Far more disturbing? I strongly disagree. I'm actually very pleased that the majority of posters here recognise that it was indeed rape, which doesn't have to be gender specific - the backlash to ignorant comments, rather than disturbing me, are an encouraging sign that society's perspective is beginning to shift, so it's becoming less and less acceptable to say things like "Yes, but was she hot?" or "Why didn't you just push her away?" or "But you were hard!", all of which are absolutely awful for someone who has experienced rape struggling to come to terms with describing what happened to them: