Typical immigrant refusing to integrate with society. I remember that crazy ass post about women an relationships in China. I don't know what you know about China, but you're not an expert. Honor and shame available from Taobao.
You don't know what you are talking about. I am not being against something that you seem to think that I am. No need for us to discuss it.
What you quoted doesn't have anything to do with integrating with society, everything I said has to deal with psychology and not "china" in the sense you are making it. It is in the same way I don't want to say hello how are you in standard fasion without much sense in feeling in America or other western areas. You are making this "me, against chinese" which it clearly isn't in any way. You don't get what I am saying at all, so just forget it.
Exactly, that's why I never get annoyed by most of the bad mannerisms I experience in China because I know what led to this. But if I feel someone is purposefully doing something insidious, then I do feel there's a problem there.
However, where does one draw the line for blame? I see some foreigners who takes on an air of arrogance or looking at some of the locals with disgust, foreigners from developed nations that should know better, can we blame them, or should we just smile at the lizard brain that most humans cannot bypass?
Yes, these things happen but there is a point where things are accepted and not and it always works vice versa. Where they may spit on the sidewalk and ignore it, westerners may find it bad. Where they may clip their finger or toe nails and leave them on the floor we will find it very bad. But, where we are rude and mean to each other, they will find that amazingly bad too. Where we make fun of others and bully them, well this behavior isn't nearly as common in China and they would also find this as obscene and crazy. I get both sides and I don't see either as a right or wrong in my personal view. Things just are, and if you can't understand the ideas of why you do think what you think then you just can't. (not you directly) I think you may get a lot of these ideas quite well already.
It all comes down to what you learn and what you feel, it's a process. People are not going to suddenly agree or disagree and I think that is the only think and point we can come to. I am a very helpful and caring person to those I do not know, and it feels great to be around Chinese where the older ones have typically been very helpful and respectful to me, especially the older men and women of China. When I needed change, or needed some simple help they were often helpful to try and help me.
I get that people have a sense of normalcy and that is basically the point we are getting to, and people feeling what they have learned or know as the most correct or right like the guy above at the top of this post.
I just beg to differ and ask what aspect of what we do or know is truly right? Of course it all comes down to each person and that is what is right to them, not an absolute right, but a right they believe in.
In the truth of it, we have our feeling already made our mind is already made up. We will automatically call things strange based on things we have learned and seen as right. So, while I can't agree with what people look at as disgusting I can understand why they do and why it doesn't exactly matter.
In the end it boils down to one thing, people are only acceptable to being what they are influenced by (rather that is anger, talking with a low voice or being someone who only focuses on money) whatever people do, think and react to is nothing more than a input/output. There is no surprise when people suddenly find themselves doing what they hated done to them by their mother rather than is yelling, telling someone to clean a room or whatever it is. The very way a person looks, acts (as you were saying) is not something we ever had control over which isn't so amazing as it may sound.
What China is or was just like America, Japan is will always be what the people adapt it to but it will never go too far of course.
We have interestingly seen some of the biggest and most rapid changes in ten years and it took social media, people being connected and the influence of online ads/ideas/communication to do that. It happened fast though.