Yeah, and we get good examples like Alien where none of the characters were written with a specific gender so we don't have "man moments" or "woman emoting" scenes, though I suspect some stuff, like Lambert just crying as the alien approaches, may have been tweaked to take advantage of the actresses capabilities.I only slightly disagree here because I don't like the idea lately that creative ideas must be neatly put into different boxes. "Women must act this way, men must act that way" is a very rigid approach towards creativity.
I'm more thinking about the typical girl boss character that really feels like a dude in a shapeless dress given bad setup to "defeat misogyny" rather than any actual character growth.
Consider Tom Hank's character in Saving Private Ryan. His big emotional break is something he does in private and tries to hide from his men. This FEELS very real and generates a TON of empathy, from men and women, because I think it resonates with a lot of men on how we deal with extreme grief/stress and it opens him up just a little for women that he does have vulnerability and does care. It's not "toxic masculinity" as many might say today, but rather a reflection on the price of leadership in war and the sacrifices leaders make to maintain moral for their soldiers. Now maybe a female combat unit (or WAC, competitive knitting team, or whatever the situation) might have the leader emote in front of her team and they all share in it, but that's a feminine thing to do (maybe, never really been in that situation myself) but I know VERY few men who would cry outside of a small circle of close confidants or family (other than that one guy who gets weepy over everything, we all know one
Anyway, not to get too into the weeds with action hero screenwriting, it's just how I approach these things as a viewer.