Zaraki_Kenpachi
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Is chinese really that painful to learn? I was going to try to start soon?
Is chinese really that painful to learn? I was going to try to start soon?
The three dashes in the character on the right are bullshit because they are the root for water. Water looks like this: 水蝴->湖 - both are pronounced the same (hu2) but the latter means lake because the radical has changed.
No one forgets 王大中.
Man, I hated Chinese school. I regret slacking off during that time now, though, just like I was warned I would but never believed.
The three dashes in the character on the right are bullshit because they are the root for water. Water looks like this: 水
Where do you see three fuckin' dashes!?
*edit:
...huh.
That's both a little ?! and a little funny at the same time.
Adopted? No other better way, like Chinese for non-native speakers T__T?
Yup that's the Kumon face all right. So I used to hide parts of my Kumon worksheet packets around the house as a kid so I wouldn't have to do as much (smarter and more devious friends were able to steal answer books). My parents to this day find Kumon sheets stashed around their house in odd nooks and crannies.
I learned both...How is it easier? Just that you don't have to learn more characters? The rules are exactly the same.
Don't regret Chinese school- There's no way you could become literate learning a language once a week for like 4-6 hours. I went all 12 years and it really didn't do much.
Pinying is just romanized zuying. I learned it after I learned the latter, and it made things more complicated, due to the phonetics not being one-to-one with English.I assume it's easier because pinyying replaces both the complex Chinese characters and the secondary alphabet that is really only used to sound things out. With pinying I don't need that crazy dictionary to look up words by their roots. That and, if you know English, it should be easier to get into reading/writing in pinying.
All of this is conjecture though, since I don't know pinying and am terrible at Chinese in general.
Kumon sounds terrible. But then again, it's probably better than just having a kid write the same character a thousand times.
Pinying is just romanized zuying. I learned it after I learned the latter, and it made things more complicated, due to the phonetics not being one-to-one with English.
I assume it's easier because pinyying replaces both the complex Chinese characters and the secondary alphabet that is really only used to sound things out. With pinying I don't need that crazy dictionary to look up words by their roots. That and, if you know English, it should be easier to get into reading/writing in pinying.
All of this is conjecture though, since I don't know pinying and am terrible at Chinese in general.
Kumon sounds terrible. But then again, it's probably better than just having a kid write the same character a thousand times.
But can't you replace the actual characters with pinying? Technically you could do that with zhuying as well, but no one actually did that. Don't they do that with pinying? Can't you just learn pinying without learning all the crazy complicated characters and roots and stuff?
That I can see but usually you look up a Chinese word because you don't know how to pronounce it so the older system addresses that. I don't think the older system is better mind you. And I suppose if you started from scratch as an English speaker, pinyin is better.
Do any of you guys think about how much you'll emphasize your native language to your kids? As much as I'd like my future kids to speak mandarin, my partner is Vietnamese and well it's probably not going to happen unless I send them to an immersion program.
No they don't .. Chinese characters are still used. Pinyin is really just a pronunciation tool. No matter what you'll need to know Chinese characters. I think for like street signs in mainland cities there's pinyin next to Chinese characters .
I will show them Kung Fu movies (with English subtitles at the bottom). Whatever they pick up from watching those will be their cultural legacy from me.
Ah okay. So what you're saying is that there truly is no hope.
The Slate piece leaves out that Rand Paul is a LINO and implicitly, then, that Annie & co are easily fooled rubes.Not generally a Slate fan; but saw this article
http://www.slate.com/articles/techn...te_why_he_wants_it_and_could_just_get_it.html
Thoughts?
I'd argue that Annie herself is probably a LINO, if she has any party affiliation at all.The Slate piece leaves out that Rand Paul is a LINO and implicitly, then, that Annie & co are easily fooled rubes.
Which is probably fair.
Yeah. I think, if anything, I am a libertarian in idea and liberal in practice for exactly that reason. People aren't rational, and the invisible hand clearly doesn't work. It would be great if things weren't this way, but they are.I had to google what LINO meant... Libertarian In Name Only.
Ionno if linking thinkprogress & then saying other people are easily fooled rubes is fair :>. hahahaha.
Might be true, my partner says to be a libertarian in ideal though liberal in practice. I wouldn't say I am a libertarian, (because it doesn't work???), but in theory it'd be nice if we were all always perfectly rational human beings.
My in-laws are all from the Philippines, and there is no damn way Filipino food is healthy. Everything is fried. I once ordered some "veggies," and I got fried pork with some vegetables mixed in there, maybe. I think this type of calorically dense, cheap food is good for the ethnic Filipinos, since they work all day, sweating it out in the hot sun, but for the more affluent people there, I definitely foresee there being an obesity problem like the one in the US.[One of my ragey side notes- someone saying "Asians eat carbs and are skinny therefore carbs don't make you fat. FFS people the portions in Asia and America are. not. the. same. k. That's all.
*edit: Okay, to explain, my coworker from the Philippines (immigrated here about 2 years ago) said that fat shaming is accepted and normal over there.
I never got any "eat less" because I've always been skinny, but a lot of my friends say their parents will give them shit about gaining weight.
It's pretty mentally unhealthy to shame anyone about their body-- but do Asian Americans have more mental issues regarding weight? Do any of y'all have issues about your body image / weight from all the body shaming Asian parents seem to like to indulge in? For me the answer is yes, but not about being fat.]
It's pretty mentally unhealthy to shame anyone about their body-- but do Asian Americans have more mental issues regarding weight? Do any of y'all have issues about your body image / weight from all the body shaming Asian parents seem to like to indulge in? For me the answer is yes, but not about being fat.]
It's pretty mentally unhealthy to shame anyone about their body-- but do Asian Americans have more mental issues regarding weight? Do any of y'all have issues about your body image / weight from all the body shaming Asian parents seem to like to indulge in? For me the answer is yes, but not about being fat.]
I never got any "eat less" because I've always been skinny, but a lot of my friends say their parents will give them shit about gaining weight.
It's pretty mentally unhealthy to shame anyone about their body-- but do Asian Americans have more mental issues regarding weight? Do any of y'all have issues about your body image / weight from all the body shaming Asian parents seem to like to indulge in? For me the answer is yes, but not about being fat.]
My sister gets fat shamed a lot not just by family but family friends.
Only Chinese people would greet family friends with "oh..you got fat" in that semi-condescending polite tone and think it's ok.
My sister gets fat shamed a lot not just by family but family friends.
Only Chinese people would greet family friends with "oh..you got fat" in that semi-condescending polite tone and think it's ok.
I don't want to say that fat shaming is a good thing, but I think the current PC culture of fat acceptance or even glorification is awful. You're not doing anyone a service by pushing an unhealthy lifestyle.
Are any of you keeping up with the OK Cupid thread?
What are your opinions on fetishizing people based on race?
I'm not sure why that article even brings up the guy's preferences.Are any of you keeping up with the OK Cupid thread?
What are your opinions on fetishizing people based on race?
If there is such a middle ground, it's actually a lot smaller than we think. Outside of a doctor telling you to do something about your lifestyle, there's a razor-thin line between, "Lose some weight, tubby," and, "You're beautiful no matter what." No matter what you say, if it's not the latter, people will take it that you mean the former.I think there's a middleground between saying that being obese is amazing and calling your daughter fat.
Well, truthfully speaking, I find Asian men to be the most attractive (physically), and for the sake of my parents, I looked for other Chinese/Taiwanese, or at least Asian-American men, when I looking for serious, marriage-y relationships.
That being said, I don't think anyone likes being fetishized based on race.
I'm not sure why that article even brings up the guy's preferences.
On topic, though, I personally think it's semi-racist to consider racial preferences as fetishes anyway. Someone brought it up in that thread, but if an Asian woman dates exclusively white guys, do people say she has an Anglo or white fetish? No. So how come a white guy who dates exclusively Asians has "yellow fever" or whatever? It's because white is normal, and minorities are marginalized, so a "normal" person preferring to date minorities has some sort of dysfunction, making his preference a fetish. It's nonsense.
If there is such a middle ground, it's actually a lot smaller than we think. Outside of a doctor telling you to do something about your lifestyle, there's a razor-thin line between, "Lose some weight, tubby," and, "You're beautiful no matter what." No matter what you say, if it's not the latter, people will take it that you mean the former.
It's even more bothersome that some are now moving onto thin shaming. "Kiera Knightley needs to eat a sandwich," and whatnot. It's the same thing.
Well, truthfully speaking, I find Asian men to be the most attractive (physically), and for the sake of my parents, I looked for other Chinese/Taiwanese, or at least Asian-American men, when I looking for serious, marriage-y relationships.
That being said, I don't think anyone likes being fetishized based on race.
Yep.
Yes. I read subreddits like /r/fatlogic (not to be confused with fatpeoplehate!). TBH, I think what annoys me the most is just the denial of the simple fact that for most people, losing weight comes down to consuming less calories than what your body uses.
That being said, DISCLAIMER, about half my partners were chubby, and only a few of them were actually thin. By Asian standards quite a few of them were actually fat (one of them had the nickname, fathead [in Chinese], by his friends). So... I don't find fat to be gross, and physically I'm okay with it. It's not like OMIGOD EW FAT PEOPLE, I'm really just angry about willful stupidity. Part of willful stupidity includes denying there is anything unhealthy with being very overweight. There's actually an article about how Asian people are affected by weight at a lower weight level than white people... so basically, it's even worse for Asians to be "fat" because the negative parts of being fat occur to us at a lower weight relative to our peers. @___@
Will watch it when I get home, but that sound intriguing. Asian trap? Yes please.
I'm not sure why that article even brings up the guy's preferences.
On topic, though, I personally think it's semi-racist to consider racial preferences as fetishes anyway. Someone brought it up in that thread, but if an Asian woman dates exclusively white guys, do people say she has an Anglo or white fetish? No. So how come a white guy who dates exclusively Asians has "yellow fever" or whatever? It's because white is normal, and minorities are marginalized, so a "normal" person preferring to date minorities has some sort of dysfunction, making his preference a fetish. It's nonsense.
Does anyone else feel like this is pretty common? It feels like it comes up a lot in my experience for why they date who they date.
My sister gets fat shamed a lot not just by family but family friends.
Only Chinese people would greet family friends with "oh..you got fat" in that semi-condescending polite tone and think it's ok.
Are any of you keeping up with the OK Cupid thread?
What are your opinions on fetishizing people based on race?
Does anyone else feel like this is pretty common? It feels like it comes up a lot in my experience for why they date who they date.for the sake of my parents, I looked for other Chinese/Taiwanese, or at least Asian-American men, when I looking for serious, marriage-y relationships.
They also have this weird belief that white people really like to divorce each other.
I responded to you in that thread!
To detail here, since I don't think over there is the right place-- there's a lot of bitterness about Asian girls who exclusively date white men. They're called race traitor, self-hating Asians, wannabe whites, etc.
I don't know why, but I just find Asian faces to be really attractive?
It's hard to describe. I don't give physical appearance very much thought, my boyfriends have all been very different looking in body, but I like the Asian male face. MC Jin? So fucking hot, crushed on him for YEARS. Wang Lee Hom? Just beautiful.
I don't even know how to explain it properly. It's just attractive to me.
Family matters the most. You don't just marry a person, you marry their family. As the chick, I'm going to be expected to listen and obey my husband's parents.
Also, I love and care about my parents more than I love/care about anyone else in the world (maybe with the exception of my little brother and whoever my future husband will be), so I want them to be happy and what they think of my future husband matters a lot.
However, I think my parents also just want me to be happy. They just think I won't be as happy if I date someone too different from me. They also have this weird belief that white people really like to divorce each other.
Oh my god.
Don't even get me started (lol).
My parents, bless their hearts, have some of the most intolerant beliefs about things like ... gay rights, and other colored people.
What can I do @_____@
They also have this weird belief that white people really like to divorce each other.
My mom has brought this up a bunch of times before! lol
Family matters the most. You don't just marry a person, you marry their family. As the chick, I'm going to be expected to listen and obey my husband's parents.
Also, I love and care about my parents more than I love/care about anyone else in the world (maybe with the exception of my little brother and whoever my future husband will be), so I want them to be happy and what they think of my future husband matters a lot.
However, I think my parents also just want me to be happy. They just think I won't be as happy if I date someone too different from me. They also have this weird belief that white people really like to divorce each other.
But do you think by marrying someone who isn't asian/chinese that you're saying that your family doesn't matter? It's just interesting because I love my family but I can't imagine not talking to/dating someone because my family feels a certain way. Not that they ever would hate someone I date but still. Just feel like almost fear of what their parents think vs. what they would want.
I don't think it's saying that your family doesn't matter but if you date someone that doesn't get along with your family, it creates a bit of friction. I don't think this phenomena is an Asian only thing TBH. It's more of a if you are really close to your family, these things matter in the same way religion is a big deal breaker too.
I had a friend in college who was dating a Filipino girl. Everything was good up until he decided to bring her home. Now it wasn't that the girl was crazy or the parents were intolerant (his parents were super progressive people). It was just that there was a cultural and language barrier (parents didn't really speak much English) which prevented the girl from really being included in everything and he was close to his parents (his mom and dad were his "best friends"). They both came to a conclusion that it just wouldn't work out in the end.
To me, I think people throw around fetish way too much. Having a preference for Asian girls, like the guy in the thread, does not mean he has a fetish. I mean, I'm pretty sure he wouldn't date an "ugly" Asian girl just because she was Asian.
That is a sad story, but I'm assuming that while everything was good before meeting the parents, it wasn't like they were head over heels in love either. My fiance's parents only speak Cantonese so I can't communicate with them at all. It makes visiting them slightly awkward, because they're always yelling at each other.
I agree with you definitely but when my sister was online dating, she asked me to screen some of the guys that messaged her and a few of those were from the annals of "nice guys of OKcupid" that opened with a "Ni Hao!" or "Konichiwa!" (we're Korean). Luckily, she's now married to a (non-Asian) guy who's totally great and a perfect match for her.
It would be incredibly stupid and myopic to say that all white guys going after Asian girls on dating websites are fetishers. The vast majority of guys are decent, but it's the minority that gives them the bad rap. Having said that, those guys definitely do exist and it's always not obvious; I'm always curious why guys that claim that they don't "fetishize" sometimes get extremely defensive about it. I dated three Indian girls in a row and was accused (by some of my Indian friends who were only partially joking) of an Indian fetish. It really didn't bother me and I just shrugged it off.
I just don't have a problem with this criteria being a potential deal breaker when it comes to marriage. I also don't think it's absolutely wrong nor is it an Asian only thing.
I have a Love Conquers All mindset. Anything that can't be reduced down to "is a terrible person" isn't an impediment for me.
It's not impossible to function in a relationship where your parents don't like your SO or have cultural differences that make communication difficult. It's just hard as f**k. A lot harder than you'd expect it to be.
Yeah, definitely. My fiance and I just kind of ignore our parents. We go up for a weekend to visit once every other month but that's about it. I imagine it would be much harder for people that have their family fully entrenched in their lives.
Oh my god.
Don't even get me started (lol).
My parents, bless their hearts, have some of the most intolerant beliefs about things like ... gay rights, and other colored people.
What can I do @_____@
Where do you draw the line between preference and fetish? You say that guy won't date an "ugly" Asian but how do you know? I honestly believe that when someone has a racial preference (and I think that's okay!) they tend to give more leeway in the looks department. That's not a problem and in fact would make sense because someone knows what they like. Is it still preference or it is now a fetish to date a less attractive Asian?To me, I think people throw around fetish way too much. Having a preference for Asian girls, like the guy in the thread, does not mean he has a fetish. I mean, I'm pretty sure he wouldn't date an "ugly" Asian girl just because she was Asian.
And funnily enough, I just gave a wedding speech over the weekend about OKCupid.
So this is interesting. I was going to make a joke and say how I feel bad for your man since he's being fetishized for being a ruggedly good looking Asian male but it got me thinking. If you weren'tAsian, does that actually mean you have yellow fever?Well, truthfully speaking, I find Asian men to be the most attractive (physically), and for the sake of my parents, I looked for other Chinese/Taiwanese, or at least Asian-American men, when I looking for serious, marriage-y relationships.
That being said, I don't think anyone likes being fetishized based on race.
Yo send over some durian ice cream. You bastards are hogging it all.well... i had no idea there was an asian-gaf thread. any singaporeans here?
Like you wouldn't believe. It's made worse if you don't have anyone but your family and the SO, because if things are too badly damaged you have no support system.
Well, I have the bad habit of talking back (you can see my personality in OT, I really can't keep my mouth shut).
So, with my mom, I generally tell her, over and over re: "the gays", "mom, it's not a choice, they're people too, you can't say stuff like that." With stuff about nonAsian people (black people, especially), it's the same thing: "Mom, you can't judge everyone just by a few people," "Mom, please don't say this stuff in public."
With my dad, it's more intellectual, but it's also *way* worse because he and I legitly fight with each other and have heated arguments about what is "wrong" and "right." I tend toward the, racism is wrong dad, institutionalized racism IS A REAL thing, etc.
The problem with the both of them is that they dislike facts, don't trust peer-reviewed academic work, etc, when it doesn't fit their narrative of the world. It's *really* frustrating, and I made the mistake once of saying something to the effect of "it's science, I'm not going to argue this with you." My dad was REALLY pissed and told me that I shouldn't believe everything that "science" teaches me (I was explaining that homosexuality is a behavior found in animals, and it's not just OMIGOD NOT NATURAL).
Arghhhh the willful ignorance at times @____@
Where do you draw the line between preference and fetish? You say that guy won't date an "ugly" Asian but how do you know? I honestly believe that when someone has a racial preference (and I think that's okay!) they tend to give more leeway in the looks department. That's not a problem and in fact would make sense because someone knows what they like. Is it still preference or it is now a fetish to date a less attractive Asian?
I also want to hear this speech.