What if she does not completely compromises in everything you want. Are you going to abandon your child? Stop this bullshit, go back to your family and have a discussion with your GF. Try to be more realistic with your demands and respectful towards your GF.
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What if she does not completely compromises in everything you want. Are you going to abandon your child? Stop this bullshit, go back to your family and have a discussion with your GF. Try to be more realistic with your demands and respectful towards your GF.
YOU HAVE A FUCKING KID MAN!!!
It's not about fucking you anymore.
It's about your daughter. Do the right thing goddammit.
Ok, let me settle down, listen. You are placing yourself at the center of this, and that's what you are doing wrong. Your second mistake is improper communication with your girlfriend (and seriously, child being born out of wedlock makes me really question how religious this chick actually is). Take time to sit down... Think about your situation, and think about your daughter's future. Think about her needs. Your job on this planet now is to ensure she grows up with everything she needs, and you must be her guide to this world. Think about all of that. I'm exiting this thread now. I'm sure you've all had enough of me.
demosthenes
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She only admitted she was wrong b/c she's trying to compromise with you and bring you back in. You refuse to budge, you're so blind, you're helpless in your current state.
How old are you, is this your first relationship?
fifasnipe2224
Member
Getting my GF to admit what it truly best for our daughter and then actually fallow through on it IS what I believe is best for our daughter... fuck that sentence made much more sense in my head.
I have been skimming every few post and have just now say someone mention I was not giving up my age. Sorry I did not see anyone before you ask, I am 23.
I have been skimming every few post and have just now say someone mention I was not giving up my age. Sorry I did not see anyone before you ask, I am 23.
Horseticuffs
Full werewolf off the buckle
I sure hope this isn't bannable, it's tough to keep up. I mean it with all due respect!
oneils
Member
At the end of the day it is your life and your choice. You have to be able to look yourself in the mirror. Just make sure that you make your choices without regret.
wsoxfan1214
Banned
...You're 23 years old and you're pulling this shit? This is either a troll thread or you're a complete, controlling asshole.
Sure, you can get her to MAYBE admit that, but what if she doesn't and you lose your daughter? a fucking PAPER? C'mon, man!
crazy monkey
Banned
OP you are fucked up. Mos likely your gf just realized she is living with psycho.
Who even gives a shit about the religion issue anymore? If you continue to behave like a dick, your daughter is going to find herself with two estranged parents. Is that what's best for her?
fifasnipe2224
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You are right. Sorry guys. To be fair, this is my first thread, I created it at work, and I updated at a library with only 20 minutes left till closing.
I dont see how this can be bannable, if you do not agree with my decisions thats fine, hell even lock the thread.
Me and her might have made a small compromise on a 20 bullet point e-mail. nothing crazy typed and no page limit lol. 10 bullets each. I am awaiting her reply.
The way I view it, this is one of the best ways i can get her to see things from my point of view, I can now see what she THINKS my point of view is, and I have something I can save and show her later.
I might have been a bit hard on her... maybe next time I will ask GAF about these types of demands before making them.
Atramental
Banned
If you want this to work out be a father first, a boyfriend second, and an atheist at a distant third.
That's all I'm going to say.
Sincerely,
-Atramental (currently face-palming at my laptop...)
That's all I'm going to say.
Sincerely,
-Atramental (currently face-palming at my laptop...)
This guy do not represent atheists. Do not listen to him! Holy crap, all this for something as meaningless as doing something religious and harmless for a baby. You're really not helping to improve the image your(and her) family have with atheists with all this.
man i dont even know what to say.
if your version of a relationship is essays with bullet points and creating demands for her to follow, then there is nothing we can do to fix this, shit is fubar.
DUDE. FUCK. JUST NO. Give it up.
Go your separate ways and leave them alone. They are absolutely better off without your controlling presence. This thread should be on your GAF tag, though I wish it were possible to tag you in real life.
OP listen I know you have your values and living with this chick is not your idea of paradise. Hell most days my wife and I would be happier if we weren't with each other, she would probably say the same some days. But we have a 9 month old daughter and being here for her has become #1. My past time, wants, and needs go on hold while I feed, burp, play and make her laugh. If I could only do those things a few days a week and every other weekend I'd be crazy sad. You have to be there for your daughter and yes endure some shit. I see where your coming from and feel like I can relate on many levels but no one hands you a well working relationship. You need to sit down and talk to each other. Listen to her and work at it for your daughter.
edit: shit now I'm behind this is trolling? for real?
edit: shit now I'm behind this is trolling? for real?
Sanky Panky
Banned
It's so sad to know a child is in the middle of such a dysfunctional relationship. A controlling prick that needs written down shit to go to later, and a girl that has to do stuff behind his back because he is a controlling prick with issues.
Poor child.
Poor child.
fifasnipe2224
Member
Welp I quit. Thanks guy. Very good post.
I honestly still believe getting my GF to see that forcing a religion on a child is wrong. But thanks to you I am one step closer to biting the bullet.
Freezie KO
Banned
Wow. Latest response with the OP asking his girlfriend to write an essay... I don't even...
Stop making atheists look bad. Please.
And why ask for GAF's help when most people said to reconcile with your girlfriend and then you turn around and punish her?
Stop making atheists look bad. Please.
And why ask for GAF's help when most people said to reconcile with your girlfriend and then you turn around and punish her?
Forcing your girlfriend to see your side of the argument totally isn't wrong.
You're a piece of shit.
Lactose_Intolerant
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The only thing you have a leg to stand on is the woman taking the child someplace you both couldn't agree on taking her.
Everything else is crazy immature stuff. This is a troll thread or someone that shouldn't have kids because he still is one.
Everything else is crazy immature stuff. This is a troll thread or someone that shouldn't have kids because he still is one.
fifasnipe2224
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Forcing? Explain this?? She can clearly say no. I am just tired of hearing lies and empty "im sorry"s from her.
She's probably tired of writing pages of apologies and bulletpointed notes for you.
fifasnipe2224
Member
First time I have asked for one. From the reaction here... it might be my last time asking.
When she says "no", what are you going to do? Tell her to write a five page essay on the meaning of the word "no" and twisting her arm to say yes?
I'm trying to understand how you thought that was ever a good idea.
Okay, this made me laugh.
Sounds like this is a big deal for him, and that he's fed up with her saying one thing but doing another so wants it down in writing. I don't imagine this is something he does regularly, just a desperate answer for desperate measures.
That said it's still not necessarily the right solution.
I don't know what is, but baby wants daddy. Go be a dad to your daughter.
On another note, sometimes you feel like you are giving an option, but you're really not. Ultimatums aren't giving an option.
Zoe
Member
Might???
She ain't the crazy one.
Lionel Mandrake
Member
In what world do you live in where that is a normal and completely not demeaning thing to do?
echoshifting
Banned
I need you write us a 2 page report as to why you don't ask for apologies in written form...
You are unable to see it from her point of view. From her point of view it is totally wrong to raise a child out of gods graces or however you put it.
Just TRY to see t from her point of view. Show a little empathy.
I NEED SCISSORS
Banned
I'd lol if she looked at both religious viewpoints and ended up simply reconciling them like many people, including scientists, do. What would you do then? Rage at her for coming to her own decision?
Atramental
Banned
To any young non-believers who might be reading this thread:
Do not have kids with someone if you don't share or at least respect one another's values and/or belief systems.
Also, don't have kids in your early 20s if you can help it.
Sincerely,
-Atramental (who is currently taking some Advil for cringing so hard)
Do not have kids with someone if you don't share or at least respect one another's values and/or belief systems.
Also, don't have kids in your early 20s if you can help it.
Sincerely,
-Atramental (who is currently taking some Advil for cringing so hard)
Eat more fiber. Actually purging the memories will be more difficult but I hear lobotomies are pretty handy.
echoshifting
Banned
Congratulations, OP! I suspect you've birthed a new GAF running joke. Be proud!
(No really. Don't be.)
demosthenes
Member
Jesus christ. You say you come here for help and you IGNORE EVERYONE.
You're lucky she doesn't run away from you and take custody from you.
The fact that you told her to write a paper and you're doing bullet point e-mails shows serious immaturity on your part and you are not fit to be a father right now.
demosthenes
Member
You don't get it.
You lost your ability to have it your way when you had sex with someone that wanted to raise a child under a religious house. Your condom broke? I don't care. She was on birth control (I doubt it from the above description of her), I don't care. The second you have sex with someone you are knowingly putting at risk that you may have a child. Take some damn personal responsibility for yourself. Work with her, and at the end of the day be there for your kid.
Featheredkitten
Banned
Wow. Op has lost it. Or maybe never had it.
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