Bay didn't get that much heat until Transformers. That's my explanation why Snyder gets the degree of hate he gets. His career is being entangled with nerd properties and certain types get territorial about it. That's not to say he's this great director unfairly judged by association; I mean, Snyder's worst movie is an original idea. But it's, you know, that whole George Lucas ruined my childhood thing.
That said, it's funny to have that contrast of how Snyder talks about it compared with others. He's somewhat humble about his take on these characters being but of the moment. Saying there'll be another Batman, Superman, etc. after his, and one after than, and on and on. No delusions of making the definitive versions of these characters.
There's fairly big difference in filmmaking philosophy as well. Bay is famously known for saying "I make movies for teenage boys. Oh dear, what a crime." He doesn't try to elevate film, he's purely concerned with the superficial without pretense. I'm one of the biggest critics of Snyder you'll ever come across but it's impossible to deny that he tries really, really hard to achieve an artistic vision. I believe that vision is almost always misguided but at least he aims high. Snyder genuinely believes he's making more than entertainment. People give Bay more slack because he doesn't act like he wants to do more than get butts into seats. The former method invites way more scrutiny.
What you're describing was also inevitable to a certain degree not just because he's working with a beloved property but also the increased exposure that comes with projects of this size. MoS and BvS are Snyder's highest profile and most expensive projects by a wide margin. Bigger budgets invite bigger marketing campaigns, which is partly why a flop like Jupiter Ascending tarnished the Wachowski's so much in public perception despite being preceded by a series of flops.