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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already
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Here's an article for explaining Plus and Gold:
http://lifehacker.com/what-are-you-paying-for-with-tinder-plus-and-the-new-ti-1798551256
But they're wrong. Plus also gives you this one boost per month thingy.
ZackieChan
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No way in hell I'd tell her. I'd basically do the same plan as you have. If probably leave the country, too 😉 Does this friend live close to you?
Not too close, not too far. And we've pretty good friends for almost 4 years now. God knows why she dragged me into this mess. Also I know I'm at fault too.
LookAtMeGo
Member
Careful you dont piss off the friend either. She will probably spill the beans. What are the chances of her feeling guilty and throwing you under the bus anyway?
Is she friends with you girlfriend? Or fiance I guess?
Is she friends with you girlfriend? Or fiance I guess?
Messofanego
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You were forced against your will to kiss her and sext with her! She started it!
Your gf will find out about your cheating eventually so it's on you on who she hears it from: you or your friend or someone else who knows of this situation. Especially when marriage stuff starts up.
Gotdatmoney
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You dragged yourself man. When it started you coulda just been like "you know I have a gf, stop or our friendship is done".
If you engage it's your own fault. Don't blame her, she isn't the one required to keep your relationship together. You are.
At this point you just wanna have your cake and eat it too. That's fine, say nothing if you wish to stay together and dont do it again. But it's 100% your fault and your refusal to stop blame sharing tells me you aren't genuinely sorry. Which is fine, dating age isn't "be a good person" age. It's just annoying you are trying to play it off like you are.
Bruh you're kind of a piece of shit for emotionally cheating on your girlfriend (who is your fiancée, why aren't you calling her that if you're going to get married to her)
Just saying
Also at least take agency for your actions, don't act like it's not your fault as well. You could have shut that down easily.
I don't really have advice to give to "clean it up", I just wanted to let you know that I, person on the internet, don't think highly of you for your actions.
TheLostBigBoss
Banned
Stop being a horrible soon to be husband and stop cheating on your soon to be wife and stop making excuses
God save you if you actually go, "yea but she texted me first" if/when you explain this to your fiancee
God save you if you actually go, "yea but she texted me first" if/when you explain this to your fiancee
this has always been a sign that they'll eventually ghost imo
dreamcastmaster
Banned
If he goes through with the plan of cutting ties with this friend to fix the mess. The friend will find his girlfriend and tell her because she'll feel pretty bad about being used and have a 4 year friendship thrown away.
always crazy bacon
Banned
That looks like age discrimination to me. You're over 30 probably more desperate and probably earning more money tax.
always crazy bacon
Banned
It's textbook, ghosting without looking like their or ghosting OR keeping you on hold while they date someone else.
Spoiled Milk
Banned
Story time. I remember a few years back there was a really lovely Chinese girl at school who ended up liking me a lot. I was working as a math tutor and I'm not sure why but I think when I met her at work I ended up chatting with her for two hours talking about interesting things I learned in linguistics. I kept asking her if I was rambling but she told me to keep going. Then she asked for my number and she invited me to get coffee next to her apartment. So it comes time to get coffee and when I ask her if we're still on, she says to just meet her at her apartment instead. Wow.
Then I get to her place. First thing I notice is that it's really dirty. She said it's because she was moving out in a couple of days but it looked like it was dirty even before she started moving out. Next notable thing that happened was that she says she's hungry, takes the bowl out of the rice cooker, mixes some peanut butter into the rice into it, and just starts going to town on it with a big ass spoon. BLEH. I mean I think this is definitely just me (it's just peanut butter, right?) but I had to really suppress my gag reflex. I'm Filipino and eat plenty of rice but I had never heard of this. I'm actually queasy just typing this out.
Anyway, we talk for an hour in her empty ass apartment while we sit on the only two pieces of furniture left in the whole room. For some reason, in the middle of conversation, she lets me know that I'd be a lot cuter if I was taller.
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Anyway at some point I can't take it anymore and I let her know I have to get going, thus ending the worst date I've ever had in my entire life. I ignore one of her texts after and the next day she completely freaks out over text. I can't remember the details all too clearly (it was long) but the gist is that she was extremely upset and she was really hoping we could be friends and do stuff together. I simply said "what?" in total shock at this extreme situation I had found myself in and she simply responded "never mind."
As far as attractiveness goes she was totally an 8.
My guess is that she was really lonely because she had just moved here about a year ago and wasn't making many friends (maybe culture and language barrier, but her english was extremely good) and I was the only person who had given her much attention at all that wasn't also a FOB Chinese. In retrospect I should have been more understanding and nicer about this whole thing but I was being extremely selfish and didn't want to inconvenience myself with one minor awkward social situation.
Then I get to her place. First thing I notice is that it's really dirty. She said it's because she was moving out in a couple of days but it looked like it was dirty even before she started moving out. Next notable thing that happened was that she says she's hungry, takes the bowl out of the rice cooker, mixes some peanut butter into the rice into it, and just starts going to town on it with a big ass spoon. BLEH. I mean I think this is definitely just me (it's just peanut butter, right?) but I had to really suppress my gag reflex. I'm Filipino and eat plenty of rice but I had never heard of this. I'm actually queasy just typing this out.
Anyway, we talk for an hour in her empty ass apartment while we sit on the only two pieces of furniture left in the whole room. For some reason, in the middle of conversation, she lets me know that I'd be a lot cuter if I was taller.
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Anyway at some point I can't take it anymore and I let her know I have to get going, thus ending the worst date I've ever had in my entire life. I ignore one of her texts after and the next day she completely freaks out over text. I can't remember the details all too clearly (it was long) but the gist is that she was extremely upset and she was really hoping we could be friends and do stuff together. I simply said "what?" in total shock at this extreme situation I had found myself in and she simply responded "never mind."
As far as attractiveness goes she was totally an 8.
My guess is that she was really lonely because she had just moved here about a year ago and wasn't making many friends (maybe culture and language barrier, but her english was extremely good) and I was the only person who had given her much attention at all that wasn't also a FOB Chinese. In retrospect I should have been more understanding and nicer about this whole thing but I was being extremely selfish and didn't want to inconvenience myself with one minor awkward social situation.
Ghostshark
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When I turned 30 last month, the prices for all dating sites and services leapt up on the day of my birthday. It does suck and has pushed me into using online as a free supplemental. If anything, it's forced me into more social situations to meet people in person, which is better for self improvement.
this is definitely true most of the time, though there are exceptions / things on their end that may hold things up. waiting a few days for a post-date nice meeting you text though? yeah no. I generally try to be understanding and not jump to conclusions but that's a nope out situation for me.
LookAtMeGo
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I was punching out at work and this really cute girl I've been eyeing up for a bit came up right behind me to punch out and when I went to punch out I let a loud one rip right at her. I didnt even feel it coming. I didnt know if I should turn around and say excuse me or something so I just casually punched out and walked away like nothing happened.
MegaManTrigger
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Wonder what women's perspective is on rejection. Had to drop the rejection bomb on someone because I felt nothing and it would be disingenuous had I kept on going after she dropped a couple of bombs in wanting to date + talked about what she was looking for. When I told her I didn't feel anything and that I didn't want to mislead her, she wrote as if she took it extremely well, but then went off and unliked a lot of my photos and spoke less and less (not that it's a bad thing, but I did tell her I'd be fine with being friends provided that she's okay with that). Idk if this is saltiness, or if it's the fact that she can't handle not getting someone she really wanted. I know back in the days I had to deal with this and it was a lot of frustration and anger (towards myself, never at other people) before eventually realizing that I had nothing to be really angry about. I just wonder how women take rejection compared to guys.
Spoiled Milk
Banned
maybe stop calling them females first
MegaManTrigger
Banned
What does that have to do with anything?
Megalosaro
Banned
Eh, I don't think the usage there was weird. Unlike that guy a while back.
always crazy bacon
Banned
It's derogatory in the context you used it.
MegaManTrigger
Banned
Oh. That's the first I've heard about the word being derogatory. Just wondering what the meaning behind it is?
Did she look at you go?
Female is an adjective. Using it as a noun without a specific context is weird.
jimmypython
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WOW you dodged a bullet. congrats. she's certainly something......
protomouse
Member
She can fuck off for good. I don't want people like that in my life. It'll only lead to more misery and pain. Playing games with people just to maximize your own gain is some sociopathic shit.
How do you guys do it? Simultaneously date multiple people I mean. I feel anxious about engaging more than one person's emotions at any given time. How should I be thinking?
LookAtMeGo
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Probably. I have a nice ass.
Other guy said you dodged a bullet. Me? I'd say you probably could've banged her if you had stuck around. An 8 and Chinese? Bro...
always crazy bacon
Banned
What do you mean here?
LookAtMeGo
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Dating Age |OT7| A Ghost Story
Advocatus Diaboli
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I like it. I'm going to steal some of that.
PersonAndStuff
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This probably says a lot about me but that sounds alright. Except for the peanut butter and rice.
Asians girls are hard to come by once you leave school/uni, at least in my experience. And he said that she was an 8, so I wouldn't have passed that chance up
Also, I read your comment in Mike's voice
always crazy bacon
Banned
You might to work on not fetishizing races, he wasn't into the girl based on cultural differences and said as much. The fact that you would have ignored all of that to "score with rare exotic chick bro" Is not a good look.
Lots of people read my posts like mike, because most of the time that's how I feel.
Spoiled Milk
Banned
Always crazy bacon got to this before I could but people are individuals and reducing them to fetishes is degrading.
ZackieChan
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LookAtMeGo
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Eat Chinese food?
always crazy bacon
Banned
Go to a restaurant.
Asian girls are hard to come by? Lol. There is a place called asia with absolutely heaps of them.
Messofanego
Banned
Peanut butter and rice sound terrible. But maybe I'm just too used to spicy stuff with rice.
LookAtMeGo
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What the fuck? Peanut butter and rice? Keep smoking crack brehs.
So I bumped into the neighbour walking home at like 10pm from my buddies house. Ended up having drinks at the pub downstairs. Chilled at her place until now (3am) and now I need to sleep for 3 hours before work. She is totally bi.
ANYWAYS! I will behave I swear to god.
So I bumped into the neighbour walking home at like 10pm from my buddies house. Ended up having drinks at the pub downstairs. Chilled at her place until now (3am) and now I need to sleep for 3 hours before work. She is totally bi.
ANYWAYS! I will behave I swear to god.
always crazy bacon
Banned
To me it's clearly her struggle meal, it might not have been peanut butter but sesame paste, if it was the peanut butter was a substitute. Would you like to be judged by you struggle meal?
Mine was mixed frozen vegetables and a can of baked beans microwaved in a bowl for 5 minutes. Some of GAFs struggle meals have been worse than that.
cheesesandwich.jpg, Italianmeal.jpg
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