See, this is what happens when the political and social correctness won't let you slap your kids... the parents eventually end up losing their shit and over react.
A lil' slapping is great to determine limits and respect, it guarantees your kids won't become uncontrollable jerks.
And it only has to be done once or twice, after that just "the stare" is enough
I think you are correct. If that boy would be punished (even gently) for bad behavior when he was younger, he would respect his parents and follow the rules. Kids who dont fear their parents do whatever they want, and of course like you have said parents eventually will lose control and when in real fury that's when they can do very bad things to their kids.
My father has punished me only few times, but he do it in the right moment when I was very young, so next time I was always listening to him because I knew otherwise I would be punished for bad behavior. I have to say all people from my family who were punished at young age become a normal adults, who respect the rules and can be considered a good people.
My sister has 8 year old kid, but because she listened to experts and her emotions she never wanted to punish her son for bad behavior. Her son became worse and worse, and there was a time when I had to baybisit him for whole one day. When he became rude I have slapped his butt. Of course he cried for about 10 minutes like crazy but I have paid no attention to it. When he noticed I dont care if he cry or not that's when he stoped crying. He started playing again with toys, but this time he has listened to me every time. When my sister has returned she was surprised her kid behaved like an angel. I have told her what had happened and later on he even addmited maybe punishment wasnt a bad idea after all. IMO kids really need a father figure, who will teach them respect and rules, because without the rules, there's chaos.
Around 20 years ago there was popular TV show for moms, where female teacher was explaining in details how to rise young kids. Everyone has refered to her as super nanny. Of course she explained, no punishemt should be allowed. Not so long time ago newspaper wrote about her adult son, because he became a criminal. People in my country were in a state of shock, but I laughed so hard
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