Fatty tuna from Komasa
Hey all. Happy New Year!
All the US news has been depressing lately, so I am hoping to cheer myself up with good West Coast food while I am there.
Any recommendations in LA for Dim Sum, sushi, and KBBQ?
Political note- so proud of all the Asian American lawyers and judges stepping up the plate.
" he will not divide us"?All this food yum.
Also y'all what is going on is seriously hurting. America is literally becoming an oppressive regime, with a rogue executive branch, and we need to impeach him. If we don't and he continues with this...
Anyhow I'm thinking of buying a bouquet of flowers and visiting the local mosque to leave it there. Not sure what I should write on the card. "I support you?" I'm just trying to show support and solidarity.
All this food yum.
Also y'all what is going on is seriously hurting. America is literally becoming an oppressive regime, with a rogue executive branch, and we need to impeach him. If we don't and he continues with this...
Anyhow I'm thinking of buying a bouquet of flowers and visiting the local mosque to leave it there. Not sure what I should write on the card. "I support you?" I'm just trying to show support and solidarity.
Truly, it's the year of Donald Trump.
Damn that film sounds dope, gives me a Do the Right Thing vibe to boot.I made that thread about a kickstart to GOOK by Justin Chon and it appears the film has won the Audience award at the Sundance Film Festival.
I'm quite interested to see this film.
I'm not too sure about Bad Rap though. They haven't really given their fans too many updates besides what was talked about last time (where they are showing Bad Rap in the US).
Also, advice to both chicks and dudes-- don't set unrealistic standards unless you're also okay with not being other anyone for the rest of your life, and if you nitpick a lot, don't expect sympathy for your singleness.
That is how I've failed so, so, so many times in the past. Everything will seem to be going well, and then she'll tell you about this new guy she's seeing. And then things will taper off. =(I don't know her, so I'm honestly not sure if I can give advice. (I don't understand the being into someone from another country... are you there with her IRL?) What I can say is that if it were me, all you'd have to do is to keep hanging out with me and going on datey events. I guess, basically just act like a couple (or at least treat her like a girlfriend). Do romantic things without making moves. Cook dinner together. Make her laugh (crucial). I mean, don't be too accommodating, or grovel-y. Be (or act) confident and self-secure, but don't talk over her or disregard her opinions. I wouldn't give in to everything, especially if you disagree, but voice your opposition politely and firmly. (At least, for me, it's kinda attractive when a guy knows what he wants and why, but manages to express this without acting like he's better than others.) As long as you don't make her too upset during these crucial moments, you'll probably end up with her because you're here and he's there. If she's stressed out, listen to her! Be a good listener. (Ask StMeph on how to be a good listener, I don't really know how. But he's great at it. Everyone's therapist.) If she connects to you emotionally and is also romantically interested in you, and you can make her laugh a lot, you'll probably have a good chance.
Which is, uh, kinda manipulative sounding maybe but I think that would work on me. (I sort of assumed you want advice on how to get her. If not, disregard )
That's better than my experiences, I think. Women tend to think I'm husband material and not boyfriend material.
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TBH I have no idea how I helped but I'm glad you got some of it figured out .
I don't know her, so I'm honestly not sure if I can give advice. (I don't understand the being into someone from another country... are you there with her IRL?) What I can say is that if it were me, all you'd have to do is to keep hanging out with me and going on datey events. I guess, basically just act like a couple (or at least treat her like a girlfriend). Do romantic things without making moves. Cook dinner together. Make her laugh (crucial). I mean, don't be too accommodating, or grovel-y. Be (or act) confident and self-secure, but don't talk over her or disregard her opinions. I wouldn't give in to everything, especially if you disagree, but voice your opposition politely and firmly. (At least, for me, it's kinda attractive when a guy knows what he wants and why, but manages to express this without acting like he's better than others.) As long as you don't make her too upset during these crucial moments, you'll probably end up with her because you're here and he's there. If she's stressed out, listen to her! Be a good listener. (Ask StMeph on how to be a good listener, I don't really know how. But he's great at it. Everyone's therapist.) If she connects to you emotionally and is also romantically interested in you, and you can make her laugh a lot, you'll probably have a good chance.
Which is, uh, kinda manipulative sounding maybe but I think that would work on me. (I sort of assumed you want advice on how to get her. If not, disregard )
Also if she's culturally Chinese I'm not sure if this advice still applies due to differences in... culture? haha
To clarify, the part I strongly disagree with is that you should do all that while not making moves. 100% of the time, that led to her thinking I flat out wasn't interested, regardless whether or not I actually was.
I don't know her, so I'm honestly not sure if I can give advice. (I don't understand the being into someone from another country... are you there with her IRL?) What I can say is that if it were me, all you'd have to do is to keep hanging out with me and going on datey events. I guess, basically just act like a couple (or at least treat her like a girlfriend). Do romantic things without making moves. Cook dinner together. Make her laugh (crucial). I mean, don't be too accommodating, or grovel-y. Be (or act) confident and self-secure, but don't talk over her or disregard her opinions. I wouldn't give in to everything, especially if you disagree, but voice your opposition politely and firmly. (At least, for me, it's kinda attractive when a guy knows what he wants and why, but manages to express this without acting like he's better than others.) As long as you don't make her too upset during these crucial moments, you'll probably end up with her because you're here and he's there. If she's stressed out, listen to her! Be a good listener. (Ask StMeph on how to be a good listener, I don't really know how. But he's great at it. Everyone's therapist.) If she connects to you emotionally and is also romantically interested in you, and you can make her laugh a lot, you'll probably have a good chance.
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Also if she's culturally Chinese I'm not sure if this advice still applies due to differences in... culture? haha
Don't worry, your not making an ass off yourself just yet.It's Dating GAF all up in here too? Because boy do I have questions and seeking opinions -- especially from fellow Asians.
Fake Edit: Aww damn it, I'm at the top of the page.
Don't worry, your not making an ass off yourself just yet.
Except for bring a 50pp person, you heretic.
It means you're a reliable provider but not someone fun to hang out with.
Boyfriend - fun
Lover - sex
Husband - support
Well your message about not trying to look at flaws made me realize I was subconsciously making up excuses when in fact, I actually did like her.
Too much scrolling at 100pp!
I don't think there's anything you could've done differently. When she asked you what being "official" meant, you told her you were in it for the long haul (so you're not treating it as a fling). Having a "talk" in any budding relationship is important so you got that out of the way (I think she should've seen that coming). As long as she doesn't feel pressured into committing (and you don't pressure her), you should stay the course and see how things go.
I don't think you should see other girls right now, but if things don't change in about a month or so, start looking.
It's basically the equivalent of "you're like a brother to me". Safe, stable, dependable, but doesn't stoke the fires of passion.
It also means you're only attractive at age 35.
You've already made your feelings known to her. Either she feels the same or she doesn't. There's an off chance she'll change her mind, but choosing you because you're close by and available is settling or being the backup.
If you meet up again, act normally but don't make any romantic advances. Don't go out of your way to impress her though, and don't wait for her.
WOOOOOO only two more years to go!!
Well, I mean when they're 35 and want to settle down
Either that or they subscribe to the "Christmas cake" mentality lol
I have a bit of a baby face and can reasonably pass as 20-something.
What's the Christmas cake mentality lol
To be honest though, I'd much prefer dating older women, but older women don't take me seriously for some reason. I have a bit of a baby face and can reasonably pass as 20-something.
I consider anybody who walk with their shoes inside homes to be savages.
Indoor slippers is acceptable though.It's like some people never heard of indoor slippers/sandals before. :O
Indoor slippers is acceptable though.
Indoor slippers is acceptable though.
nah i don't agree with that even lol. how can you be human if you dont even touch the ground once in a while YOOOO. like when was the last time you dropped a cookie on the floor and ate it? that's humanity at its 100%
It's just so abrasive to me.Meh, there's no Asian actresses bankable enough to head up a movie with that budget. In fact, there's less than a handful of any race.
Pretty sure we still touch the ground in the bathroom and in the tubnah i don't agree with that even lol. how can you be human if you dont even touch the ground once in a while YOOOO. like when was the last time you dropped a cookie on the floor and ate it? that's humanity at its 100%
Pretty sure we still touch the ground in the bathroom and in the tub