year, and the girl was nothing special and slightly psycho, but I've got no regrets. The actual penetration isn't the most important part of sex, but it's what virginity seems to be based on, and for guys it's just masturbating with a different grip. Doing it for the first time in a relationship is always special to me, but the first one of all is no more so.
That first relationship lasted just over a year, and the girl was nothing special and slightly psycho, but I've got no regrets. The actual penetration isn't the most important part of sex, but it's what virginity seems to be based on, and for guys it's just masturbating with a different grip. Doing it for the first time in a relationship is always special to me, but the first one of all is no more so.
evil solrac v3.0 said:
He didn't say can't, just that it's a red flag. It's like that old favorite analogy: Would you buy a car without test driving it? You don't necessarily have to, to end up liking the car, but it sure gives you a better idea of what you're getting into and how happy you may be with it in the long run.
There's a great song by an Australian band called TISM which is titled "Everyone Else Has Had More Sex Than Me" (you can find the video here - the Radio Edit version should be safe for work). As a 27-year old virgin I really identify with it. Except for the bit with the fat rabbit with "812" on his chest.
snaildog said:
I try to impart that wisdom in every guy looking for a first job. Supermarkets are the best place to work to meet girls.
Anyways, I had alot of the same problems some of the other posters had. A few close friends lost thier virginity in 6th grade (Welcome to Toledo, Ohio), so I put this intense pressure on myself to lose my virginity. It would result in alot of queasy stomachs and sweaty palms fumbling bra straps (Oh, those poor girls). The pressure became so intense, I just sort of avoided situations so I wouldn't have to embarrass myself. I was fortunate to have an experienced girl jump me, otherwise I definitely would have been a +20 yr old virgin. I would be afraid to see where that level of self-loathing and anxiety would have led me.
Looking back, if I would have just told these girls "Look, I'm a virgin, and I'm a bit nervous." It would have saved me alot of awkward moments. Instead, I had to posture like I was some cocksmith, making me look even more foolish at the time. Oh well. With my luck, if I was an early success, I probably would have gotten some girl pregnant and ruined our lives. Things are probably better that I lost it at 18.
Mejilan said:
This is why you have never been laid, my friend.
All kidding around, I don't judge someone who is a virgin or who is not. I find it admirable if anyone decides they can hold out for the right person (male or female). I guess that's one of the few things that I actually did take from my religious parents.
But I was never one for the religion, so I rebelled early and hard and did a lot of stupid (and sometimes awesome!) things.
The point wasn't to judge people for their choices, their religious beliefs, or for the way things have worked out for them, but rather to give another perspective. If someone's not a virgin by choice, my post really wasn't for them (although the comments in this thread about not having a girlfriend because they feel it would be a waste of money seem so wrong on so many levels). People deserve a caring, sensitive someone who will treat them right when the right time comes; no one deserves to be shunned because they haven't slept around or whatever, don't read that into what I wrote.demon said:
But for people who may be agonizing over the idea that they feel it's the best thing to "save themselves" for their honeymoon, I feel it's a beautiful sentiment that doesn't really pan out. I don't mean to be saying--you know, you're 17 or something and your boyfriend or girlfriend is pressuring you to give it up, I don't want you to read this as me trying to convince you to do something when you're not ready, and regret it later. But for someone who is in a good relationship and really wants to go there, but is worried they'll be doing their future spouse a disservice, I feel that concern is woefully misplaced.
Any good relationship is built on the foundation of a great friendship, mutual respect, and attention to each other's needs. Sexuality and intimacy are a huge part of that. I think you're focusing on a romantic ideal--rather than straight-up reality--if you try to convince yourself otherwise. You don't break up with your boyfriend because he has a really good friend he respects. You break up with your boyfriend because he fucked someone else, regardless of whether he likes or respects them.evil solrac v3.0 said:
I'd also add that my point wasn't about becoming some master technician in the sack; in relationships, experience isn't always about leveling up your dick-handling skills, but more importantly about better understanding yourself and what your needs really are in the first place.
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everyone of you guys would get more pussy if you just stopped caring about getting pussy.
Yes. 22...and still waiting. It's not because I wanted but because I am a disaster when it comes to personal relations.
It's ok...Something good must come from this...
Actually the more years happen...the more scared I am. Sometimes I think it would be better to stay that way forever and forget about anything. People can be pretty cruel when they want.
It's ok...Something good must come from this...
Actually the more years happen...the more scared I am. Sometimes I think it would be better to stay that way forever and forget about anything. People can be pretty cruel when they want.
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Suerte said:
There no such thing as gay guys.....its just something you fuckers want everyone else to believe....you pretend to be gay so you get lots of female friends and then when you get close enough you ask them to "convert" you. The girls will always say yes because they t want to tell their friends that they were hot enough to turn a gay guy straight.
Im on to you bastards!
24 and am in no hurry, or for that matter, really not interested
I got way more important things to worry about, like money for one, and my future career. From what I've seen, relationships take up way too much time and money for my taste and I don't want to give up what little free time I have on them.
As for sex, well, I'm pretty much asexual.
I got way more important things to worry about, like money for one, and my future career. From what I've seen, relationships take up way too much time and money for my taste and I don't want to give up what little free time I have on them.
As for sex, well, I'm pretty much asexual.
Hehe, I don't have that much of an interest in music either (at least what passes for "music" these days) but I still manage to listen to some tunes now and then, though admittedly there's little variety anymore and I just listen to whats on my puny mp3 player on the way to and from classes.
EDIT: oh yeah, I've never had a gf either or anything even close to resembling such. I suppose I should lament that, but for some reason, I dont.
EDIT: oh yeah, I've never had a gf either or anything even close to resembling such. I suppose I should lament that, but for some reason, I dont.
I am 21 years old and still a virgin!
It's not because of religion or morals, I just never had the chance to have sex. I have kissed with some girls, mostly while going out, but except for two occasion nothing really came out of it. On these two occassions I dated with these girls for a while, but they usually see me as a friend after a few dates or just aren't in love with me.
I learned a lot from these experences and two weeks ago I met a girl while going out and it really clicked, we saw each other some more in the last week and things were still going pretty good, but now she is on holiday for three more weeks. Because of that holiday things are so uncertain, since we're not really having a relationship, anything could happen. I'll just hope for the best and if nothing comes from it I'll have learned for future occasions.
I'm convinced though that I won't be a virgin or even relationshipless for the rest of my life, so I don't worry about that too much anymore.
It's not because of religion or morals, I just never had the chance to have sex. I have kissed with some girls, mostly while going out, but except for two occasion nothing really came out of it. On these two occassions I dated with these girls for a while, but they usually see me as a friend after a few dates or just aren't in love with me.
I learned a lot from these experences and two weeks ago I met a girl while going out and it really clicked, we saw each other some more in the last week and things were still going pretty good, but now she is on holiday for three more weeks. Because of that holiday things are so uncertain, since we're not really having a relationship, anything could happen. I'll just hope for the best and if nothing comes from it I'll have learned for future occasions.
I'm convinced though that I won't be a virgin or even relationshipless for the rest of my life, so I don't worry about that too much anymore.
demon said:
:lol
I like being alone, so I guess I'm kinda afraid that a girl will grab me with her claws and trap and annoy me for the rest of my life. I'm kind of weak, but can be brutally honest since I'm not good with words to get around stuff(Damn girls didn't believe I've never been to a strip club). But then I guess if I love her I'll be happy being trapped. I'm to shy to ever have casual sex or one night stand or whatever. I'm slow in many ways(not in my head though). Took for ever to get a real job, took forever to decide what to study, took for ever to get my driver license
. I guess its taking forever for other things to happen too.Is it so shocking to have never been to a strip club? I never have either...alejob said::lol
I like being alone, so I guess I'm kinda afraid that a girl will grab me with her claws and trap and annoy me for the rest of my life. I'm kind of weak, but can be brutally honest since I'm not good with words to get around stuff(Damn girls didn't believe I've never been to a strip club). But then I guess if I love her I'll be happy being trapped. I'm to shy to ever have casual sex or one night stand or whatever. I'm slow in many ways(not in my head though). Took for ever to get a real job, took forever to decide what to study, took for ever to get my driver license
Not really, it's just an overgeneralizing blanket theory. With some guys, caring way too much, putting too much effort into it and coming off as desperate etc. is their problem. That doesn't exactly apply to us, though.Boogie said:Fucking retarded theory
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Kabuki Waq said:
:lol
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:lol :lol :lolArk-AMN said:
You suck at life!
demon said:Not really, it's just an overgeneralizing blanket theory. With some guys, caring way too much, putting too much effort into it and coming off as desperate etc. is their problem. That doesn't exactly apply to us, though.
Well, that's what I meant
xsarien said:
Really? I know tons of people who don't go to strip clubs. Hell, I scarcely know anybody who has gone to a strip club.
But then, it's not really a topic that comes up much in casual conversation.
suikodan
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I had sex for the first time at 17.
I have no problems having sex before marriage. Unfortunately (for my 1st gf), I wanted more so I cheated on her twice. The problem in my couple was that I stayed too long with this girl. I should have ended this 4 yrs relationship way earlier.
Then I was 2 yrs with a crazy b****. 2 wasted year if you ask me.
After liberating myself from this atrocity, I had the most fun of my life. Single in a 3 1/2 apartment with a nice job and lots of time to kill so I met lots of girls that I was happy to bring home.
I met my current gf during that time, she and I will probably be together for a long time (house, kids, etc...) so I stopped but I do believe (that's my personal line of thought and I know that other may think otherwise) that you should have fun with different girls before settling in with only one. There, you know what you want and you can resist temptations a lot better. :lol
For those who are still virgins and aren't under pressure, sometimes I envy you. Sex is like opening a Pandora Box, the good stuff is that sex is good but the bad stuff is that you want more.
I have no problems having sex before marriage. Unfortunately (for my 1st gf), I wanted more so I cheated on her twice. The problem in my couple was that I stayed too long with this girl. I should have ended this 4 yrs relationship way earlier.
Then I was 2 yrs with a crazy b****. 2 wasted year if you ask me.
After liberating myself from this atrocity, I had the most fun of my life. Single in a 3 1/2 apartment with a nice job and lots of time to kill so I met lots of girls that I was happy to bring home.
I met my current gf during that time, she and I will probably be together for a long time (house, kids, etc...) so I stopped but I do believe (that's my personal line of thought and I know that other may think otherwise) that you should have fun with different girls before settling in with only one. There, you know what you want and you can resist temptations a lot better. :lol
For those who are still virgins and aren't under pressure, sometimes I envy you. Sex is like opening a Pandora Box, the good stuff is that sex is good but the bad stuff is that you want more.
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ZombieSupaStar said:
I'd say it wasn't anything special. Wasn't it to that nasty ass dirtcake that used to come into the mall and visit you at work?
suikodan said:
I wonder if I had sex on, for example, my 18th or something, would I have had more sex after that or not? As it stands now, I never had sex and I guess I don't miss it THAT much, but if I had sex then and not anymore after, I'd probably be a nervous wreck, constantly thinking about it!
On the other hand, a friend of mine never had a girlfriend, never kissed. Then on his 18th he had his first, had sex and hasn't been without a girlfriend for more than a few weeks at a time after that! So this supports the theorie that having sex, generates more sex...or something like that.
xsarien said:
Not really, I mean, it would depend on the people you hang around with really. Strip clubs kind of require a certain mindset, one that generally requires a group of friends and some real boredom or mutual interest in going.
I went once years ago, and it was such an ungratifying, awkward experience that I never cared to even reconsider going back. Granted, it was one time, and the circumstances probably didn't lend themselves well to being comfortable: I wasn't anywhere near drunk enough to enjoy it and the girl that gave me a lap dance was so cliche, I was trying not to laugh in her face when she literally purred in my ear. That and it was made more uncomfortable by her incessant showcasing of her asshole (this wasn't just a topless club) -- hardly the most arousing asset. Besides, strip clubs are generally quite expensive, and unless you're really enticed or curious it just reduces the chances of a first time or return visit.
I don't see how it's degrading when you're 15. Your experience was obviously different, but the ones I've worked at (and obviously ToxicAdams' who agreed further up the page) have been full of outgoing girls that practically lash out at any unsuspecting guy that walks past. Well that's exaggerating, but if you spend long enough at one place you can't really help getting to know the girls.loxy said:
Well, it rings true with me. When i hit a dry spell, there's the initial withdrawal cravings that reach a ridiculous peak, then it falls off. After a while, i don't think about sex. The first time it happened was after my first few times having sex at age 17. i didn't have sex for something like two years after that. i became completely apathetic towards sex after that and thought i was "asexual". :lol i even told the girl i started dating that at the time, and proved that theory wrong after i started screwing her silly.demon said:
And strip clubs? i really don't see the appeal in them and have never been to one. Paying for a tease seems so stupid, especially when you can go to a party and get far more for free.
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