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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need
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JumpJeff84
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whitehawk said:
Thing is, pretty much everyone has herpes. It's more common than you'd think. Most people will never show symptoms, but it's there.
Have you ever had a cold sore? If the answer is yes, you have herpes.
The Elite
BOSS
Dies Iræ said:Cheating, multiple times (physical and emotional)
Serial cheater (I was her 7th relationship at the age of 18)
Stole $2000+
Totally irresponsible (abandoned her cat, who was a birthday gift from a former boyfriend with me - I had to give it to an adoptive family)
Emotionally abusive (ex. told me to lose weight or no more sex)
Cocaine addict
Debt, debt, debt (to her bipolar mother!)
Eating disorder
Compulsive liar (ex. wouldn't even let me see the screen of her laptop while we were living together out of fear that I would discover her psychotic lying)
Academic probation
The list goes on and on and on.
Edit: pretty apples can have rotten cores
Sounds like a winrar. Hope you find someone better. Although, I imagine that won't be too hard.
Great posts by both Meus and Dildocube.
bistromathics
facing a bright new dawn
got a date tomorrow
jamesinclair
Banned
So I was looking around OKC again, and this 19 year old girl I talked to a bit from December-March is about to have a baby. (We never met, she was really boring)
Thats so weird.
Thats so weird.
So there was a massive thread on /co/ on 4chan (yeah I know...) earlier tonight about relationships for some reason, and I think it finally pushed me over the edge. Starting in January I'm going to be in my final semester in college, and I doubt that there's ever going to be a time again that I'm going to be surrounded by so many single girls in my age group, some of whom must have some of the same interests as me. And although I have absolutely no idea what I'm doing since I've never been in a relationship before, I don't really have much to lose since I'm never going to see the vast, vast majority of these people again. So once the semester starts I think I'm going to prowl around some clubs and see if there's any nerdy girls I can get interested in me. If that doesn't work, at least I'll have tried, or have started trying, because even though it's comfortable having a vague sense of certainty that you're going to be FOREVER ALONE, it's also really depressing and I don't know how much longer I can put up with it.
With any luck I'll be crawling back here crying about relationship issues.
With any luck I'll be crawling back here crying about relationship issues.
HappyBivouac
Member
sphagnum said:
Are there no girls you're acquainted with who you already find attractive? Not that I'm trying to disparage what you plan on doing. It's not a bad plan.
Though "prowl" may not be the best word/frame of mind for it.
The lady i have been dating parents are in town and i have been invited for coffee.
I'm a bit nervous, its like throwing yourself into a lions den, well thats how i feel currently but we will see today. She says they are super cool and are actually looking forward to meet me. I wasn't sure whether to laugh or cry when she told them that :lol
I'm a bit nervous, its like throwing yourself into a lions den, well thats how i feel currently but we will see today. She says they are super cool and are actually looking forward to meet me. I wasn't sure whether to laugh or cry when she told them that :lol
_Alkaline_
Member
I think I've become too picky, or something. Not sure how to explain it.
After finishing school I took a year off and worked. This is going to sound like gloating (trust me I'm far from the kind) but girls were kinda drawn to me that year, with little effort from my part. I'm going to attribute it to me toning up by having a really hardcore exercise routine. But I barely gave any of them the time of day. Some just weren't worth it (and I'm not talking just superficial reasons here, though for some that was the case) but quite a few were absolute stunners, and I still didn't do much about it. Just shrugged it off really. Hooked up with a few, didn't take it further and honestly didn't give much of a damn. Shaking my head now thinking about it but at the same time...for some reason it made sense then. Either I was in a bit of shock with all the newfound attention (I was a bit immature in my school days and was pretty inexoerienced with girls), or I didn't think these girls were good enough. Maybe I became cocky. I honestly don't know, I was real apathetic about it.
Anyway, I had my first year of college. I started well but after the passing of a close relative I got pretty down in the dumps and just lost my appetite for life. Wasn't going to university, put on weight, lost self-confidence. Eventually realised I had to do something and saw a doctor. Was diagnosed with depression and have been working hard since that point to get myself right (it's a pretty slow process, but this thread isn't really about depression so I won't elaborate further). So, as you can tell, any love life I could've had didn't really eventuate. But even early on in the year when I was fit and happy, I was still being so selective. This really awesome American exchange student (I'm Australian) came to our college and we hit it off really well, but I still did nothing with it. Everyone was like "why aren't you giving her anything back?" but I just wasn't into her that way. Like I said, I've become picky. And she was a professional dancer too. Yes, before you ask, the body was outstanding.
Which brings me two girls I met this year. The first was this really cool chick who wasn't 'obvious hot' but was seriously cute and very much my type. We got along very, very well and initially I played my usual game but for some reason I didn't get anywhere with it. I'm sure many of you have been in this situation. Sometimes you barely have to try and girls cling to you, other times you think you're on top of your game yet they barely give you a sniff. I'm good at avoiding any sense of desperation, and since I wasn't getting any sexual vibe from her, I decided not to go through with anything. Was pretty disappointing actually. Though it ultimately turned out to be a good thing given my state of mind later on in the year, here I had found a girl who was cool, sexy and someone I had fantastic convos with, yet seemingly I did nothing for her. It's the classic story. She ended up going out with a friend of mine in the same college.
Then the second girl. I thought she was real cute, and during one night I was joking around with my friends that I'll chat her up. I went through with it, and found her to be incredibly nice...but too nice. It sounds ridiculous but I'm sure some of you will know what I'm talking about here. I'm no womanizer - in fact I often marvel at how some of my friends can talk to girls they've never met so freely - but I'm still a nice, charming guy who can hold a conversation given its reciprocated. And I like to throw a bit of dry humour in there, just some slight teasing to maintain some edge, which works great when the girl dishes it back just as good. But this girl would agree with everything I say, to the point where I almost felt guilty for saying anything even slightly bad about her. Basically it took away all flirtation and I was left with this pretty, nice girl who was just too nice to be, I dunno, fun? It's a shame too because she clearly liked me and her friends wanted me to go on with it. Like the other girl, we still keep in touch over the holidays, and maybe once I'm back to being healthy and happy (the fact she really liked me even though I was depressed and getting a little chubby should bode well for the next time I see her) I'll give it a shot.
Funnily enough the 'forever alone' image comes to mind thinking about tonight. It's half an hour from the New Year and I'm on GAF. To be fair, I don't feel I'm in the right frame of mind yet to be out clubbing and drinking, but it's still slightly depressing. On the plus side, it's a good motivator to get myself back to how I used to be, and it's given me some good time to reflect on the wasted potential of the last couple of years.
After finishing school I took a year off and worked. This is going to sound like gloating (trust me I'm far from the kind) but girls were kinda drawn to me that year, with little effort from my part. I'm going to attribute it to me toning up by having a really hardcore exercise routine. But I barely gave any of them the time of day. Some just weren't worth it (and I'm not talking just superficial reasons here, though for some that was the case) but quite a few were absolute stunners, and I still didn't do much about it. Just shrugged it off really. Hooked up with a few, didn't take it further and honestly didn't give much of a damn. Shaking my head now thinking about it but at the same time...for some reason it made sense then. Either I was in a bit of shock with all the newfound attention (I was a bit immature in my school days and was pretty inexoerienced with girls), or I didn't think these girls were good enough. Maybe I became cocky. I honestly don't know, I was real apathetic about it.
Anyway, I had my first year of college. I started well but after the passing of a close relative I got pretty down in the dumps and just lost my appetite for life. Wasn't going to university, put on weight, lost self-confidence. Eventually realised I had to do something and saw a doctor. Was diagnosed with depression and have been working hard since that point to get myself right (it's a pretty slow process, but this thread isn't really about depression so I won't elaborate further). So, as you can tell, any love life I could've had didn't really eventuate. But even early on in the year when I was fit and happy, I was still being so selective. This really awesome American exchange student (I'm Australian) came to our college and we hit it off really well, but I still did nothing with it. Everyone was like "why aren't you giving her anything back?" but I just wasn't into her that way. Like I said, I've become picky. And she was a professional dancer too. Yes, before you ask, the body was outstanding.
Which brings me two girls I met this year. The first was this really cool chick who wasn't 'obvious hot' but was seriously cute and very much my type. We got along very, very well and initially I played my usual game but for some reason I didn't get anywhere with it. I'm sure many of you have been in this situation. Sometimes you barely have to try and girls cling to you, other times you think you're on top of your game yet they barely give you a sniff. I'm good at avoiding any sense of desperation, and since I wasn't getting any sexual vibe from her, I decided not to go through with anything. Was pretty disappointing actually. Though it ultimately turned out to be a good thing given my state of mind later on in the year, here I had found a girl who was cool, sexy and someone I had fantastic convos with, yet seemingly I did nothing for her. It's the classic story. She ended up going out with a friend of mine in the same college.
Then the second girl. I thought she was real cute, and during one night I was joking around with my friends that I'll chat her up. I went through with it, and found her to be incredibly nice...but too nice. It sounds ridiculous but I'm sure some of you will know what I'm talking about here. I'm no womanizer - in fact I often marvel at how some of my friends can talk to girls they've never met so freely - but I'm still a nice, charming guy who can hold a conversation given its reciprocated. And I like to throw a bit of dry humour in there, just some slight teasing to maintain some edge, which works great when the girl dishes it back just as good. But this girl would agree with everything I say, to the point where I almost felt guilty for saying anything even slightly bad about her. Basically it took away all flirtation and I was left with this pretty, nice girl who was just too nice to be, I dunno, fun? It's a shame too because she clearly liked me and her friends wanted me to go on with it. Like the other girl, we still keep in touch over the holidays, and maybe once I'm back to being healthy and happy (the fact she really liked me even though I was depressed and getting a little chubby should bode well for the next time I see her) I'll give it a shot.
Funnily enough the 'forever alone' image comes to mind thinking about tonight. It's half an hour from the New Year and I'm on GAF. To be fair, I don't feel I'm in the right frame of mind yet to be out clubbing and drinking, but it's still slightly depressing. On the plus side, it's a good motivator to get myself back to how I used to be, and it's given me some good time to reflect on the wasted potential of the last couple of years.
HappyBivouac said:
They're all taken or they're not people I would want to date, just be friends with (or they're just flat out out of my league, since I have no experience).
I know prowl is a bad word choice, but it sounded more interesting than "go around" and I guess I went with the worst possible one. :lol
theignoramus
Member
do it. I still regret sitting back and doing nothing during my time at uni, if you dont get out and at least try to meet someone, you'll look back in a few years time and want to kick yourself in the face.sphagnum said:
theignoramus said:
Well that's a large part of the motivation. Over the past couple weeks I was thinking about all the missed opportunities I've had, and there are times when I feel like if I had just put effort into it I may have been able to pull something off. And since it's my last semester, I have no reason not to try except for cowardice. And I'm sick of that. At least if I try, there's some chance that I could succeed, whereas if I don't then there's literally no chance at all.
twilitesparklemotion
Member
Okay, I only dated mine for a few months, but I'll do what I can. You're probably looking back at all the good memories you had and thinking about how you don't have that anymore.Stridone said:
Well, stop.
I can tell you the exact moment that I got over my ex. I was in a coffee shop, and I walked over and said hi to this cute blonde I'd always liked.
That isn't to say that you need to rebound, but that you need to look forward to what you can have. You guys probably broke up for a reason, right? Now you can do better. So get yourself together. You're free to do whatever you want now.
That's the mindset you need to have.
The Elite
BOSS
Fuck. I need to step up my game.
So, I just went out with a second girl within two weeks and just like the first girl I'm struggling when it comes to flirting. It's like that part of me is completely malfunctioning. The rest of the night was great though, we were out for about four hours at a bar just talking and then we went to a late night desert place for some cake.
Really, I should be happy that I'm getting dates at all but I'd like to seal the deal with at least a kiss. We'll see if I get a second date out of this girl. She seemed to have a really good time. Just worried about getting Friendzoned if I don't make a move. No way am I ending up in the Friendzone.
So, I just went out with a second girl within two weeks and just like the first girl I'm struggling when it comes to flirting. It's like that part of me is completely malfunctioning. The rest of the night was great though, we were out for about four hours at a bar just talking and then we went to a late night desert place for some cake.
Really, I should be happy that I'm getting dates at all but I'd like to seal the deal with at least a kiss. We'll see if I get a second date out of this girl. She seemed to have a really good time. Just worried about getting Friendzoned if I don't make a move. No way am I ending up in the Friendzone.
Stridone said:
I broke up with my ex about 5 months ago. We have been in contact since, we have even gone out together for drinks here and there. We work together so it takes an enormous amount of will to stay apart (we don't physically work in the same building anymore but we work for the same company and we can message each other at any time). Another reason why we keep in touch is because I still pay rent for the apartment that we moved into. I bailed out but promised her that i would pay half the rent for a while so she didn't have to struggle. Whenever she has to come into the office, I get this intense desire to want to see more of her. So i tell her that i miss her terribly and then we make plans to get together. She asked me to go out for a drink and dinner with her last night so i agreed. She said that she wanted to have one last meet-up so we can have "closure" and go our separate ways. i
I am a fucking mess today. Last night we went to dinner, had some drinks and all that but but the night was so awkward. We argued about the relationship for a good majority of the time. She told me that she has a date next weekend with some guy. I asked her to tell me when she is dating so I can break ties completely. So it's not like she does it to hurt my feelings or uses it as a way to get me back. She told me because I asked. So dinner ended and we went home. When we got to my house we just sat in my car and held each other for a good 10 minutes. I kissed her head and she ran her fingers through my hair as we were hugging in the car. She told me that she loved me more than anything in the world and said she will miss me so much. I try to hold back tears as I type this shit out but its so hard. We shouldn't even have put ourselves in this position but you do some really weird shit when you love someone. I think about getting back together with her but the situation is really complicated and she has a lot of emotional baggage. This has been one of the most trying periods of my life. I probably sound really melodramatic but whatever, fuck it, this is how I feel.
Hang out with your bros and see other girls. It's working for me...slowly...but it's working.Stridone said:
Anyway, I have another date planned for Sunday
Arcade, movie, dinner, her place JB1981 said:
Oh dear...
[edit - never mind, misread post]
Seriously...think about...you're gonna pay her fucking rent when she's out and about, dating and getting dicked by other dudes? What the hell is wrong with you? Yeah, you still love her, but she's unwilling and seemingly too unstable to be with you. Cut all ties, be done with her, move on and find someone else.
Wining and dining is bad enough, but paying for her living expenses...Man, I hate to say it, but you're getting played. Don't make your kindness into a weakness. Shit.
Thanks guys, it really helps to read about people going through the same shit (none of my friends have really experienced anything like this). The hardest thing is that the relationship wasn't even bad, it was alright in every aspect. But I think I just wanted more. To be honest I'm not entirely sure why I broke up but I think I will be happier for it in a few months time.
Lots of things remind me of her right now, and I break down everytime I'm alone with my thoughts. It was my first serious relationship so I guess it hurts even more. Breakups are pretty much the shittiest things in life... Good luck pulling through to you guys, I guess it can only get better with time.
Lots of things remind me of her right now, and I break down everytime I'm alone with my thoughts. It was my first serious relationship so I guess it hurts even more. Breakups are pretty much the shittiest things in life... Good luck pulling through to you guys, I guess it can only get better with time.
-PXG- said:Hang out with your bros and see other girls. It's working for me...slowly...but it's working.
Anyway, I have another date planned for Sunday
Oh dear...
[edit - never mind, misread post]
Seriously...think about...you're gonna pay her fucking rent when she's out and about, dating and getting dicked by other dudes? What the hell is wrong with you? Yeah, you still love her, but she's unwilling and seemingly too unstable to be with you. Cut all ties, be done with her, move on and find someone else.
Wining and dining is bad enough, but paying for her living expenses...Man, I hate to say it, but you're getting played. Don't make your kindness into a weakness. Shit.
We signed a lease together and I left her high and dry. She can't really afford the apartment on her own. I told her I would pay until January. I understand where you are coming from but I am not being played by her. I committed to moving into an apartment with her (that neither of us could really afford on our own) and I owe it to her to help her with the rent for at least a few months. I felt like it was the right thing to do, seeing that I was the one that left and she wanted to work on things.
Mr.Squirrel
Tom
Xun said:
the official number is 14, but 10's a start
Kccitystar
Member
It's roughly about 3 weeks or two since this girl dumped me but I don't know how to feel after you realize that you invested everything you could into this relationship just to see her shrug it off and act as if nothing ever happened. It's as if there were no feelings involved and I was just in a two-year fling with some emotionless cunt.
When she wanted me to talk to her this monday, we dabbled into the relationship stuff again (it was inevitable). She basically blamed her low grades (Bs and Cs) on me and the stress from school. I only saw her twice a week, usually during weekends, and we made an agreement where if she has things to do with school, then I just won't see her as long as she would be able to make time for us. How the fuck would I be this burden? That's when I kinda knew she was just looking for an out as to why we can't be together.
I mean, she's going for a bachelors in applied mathematics, wouldn't she think for one second that maybe, just maybe, the material itself is hard to learn? or maybe that she overworked herself this semester? I'm just running with the idea that of all the things to blame, she thought her relationship with me would be the culprit. That's stupid, but after all, she broke up with me.
The funny thing is that she tells me she doesn't have the time for a relationship, doesn't want to make time, or make things work. It's like I'm throwing these valid suggestions but she's throwing out a big blanket of NO to all of them. All of this while she's spending a lot of time with guy friends, mutual guy friends at that. Right then and there I got the hint. The fucked up thing is that she is able to look at me in the eye and tell me she still loves me, but when I ask her what is stopping her from expressing that feeling or at least acting upon that emotion, she doesn't say shit. Love is not just a word.
I mean, I've gone on 2 dates since then to get into the spirit of dating again, but I am not going to be using women as a rebound. I've just been watching a ton of movies and DJing just to keep my mind busy but I'd be a liar if I said I didn't think about her in passing. It hurts, and while I've spent Christmas Eve/Christmas itself alone, I will also be spending New Year's alone.
When she wanted me to talk to her this monday, we dabbled into the relationship stuff again (it was inevitable). She basically blamed her low grades (Bs and Cs) on me and the stress from school. I only saw her twice a week, usually during weekends, and we made an agreement where if she has things to do with school, then I just won't see her as long as she would be able to make time for us. How the fuck would I be this burden? That's when I kinda knew she was just looking for an out as to why we can't be together.
I mean, she's going for a bachelors in applied mathematics, wouldn't she think for one second that maybe, just maybe, the material itself is hard to learn? or maybe that she overworked herself this semester? I'm just running with the idea that of all the things to blame, she thought her relationship with me would be the culprit. That's stupid, but after all, she broke up with me.
The funny thing is that she tells me she doesn't have the time for a relationship, doesn't want to make time, or make things work. It's like I'm throwing these valid suggestions but she's throwing out a big blanket of NO to all of them. All of this while she's spending a lot of time with guy friends, mutual guy friends at that. Right then and there I got the hint. The fucked up thing is that she is able to look at me in the eye and tell me she still loves me, but when I ask her what is stopping her from expressing that feeling or at least acting upon that emotion, she doesn't say shit. Love is not just a word.
I mean, I've gone on 2 dates since then to get into the spirit of dating again, but I am not going to be using women as a rebound. I've just been watching a ton of movies and DJing just to keep my mind busy but I'd be a liar if I said I didn't think about her in passing. It hurts, and while I've spent Christmas Eve/Christmas itself alone, I will also be spending New Year's alone.
Forget her. There were times when I was in relationships and was doing poorly in school but I never blamed anyone but myself.
Anyone who guilts you for their own failings isn't worth getting upset about. I don't care if you've been dating for two years or even if her snatch is tight like a vice grip. You're being walked all over, KCC.
Anyone who guilts you for their own failings isn't worth getting upset about. I don't care if you've been dating for two years or even if her snatch is tight like a vice grip. You're being walked all over, KCC.
SpectreFire
Member
JB1981 said:
You don't part ways with something you love more than anything else in the world.
I'm sorry, but that line is full of more shit than a porta-potty at the superbowl.
Kccitystar said:
She's a liar and a coward, using bullshit excuses instead of just saying "hey, I'm not feeling you anymore and I want to find dick and happiness elsewhere".
To be fair most people have a very hard time being honest in these situations, I have given girls bullshit excuses about why we need to stop seeing each other as well. But still, she has already set her path in another direction, and attempting to join her on that path will do nothing but make you feel shittier.
You are doing the right thing, going on dates, focusing on other hobbies. Try something new as well. One of the best methods of getting over someone is to add something new to your life that didn't exist with her. That way you have something uniquely yours that isn't tainted by memories with her.
And the best advice is the most cliche, give it time.
SpectreFire said:
Not entirely true. Loving someone more than anything else in the world usually keeps people together because you can't imagine not being with someone you love that much. But the unfortunate truth is, you can love something and know it's not right for you. See smoking cigarettes for me. I love it and miss it so much it hurts, but I can't do it anymore.
Ether_Snake
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On this first day of 2011, being sick probably doesn't help thinking clearly, but even though there are things I am planning on fixing this year like I did in the last, I'm still uncertain over what I want as far as girls are concerned.
To be brutally honest, I'd say I want to meet a girl with whom we wouldn't feel a need to talk to each other much. I just want us to be happy just being with one another, keep things simple, and not ruin it over misunderstandings. I love to love, but I'm wary of the rest that comes with finding a girl, and maintaining the relationship.
I don't like pretending I care about something, especially someone with whom I should be in love, and I don't like to pretend I'm someone else, hence I don't want to change my whole life for the sake of pleasing a girl. Being in good shape, healthy, having a stable job I like, and dressing properly are the only things I really want to put on the table. I'll work on all of that over the next few months (job is already a non-issue) but I'm really doing these things for myself first, and it's all I want to offer.
I don't have much of a social life, barely any friends outside of colleagues, although at least I have started hanging out with them more in the past few months. I'll keep trying to maintain those links but people are aging fast around me and moving on and I won't run after them. I have no family and no past to speak of. I'm not a wrapped package so-to-say, and the box is fairly empty, but that being said, people tend to say I have a mature perspective, and I know I can give a lot of love, but that love won't come through if I don't find a girl who accepts me as I am.
I'm feeling like my chances of finding such a girl are rather low. I shouldn't think that way but thinking back to all the girls I've met, girls who could be happy being with me were very few if there were any at all, and finding one at this point that isn't taken and who doesn't want kids soon feels like looking for a needle in a haystack.
I just want to find a simple one, I'm a simple guy.
And happy new year!
To be brutally honest, I'd say I want to meet a girl with whom we wouldn't feel a need to talk to each other much. I just want us to be happy just being with one another, keep things simple, and not ruin it over misunderstandings. I love to love, but I'm wary of the rest that comes with finding a girl, and maintaining the relationship.
I don't like pretending I care about something, especially someone with whom I should be in love, and I don't like to pretend I'm someone else, hence I don't want to change my whole life for the sake of pleasing a girl. Being in good shape, healthy, having a stable job I like, and dressing properly are the only things I really want to put on the table. I'll work on all of that over the next few months (job is already a non-issue) but I'm really doing these things for myself first, and it's all I want to offer.
I don't have much of a social life, barely any friends outside of colleagues, although at least I have started hanging out with them more in the past few months. I'll keep trying to maintain those links but people are aging fast around me and moving on and I won't run after them. I have no family and no past to speak of. I'm not a wrapped package so-to-say, and the box is fairly empty, but that being said, people tend to say I have a mature perspective, and I know I can give a lot of love, but that love won't come through if I don't find a girl who accepts me as I am.
I'm feeling like my chances of finding such a girl are rather low. I shouldn't think that way but thinking back to all the girls I've met, girls who could be happy being with me were very few if there were any at all, and finding one at this point that isn't taken and who doesn't want kids soon feels like looking for a needle in a haystack.
I just want to find a simple one, I'm a simple guy.
And happy new year!
JB1981 said:
You can't guilt yourself for leaving; you left for a reason and those reasons are just as valid now as they were before.
Look, I'll tell you about my ex: we were never official and there was another man on her side. She couldn't handle it and messed things up really badly. She broke my heart, but in the end, I broke her heart too when I left. For the longest time, I guilted myself for leaving because I hurt her too. We're trying to talk to each other again, and truth be told, I'm a lot better now because I finally accepted deep down that what I did was for my own good, and not for hers.
It also helps if you genuinely want to see her happy and move on with her life too.
Mr.Squirrel
Tom
....son at what point are you gonna stop complaining and start doing something about what makes you unhappy?Ether_Snake said:
Yesterday at midnight i was stuck in a queue for like an hour last mnight, trying to get into a Free bar and i met this stunner. I saw my friend like a metre in front of her at the line and i said what's up to him, said hey to his girl, etc etc. Then i pointed to this girl and said, "Do you know how fine that girl is?", he was like "Yeah, you have no chance". So i went up tho her with a i just don't give a fuck attitude and said "hey, what's your name?" She said her name and i forgot it 10 seconds later. I have a traditional Nigerian name so her and i bantered over the pronunciation of it for like 10 seconds. Got to chatting to her about this, that and life. At Midnight i asked her if she kissed anyone, she said no and so her and i kissed briefly, i could have tried to make out with ehr but for some reason i didn't want to push my luck. She was smoking. She said she was half two european countries, quarter Chinese and quarter jamaican. 100% hottie. She and her firends went to another club but before she left i asked her for her number and she gave it to me but only on the condition we would be friends cos of a bad break up. No angry make up sex for me. So how would you lot go about talking to this girl 3 day rule?
So how would you lot go about talking to this girl 3 day rule?Bleepey said:Yesterday at midnight i was stuck in a queue for like an hour last mnight, trying to get into a Free bar and i met this stunner. I saw my friend like a metre in front of her at the line and i said what's up to him, said hey to his girl, etc etc. Then i pointed to this girl and said, "Do you know how fine that girl is?", he was like "Yeah, you have no chance". So i went up tho her with a i just don't give a fuck attitude and said "hey, what's your name?" She said her name and i forgot it 10 seconds later. I have a traditional Nigerian name so her and i bantered over the pronunciation of it for like 10 seconds. Got to chatting to her about this, that and life. At Midnight i asked her if she kissed anyone, she said no and so her and i kissed briefly, i could have tried to make out with ehr but for some reason i didn't want to push my luck. She was smoking. She said she was half two european countries, quarter Chinese and quarter jamaican. 100% hottie. She and her firends went to another club but before she left i asked her for her number and she gave it to me but only on the condition we would be friends cos of a bad break up. No angry make up sex for me.
First off good job on talking to her. But don't call her, it's a waste of your time. If she wanted to hook up you would have that night. The phrases "be friends" and "bad break up" almost always mean "not interested". Having both those phrases tossed at you? Throw away the number and move your attention elsewhere.
Bleepey said:Ahh man, dude you have no idea how hot she is man.
:lol I am sure she is, I loved mixed girls too, but trust me, those phrases are huge huge warning signs that scream "not interested".
You are confident enough to talk to beautiful girls, you shouldn't bog yourself down with this dead end. Go back out there and talk to more of them.
Also, if you are desperate to get laid, go to a mostly white club or bar frequented by college girls. Dumb, horny, drunk, white college girls have three weaknesses; black guys, guys with accents, and guys who look like frat boys who will date rape them. If you throw on an exaggerated Nigerian accent and a polo t shirt you will fuck the entire bar :lol
Thanks for the advice, dude. At this point I think I'm being selfish and immature. I don't want her to be happy with anyone else but me. Sometimes I guess I wish she was a little bit different, like someone else; less emotionally volatile, more kind, less baggage etc. I met some women out last night and none of them compared. My ex can be so fun, and our connection - when it's good - is so natural. She was more than a girlfriend, she was my closest friend. She knew everything about me, accepted all my flaws. Its very comfortable being with her. I don't have to try to make her love me, she just loves me. And that is a damn good feeling. She is probably biipolar though, drinks too much, had a kid with another man, and this man is still very involved in her life. She doesn't have much of a family, her mom died and her relationship with her father (who apparently was abusive) is hot and cold. So her "ex", the father of her child and his parents who watch their son all week are something of an adopted family. Every person I talk to in real life tells me that I should run the fuck away from the situation and I completely understand why. It's far from ideal and I could potentially get my heart broken, but here I am still wondering if I made the right choice to leave her. I know this is wrong but part of me wants to make sure that she's ok. I know it's a bad way to think about things and it's probably why I got caught up in this situation. The truth is I do love this girl but I don't know if she is right for me.SRG01 said:
siddx said:
I love you! I really do! Unfortunately i am in London. Not sure if it works that well over here. However a Nigerian uy with a neutral London accent ( i get posh quite often but whatever) and who can fake a Nigerian one. If i don't clean up if i go to the states i am blaming you!
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