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[curls]

She knows she forgot it at your place. Or... she wants to come back and left it on purpose

Choose the latter - it's more exciting!

 

[Shawsie64]

She knows she forgot it at your place. Or... she wants to come back and left it on purpose

Well i just took to the pawn shop.. :lol Nah ill give to her next time see her not gonna pursue her much gonna back off and let her do a bit of work

also merry xmas to dating-age gaf

 

[Mike Works]

So had a girl come over for drinks xmas day kissed goodnight and she stayed at mine didnt sleep together though didnt want to be too forward..

She left her bracelet at my house i sent her a message letting her know an she replied "i know " whats the deal with that haha

Well i just took to the pawn shop.. :lol Nah ill give to her next time see her not gonna pursue her much gonna back off and let her do a bit of work

Are you kidding me? She just did something. You should respond to her leaving her bracelet.

 

[Trigger Warning]

Long story short: should I bother pursuing a girl that is leaving the country in about 2 months?

 

[Shawsie64]

Are you kidding me? She just did something. You should respond to her leaving her bracelet.

Oh i said ill give it to her when i see her during the week just dont want to come on too strong... Thats my main weakness and always tend to do it so just going with the flow on this one

 

[Shawsie64]

Long story short: should I bother pursuing a girl that is leaving the country in about 2 months?

From personal experience Id say no i got hurt real bad when i fell for a girl in a similar situation a few year back

 

[soultron]

Long story short: should I bother pursuing a girl that is leaving the country in about 2 months?

2 months is long enough that you might get feelings. Then you'd be more likely to come back asking whether or not you should try a long distance relationship.

I'm not saying don't do it. I certainly wouldn't. Too many great girls at home.

 

[-PXG-]

So, I have my date later today, another in the works for Thursday (second date with the girl I took out to dinner a couple of weeks ago) and another on Saturday in NYC (new girl).

As for Friday, she's history...... I was supposed to see her on the 17th, but she had to go "shopping". Alright fine....no biggie...We rescheduled for the 31st, but she "forgot" it was New Years Eve. So I'm like, fuck it. Once she gets her shit together, and wants to go out, she can contact me. I'm not wasting more of my time, trying to make plans with some flaky ass bitch with piss-poor time management skills. If you're busy, fine, but learn how to balance your life a little better honey...

Yeah, I understand if things happen, or if you're uninterested. But don't drag my ass along with this horse shit. I HAAAAAAAAAATE it when people do that. This is the very reason why I have so many girls at my disposal. So if one flakes out, gets cold feet, disappears or is just plain incompetent when it comes to planning shit, I can easily move on to someone else with relatively low amounts of disappointment. But that doesn't mean it isn't irritating as hell.

I loathe flaky people and those who make promises they can't keep. Story of my life GAF...

So had a girl come over for drinks xmas day kissed goodnight and she stayed at mine didnt sleep together though didnt want to be too forward..

She left her bracelet at my house i sent her a message letting her know an she replied "i know " whats the deal with that haha

Invite her over to your place. Cook dinner for her, watch some movies, set the mood right, and well...enjoy

For lack of better terms (and as much as I hate them), this is an Alpha vs Beta moment. Which one are you? Blue pill or red pill? Wake up or see how far the rabbit hole goes? Make the right choice young grasshopper.

 

[Solideliquid]

So, I have my date later today, another in the works for Thursday (second date with the girl I took out to dinner a couple of weeks ago) and another on Saturday in NYC (new girl).

As for Friday, she's history...... I was supposed to see her on the 17th, but she had to go "shopping". Alright fine....no biggie...We rescheduled for the 31st, but she "forgot" it was New Years Eve. So I'm like, fuck it. Once she gets her shit together, and wants to go out, she can contact me. I'm not wasting more of my time, trying to make plans with some flaky ass bitch with piss-poor time management skills. If you're busy, fine, but learn how to balance your life a little better honey...

Yeah, I understand if things happen, or if you're uninterested. But don't drag my ass along with this horse shit. I HAAAAAAAAAATE it when people do that. This is the very reason why I have so many girls at my disposal. So if one flakes out, gets cold feet, disappears or is just plain incompetent when it comes to planning shit, I can easily move on to someone else with relatively low amounts of disappointment. But that doesn't mean it isn't irritating as hell.

I loathe flaky people and those who make promises they can't keep. Story of my life GAF...



Invite her over to your place. Cook dinner for her, watch some movies, set the mood right, and well...enjoy

For lack of better terms (and as much as I hate them), this is an Alpha vs Beta moment. Which one are you? Blue pill or red pill? Wake up or see how far the rabbit hole goes? Make the right choice young grasshopper.

Four to six inches when she's aroused. Wikipedia holmes.

 

[soultron]

PXG, I love you broski, but you sound so angry in some of your posts. Have you ever thought about that?

 

[Ken Masters]

no one in this thread (probably site also) is an alpha male, anyone who tells you otherwise is a liar

 

[soultron]

no one in this thread (probably site also) is an alpha male, anyone who tells you otherwise is a liar

No one claimed any of that. We're all guys just trying to help other guys out.

 

[Ken Masters]

No one claimed any of that. We're all guys just trying to help other guys out.

I never said anyone claimed it, it was just a question that was asked a couple posts up

 

[Alucrid]

no one in this thread (probably site also) is an alpha male, anyone who tells you otherwise is a liar

Ken Masters

Hmmm...

 

[-PXG-]

PXG, I love you broski, but you sound so angry in some of your posts. Have you ever thought about that?

I'm completely aware of it. And trust me, that's not angry, that just slightly annoyed and being miffed. If I were truly angry, the last thing I would do is post on GAF :lol

The passed couple of months have been kind of shitty. Yesterday (my birthday) was a complete bust (two in a row now). All my life, I've dealt with shallow, superficial, dumb ass people. In spite of my best efforts to meet new people and find a better group of friends, I always find myself alone, bitter and upset over why people can't take five seconds of their time to be half way decent. Is it really that hard? I mean, I seem to be able to do it just fine. I don't think I sacrifice that much of myself to put others needs in front of mine.

I don't have high expectations. In fact, I expect people to fuck up and do the wrong thing. I have very little faith in others, yet for some reason, I want to be around them. Needless to say, I'm quite nihilistic. Everyone tells me how great I am, yet no one ever does shit for me. I'm always the one lending out a hand, taking initiative, keeping my promises and doing my best to be a good friend. It's rare when I get any semblance of reciprocity from anyone outside my family.

So now, I'm at my wit's end and have had enough with people's bullshit. It's not so much what happened yesterday, people being flaky or my ex breaking up with me. It's the amalgam of everything getting fucked up since I can remember. I don't think the world should revolve around me or that everything should work my way all the time. My ass doesn't weigh a ton and doesn't deserve to be on some kind of pedestal. However, is it so much to ask for people, especially those who claim to be my friends, to think about me for a change?

Some days, I think to myself "Why do I even bother". Killing myself and being a hermit are hardly viable options. I have no choice but to deal with it and hope for the best. However, hoping, wishing and praying don't do anything. I'm not spiritual or religious at all. Personally, I think all of that stuff is nonsense and make believe. Taking action and taking initiative is what makes things happen. If you want progress, you have to go out there and DO it.

But even thinking that way and acting upon it has failed me. So what do I do? How do I maintain sanity in such unbalanced, fucked up world full of selfish people? How do I fit in it find those who will give me respect and reciprocity I desire?

 

[mitheor]

GAF, i need you help.

Edit. Thanks for your help guys. Everything is solved!

 

[_Alkaline_]

Why did you tell her? :/

 

[mitheor]

Why did you tell her? :/

I thought that it was a good idea because i was moving to another job and probably not going to see her as much ...

I was probably wrong, but i´m not into the McFly family so i can´t fix it.

Edit. It´s so fu**ing hard to stay all day with the girl you like @work ... i just could not hold it to myself :|

 

[The Technomancer]

My advice: move on. Even if she were to break up with the boyfriend, you should wait at least three months before you even approached her. And approaching her while they're still together? Not a good idea. She means a lot to you, that shouldn't change, but you should move on for now and let the future be what it will.

Also, dating a co-worker is an incredibly bad idea. You think its hard now? Imagine if you two had a falling out.

 

[-PXG-]

- attempted to dip the pen in company ink
- developed feelings too fast
- confessed deep feelings too soon
- she has a boyfriend

Oh man, what a mess. Move on son. Nothing to salvage.

 

[tak]

She has a boyfriend. Don't try to steal her from him. You wouldn't want the same thing happening to you.

If you cannot see her without accepting the fact that she has a boyfriend, don't go see here.

 

[mitheor]

Thanks for your help guys!

 

[-ImaginaryInsider]

Ok, need some more advice GAF.

Been hanging out with shy-yet-awesome girl some more, and did some recon with her best friend.

- Is 20, never been in a relationship, not even been kissed by a guy since grade-school.
- Makes guy friends, gets close, guys gets clingy, she panics, friendzones them.

I've stepped up my game, been cocky and funny, which has led to her texting me, and it's been quasi-flirty. She's def getting more comfortable around me, and she flashes me smiles and then looks away. She's had a lot of clingy guys, I'm making sure I'm not one of them, and it's paying off.

Problem is this: I don't think she has any clue what she wants, and its obvious she isn't comfortable in her own skin yet. We have hung out all night a few times, and as I posted before, she gets touchy, but I didn't realize until last night how much she drinks in order for that to happen. Some girls I'd make a move on in that circumstance, and I think I probably could kiss her, but I get the sense she'd completely wig out the next morning, if not worse.

I'm thinking I might just focus on another girl, and put her on the backburner.

 

[soultron]

Instead of overthinking it, why not just make a move? That'd probably set you apart from all the clingers she's had.

What do you really have to lose? If you value her as a friend, and actually want to continue to have her around, then place her in the friendzone.

But if you think you're not going to be losing much if things go sour after you make a move, then go for it.

Personally, I'd just make the move.

 

[Enco]

Ok, need some more advice GAF.

Been hanging out with shy-yet-awesome girl some more, and did some recon with her best friend.

- Is 20, never been in a relationship, not even been kissed by a guy since grade-school.
- Makes guy friends, gets close, guys gets clingy, she panics, friendzones them.

I've stepped up my game, been cocky and funny, which has led to her texting me, and it's been quasi-flirty. She's def getting more comfortable around me, and she flashes me smiles and then looks away. She's had a lot of clingy guys, I'm making sure I'm not one of them, and it's paying off.

Problem is this: I don't think she has any clue what she wants, and its obvious she isn't comfortable in her own skin yet. We have hung out all night a few times, and as I posted before, she gets touchy, but I didn't realize until last night how much she drinks in order for that to happen. Some girls I'd make a move on in that circumstance, and I think I probably could kiss her, but I get the sense she'd completely wig out the next morning, if not worse.

I'm thinking I might just focus on another girl, and put her on the backburner.

Not very good starting points.

You can try take things further as the guy above me said but don't have too high hopes and be sensible about it. Take it slow.

 

[Solideliquid]

Ok, need some more advice GAF.

Been hanging out with shy-yet-awesome girl some more, and did some recon with her best friend.

- Is 20, never been in a relationship, not even been kissed by a guy since grade-school.
- Makes guy friends, gets close, guys gets clingy, she panics, friendzones them.

I've stepped up my game, been cocky and funny, which has led to her texting me, and it's been quasi-flirty. She's def getting more comfortable around me, and she flashes me smiles and then looks away. She's had a lot of clingy guys, I'm making sure I'm not one of them, and it's paying off.

Problem is this: I don't think she has any clue what she wants, and its obvious she isn't comfortable in her own skin yet. We have hung out all night a few times, and as I posted before, she gets touchy, but I didn't realize until last night how much she drinks in order for that to happen. Some girls I'd make a move on in that circumstance, and I think I probably could kiss her, but I get the sense she'd completely wig out the next morning, if not worse.

I'm thinking I might just focus on another girl, and put her on the backburner.

You might want to consider simply moving on. She's 20 without any experience (not necessarily a bad thing), she may not be ready for romantic relationship. If that's the case she still needs to learn about herself and mature.

If that's the case, there isn't much for you there and you should move on.

 

[Relix]

I wish I'd find a shy girl like that, I love them. Dammit :lol

 

[HighAmperage]

I don't have high expectations. In fact, I expect people to fuck up and do the wrong thing. I have very little faith in others, yet for some reason, I want to be around them. Needless to say, I'm quite nihilistic. Everyone tells me how great I am, yet no one ever does shit for me. I'm always the one lending out a hand, taking initiative, keeping my promises and doing my best to be a good friend. It's rare when I get any semblance of reciprocity from anyone outside my family.

I hear ya man, I'm kind of weary from dealing with insane/damaged/needy people myself. Everyone preaching this abundance mentality about how there are so many "great girls" all over the place (which is a great, healthy positive attitude if you really believe it)...all I can say is I wish I lived in that world, because from where I'm sitting (and at my age), really worthy people are pretty fucking few and far between.

 

[Solideliquid]

Do you guys think the paid online sites like match.com and others are better than the free ones like POF or OKC?

 

[The Shadow]

Do you guys think the paid online sites like match.com and others are better than the free ones like POF or OKC?

In my experience, the women on paid sites are genuinely looking for a date or a relationship. They also tend to be better off financially, IE, career driven women. Some women on the free sites might be looking for that but it's a lot easier for women to just join to see what kind of attention they can get, play games, etc. When people are serious about finding a date, they pay. Makes sense, no one joins a pay site to just goof around.

Kinda depends on what you really want. A quick hookup? Easy to find on the free sites. A relationship? Easier to find on a pay site.

 

[HappyBivouac]

Do you guys think the paid online sites like match.com and others are better than the free ones like POF or OKC?

I have no experience with online dating sites but:

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/why-you-should-never-pay-for-online-dating/

And yes it is obviously in their interest to say pay sites are stupid but it's an interesting and convincing article.

 

[Yaweee]

In my experience, the women on paid sites are genuinely looking for a date or a relationship. They also tend to be better off financially, IE, career driven women. Some women on the free sites might be looking for that but it's a lot easier for women to just join to see what kind of attention they can get, play games, etc.

Kinda depends on what you really want. A quick hookup? Easy to find on the free sites. A relationship? Easier to find on a pay site.

This is probably spot-on. There's a ton of women working retail after finishing undergrad with an Art degree or women that are "thinking of going back to school" on PoF/OKC, and women that really just want the ego boost.

 

[HighAmperage]

I did a search on OKC for women who are slender and child-free between the ages of 25-40 and came up with a big ZERO. None. And I live in a relatively big city.

Anecdotally I hear what everyone else is saying, Match and eHarmony are probably the better options if you're really serious about meeting someone of some sort of substance.

 

[The Shadow]

I have no experience with online dating sites but:

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/why-you-should-never-pay-for-online-dating/

And yes it is obviously in their interest to say pay sites are stupid but it's an interesting and convincing article.

Keep in mind that it was written by a competing non-pay site.

 

[Yaweee]

I did a search on OKC for women who are slender and child-free between the ages of 25-40 and came up with a big ZERO. None. And I live in a relatively big city.

Anecdotally I hear what everyone else is saying, Match and eHarmony are probably the better options if you're really serious about meeting someone of some sort of substance.

The "body type" is kind of hit or miss, as the categories feel kind of arbitrary. Is "slender" even one of the categories?

I know there are a ton of thin, child-free women in Chicago. They just aren't interested in a guy living in the outer suburbs =(

Keep in mind that it was written by a competing non-pay site.

Many of the arguments hold water. There's probably just some exaggeration about how dire the situation is.

(I know a few people that had success with Match, while the OKC article makes that seem nearly impossible).

 

[hydragonwarrior]

GAF, i need you help.

Edit. Thanks for your help guys. Everything is solved!

I helped via telekinesis.

 

[-PXG-]

Back from my date. It went alright I guess. Both of us had a good time. Now I gotta solidify my plans for the one on Thursday....

 

[Solideliquid]

Back from my date. It went alright I guess. Both of us had a good time. Now I gotta solidify my plans for the one on Thursday....

Kisses?

 

[Bajan32]

Yeah it sucks to break up with your GF who you met on POF. Then log on to POF and see her online there.. Shit I think I'll have to delete my profile. Fuck breaking up sucks.. Just wish it didn't end so nasty

 

[The Elite]

Yeah it sucks to break up with your GF who you met on POF. Then log on to POF and see her online there.. Shit I think I'll have to delete my profile. Fuck breaking up sucks.. Just wish it didn't end so nasty

Can't you just block her?

 

[-PXG-]

Kisses?

On the cheek. She's the shy type, so anything else would risk freaking her out. Second date, will go for it, most likely. She's not like other girls, how I've made out with and sucked on their tits on the first date :lol

 

[Max]

Someone I haven't talked to in months text me last night at 1:30 am

I should probably ask her out, why else would she text me spontaneously so late

Girls like True Grit right

 

[Solideliquid]

On the cheek. She's the shy type, so anything else would risk freaking her out. Second date, will go for it, most likely. She's not like other girls, how I've made out with and sucked on their tits on the first date :lol

How putting your mouth on a girl's breasts doesn't lead to full sex is astounding.

 

[-PXG-]

How putting your mouth on a girl's breasts doesn't lead to full sex is astounding.

Well when you're in a public, she's on her period, or don't have a condom, fucking is kind of out of the question my friend.

 

[ShadyLurker]

I'm completely aware of it. And trust me, that's not angry, that just slightly annoyed and being miffed. If I were truly angry, the last thing I would do is post on GAF :lol

The passed couple of months have been kind of shitty. Yesterday (my birthday) was a complete bust (two in a row now). All my life, I've dealt with shallow, superficial, dumb ass people. In spite of my best efforts to meet new people and find a better group of friends, I always find myself alone, bitter and upset over why people can't take five seconds of their time to be half way decent. Is it really that hard? I mean, I seem to be able to do it just fine. I don't think I sacrifice that much of myself to put others needs in front of mine.

I don't have high expectations. In fact, I expect people to fuck up and do the wrong thing. I have very little faith in others, yet for some reason, I want to be around them. Needless to say, I'm quite nihilistic. Everyone tells me how great I am, yet no one ever does shit for me. I'm always the one lending out a hand, taking initiative, keeping my promises and doing my best to be a good friend. It's rare when I get any semblance of reciprocity from anyone outside my family.

So now, I'm at my wit's end and have had enough with people's bullshit. It's not so much what happened yesterday, people being flaky or my ex breaking up with me. It's the amalgam of everything getting fucked up since I can remember. I don't think the world should revolve around me or that everything should work my way all the time. My ass doesn't weigh a ton and doesn't deserve to be on some kind of pedestal. However, is it so much to ask for people, especially those who claim to be my friends, to think about me for a change?

Some days, I think to myself "Why do I even bother". Killing myself and being a hermit are hardly viable options. I have no choice but to deal with it and hope for the best. However, hoping, wishing and praying don't do anything. I'm not spiritual or religious at all. Personally, I think all of that stuff is nonsense and make believe. Taking action and taking initiative is what makes things happen. If you want progress, you have to go out there and DO it.

But even thinking that way and acting upon it has failed me. So what do I do? How do I maintain sanity in such unbalanced, fucked up world full of selfish people? How do I fit in it find those who will give me respect and reciprocity I desire?

Move to Canada sir, we're nice. Don't you live in NY? Not bashing your home town, but it doesn't exactly have a "friendly" reputation.:lol

 

[-PXG-]

Move to Canada sir, we're nice. Don't you live in NY? Not bashing your home town, but it doesn't exactly have a "friendly" reputation.:lol

Nope. I live in Jersey.

 

[Ezalc]

Gaf, how do I go about seeing if a chick would just like to hook up and not actually become a gf. I've been talking to a chick and I don't want to get into a relationship with her, just kinda get with her.

 

[Shawsie64]

Well my friends playing with his band and its one of his relatives b-days tomorrow which im going to so I used the opportunity to ask her if she wants to come for dinner.. so shes coming to that hopefully..

She also asked me what im up to on new years so things are looking good so far but seriously I dont want to rush things and get hurt this time.. not again

 

[Alucrid]

Well my friends playing with his band and its one of his relatives b-days tomorrow which im going to so I used the opportunity to ask her if she wants to come for dinner.. so shes coming to that hopefully..

She also asked me what im up to on new years so things are looking good so far but seriously I dont want to rush things and get hurt this time.. not again

"...it's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much can you take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done! Now, if you know what you're worth, then go out and get what you're worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hit, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you are because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain't you. You're better than that!"

-Rocky Balboa

 

[Shawsie64]

"...it's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much can you take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done! Now, if you know what you're worth, then go out and get what you're worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hit, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you are because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain't you. You're better than that!"

-Rocky Balboa

Awesome quote