PantherLotus said:
That said, I think the implication that insulting Gaborn is "even worse and mean-spirited" because he is gay is outright insulting to all gay people. We're all sensitive, not just gay people.
It just reflects the harsh cultural realities we have to deal with, really. Historically, insults having to do with female sexual acts upon men "cocksucker, teabagger, etc", or implicitly homosexual acts, "assfucker, teabagger, cocksucker, etc", are considered abnormal or less glamorous/deserving of respect than "normal sexual acts", i.e. acts done by a heterosexual male.
It speaks volumes to our culture and history, when labels that imply the other person is a woman or gay is considered to be an insult.
Objectively, they're all the same, but due to our cultural history, subjectively, they are not.
Don't get me wrong, I love insulting folks using these same words, and make fun of things with using choice quips that may or may not include the phrase "ass-rape". I wish we could all rip the shit out of each other and have a big laugh, as is common amongst close friends. However, this was in the context of a serious discussion, and as such, a little more tact is needed, perhaps.
...upon reading this again, I have an urge to delete this post because I really don't like the "holier-than-thou" attitude I get from my own words, but whatever.